{"id":32066,"date":"2019-01-31T13:49:31","date_gmt":"2019-01-31T13:49:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32066"},"modified":"2022-08-12T08:05:42","modified_gmt":"2022-08-12T08:05:42","slug":"7-etapas-de-curacion-tras-un-abuso-verbal-toxico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/7-etapas-de-curacion-tras-un-abuso-verbal-toxico\/","title":{"rendered":"7 Etapas de curaci\u00f3n tras el abuso t\u00f3xico verbal"},"content":{"rendered":"

Verbal abuse is the fastest way to diminish and finally destroy someone\u2019s self-esteem. The mind games and the control consumes your life completely, and after some time, your life loses every inch of beauty it had.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de haber sido maltratado verbalmente<\/span><\/a>, darkness descends over you. You begin to see abuse even though abuse is not present because it\u2019s the kind of life you\u2019ve gotten used to by now.<\/p>\n

El miedo se apodera de ti y te pones en modo protecci\u00f3n, levantando muros a tu alrededor muy altos. Todo eso por culpa de una persona pobre e insegura que ten\u00eda que hacerte sentir como una mierda, para poder tener un sentimiento de superioridad.<\/p>\n

The truth is, in almost all cases of verbal and emotional abuse, the victim is so much better than the abuser in every sense possible. That\u2019s the main reason why the victim is abused in the first place.<\/p>\n

A verbal abuser is capable of making you feel like you\u2019re losing your mind, and any sense of stability is gone.<\/b><\/p>\n

Antes de que entres en modo curativo, you have to admit to yourself that the person you\u2019re living with or dating is an abuser.<\/b><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be ashamed of that. Don\u2019t blame yourself because there is nothing you could have done to prevent it, and there is no way you could have known he is that kind of a person.<\/p>\n

You have to come to peace with the fact you\u2019ve been abused. I know those issues and the trauma you\u2019ve been through seems unbearable, but believe me, it\u2019s not.<\/p>\n

Now, you think you\u2019re never going to recover. You think you\u2019re going to stay damaged for the rest of your life. But, that is not true. That\u2019s just the reflection of the state you\u2019re currently in.<\/p>\n

Pero cr\u00e9eme, esto tambi\u00e9n pasar\u00e1.<\/b><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo curarse despu\u00e9s de haber sufrido abusos emocionales y verbales: <\/b><\/p>\n

1. Don\u2019t believe the lie<\/h2>\n

Whatever a toxic person tells you is a lie. Don\u2019t believe those words because they are only said to hurt you. That is their primary goal – to make te sientes in\u00fatil.<\/a> Porque las personas sin autoestima son personas m\u00e1s f\u00e1ciles de controlar.<\/p>\n

Pero nadie es de piedra e incluso las palabras de un completo desconocido pueden colarse en tu coraz\u00f3n y pretender ser ciertas.<\/p>\n

You have to fight against those lies, actively choosing which words you\u2019ll take to your heart and which you\u2019ll turn your back on.<\/p>\n

2. Pedir apoyo y amor<\/h2>\n

After you\u2019ve been emotionally and verbally abused, you need huge amounts of love. You need someone to hold you or listen to you. You need reassurance – someone who will tell you everything will be alright.<\/p>\n

If you don’t ask for it, no one will give you what you want. People can\u2019t read minds, and sometimes when you\u2019re hurt, others might not recognize it immediately.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que pide ayuda. Pide amor cuando lo necesites, y la persona adecuada reconocer\u00e1 tu grito de ayuda.<\/p>\n

3. Start believing that you\u2019re good enough<\/h2>\n

Haz lo que sea necesario para olvidar la relaci\u00f3n en la que estuviste y trabaja para recuperar tu autoestima. Qu\u00e9date solo. Llora mil l\u00e1grimas. Grita, chilla, o vete entre la gente y pasa el rato. Haz lo que te parezca correcto en ese momento.<\/p>\n

We are all different from each other, and we don\u2019t work in the same ways. Some of us need loneliness; some of us need company. Whatever you need, take it, and bring back your self-esteem because you\u2019re good enough.<\/p>\n

4. T\u00f3mate tiempo para perdonarte a ti mismo<\/h2>\n

Forgiveness is hard, and when you need to forgive yourself, it\u2019s even harder. You have to come to terms with the fact that the person you trusted betrayed you and led you astray. It\u2019s hard enough to imagine that happening to you, let alone accept it truly did.<\/p>\n

The betrayed person becomes guarded and builds walls around, trying to shut down from emotions which make them vulnerable. Closing inside can only bring more damage. It\u2019s much healthier to open up to pain and accept it. You\u2019ll forgive yourself easier and move on.<\/p>\n

5. Utilizar la naturaleza como herramienta curativa<\/h2>\n

Sal a pasear. Respira la fuerza que te ofrece la naturaleza. Relaja la mente y el cuerpo. Vive ese momento y deja ir todo lo dem\u00e1s que te ronda por la cabeza.<\/p>\n

Cuando la negatividad te consuma, recurre a los \u00e1rboles y al aire fresco, porque la naturaleza siempre estar\u00e1 ah\u00ed para relajar tu mente y mostrarte lo hermoso que puede ser el mundo.<\/p>\n

6. Perdona a tu agresor<\/h2>\n

I know this is almost impossible for you to read and let alone do. But, abusers are people who need help. At first, you\u2019re furious because of the things your abuser did to you, but what you need to realize is that evil plants its seed in the most suitable ground.<\/p>\n

Those abusers are lost people who have gone astray and are unhappy with themselves. They seek approval and power by torturing others. And to them, that is the way to go. They don\u2019t know any different. They need professional help.<\/p>\n

Perd\u00f3nales. Deshazte de la mala semilla que llevas dentro y sigue adelante con tu vida.<\/p>\n

7. C\u00e9ntrate en otra cosa y elige el amor<\/h2>\n

Conc\u00e9ntrate en mejorar y olv\u00eddate del maltrato que sufriste. Siempre que la vida te sacuda y empieces a dudar de ti mismo, recuerda que quieres mejorar; quieres recuperar tu antiguo yo.<\/p>\n

And in the end, it\u2019s up to you whether you\u2019re going to heal or not. We are all faced with a choice. We can choose self-love or we can choose self-loathing. <\/b><\/p>\n

So, what\u2019s it gonna be?<\/b><\/p>\n

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