{"id":32153,"date":"2019-02-04T11:03:27","date_gmt":"2019-02-04T11:03:27","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32153"},"modified":"2022-02-20T23:30:30","modified_gmt":"2022-02-20T23:30:30","slug":"17-cosas-que-debes-saber-cuando-sales-con-alguien-con-ansiedad","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/17-cosas-que-debes-saber-cuando-sales-con-alguien-con-ansiedad\/","title":{"rendered":"17 cosas que debes saber para salir con alguien con ansiedad"},"content":{"rendered":"

Salir con alguien con ansiedad puede ser muy complicado, pero si quieres a esa persona, har\u00e1s cualquier cosa por estar con ella. Ver\u00e1s, una relaci\u00f3n con alguien as\u00ed puede ser tan normal como el resto de relaciones que has tenido en tu vida si lo miras as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

If you make a problem out of it, you will have a problem. But if you enjoy your relationship and act as normal as you can, there won\u2019t be any bigger problems you will have to solve. What you need to know is that dating someone with anxiety can be the best thing that has ever happened to you because people like that can love unconditionally.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t have any problems with going the extra mile for you, and they would do anything for real love. But before you fall for alguien con ansiedad<\/a>hay un par de cosas que debes saber. No para estar preparado o algo as\u00ed, sino para darte cuenta realmente de que la vida con esas personas puede ser una bendici\u00f3n si lo reconoces a tiempo.<\/p>\n

1. Anxiety won\u2019t be the biggest problem in their relationship<\/h2>\n

The thing is that when dating someone with anxiety, you don\u2019t have to worry that it will be the biggest problem. In fact, it doesn\u2019t need to be a problem at all. If you understand your partner and if you see that they are going through a rough time, you can be there for them.<\/p>\n

I am not saying that you will neglect yourself and turn completely to your partner, but giving them support and telling them you are there will mean the world to them. Their mental health condition is already a big issue in their lives, and they surely don\u2019t need someone who will make things even worse. Instead, they need a loving and caring partner, and if they have a person like that in their lives, they will be the happiest people in the world.<\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, mi punto aqu\u00ed es que la ansiedad (o ansiedad en las relaciones<\/a>) is not actually a big problem until it is severe and until a person can\u2019t function normally because of it. <\/p>\n

2. Anxiety doesn\u2019t make them weak<\/h2>\n

\"17Lo que m\u00e1s oigo \u00faltimamente es que personas con ansiedad<\/a> are weak. But you know what? That is the craziest thing I\u2019ve heard so far. There are so many people in my life who struggle with anxiety on a daily basis, and I would never say that they have a problem.<\/p>\n

De hecho, parecen tan fuertes y alegres que es imposible decir que padecen alguna enfermedad mental. Por lo tanto, quien diga que la ansiedad debilita a las personas est\u00e1 100% equivocado. Cuando tienes ansiedad, tienes una visi\u00f3n diferente de la vida. Luchas con los demonios que llevas dentro cada d\u00eda y, a pesar de que todo tu mundo se est\u00e1 desmoronando, intentas ser la mejor versi\u00f3n de ti mismo.<\/p>\n

When you have anxiety, you fight like a lioness every day because every single thing that you do takes so much effort. Even things that seem to be pretty normal for the rest of the people are things you don\u2019t want to do because you don\u2019t feel good doing them. It is a constant fight but you never give up. Never!<\/p>\n

3. La ansiedad puede ense\u00f1arles lecciones<\/h2>\n

Aunque nunca lo hayas pensado de esta manera, la ansiedad puede ense\u00f1ar a la gente algunas lecciones valiosas. Pueden aprender a encontrar un mecanismo de defensa o a funcionar haciendo cosas que antes no hac\u00edan. Incluso pueden aprender a actuar con calma en situaciones que antes les incomodaban.
\nThey can learn how to function under stress without losing their minds. But the fact is that after all that they have gone through, they will never be the same. They will be more aware of the things that happen around them. They will cherish life because it is a blessing, and they realize that they shouldn\u2019t take it for granted.<\/p>\n

When dating someone with anxiety, you will learn to cherish those small things that we all take for granted. You learn to enjoy life in ways you never thought you will. You will start realizing that every new day is a new chance to become a better person. You will see that people like that ask for so little and that in fact, they don\u2019t need anything big to make them happy.<\/p>\n

4. They need your love and affection \u2013 every single day<\/h2>\n

People with anxiety need some extra push. That means they will need you to tell them that you love them and that their mental illness is not a burden for you. You need to let them know that no matter what happens, you will always be there and that you won\u2019t stop loving them, even on their bad days.<\/p>\n

Telling them that you love them every day can make them feel so much better. Things that are so small to you mean the world to them. Just one kiss, one hug, asking how their day was \u2013 it means so much to them. So, if you love your partner but you don\u2019t know how to behave because they suffer from anxiety, just show them your love and affection. Trust me, when they see that they are important to you, they will give you their heart and soul.<\/p>\n

They will fight for your love no matter how hard it might be. Those people won\u2019t have a problem going the extra mile to improve your relationship because they have a clean heart and soul. They just had the bad luck to meet anxiety and be her prisoner for a big amount of time. People like that are the best to fall in love with because they will never take advantage of you. Instead, they will invest themselves all in a relationship, and they will do everything to make it work.<\/p>\n

5. Se preocupar\u00e1n demasiado, pero s\u00f3lo una caricia tuya puede hacerles sentir tranquilos<\/h2>\n

When dating someone with anxiety, you need to know that they always think of the worst scenario that can happen. If they have problems at work, they will think that their boss will fire them. If they didn\u2019t accept the invitation of a friend for a coffee, they will believe their friend will stop hanging out with them.<\/p>\n

Their brain works on maximum all the time, and even when they sleep, they will wake up all the time if they have a problem to solve. In situations like that, they will need your help. When you see that they are distant and that they are listening to you but in fact, they are not present there, don\u2019t be harsh on them. Tell them that you understand them. Tell them they can count on you. That will mean so much to them, and they will instantly feel better. A person with anxiety needs so little to feel special.<\/p>\n

They just need someone who understands them and knows how they feel. They just need someone to whom they can tell all that is on their soul. So, please be that person. Be the one who will help them carry their burden and help them set boundaries they shouldn\u2019t cross.<\/p>\n

6. La ansiedad no es algo que se pueda solucionar<\/h2>\n

\"17The worst thing when dating someone with anxiety is trying to fix them. You can\u2019t be your partner\u2019s therapist. You can\u2019t fix them, but you can hold them while they are fixing themselves. You can be their support and someone they can count on when sorrow strikes again. Because there will be a lot of depressed moments in their lives, and you will have to learn to live with them.
\nWhen accepting someone, you need to accept all that they carry along. Otherwise, it is not love and it doesn\u2019t make any sense. So, whatever you do, don\u2019t think that you can control their illness. Don\u2019t think that there are some amazing pills they need to try or some therapist they need to visit.<\/p>\n

They are already controlled by their anxiety, and the last thing they need is to be controlled by you. So, give them a break. Be with them, but don\u2019t hablar de ansiedad<\/a>. En lugar de eso, hablad de cosas felices, de cosas de las que est\u00e9is muy orgullosos. Hablad de vuestros planes juntos y de c\u00f3mo los vais a conseguir. Eso os ayudar\u00e1 a tener una relaci\u00f3n normal y relaci\u00f3n feliz<\/a>, and you won\u2019t talk about problems all the time.<\/p>\n

7. They will be nervous and scared about things that didn\u2019t happen<\/h2>\n

When dating someone with anxiety, you need to know that they will worry about things that you don\u2019t even think of. And the biggest problem is that their worrying too much will affect your relationship. But it is not because they want it, but because they simply can\u2019t control it. And they know that they can be hard to handle for someone, but they hope the right one will recognize their love.<\/p>\n

They just want someone who will be able to understand what they are going through and will try to put themselves in their shoes. Because worrying too much about things that are not so important and having someone who can\u2019t understand why they feel like that is something they don\u2019t want to happen to them. Having to worry about something that others don\u2019t even think about is what happens to them every day. And living with that pressure is extremely difficult.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en medio de todo ese l\u00edo, s\u00e9 alguien que les diga que les entiendes y que no pasa nada por sentirse as\u00ed. Diles que no est\u00e1n locos por preocuparse demasiado, pero que intentar\u00e1s ayudarles a relajarse un poco. Cuando vean que les ofreces tu ayuda, ser\u00e1 m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil, y quiz\u00e1, pero s\u00f3lo quiz\u00e1, aprendan a relajarse y a disfrutar.<\/p>\n

8. Aprender qu\u00e9 desencadena su ansiedad y evitarlo<\/h2>\n

\"17When you date someone with anxiety, you definitely don\u2019t want to hurt them. That\u2019s why you need to learn what triggers their anxiety and try to avoid those things. For example, if your partner suffers from social anxiety, you don\u2019t need to push her to go to social gatherings and be with people you like to talk to. She won\u2019t know what to say among all those people, and you will feel bad for bringing her there.<\/p>\n

Instead, let her decide when she wants to accompany you. In that way she will have complete freedom, and everything will be different. She won\u2019t have the feeling that she needs to go somewhere but that she has an option to go somewhere with you or to stay home. Maybe if she feels good that day and if there are no panic attacks or extreme anxiety, she might come along with you.<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante es darle la oportunidad de decidir qu\u00e9 es lo mejor para ella. Cr\u00e9eme, le har\u00e1s un gran favor y se sentir\u00e1 bien con toda la situaci\u00f3n. De ese modo, la estar\u00e1s ayudando, por peque\u00f1o que te parezca. Para ella, es lo mejor que podr\u00edas hacer, y ser\u00e1 la mujer m\u00e1s feliz del mundo por tener a alguien as\u00ed en su vida.<\/p>\n

9. Su objetivo no es parecer fr\u00edo y distante.<\/h2>\n

If your romantic partner has anxiety, you need to know that they will come off as distant and cold sometimes. But that is not true. People with anxiety are the warmest and most loving people I know. There is so much love in them, but they don\u2019t know how to show it. So, others who don\u2019t have half the love they have can come off as people with bigger hearts and a lot of emotions.
\nBut the real truth is that the anxious ones have love for the entire world, but it is very hard for them to show it to others. So, when you see that your loved one can\u2019t show their emotions in the right way, don\u2019t be too harsh on them because of that. It is already very difficult for them to know that they have so much to offer but they can\u2019t express it. Instead, be their support and tell them that you understand them.<\/p>\n

In fact, try to understand them because it will be easier to see how they actually feel. Show them that you can see all that they are going through and that you want to be their support wherever they need you. That will be the best gift you can give to them because they will finally find someone who gets them, even if they don\u2019t have to explain anything.<\/p>\n

10. They don\u2019t want you to pity them<\/h2>\n

\"17The worst thing you can say to someone with anxiety is that you pity them. I understand that you worry about them and everything, but saying something like that to them would make them feel even worse. So, don\u2019t ever say something like that because it won\u2019t help them. At all. Instead, praise all the good things they do because in that way, they will feel like they did a good thing.<\/p>\n

They will feel useful, and their self-esteem will be higher. I am not saying you will tell them something like \u201cgood job\u201d every time they park their car properly or when they eat everything from their plate. They are not kids, and you shouldn\u2019t behave like that to them. Instead, talk to them like an adult, and tell them that they should keep up the good work when they do something good.<\/p>\n

The most important thing in all of that is that they feel good in their own skins. If they are fulfilled with their lives, they will have more energy to do every day\u2019s tasks more easily. If they hear only one word of support from you, they will feel like they did the most important thing that can be done. So, please don\u2019t pity them because they are only humans. It will hurt them, and they will think they are incapable of doing the good things.<\/p>\n

11. Their anxiety doesn\u2019t define them<\/h2>\n

When dating someone with anxiety, you need to know that their anxiety doesn\u2019t define them. You can\u2019t say that they are different from the rest of the people just because they have a mental illness. They are just like you and me, but there are days when they are struggling a bit more than the rest of us.<\/p>\n

There are days when they feel like they will burn out because of their jobs or their private problems. There are days when they don\u2019t actually think they are worthy and capable of solving some problems. But those are just los d\u00edas malos<\/a>. En los d\u00edas buenos, incluso sonr\u00eden como el resto de nosotros. Se r\u00eden de todo lo malo que les pasa y creen que pueden hacer lo que haga falta para tener una buena vida. En esos d\u00edas, nunca se dir\u00eda que padecen una enfermedad mental.<\/p>\n

En d\u00edas as\u00ed, est\u00e1n alegres, sonr\u00eden y se dir\u00eda que son las personas m\u00e1s felices del mundo. Pero el problema es que detr\u00e1s de su sonrisa hay mucho dolor. S\u00f3lo intentan ponerse una m\u00e1scara de felicidad y ser, para variar, como el resto de la gente. Y como eso es muy dif\u00edcil para ellos, emplear\u00e1n mucha energ\u00eda en ello. Pero merecer\u00e1 la pena porque se sentir\u00e1n muy vivos y ser\u00e1 la mejor sensaci\u00f3n para ellos.<\/p>\n

12. Necesitan que les aceptes tal y como son<\/h2>\n

\"17People with anxiety are aware of the fact that there are days when they will be different from the rest of the people. But they know that days like that will pass and that they have to get up every morning and fight the most important battle \u2013 the one for their lives. They are already struggling to act as normal as they can, especially if they are suffering from severe anxiety, and that\u2019s why they need you to accept them just the way they are.<\/p>\n

That means they don\u2019t need you to tell them what to do and how to behave to feel better but to be okay with every decision they make. And if you do that, it will mean the world to them. It will mean that their voice has been heard and that someone is actually paying attention to them.<\/p>\n

You see, accepting someone with anxiety isn\u2019t anything different from accepting someone who doesn\u2019t have it. It is all about if you like the person or you don\u2019t. If you like them, you will accept anything that happens to them, and if you don\u2019t like them, you will never be able to find a middle ground with them. As simple as that.<\/p>\n

13. Necesitan que les escuches<\/h2>\n

If your partner is suffering from anxiety, they will need you to listen to them more than anything. That means focusing on what they say and trying to help them with your advice. If you can\u2019t help them or if you see that the topic is pretty delicate, you don\u2019t need to give them any answers but at least be there to listen to what they have to say.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, things look different when you say them out loud. In that way, they get the different meaning, and you can actually realize things you couldn\u2019t before. So, when your partner speaks, listen to them. They are probably telling you things that they can\u2019t tell to anyone else, and they see you as some sort of a savior.<\/p>\n

Cr\u00e9eme, les ha llevado mucho tiempo armarse de valor para abrirse a ti. Y si ya han hecho un esfuerzo por hacerlo, s\u00e9 su apoyo y preg\u00fantales c\u00f3mo puedes ayudarles. Ellos te dir\u00e1n si necesitan ayuda en ese momento o s\u00f3lo a alguien que les escuche. Ver\u00e1n que eres alguien a quien pueden cont\u00e1rselo todo y ser\u00e1n completamente sinceros contigo.<\/p>\n

14. Don\u2019t push them to do things they don\u2019t want to<\/h2>\n

\"17Living with anxiety is not easy at all, and that is something you need to know if you date someone with anxiety. Those people literally fight every day and pushing them to do things they are not comfortable with will just make it all worse. So, if they don\u2019t feel good doing something you like, you can do it by yourself.<\/p>\n

If you push them, they will just get nervous, and they will have a panic attack because they won\u2019t know what to do and how to act in a situation that is new for them. So, whatever you do, don\u2019t be the one who will cause them extra stress and pressure. Instead, be their calm harbor, their person they can always count on. If they see that you get them and that you are leaving them to decide what is best for them, they will appreciate it very much.<\/p>\n

Eso les demostrar\u00e1 lo mucho que les apoyas, y te querr\u00e1n por ello. Y eso es lo que necesitan al final. Alguien que entienda que su enfermedad mental no es un gran problema y que, con sus fuerzas unidas, pueden resolver todos los baches del camino.<\/p>\n

15. Tendr\u00e1n colapsos mentales<\/h2>\n

Yes, they will have mental breakdowns, and they will tell you they are sorry for it every time it happens. But the truth is that they actually can\u2019t control it. Anxiety is something that is a part of them, but they don\u2019t know all about it yet. Sometimes they will get nervous because of the smallest things, but sometimes some big problems won\u2019t be so big for them. It all depends on their day and the phase they are into.<\/p>\n

When they have a mental breakdown, they will act like someone you don\u2019t recognize anymore, but that isn\u2019t their fault at all. They simply can\u2019t affect it, and they are sorry that you have to watch all that is happening to them. They know that you might leave because they are all mess, but on the other hand, they would love if you could stay and fight that battle with them.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo quieren ver que te preocupas y que quieres ayudarles permaneciendo ah\u00ed y siendo el muro en el que pueden apoyarse.<\/p>\n

16. Ser\u00e1n las personas m\u00e1s cari\u00f1osas que tendr\u00e1s en tu vida<\/h2>\n

\"17Al salir con alguien con ansiedad, aprender\u00e1s muchas cosas importantes. Aprender\u00e1s a apreciar la vida y tu salud. Aprender\u00e1s que un hombre sano tiene 1000 deseos, pero uno enfermo s\u00f3lo tiene uno. Y te dar\u00e1s cuenta de que la vida puede convertirse en la peor de las pesadillas en una sola noche.<\/p>\n

Pero lo m\u00e1s importante es que aprender\u00e1s a respetar a la persona que lucha contra la ansiedad. Te sentir\u00e1s muy orgulloso de la persona que vive contigo, intentando ser la mejor versi\u00f3n de s\u00ed misma cuando est\u00e1 contigo mientras todo su mundo se desmorona. Ver\u00e1s que las personas con ansiedad en realidad luchan cada d\u00eda por tener un d\u00eda lo m\u00e1s normal posible.<\/p>\n

And you will be so proud of them\u2014for their strength, their energy, their positivity that they somehow bring out. You will be proud of them because with all their problems, they will think of you and your well-being. They will sacrifice things that mean so much to them, so you would feel better. And you know why? Because they love you and because they see everything that you are doing for them.<\/p>\n

Eso es algo que nunca olvidar\u00e1n, y pensar\u00e1n lo afortunados que fueron de tenerte en sus vidas. Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, nunca darte por sentado<\/a>.<\/p>\n

17. Se emocionan por las cosas m\u00e1s insignificantes<\/h2>\n

People with anxiety can get very emotional over the smallest things. They will cry when watching a sad movie or when reading a sad book. They feel everything so strongly, and that\u2019s why they seem to be like someone who is crying over everything. But that doesn\u2019t make them weak.<\/p>\n

That just means they were too strong for too long. They are very empathetic, and they can feel other people\u2019s pain. They don\u2019t need to ask someone if they are okay because they can see that by just looking them in the eye. If you have people like this in your life, just know that you have people who will know how you feel in every moment and who will see that your struggle is real.<\/p>\n

Har\u00e1n cualquier cosa para que te sientas mejor porque saben lo que se siente al estar triste o deprimido todo el tiempo. Las personas con ansiedad son los mejores amigos y compa\u00f1eros sentimentales porque el amor es la emoci\u00f3n m\u00e1s importante de todas. Cuando aman, se entregan por completo. Lo quieren todo o nada.<\/p>\n

Siempre ser\u00e1n los que har\u00e1n un esfuerzo adicional en una relaci\u00f3n. Siempre te demostrar\u00e1n cu\u00e1nto te quieren y te aprecian, y nunca te dar\u00e1n por sentado.<\/p>\n

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