{"id":32324,"date":"2020-10-07T10:55:54","date_gmt":"2020-10-07T10:55:54","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32324"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:04:13","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:04:13","slug":"si-amas-a-alguien-liberalo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/si-amas-a-alguien-liberalo\/","title":{"rendered":"Si amas a alguien, lib\u00e9ralo"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u201cIf you love someone, set them free. If they come back, they’re yours; if they don’t, they never were. <\/i> \u201d R. Bach<\/b><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Estas palabras se hacen realidad cada vez que dos personas que son la una para la otra se encuentran en el momento equivocado.<\/p>\n

I know a lot of people who don\u2019t believe in wrong timings. I probably wouldn\u2019t either if it hadn\u2019t happened to me.<\/p>\n

I was head over heels for somebody who just wasn\u2019t ready for a real relationship\u2014at least not the first time we dated.<\/p>\n

Cuando le conoc\u00ed, acababa de salir de una relaci\u00f3n de 4 a\u00f1os y se hab\u00eda desatado un infierno en su interior. Era como si tuviera que compensar todos esos a\u00f1os en los que se hab\u00eda sentido atrapado en esa relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

I knew that right from the start. I saw it, but I couldn\u2019t help myself…I fell madly in love with him, and it was like nothing I\u2019d ever experienced before.<\/p>\n

Sus besos quedaron impresos en mi cuerpo. Su risa y todas las conversaciones que ten\u00edamos estimulaban mi cerebro.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

En qu\u00edmica entre nosotros <\/a> era innegable. Era como una fuerza magn\u00e9tica que me acercaba a \u00e9l. No importaba c\u00f3mo se comportara o c\u00f3mo me tratara, yo estaba pegada a \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

I kept looking through his fingers. I kept seeing the good and ignoring the bad. I made excuses for him without any need to hear the actual words \u201cI\u2019m sorry\u201d from him.<\/p>\n

All my rules didn\u2019t count for much anymore. Before I knew it, I was in a casual relationship, hoping that one day, it would all change for the better.<\/p>\n

I thought that day was just around the corner…and I couldn\u2019t have been more wrong.<\/p>\n

He wasn\u2019t even close to being ready for a relationship\u2014at least not an exclusive one and that was all I wanted. Someone entirely mine.<\/p>\n

He left\u2026 <\/i><\/p>\n

He took my heart with him\u2026 <\/i><\/p>\n

My heart couldn\u2019t even break properly. It was just emptiness inside of me that he alone could fulfill. I didn\u2019t say a word.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t go after him. I didn\u2019t beg. I just kept repeating to myself the old phrase I heard somewhere:<\/p>\n

\u201cIf you love someone, set them free.\u201d <\/i><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t an expert in love, but all I knew is that it should never be begged for. It should never be forced, and if it doesn\u2019t flow naturally between two people, it is doomed. <\/b><\/p>\n

Su marcha fue como una ducha fr\u00eda que me despert\u00f3 de un sue\u00f1o. El dolor era tan real que me hizo ver que, a pesar de lo que sent\u00eda, merec\u00eda algo mejor y, lo que es m\u00e1s importante, que merec\u00eda un amor verdadero.<\/p>\n

Getting through all that pain was excruciating. I think I wasn\u2019t even aware of the true intensity of my feelings until I left.<\/p>\n

They overwhelmed me. My world came crashing down. I couldn\u2019t stop the tears. I couldn\u2019t contain my thoughts.<\/p>\n

There were so many times I wanted to pick up the phone and call him. There were so many days on which I wanted to \u201caccidentally\u201d bump into him in that small coffee shop he goes to before work.<\/p>\n

Hab\u00eda tantas noches que quer\u00eda mandarle un mensaje.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

But the little voice echoing in my head, \u201c If you love someone, set them free.\u201c <\/i> fue tan poderoso que me detuvo.<\/p>\n

There was nothing I wouldn\u2019t have done for him. There was nothing I wouldn\u2019t have done to keep us together, but I just couldn\u2019t transform him into someone who was ready to give me all of his love.<\/p>\n

You see…there is no way in which you can force someone to love you. You aren\u2019t supposed to beg for love. All you can do is give them the freedom to chose you. <\/b><\/p>\n

That was all I wanted. For him to chose me. For him to be sure about me…sure about us. So I set him free, always hoping deep down that he would find his way back.<\/p>\n

Ahora s\u00f3lo quedaba cuidarme. Curar mis heridas. Llenar de amor propio el vac\u00edo que hab\u00eda en mi coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

That was exactly what I did. It took me a long while to stand on my own two feet again. I had to learn to smile again\u2014really smile, not fake smile with all the pain hidden underneath.<\/p>\n

Tuve que hacer las paces con el hecho de que ya no formaba parte de mi vida.<\/p>\n

\"morena<\/p>\n

Cuando realmente segu\u00ed adelante con mi vida y el pensar en \u00e9l dej\u00f3 de dolerme, quiso volver de nuevo a mi vida. <\/b><\/p>\n

I have to be honest here. My first instinct was to let him in, to pull him close and plead to the heavens that the same scenario wouldn\u2019t happen again.<\/p>\n

But I couldn\u2019t. I couldn\u2019t risk that numbness and emptiness coming back to me.<\/p>\n

It was a great while, a lot of his efforts, long texts and explanations, until I let him in again. He was ready now. He wasn\u2019t afraid.<\/p>\n

El infierno en \u00e9l se hab\u00eda convertido en cielo. Necesitaba encontrarse a s\u00ed mismo antes de volver a encontrarme a m\u00ed. Supongo que los dos est\u00e1bamos un poco perdidos, \u00e9l m\u00e1s que yo, pero sin embargo, el momento no era el adecuado entonces, y ahora es perfecto.<\/p>\n

El tiempo que pasamos separados le hizo madurar. Le hizo convertirse en alguien que era emocionalmente estable <\/a> lo que no ocurr\u00eda antes.<\/p>\n

He came back with a heartbeat I didn\u2019t recognize, with a tenderness I never got from him before, with the humility of a man who knows he has done something wrong.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

He knocked me of off my feet again, but he also brought the tranquility and safety I needed. I am happy now. Happier than I\u2019ve ever been because he just added to a life I had already created for myself.<\/p>\n

I don\u2019t regret giving him a second chance. It was the best decision I ever made. And if you find yourself in a similar situation my advice is this:<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t rush into forgiving someone. Take your time, and see if they have really changed. Let them try to earn back your trust. If they don\u2019t succeed, don\u2019t take them back.<\/p>\n

Not everyone deserves a second chance. All stories are different, and sometimes timing isn\u2019t the major issue.<\/p>\n

I got lucky I guess. The reasons for two people splitting vary, and there are things that you just can\u2019t surpass.<\/p>\n

Pero una vez que examin\u00e9 m\u00e1s de cerca toda nuestra historia, me di cuenta de que nunca me hab\u00eda mentido. Siempre supe que era un desastre.<\/p>\n

Nunca me hab\u00eda prometido nada. Simplemente me enamor\u00e9 de \u00e9l, sin importarme las se\u00f1ales de advertencia ni sus palabras.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t\u2014or I didn\u2019t want to\u2014help myself from falling for him. Just like I couldn\u2019t ban him from my life when he came back.<\/p>\n

I couldn\u2019t say, \u201cI don\u2019t care anymore\u201d when I missed him all along.<\/p>\n

Supongo que a veces se necesita una segunda ronda para que el amor funcione.<\/p>\n

Him coming back made me believe in miracles because when you think about it, \u201c If you love someone, set them free.\u201c <\/i> es como provocar al destino.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a test to see if the love you felt from someone is true and reciprocated.<\/p>\n

\"Si<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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