{"id":32571,"date":"2019-02-12T08:03:47","date_gmt":"2019-02-12T08:03:47","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=32571"},"modified":"2021-08-12T10:05:32","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T10:05:32","slug":"alejar-a-las-personas-toxicas-de-mi-vida-es-mi-metodo-de-autocuidado-favorito","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/alejar-a-las-personas-toxicas-de-mi-vida-es-mi-metodo-de-autocuidado-favorito\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi m\u00e9todo de autocuidado favorito es alejar a las personas t\u00f3xicas de mi vida"},"content":{"rendered":"

Una vez que ech\u00e9 a mi ex t\u00f3xico de mi vida, empec\u00e9 a respirar de nuevo. <\/b><\/p>\n

I was totally clueless of all the ways my ex was poisoning my life. He would twist my words so skilfully that I would end up apologizing for the things I hadn\u2019t done. I was always the monster and he was never the one to blame.<\/p>\n

Me encant\u00f3 la atenci\u00f3n que me prest\u00f3 desde el principio, me encant\u00f3 que me escuchara, pero a medida que avanz\u00e1bamos en la relaci\u00f3n, abus\u00f3 de mis palabras y mis pensamientos. Se aprovech\u00f3 de mis debilidades e inseguridades y las hizo m\u00e1s profundas.<\/p>\n

Like a fool, I made excuses for him as I didn\u2019t think he did that on purpose. But it only got worse as time passed by and I became a mere shadow of the woman I once was.<\/p>\n

I didn\u2019t recognize my voice anymore because it was so silent. The volume of my laughter turned down almost completely. All that kept screaming were the self-doubts in my head and the sobbing sounds at night when I was all by myself.<\/p>\n

Sab\u00eda que ten\u00eda que hacer algo o me perder\u00eda por completo. Ten\u00eda que alejarme de \u00e9l para salvarme.<\/p>\n

Una vez que me separ\u00e9 de \u00e9l, sent\u00ed que me liberaba de la jaula mental en la que me hab\u00eda mantenido. Me liber\u00e9 de los grilletes de inseguridad que me hab\u00eda impuesto.<\/p>\n

Finally, I started hearing my voice again, I started laughing again, I started breathing and living again. Because my relationship with him wasn\u2019t life.<\/p>\n

Una vez que empec\u00e9 a escuchar todas las voces malvadas, prosper\u00e9. <\/b><\/p>\n

Los comentarios sarc\u00e1sticos disfrazados de consejos sinceros son t\u00f3xicos. Las personas que intentan menospreciarte para elevarse a s\u00ed mismas son lo peor que te puede pasar en tu carrera y en tu vida.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow that. Smile in their faces and keep doing what you\u2019ve been doing and your hard work will pay off eventually. Mine did.<\/p>\n

Lo que aprend\u00ed aqu\u00ed es que no todos tus compa\u00f1eros de trabajo tienen que ser tus amigos; tienes una suerte inmensa si son<\/span><\/a>. Time always tells you who you can trust and get closer to, who you should keep at arm’s length and who you should base your relationship on a professional level with.<\/p>\n

I surrounded myself with people who have my best interests at heart, who are not envious of my successes, who don\u2019t feed their broken egos on my sufferings and I started rising from the ashes that toxic people put me in.<\/p>\n

Una vez que me desped\u00ed de algunas personas que cre\u00eda que eran mis amigos, estrech\u00e9 lazos m\u00e1s firmes con los que son de verdad. <\/b><\/p>\n

Un amigo t\u00f3xico es como un novio t\u00f3xico, te chupan la vida. Toda la energ\u00eda y el amor que inviertes en ellos, ellos nunca lo invierten de vuelta y cuando s\u00f3lo sigues dando, te quedas vac\u00edo.<\/p>\n

Los verdaderos amigos nunca hacen eso. Nunca te utilizan, te encuentran a mitad de camino. Nunca te menosprecian, te levantan porque creen en ti incluso cuando empiezas a dudar de ti mismo.<\/p>\n

No est\u00e1n ah\u00ed s\u00f3lo en los mares tranquilos, est\u00e1n ah\u00ed tambi\u00e9n en las peores tempestades. Te apoyan pase lo que pase. Se alegran por tu felicidad y empatizan con tu dolor.<\/p>\n

Empec\u00e9 a apreciar a los verdaderos amigos cuando los compar\u00e9 con los t\u00f3xicos. Todos los aspectos en los que eran diferentes me hablaron. Son lo mejor que me ha podido pasar y me aseguro de que sepan lo agradecida que estoy.<\/p>\n

Cuando dej\u00e9 de intentar hacer felices a todos los que me rodeaban, empec\u00e9 a ser feliz. <\/b><\/p>\n

It\u2019s almost like I had a subconscious mission in life to make everyone happy. I would go above and beyond to accommodate them and it would just backfire on me.<\/p>\n

Cuanto m\u00e1s amable era, peor me trataban. Independientemente de si era mi ex-novio<\/span><\/a>amigo o incluso familiar, el proceso era el mismo: cuanto m\u00e1s intentaba hacerles felices, m\u00e1s esperaban de m\u00ed. Me daban por sentado.<\/p>\n

I would ditch everything I was doing or everything I planned to do. It\u2019s like I didn\u2019t know how to say no because I was afraid that they would get offended.<\/p>\n

After a long time of putting up with that, I changed. I couldn\u2019t take it anymore. So, I started putting myself first for a change.<\/p>\n

Algunos se fueron, otros se quedaron y se adaptaron a mi nuevo yo. En cualquier caso, fue la mejor decisi\u00f3n que he tomado nunca.<\/p>\n

Cuando empec\u00e9 a alejar a las personas t\u00f3xicas de mi vida, me di cuenta de que esa era la mejor forma de autocuidado. <\/b><\/p>\n

Once I said goodbye to all the toxicity in my life, I suddenly started to bloom. I wasn\u2019t as worn out as I used to be. I had more time to attend to my own needs. I had more time for the people who inspire me to grow.<\/p>\n

After I tossed all the negativity out of my life, positivity found its way to me. My life got a whole lot better with the absence of some people. So you see, this self-care method wasn\u2019t selfish, it was long-overdue and necessary.<\/p>\n

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