{"id":33344,"date":"2020-02-21T08:20:48","date_gmt":"2020-02-21T08:20:48","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33344"},"modified":"2022-08-02T16:20:29","modified_gmt":"2022-08-02T16:20:29","slug":"8-formas-de-resistirse-a-los-juegos-mentales-perversos-al-divorciarse-de-un-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/8-formas-de-resistirse-a-los-juegos-mentales-perversos-al-divorciarse-de-un-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"8 formas de resistir los juegos mentales perversos al divorciarse de un narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"

En realidad, no ten\u00eda ni idea de que mi ex era un narcisista, no hasta que nos divorciamos.<\/p>\n

Sol\u00eda o\u00edr a las mujeres mencionar el narcisismo, los juegos mentales, la manipulaci\u00f3n y el abuso emocional y lo triste es que yo no ten\u00eda ni idea de que eso tambi\u00e9n me estaba pasando a m\u00ed.<\/p>\n

Maybe I didn\u2019t even want to admit it to myself at that time.<\/p>\n

La cuesti\u00f3n es que durante toda mi relaci\u00f3n, todo mi matrimonio con mi ex marido narcisista, sent\u00ed que yo era la loca.<\/p>\n

I felt like every problem was on me and that I was the source of our troubles. Then our marriage fell apart because I couldn\u2019t take it any longer.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Simplemente dej\u00e9 de intentar arreglar las cosas, de andar con pies de plomo cuando estaba cerca de \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Dej\u00e9 de fingir ser algo que no era s\u00f3lo para hacerle feliz, porque \u00bfqu\u00e9 fue de mi felicidad en esa historia?<\/p>\n

\u00bfY mis sentimientos?<\/em><\/p>\n

Yo cre\u00eda que deb\u00eda tener algo que decir en todo aquello porque, al fin y al cabo, era mi vida la que estaba en juego. Por desgracia, nunca se preocup\u00f3 por lo que yo quer\u00eda, ni siquiera movi\u00f3 un dedo para ayudarme o mostrar inter\u00e9s por mi vida.<\/p>\n

Nunca se detuvo y me pregunt\u00f3 por qu\u00e9 mis ojos estaban manchados de r\u00edmel, si hab\u00eda estado llorando.\u00c9l didn\u2019t give a damn. <\/a><\/p>\n

No hab\u00eda conocido a una persona m\u00e1s taimada o astuta en toda mi vida.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Aplastaba todo y a todos s\u00f3lo para conseguir lo que quer\u00eda y lo que necesitaba y ese algo era un completo y total caos emocional.<\/p>\n

He needed his narcissistic supply and he knew how to get it\u2014through me. I was going through emotional hell and the worst part was no one believed me.<\/p>\n

Nadie podr\u00eda siquiera intentar imaginar que mi ex marido, un narcisista disfrazado de hombre bueno y honesto, fuera capaz de hacer algo perjudicial a nadie.<\/p>\n

Su historia era a prueba de balas y su comportamiento nunca sugerir\u00eda que le pasaba algo.<\/p>\n

Ten\u00eda una historia encantadora y toneladas de confianza y era una locura que alguien sospechara que era un pedazo de mierda narcisista.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

So imagine my struggle and emotional pain during our divorce. Imagine how it feels to fight someone who lies to everyone and what\u2019s even worse, everyone believes him.<\/p>\n

Imagina lo que se siente al luchar solo contra el mundo y ser el \u00fanico que conoce la verdad real, pero nadie te cree.<\/p>\n

Fortunately, he couldn\u2019t keep up with his charade for long. I was smarter than him and I was more persistent.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de empezar a ignorarle, despu\u00e9s de volverme sosa como una roca, perdi\u00f3 inter\u00e9s en m\u00ed.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s when I finally found my peace. He gave up torturing me and my kids and moved on to the next victim.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

He had to move on because I was no longer his narcissistic supply and he can\u2019t live without his supply. So he left in a rush to find it somewhere else.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying fighting him was easy because it wasn\u2019t. It was the hardest fight of my life because I had to stay sane for the sake of my children.<\/p>\n

Tuve que resistirme a sus astutos jueguecitos y a su luz de gas para alejarnos de \u00e9l a m\u00ed y a mis hijos.<\/p>\n

He even managed to turn them against me. He even succeeded in turning my own family against me. It didn\u2019t last for long but it hurt like hell.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It felt like the whole world had turned against me. With time, they\u2019ve all seen who he really is after his mind games didn\u2019t work on me anymore.<\/p>\n

Eso le frustr\u00f3; se estaba volviendo loco, as\u00ed que se dio la vuelta y mostr\u00f3 accidentalmente su verdadero rostro.<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Hay una manera de soportar el mal que una persona puede lanzarte. Requiere paciencia, fortaleza y sobrevivir a mucho dolor.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re going to feel left and abandoned, with no reason to live your life like that.<\/p>\n

Sepa que todo eso no es m\u00e1s que una fase que pasar\u00e1 si hace algunas cosas bien:<\/p>\n

Abogado<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Haga lo que haga falta. Pide varias opiniones y elige a la persona que creas que ser\u00e1 la mejor para tu caso.<\/p>\n

Recuerda mantener esto en un perfil bajo debido al narcisista.<\/p>\n

If he finds out you\u2019re looking for a lawyer and you\u2019re going behind his back, he will return to you and play one of his mind games on you, like love bombing or stalking.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 inteligente al respecto y toma esta medida en secreto y prep\u00e1rate para todos los escenarios posibles, porque en una pelea con un narcisista, los guantes est\u00e1n fuera.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t negotiate or settle<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It\u2019s in the interests of a narcissist to prolong the process.<\/p>\n

Eso significa que tiene m\u00e1s tiempo para manipularte para que aceptes su versi\u00f3n de la verdad en la que realmente cree.<\/p>\n

Narcissists really believe in what they say. They don\u2019t even question their thoughts or their claims.<\/p>\n

Hagas lo que hagas, un narcisista nunca lo llevar\u00e1 a cabo.<\/p>\n

They will do a part of what they are supposed to do and then they\u2019ll try to convince you to change what they don\u2019t like. It\u2019s all a part of their game to stall things.<\/p>\n

Nunca considerar\u00e1n un compromiso como posible soluci\u00f3n a tu problema y siempre intentar\u00e1n manipularte para que des marcha atr\u00e1s y las cosas acaben como ellos quieren.<\/p>\n

So, don\u2019t fall for that trick and never try to settle out of compassion for your narcissistic ex. He can\u2019t feel empathy and he doesn\u2019t care about you or your children.<\/p>\n

La \u00fanica persona que le importa es \u00e9l mismo.<\/p>\n

Recoge todos los papeles importantes<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farate de que eres t\u00fa quien tiene todos los papeles necesarios para el divorcio. Recoge partidas de nacimiento, copias de las facturas, tu licencia de matrimonio y todo lo que necesites.<\/p>\n

Si te encuentras en una situaci\u00f3n en la que necesitas algo de tu narcisista, puedes contar con que no te lo dar\u00e1.<\/p>\n

He will lie that he doesn\u2019t have it, he\u2019ll lie he\u2019s working on it, or he will simply, \u201cNo,\u201d with some lame excuse.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 astuto<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Remember, you\u2019re playing against a narcissist and you have to be as devious as him.<\/p>\n

You have to play rough and lower yourself to his level because if you choose an honest way to try to win the battle, you\u2019re going to lose.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que te sugiero encarecidamente que uses todo lo que tengas contra \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Y ten en cuenta que un narcisista tiene la capacidad de presentarse a s\u00ed mismo como perfecto a trav\u00e9s de una serie de acciones tortuosas.<\/p>\n

The judge will most likely buy his story. Don’t let this happen and use all means possible to stop him.<\/p>\n

Stay grounded and don\u2019t fall into traps<\/h2>\n

\"seria<\/p>\n

Cease all communication with your narcissistic ex. He is devious enough to use your every frustration outbursts against you and in fact, he\u2019s counting on that.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s why he\u2019ll provoke you and deliberately make you angry so you feel tempted to say a lot of ugly things via text or calls.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t fall for that manipulation and try to suppress your anger or channel it elsewhere.<\/p>\n

Nunca rompa un regla de no contacto con un narcisista<\/a>. If you do, he\u2019ll make sure you pay for everything you did or didn\u2019t do to him.<\/p>\n

Relacionado: C\u00f3mo hacer que un narcisista te tema: 19 maneras FOOLPROOF<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

Rod\u00e9ate de gente que se preocupe por ti<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

Te vendr\u00eda bien todo el apoyo emocional que puedas conseguir. Acude a tu familia y a tus amigos antes de que \u00e9l lo haga.<\/p>\n

Adm\u00edtelo todo y h\u00e1blales de la clase de monstruo que es.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be embarrassed and after all, people who sincerely love you will never judge you. They will offer you help because you deserve it.<\/p>\n

At times, you\u2019re going to need someone to talk to because being alone in that kind of situation can easily mess up your mind.<\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farese de que sus hijos reciben la ayuda que necesitan<\/h2>\n

\"linda<\/p>\n

Los ni\u00f1os suelen ser v\u00edctimas de segunda mano en este tipo de situaciones, especialmente cuando se trata de un padre narcisista. No se detendr\u00e1 ante nada.<\/p>\n

The fact he\u2019s harming his children doesn\u2019t mean anything to him because as I\u2019ve already said, la gente como \u00e9l s\u00f3lo se preocupa de s\u00ed misma<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Hire a counselor to help your kids deal with the situation; even though you think they are okay because they are not talking about the divorce, that doesn\u2019t necessarily mean it\u2019s true.<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s probable es que est\u00e9n reprimiendo sus sentimientos y necesiten a alguien que les ayude a afrontarlos.<\/p>\n

The harassment won\u2019t stop after the divorce<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t stop manipulating you after the divorce. Just in case, make sure to do everything to make yourself the least interesting person alive.<\/p>\n

Nunca caigas en trampas como cuando te pregunta c\u00f3mo te ha ido el d\u00eda y t\u00fa le contestas educadamente, d\u00e1ndole detalles que puede utilizar en tu contra.<\/p>\n

Mant\u00e9n tu vida personal alejada de \u00e9l. Habla s\u00f3lo de lo necesario, de cosas relacionadas con tus hijos.<\/p>\n

Never reveal what you\u2019re up to or how you\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n

Pon l\u00edmites firmes y nunca hagas excepciones. Si le avisas, se te echar\u00e1 encima, intentando conseguir m\u00e1s cada vez.<\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farate de que sepa que tus l\u00edmites son los que son, sin posibilidad de cambio. S\u00f3lo podr\u00e1s conseguirlo si eres coherente con tus decisiones.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

It\u2019s possible he will try to turn your kids against you after the divorce but don\u2019t worry.<\/p>\n

I know it\u2019s hard as hell to listen to lies and false accusations, especially when your kids are involved in that.<\/p>\n

Mant\u00e9n la fuerza y apoya a tus hijos pase lo que pase. Tarde o temprano se dar\u00e1n cuenta de cu\u00e1l es la verdad.<\/p>\n

Divorciarse de un narcisista<\/a> will be \u2018the\u2019 battle of your life but you\u2019ll get through it.<\/p>\n

Just remember, there is no way to reason with a narcissist, so don\u2019t even try. Plan your main goal and make it come true at any cost.<\/p>\n

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