{"id":33592,"date":"2019-02-26T10:17:08","date_gmt":"2019-02-26T10:17:08","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=33592"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:48:31","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:48:31","slug":"5-verdades-absolutas-sobre-las-rupturas-que-nadie-te-cuenta-nunca","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-verdades-absolutas-sobre-las-rupturas-que-nadie-te-cuenta-nunca\/","title":{"rendered":"5 verdades absolutas sobre las rupturas (que nadie te dice)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Let’s start with the first universal truth that we’re all familiar with and that is: Las rupturas son una mierda.<\/strong> <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

No importa lo que le digan sobre \u00e9ste, nadie podr\u00e1 contradecirlo jam\u00e1s.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Las rupturas son un aut\u00e9ntico grano en el culo que nos hace cuestionarnos por qu\u00e9 empezamos algo con alguien en primer lugar. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Ponen a prueba nuestra cordura, tolerancia y umbral del dolor. Pero, lo creas o no, no todo es blanco o negro.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

There\u2019s this little gray area about break-ups that no one ever tells you about. It is stationed between your rationality and insanity and that is why it is really hard to capture it. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Resumiendo, hay 5 verdades absolutas sobre las rupturas que nadie te cuenta y que pueden ayudarte a aliviar tu dolor.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

1. You can\u2019t choose not to be in pain but you can choose not to suffer
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Sentir dolor y sufrir son dos cosas diferentes, pero de alguna manera siempre lo vemos como una sola cosa. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

After a break-up, your body and mind go through enormous amounts of pain that you can\u2019t control. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\nTe duele el coraz\u00f3n, te cuesta respirar, te sientes decepcionado.\r\n\r\n\r\n

Todas estas cosas son inevitables, pero el sufrimiento es opcional. Sufrir significa ser incapaz de dejar de pensar en exceso. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Significa hacerte demasiadas preguntas y culparte a ti mismo y al universo de todas las dificultades que te ha tra\u00eddo tu ruptura.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

El sufrimiento es esa vocecita en tu cabeza que te hace preguntas como: \u00bfQu\u00e9 habr\u00eda pasado si hubiera hecho esto o aquello? <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Why didn\u2019t I notice it earlier? Why me? <\/em><\/strong>
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Ahora viene lo m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You\u2019re probably asking yourself how in the world you can choose not to suffer because it seems that it is happening automatically.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Definitivamente, elegir no sufrir no es f\u00e1cil y lo haces mandando a la mierda todas esas preguntas y que no vuelvan porque no son reales. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

No forman parte de ti. Son s\u00f3lo algunos contraefectos que se pueden exterminar.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

2. The word \u2018deserve\u2019 is a trap
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Cuando ocurre algo malo como ruptura<\/a>, we tend to immediately link it with the word \u2018deserve\u2019. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

We tell ourself that we didn\u2019t deserve it and maybe some other person who was a real asshole did deserve it.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

By classifying people in accordance with what they \u2018deserve\u2019, we fall even deeper into misery. <\/strong>
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Todos merecemos experimentar un amor rec\u00edproco y la \u00fanica diferencia es que algunas personas lo experimentan antes y otras despu\u00e9s (cuando est\u00e1n preparadas para ello). <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Constantly thinking about what you \u2018deserve\u2019 makes you feel even more sad and confused.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Todo sucede por una raz\u00f3n y la raz\u00f3n no es ser merecedor o no merecedor. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

When it comes to break-ups, you should erase the word \u2018deserve\u2019 from your dictionary because if you don\u2019t, it will prolong your pain.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

3. Huir de lo que te hace da\u00f1o nunca te curar\u00e1
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Todos afrontamos las rupturas de forma diferente. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Some of us go drinking night after night, some of us choose one-night \u2018romances\u2019, some of us find something else that will distract us from the pain we\u2019re feeling.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Pero lo cierto es que, hagamos lo que hagamos, lo \u00fanico que podr\u00e1 curar es el tiempo. <\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Running from what hurts you will never heal you because simply distracting yourself with some other things so that you don\u2019t think about the core of your pain has nothing to do with healing.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I\u2019m sorry to tell you that no matter how long you choose to run away from yourself and your past, nothing will ever change until the right time comes.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Hagas lo que hagas, te curar\u00e1s cuando el tiempo lo decida.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

4. Contar constantemente o exagerar tu historia de ruptura a los dem\u00e1s prolongar\u00e1 tu tiempo de curaci\u00f3n
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Despu\u00e9s de una ruptura, es normal ponerse en contacto con amigos y familiares porque, evidentemente, a la miseria le gusta la compa\u00f1\u00eda. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

But constantly retelling, or even worse, rewriting and exaggerating your break-up story so that you become the hero of it (when you know you\u2019re not) is not healthy.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

No one\u2019s a hero and no one\u2019s a villain when it comes to break-ups.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

<\/strong>You two simply didn\u2019t get along because of some reasons and that is all there is to it. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Making your ex a villain in other people\u2019s eyes is toxic for your health and the health of others and it will prolong your healing time.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Ser realista acerca de los acontecimientos, aceptar lo que pas\u00f3 y reducir el recuento son las mejores cosas que puedes hacer por ti mismo y por las personas que te rodean.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Es decir, nadie quiere escuchar los detalles de tu ruptura 24\/7 porque quieren pasar tiempo contigo y no con tu pasado.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

5. Perdonar a tu ex y a ti mismo son imprescindibles si quieres volver a ser feliz
<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

I understand that it is really hard to forgive someone who mistreated you in a relationship but you have to know that you\u2019re doing it for yourself. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

The worst thing you can do after a break-up is pretend that everything\u2019s okay while inside you\u2019re collapsing.
<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Perdonar a tu ex y a ti mismo es la clave para alcanzar de nuevo la felicidad definitiva. \u00bfY sabes por qu\u00e9? <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Because if you\u2019re feeling rage, disappointment and madness, all of these will become a part of you and they will not leave you until you forgive.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You will never be able to enter into a new relationship and be happy with someone else as long as you don\u2019t forgive your ex or yourself for the previous one. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Es un ciclo inevitable de la vida por el que todos debemos pasar si queremos empezar a un nuevo cap\u00edtulo en nuestra vida<\/a>. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

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