{"id":34649,"date":"2020-03-22T08:52:53","date_gmt":"2020-03-22T08:52:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=34649"},"modified":"2021-10-29T15:25:43","modified_gmt":"2021-10-29T15:25:43","slug":"como-un-narcisista-juega-a-la-victima-10-tacticas-para-recuperar-el-control","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-un-narcisista-juega-a-la-victima-10-tacticas-para-recuperar-el-control\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfC\u00f3mo juega a la v\u00edctima un narcisista? 10 t\u00e1cticas para recuperar el control"},"content":{"rendered":"

Las personas que sufren un trastorno narcisista no encajan en los patrones sociales, sobre todo por una raz\u00f3n principal: carecen de empat\u00eda.<\/p>\n

Para encajar en la sociedad e interactuar con otros seres humanos, la gente tiene que ser comprensiva con los dem\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal to offer help to the person who needs it. Showing empathy should be one of people\u2019s primary instincts.<\/p>\n

Los narcisistas funcionan de manera diferente. Se presentan como v\u00edctimas.<\/p>\n

Su comportamiento y su actuaci\u00f3n son tan perfectos que rara vez alguien puede ver a trav\u00e9s de su fachada.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Esto hace que las verdaderas v\u00edctimas pasen desapercibidas o incluso sean acusadas falsamente de ser desconsideradas y ego\u00edstas.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQui\u00e9n es realmente la v\u00edctima?<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Los narcisistas realmente creen que son las v\u00edctimas porque carecen de empat\u00eda.<\/p>\n

They truly don\u2019t understand what the real victim is going through and they can\u2019t put themselves into someone else\u2019s shoes.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t understand emotions.<\/p>\n

Narcissists don\u2019t perceive other people as individual human beings, they see them as extensions of themselves.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

So, when things don\u2019t go their way, they aren\u2019t taking into account that someone else\u2019s feelings got hurt.<\/p>\n

Se aferran a s\u00ed mismos y creen de verdad que les han hecho da\u00f1o, por lo que asumen el papel de v\u00edctimas.<\/p>\n

Juego de v\u00edctima narcisista<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

La incapacidad de empatizar impide al narcisista comprender que no siempre es la v\u00edctima.<\/p>\n

They can\u2019t detect what\u2019s causing their problems because the source of the problem is usually them.<\/p>\n

What happens is they are incapable of feeling guilt or remorse, that\u2019s why they never blame themselves for causing trouble or hurting another human being.<\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

This wouldn\u2019t be such a big deal if they don’t pass the guilt on you and make you feel ashamed for something you didn\u2019t do or something you did by accident.<\/p>\n

Even if the taking up of the victim role looks like it has happened by accident, that\u2019s not true.<\/p>\n

Para desempe\u00f1ar el papel de v\u00edctima, uno debe poseer un gran conjunto de habilidades. Estos son sus movimientos favoritos:<\/p>\n

\u2022 Fake tears or no tears at all<\/p>\n

\u2022 Telling sad stories<\/p>\n

\u2022 Emphasizing details they know will trigger your emotions<\/p>\n

\u2022 Pretending they are worried about you<\/p>\n

\u2022 Excessive body gestures (e.g. throwing hands up in the air)<\/p>\n

\u2022 Pointing at themselves to keep the focus on them<\/p>\n

La mayor\u00eda de estas acciones est\u00e1n presentes en el comportamiento de las verdaderas v\u00edctimas, pero \u00bfc\u00f3mo reconocer a una v\u00edctima real de la falsa?<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Tu instinto te dice<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

You simply know something is wrong; you can feel it. You can sense someone\u2019s lying to you and trying to manipulate you.<\/p>\n

The problem is, you can\u2019t prove it. All you can do is target their abuso narcisista<\/a> t\u00e1cticas. <\/p>\n

Comprobaci\u00f3n de hechos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Lleva un registro detallado de tu situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

If you write things down, no one can assure you something has happened or didn\u2019t happen; no one can brainwash you.<\/p>\n

If a narcissist\u2019s story changes over time (and if he\u2019s lying, it will), you\u2019ll know for sure he\u2019s been altering reality to succeed in playing the victim.<\/p>\n

Busca l\u00e1grimas de verdad<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

<\/figure>\n

Invisible tears don\u2019t count. Look for the real ones.<\/p>\n

Estudiar su comportamiento despu\u00e9s de una pelea<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00c9chales un buen vistazo despu\u00e9s del episodio. Estudia cada uno de sus movimientos.<\/p>\n

Si act\u00faan como si no hubiera pasado nada y si son capaces de hacer cosas normales sin ning\u00fan problema, probablemente est\u00e9n jugando contigo.<\/p>\n

Las personas que son v\u00edctimas reales seguir\u00e1n molestas y agitadas despu\u00e9s del episodio.<\/p>\n

Las v\u00edctimas reales no pueden volver inmediatamente a su rutina diaria.<\/p>\n

Comportamientos narcisistas habituales y t\u00e1cticas para hacerse la v\u00edctima<\/em><\/strong><\/span><\/p>\n

Ilusi\u00f3n y negaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Los narcisistas pueden convertir cualquier situaci\u00f3n en una ventaja.<\/p>\n

Utilizan el enga\u00f1o y la negaci\u00f3n para convencerse de que la mala situaci\u00f3n que han creado no es culpa suya en absoluto.<\/p>\n

Tienen la capacidad de convertir la situaci\u00f3n real en falsa.<\/p>\n

Lo que ven y c\u00f3mo perciben las cosas es real a sus ojos y nada m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

As they have the strong ability to make themselves believe in things that aren\u2019t real, they have the ability to do the same to you, too.<\/p>\n

Usually, narcissists truly believe that their version of reality is the real one, and sometimes even if they don\u2019t, they keep convincing you that you\u2019re wrong.<\/p>\n

After some time of hearing the same story over and over again, you may even start believing what he\u2019s saying. Well, that\u2019s their end game.<\/p>\n

La t\u00e1ctica de la patata caliente<\/h2>\n

\"el<\/p>\n

En este caso, la patata caliente representa la culpa.<\/p>\n

Someone threw the blame to them and since they don\u2019t accept it, they have to hurry up and hand it over to someone else.<\/p>\n

Usually, that\u2019s the closest person to him \u2013 you. Narcissists will never accept blame for anything.<\/p>\n

Incluso si son culpables, encontrar\u00e1n la manera de desquitarse contigo y darle la vuelta a las cosas a su favor, convirti\u00e9ndote en el malo de la pel\u00edcula.<\/p>\n

If it by any chance happens that they do feel a certain amount of shame as a consequence of their actions, they will find someone to pass it on to \u2013 remember, a narcissist is always the victim.<\/p>\n

A trav\u00e9s de manipulaci\u00f3n cuidadosamente planificada<\/a>te asegurar\u00e1n que su problema surgi\u00f3 a causa de tu papel en primer lugar.<\/p>\n

T\u00fa eres el culpable desde el principio.<\/p>\n

Mentira<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Los narcisistas necesitan una validaci\u00f3n constante para fortalecer su autoestima, ya de por s\u00ed tambaleante.<\/p>\n

Necesitan que se les elogie para que tengan energ\u00eda para seguir adelante con sus vidas.<\/p>\n

La gente normal tiene herramientas para hacer frente a estas situaciones.<\/p>\n

When they have problems, they seek help \u2013 either from their friends or someone trained to help others.<\/p>\n

Since narcissists don\u2019t have friends to talk to and they don\u2019t feel the need to seek professional help, they turn to lying.<\/p>\n

Para obtener la simpat\u00eda de la gente, necesitan presentar su situaci\u00f3n como digna de l\u00e1stima.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo good deed goes unpunished\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Si un narcisista realiza una buena acci\u00f3n y pasa desapercibida, se asegurar\u00e1 de convertir tu vida en un infierno.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t stop at that. His hypocrisy goes even further.<\/p>\n

En primer lugar, su buena acci\u00f3n nunca es s\u00f3lo una buena acci\u00f3n. Los narcisistas siempre tienen una agenda oculta detr\u00e1s de todo lo que hacen.<\/p>\n

When they don\u2019t get praise for doing the right thing, revenge is already in the making.<\/p>\n

Esto es extremadamente retorcido por su parte si se tiene en cuenta que su intenci\u00f3n inicial no es ben\u00e9vola.<\/p>\n

Te destrozar\u00e1n y hablar\u00e1n a tus espaldas con todos tus conocidos.<\/p>\n

You are going to be awarded the role of the bitch who doesn\u2019t care about anyone but herself, and he\u2019s going to be the guy who was trying so hard to please you, but he failed because you\u2019re too demanding.<\/p>\n

In other words, he\u2019s going to portray the victim.<\/p>\n

He\u2019s going to exaggerate the details and make things up just to get the upper hand.<\/p>\n

Narcissists need praise from someone else and if they aren\u2019t not getting it from you, they will seek it from the people they are badmouthing you to.<\/p>\n

Necesitan su suministro narcisista. Necesitan o\u00edr que ellos son los mejores y t\u00fa no eres nada.<\/p>\n

Proyecci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

A los narcisistas les encanta proyectar. Cualquier cosa que un narcisista diga que alguien le hizo, puedes estar seguro de que le hizo exactamente lo mismo a otra persona.<\/p>\n

If they say someone hurt them, it means they\u2019ve hurt someone else. If they say someone lied to them, it means they lied to someone, and so on.<\/p>\n

Lo que ocurre es que un narcisista intenta justificar su propio comportamiento trasladando la culpa y la responsabilidad a otra persona.<\/p>\n

Su forma de pensar es fascinante por lo equivocada que es. Si otra persona es culpable de todas las cosas que ha hecho, en su mente significa que las hizo.<\/p>\n

\u201cMe too\u201d tactic<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

If the victim has a problem, then a narcissist has one, too. They can’t allow you to be the only victim.<\/p>\n

Si a usted le ha pasado algo malo, puede apostar un d\u00f3lar a que a ellos les ha pasado algo parecido o m\u00e1s terrible.<\/p>\n

Esta t\u00e1ctica est\u00e1 dise\u00f1ada para socavar tu problema y hacerlo irrelevante porque el narcisista ha pasado por lo mismo o peor..<\/p>\n

Inventar un escenario falso<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve been bullied by a narcissist and you decided to stand up for yourself, a narcissist will come up with a different story.<\/p>\n

Presentar\u00e1n la historia como les parezca oportuno. Se saltar\u00e1n el principio y la situaci\u00f3n en la que comenz\u00f3 la pelea.<\/p>\n

No explicar\u00e1n por qu\u00e9 empez\u00f3 la pelea y se saltar\u00e1n la parte en la que quedan como v\u00edctimas.<\/p>\n

En caso de acoso, presentar\u00e1n la historia para que parezca que les estabas acosando.<\/p>\n

Te fastidiaron un poco (nada grave) y perdiste los papeles y empezaste a ser malo con ellos.<\/p>\n

Para una persona ajena, esta historia tiene mucho sentido y nada parece sospechoso.<\/p>\n

Lo que realmente ocurri\u00f3 es que te provocaron y fueron malos contigo, lo que hace perfectamente excusable tu mala reacci\u00f3n en respuesta a su comportamiento t\u00f3xico<\/a>.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo te estabas defendiendo.<\/p>\n

Paranoia<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

<\/figure>\n

When a narcissist feels like he no longer has control over someone, or he feels like he could be abandoned soon, he will slowly start planting the seed of how he can\u2019t trust you because you are out to get him.<\/p>\n

El objetivo de esta t\u00e1ctica es advertir a la gente de que algo as\u00ed puede ocurrir.<\/p>\n

So, if you choose to save yourself because you\u2019re fed up with the way they treat you, and you want to loosen yourself from their controlling grip, you’re going to create a situation in which you look like the bad guy and the narcissist is the victim because you left him.<\/p>\n

Conocen tan bien su juego que siempre van un paso por delante de ti, hagas lo que hagas.<\/p>\n

Triangulaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

En t\u00e9rminos psicol\u00f3gicos, la triangulaci\u00f3n es una forma de manipulaci\u00f3n a trav\u00e9s de la comunicaci\u00f3n entre dos personas.<\/p>\n

El cotilleo y la calumnia son las mejores herramientas para la triangulaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Al difundir rumores y exponer tus trapos sucios en p\u00fablico, los narcisistas se aseguran de poner a otras personas en tu contra.<\/p>\n

Difundir informaci\u00f3n falsa sobre ti es su forma de asegurarse el apoyo de los dem\u00e1s, o lo que es lo mismo, su suministro narcisista.<\/p>\n

B\u00fasqueda de atenci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Los narcisistas convierten toperas en monta\u00f1as.<\/p>\n

Har\u00e1n un esc\u00e1ndalo de cosas sin importancia s\u00f3lo para conseguir la atenci\u00f3n que tanto ans\u00edan.<\/p>\n

Este t\u00e1ctica de manipulaci\u00f3n<\/a> usually has two purposes \u2013 to belittle you and make themselves look like victims.<\/p>\n

The perfect example of this kind of behavior is their ability to intentionally pick fights about trivial things to cause problems where there aren\u2019t any.<\/p>\n

There is no way you can expose them for those actions and the only thing you\u2019ll achieve is hitting a brick wall and subjecting yourself to a heap of criticism.<\/p>\n

The only solution is to keep a detailed diary of everything that happens so you know what\u2019s real and what\u2019s not.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s crucial you stay sane and keep both feet firmly on the ground.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo as\u00ed podr\u00e1s sobrevivir a los constantes ataques de un narcisista y a su actuaci\u00f3n de hacerse la v\u00edctima.<\/p>\n

<\/figure>\n

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