{"id":34823,"date":"2020-03-26T14:47:19","date_gmt":"2020-03-26T14:47:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=34823"},"modified":"2022-01-05T15:29:48","modified_gmt":"2022-01-05T15:29:48","slug":"debo-romper-con-mi-novio-21-senales-de-alarma-que-indican-que-debes-hacerlo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/debo-romper-con-mi-novio-21-senales-de-alarma-que-indican-que-debes-hacerlo\/","title":{"rendered":"\"\u00bfDeber\u00eda romper con mi novio?\" 21 Banderas rojas que dicen que deber\u00edas hacerlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Once you get to a point in your relationship where you have to ask yourself, \u201cShould I break up with my boyfriend?\u201d you will be torn between what you feel and what you know.<\/p>\n

You will be lost in your thoughts, but you will know deep down that the time has come to do something because things went terribly wrong and it\u2019s time to somehow fix them or superar una relaci\u00f3n<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Para un espectador corriente, un amigo o un familiar, las cosas pueden parecer sencillas.<\/p>\n

Pueden analizar objetivamente tu situaci\u00f3n y decir que una ruptura es lo mejor.<\/p>\n

T\u00fa, en cambio, est\u00e1s demasiado cerca, demasiado apegado, y los sentimientos te abruman. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Ruptura<\/a> is the hardest choice to make. It\u2019s like you are breaking your own heart by leaving.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

\"ruptura<\/p>\n

Lamentablemente, a veces las decisiones que te asustan son las mejores que puedes tomar.<\/p>\n

Son los que te hacen crecer y convertirte en la persona que siempre has querido ser porque nadie te retiene.<\/p>\n

Te hacen evolucionar hacia una vida con la que est\u00e1s m\u00e1s satisfecho.  <\/p>\n

A veces hacemos m\u00e1s da\u00f1o aferr\u00e1ndonos a una persona, situaci\u00f3n o relaci\u00f3n que sabemos en el fondo isn\u2019t right for us <\/a>de lo que lo har\u00edamos dej\u00e1ndonos llevar.<\/p>\n

Still, you\u2019re afraid you\u2019ll make a mistake, that things could change if you held on just a while longer and you just don\u2019t know what to do.<\/p>\n

To help you answer the question, \u201cShould I break up with my boyfriend?\u201d we decided to make a difficult situation a bit easier and relieve you of all doubts by providing you with 21 red flags that say you should:<\/p>\n

La felicidad se convirti\u00f3 en un concepto desconocido en tu relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

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No ser feliz en tu relaci\u00f3n es motivo suficiente para poner fin a la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Surely, people in healthy relationships are not happy 24\/7; they have their off days, days that they argue and can\u2019t stand each other.<\/p>\n

Lo que pasa es que lo solucionan r\u00e1pidamente; hablan las cosas y llegan a un acuerdo.<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante es que los d\u00edas malos nunca superan a los buenos. Siempre hay m\u00e1s cosas positivas que negativas.<\/p>\n

En definitiva, tienes que analizar racionalmente tu situaci\u00f3n, determinar si pasas m\u00e1s tiempo estresada, preocupada y llorando por las cosas que hace tu pareja que sinti\u00e9ndote segura, c\u00f3moda, relajada y alegre.<\/p>\n

Tu intuici\u00f3n te grita que te dejes llevar<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Por mucho que queramos que las cosas funcionen, por mucho tiempo y esfuerzo que hayamos invertido en una determinada relaci\u00f3n, por muchos d\u00edas soleados que hayamos pasado con alguien, si tu intuici\u00f3n te grita que no es el indicado, rompe con tu novio sin pens\u00e1rtelo dos veces.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 claro que no es la persona con la que te ves envejeciendo.<\/p>\n

La vida que est\u00e1s viviendo con \u00e9l no es la vida que quieres para ti.<\/p>\n

Something is just not adding up and that little voice inside of you is telling you that he is not your soulmate. Trust that voice \u2013 it\u2019s hardly ever wrong.<\/p>\n

Te encuentras en un callej\u00f3n sin salida en tu relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

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If you\u2019ve already tried the impossible to make your relationship work and you just found yourself in a dead end street, you will figure out that you are not going anywhere.<\/p>\n

What you need to ask yourself here is, \u201cIs there anything still worth saving between my boyfriend and me?\u201d<\/p>\n

Be brutally honest with yourself. If there is nothing to be saved, don\u2019t waste your time or emotions.<\/p>\n

Sometimes things get broken so badly that they can\u2019t be fixed.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t come up with any solution to your problems and that kind of leaves you without any other choice.<\/p>\n

Te sientes peor contigo mismo (y tu pareja tiene todo que ver)<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfTu pareja te hace sentir que no eres lo suficientemente buena? \u00bfSe aprovecha de tus debilidades y las empeora?<\/p>\n

\u00bfDisfraza sus insultos de bromas?<\/p>\n

Si la respuesta es afirmativa, deber\u00edas salir corriendo.<\/p>\n

Tu relaci\u00f3n deber\u00eda fortalecerte y hacerte sentir m\u00e1s fuerte y segura que nunca, no hundirte y llenarte de dudas.<\/p>\n

Intenta empeque\u00f1ecerte para sentirse m\u00e1s grande.<\/p>\n

Esta es una de las se\u00f1ales de que puedes estar tratando con un narcisista o un soci\u00f3pata t\u00f3xico. Cuanto m\u00e1s tiempo te quedes, peor ser\u00e1.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que sal de esa relaci\u00f3n cuanto antes.<\/p>\n

Las personas que te quieren apoyan tu decisi\u00f3n de romper<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

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Como he dicho en la introducci\u00f3n, tus amigos y familiares tienen una visi\u00f3n objetiva de tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

They don\u2019t have the same feelings for your partner as you do and they can see him more clearly.<\/p>\n

Pi\u00e9nsalo, si m\u00e1s de una persona te dice lo mismo, es una se\u00f1al de alarma.<\/p>\n

Les interesa lo mejor para ti, quieren que seas feliz, y saben que nunca lo ser\u00e1s si sigues con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Escucha lo que tienen que decir e intenta razonar con tu cerebro en lugar de con tu coraz\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Feelings can cloud your judgment and make you put up with things that you normally wouldn\u2019t.<\/p>\n

Aconsejar\u00edas a alguien en la misma situaci\u00f3n sentimental que t\u00fa que rompiera<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

Imagina que est\u00e1s escuchando a tu mejor amigo hablar sin parar de las cosas por las que est\u00e1s pasando en realidad con tu pareja.<\/p>\n

\u00bfLes aconsejar\u00eda que se quedaran o que se fueran?<\/p>\n

Once you answer this, you will answer the question that doesn\u2019t leave you be: \u201cShould I break up with my boyfriend?<\/p>\n

No hay lugar para los peros y los \"y si...\".<\/p>\n

If you think your situation is unhealthy or deprived of love and you wouldn\u2019t wish it for anybody else, don\u2019t wish it on yourself either.<\/p>\n

Te mereces una relaci\u00f3n sana, feliz y normal como cualquier otra persona.<\/p>\n

Su pareja es emocionalmente inestable<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

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El comportamiento paranoico, los constantes cambios de humor, la mala gesti\u00f3n de la ira, la actitud defensiva, el ego\u00edsmo, etc. son s\u00f3lo algunos de los muchos indicadores de que se est\u00e1 tratando con un individuo emocionalmente inestable.<\/p>\n

This shouldn\u2019t be your burden to carry, and his emotional state will affect yours.<\/p>\n

No importa lo fuerte y positivo que seas, su negatividad te arrastrar\u00e1 a la oscuridad.<\/p>\n

Puede que quieras ayudarle o animarle a que busque ayuda, pero a menos que \u00e9l mismo vea que tiene un problema al que debe enfrentarse, no puedes hacer nada.<\/p>\n

Su pareja es adicta<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter if he is an alcoholic, drug addict, or gambler, the answer is always the same: break up with him and sever all ties.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not easy for an addict to change his ways, and like with any problem, he first has to be aware of it and be willing to fix it.<\/p>\n

More often than not, addicts are neither until they hit rock bottom and you don\u2019t want to stick around and witness that.<\/p>\n

Nada bueno saldr\u00e1 de \u00e9l. Te agotar\u00e1 emocional, f\u00edsica y financieramente.<\/p>\n

Tu pareja es el ep\u00edtome de la pereza<\/h2>\n
\"hombre<\/figure>\n

Laziness can really become an issue in your relationship, especially when your partner can\u2019t hold on to a job for very long or refuses to work altogether.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t just feel like a provider financially but all the emotional investments will come from your side, which will be more and more difficult as your relationship progresses.<\/p>\n

While you would do just about anything to make him happy, he wouldn\u2019t lift his little finger for you.<\/p>\n

Las personas perezosas suelen estar ensimismadas y siempre buscan nuevas formas de evitar hacer algo.<\/p>\n

No pueden comunicarse entre ustedes<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Parece que vuestra relaci\u00f3n est\u00e1 llena de malentendidos, debates y discusiones.<\/p>\n

You just don\u2019t see eye-to-eye and, instead of being in a healthy and loving relationship, you are spending your time on a battlefield.  <\/p>\n

It\u2019s time you admit to yourself that you are not compatible with your partner and that, no matter how much you care for him, this relationship is not something you have been dreaming of for the better part of your life.<\/p>\n

Sue\u00f1as despierto con otra persona u otra cosa<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

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Cuando todo va mal en tu relaci\u00f3n, empiezas a buscar las respuestas fuera de ella.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t necessarily mean that you are actually going to cheat on your partner, but you will inevitably try to find an escape from the entire situation in your daydreams.<\/p>\n

Esta es una bandera roja importante y tu subconsciente te est\u00e1 diciendo que no est\u00e1s donde quieres estar o con quien quieres estar.<\/p>\n

El amor verdadero es cuando tu realidad es mejor que cualquier cosa que pudieras so\u00f1ar y no hay necesidad de escapar a ninguna parte.<\/p>\n

Su pareja le maltrata emocional o f\u00edsicamente<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Leave, and do it now. This goes without saying, but still, it\u2019s important to stress that any form of abuse is unacceptable.<\/p>\n

No hay excusas para ello y nunca debe tolerarse.<\/p>\n

The thing with emotional abuse is that it\u2019s harder to recognize.<\/p>\n

Most people don\u2019t even realize it until it\u2019s too late and they are emotionally drained. Still, as soon as you become aware of it, don\u2019t think twice.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t try to change things; break up with him and never look back.<\/p>\n

Es incapaz de amar a nadie m\u00e1s que a s\u00ed mismo<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

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Est\u00e1 enamorado de s\u00ed mismo y s\u00f3lo le interesan las cosas que puedes hacer por \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Lo hace todo a su conveniencia y se asegura de que se satisfagan sus necesidades.  <\/p>\n

La verdad es que le encanta que le quieras y que hagas lo imposible por hacerle feliz, pero nunca demuestra que siente lo mismo por ti.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s all about him and he will never work on a relationship with you. Everything will be one-sided.   <\/p>\n

B\u00e1sicamente, muestra signos de comportamiento narcisista<\/a> y est\u00e1 jugando con tu mente y tus sentimientos.<\/p>\n

The longer you stay with an individual like this, the more broken you\u2019ll be.<\/p>\n

He knows how to push your buttons \u2013 it\u2019s his favorite pastime<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Hay hombres a los que les encanta discutir por discutir.<\/p>\n

Provocar\u00e1n una pelea tocando temas que pongan nervioso y molesto a su compa\u00f1ero.<\/p>\n

Repetir\u00e1n comportamientos que su pareja considera ofensivos e irrespetuosos.<\/p>\n

\u00bfLe suena de algo?<\/p>\n

Si pasas m\u00e1s tiempo discutiendo con tu novio que en armon\u00eda, est\u00e1s en la relaci\u00f3n equivocada.<\/p>\n

Una discusi\u00f3n de vez en cuando es normal e incluso bienvenida, pero las peleas constantes son s\u00f3lo un indicador de que no sois compatibles y de que \u00e9l no es para ti.<\/p>\n

Es un taca\u00f1o  <\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

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He wouldn\u2019t dream of paying for a meal, coffee, groceries, or anything, but he has no problem with you paying for all.<\/p>\n

Se repartir\u00e1 los gastos de vez en cuando, pero intentar\u00e1 no gastar nada.<\/p>\n

Estar con alguien tan taca\u00f1o es agotador. No solo te agotar\u00e1 econ\u00f3micamente, sino tambi\u00e9n mentalmente.<\/p>\n

Remember relationships are for two equals. You shouldn\u2019t be the one supporting his ass; you are in this together.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want the same things in life<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

T\u00fa quieres hijos y \u00e9l nunca se imagina siendo padre.<\/p>\n

You want mariage down the line and he doesn\u2019t believe in the whole institution of marriage.<\/p>\n

T\u00fa quieres vivir en la ciudad y \u00e9l prefiere las afueras o viceversa.<\/p>\n

The fact of the matter is, you don\u2019t imagine your future together in the same way; you don\u2019t want the same things.<\/p>\n

Your paths will inevitably part at some point or one of you will have to make peace with living a life you don\u2019t want for the sake of love, which is never a good option because sooner or later you will resent the other person.<\/p>\n

Isn\u2019t it better to go your separate ways sooner rather than later?<\/p>\n

Sientes que te acomodas<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

You are unsure if he is your soulmate. You keep comparing the positives and the negatives and you just can\u2019t tell.<\/p>\n

D\u00e9jame que te lo explique: si es tu alma gemela, no te quedar\u00e1 ninguna duda y lo sabr\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t settle for less than real love just because \u201cit\u2019s time\u201d or your biological clock is ticking.<\/p>\n

You won\u2019t be late for anything unless you stay with the wrong person.<\/p>\n

Your sex life is already \u201cmeh\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

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Sure, sex is not the most important thing in the relationship, but it\u2019s one of its integral parts. That\u2019s why it should never be mediocre.<\/p>\n

If there is no passion between you and your partner, you don\u2019t have to ask yourself, \u201cShould I break up with my boyfriend?\u201d<\/p>\n

You should ask yourself, \u201cShould I say goodbye to my friend?\u201d<\/p>\n

Because at the end of the day, without passion, you are just a couple of good friends hanging out and cohabitating \u2013 nothing more.<\/p>\n

Es extremadamente celoso<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Si tu pareja es celosa, probablemente ya sientas que est\u00e1s enjaulado.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t like you going out with your friends or anywhere without him. He is jealous of the guys you work with.<\/p>\n

Revisa tu tel\u00e9fono para buscar se\u00f1ales de enga\u00f1o, etc.<\/p>\n

No hay paz ni confianza en vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Los celos pueden ser peligrosos y, llevados al extremo, convertirse en posesividad y control.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t allow it to go that far; get out as soon as you can.<\/p>\n

Te hace sentir culpable<\/h2>\n

\"el<\/p>\n

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Have you ever been in a situation with your partner where you had to apologize for things you hadn\u2019t done?<\/p>\n

\u00bfHas desarrollado el h\u00e1bito de cargar con la culpa de todo en tu relaci\u00f3n?<\/p>\n

Todas estas son se\u00f1ales de alarma que indican que es un maestro de la manipulaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

He can\u2019t do anything wrong, so naturally, he puts the blame on you.<\/p>\n

The sooner you realize that he isn\u2019t as perfect as he pretends to be and that he is manipulating you, the happier you will be.<\/p>\n

The man who can\u2019t own up to his mistakes can be extremely dangerous for your mental health.<\/p>\n

Es cr\u00edtico y puntilloso.<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

It seems like you can\u2019t do anything right. He is on your case non-stop and he  closely monitors your every move.<\/p>\n

He criticizes the clothes you wear, people you hang out with, your decisions, your work \u2013 even the way you breathe.<\/p>\n

Parece que nada de lo que haces es lo suficientemente bueno.<\/p>\n

Te hace dudar de tus decisiones y de tu capacidad para vivir tu vida con tus propios pies. Est\u00e1 arruinando tu autoestima de forma lenta pero segura.<\/p>\n

Aparte de eso, tu cabeza est\u00e1 llena de sus palabras y pasar tiempo con \u00e9l es lo m\u00e1s alejado de la diversi\u00f3n que puede haber.<\/p>\n

Te est\u00e1 molestando mucho, y seguir\u00e1 haci\u00e9ndolo mientras se lo permitas. \u00bfNecesito decir m\u00e1s?<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Hay algunas razones m\u00e1s que podr\u00edan hacerte reconsiderar tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, si es un immature mama\u2019s boy<\/a>...irresponsable, te da por sentado, enga\u00f1a, miente, etc., pero son bastante obvios.<\/p>\n

There is one crucial thing in all of this, though. If you have to ask, \u201cShould I break up with my boyfriend?\u201d you already know the answer deep down.<\/p>\n

A tu relaci\u00f3n le falta algo y lo sientes en los huesos.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t settle for anything less than real love and a boyfriend who respects you, loves you, and invests in the relationship as much as you do. If you choose to break up with him, these mensajes de texto de ruptura<\/a> podr\u00eda ayudarte. <\/p>\n

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