{"id":35342,"date":"2019-04-11T07:52:45","date_gmt":"2019-04-11T07:52:45","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=35342"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:19:55","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:19:55","slug":"4-cosas-que-debes-saber-antes-de-volver-con-un-infiel","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/4-cosas-que-debes-saber-antes-de-volver-con-un-infiel\/","title":{"rendered":"4 cosas que deber\u00edas saber antes de volver con un infiel"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Todos hemos pasado por eso de una forma u otra. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s never easy trying to piece yourself back together after having your world shattered by a cheating partner, all the while learning to <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/13-formas-de-quererse-a-uno-mismo-tras-liberarse-de-una-relacion-toxica\/\">qui\u00e9rete a ti mismo <\/a>otra vez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Se necesita mucha energ\u00eda, paciencia y fe para superar una ruptura tan traum\u00e1tica, sobre todo cuando se trata de la persona en torno a la que planeaste toda tu vida.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Lo m\u00e1s agotador del proceso de superaci\u00f3n son sus incesantes s\u00faplicas para que vuelva.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He\u2019ll faithfully promise it was merely a lapse in judgement that meant less than nothing and he would never dream of doing it again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>As if it wasn\u2019t difficult enough as it is, now you have to fight your persistent urge to forgive him because you just don\u2019t want to stop loving him. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>\u00a1Y qui\u00e9n puede culparte!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Hasta hace poco, \u00e9l era tu mundo. <\/em><br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Era <\/em><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/10-senales-de-que-tu-novio-es-en-realidad-tu-mejor-amigo\/\"><em>tu mejor amigo<\/em><\/a><em>, your rock, and the person you could laugh for hours on end with\u2026 <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>And now, he\u2019s just somebody you barely recognize anymore, but don\u2019t want to let go of.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>If you\u2019ve recently been cheated on and you\u2019re contemplating taking him back, I feel you. I really do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s truly devastating letting go of somebody who means that much to you, but sometimes, even though you can\u2019t see it at the time, that is exactly what you should do.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ojal\u00e1 hubiera sabido ciertas cosas antes de perdonar <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/to-my-cheating-ex-i-forgive-you-but-i-also-want-to-forget-you\/\">mi ex infiel<\/a> and went back into that emotional turmoil, but trust me, it\u2019s never the same.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Learn from somebody who\u2019s been through the wringer, and let my mistakes help you make the best decision for yourself.<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Aqu\u00ed tienes todo lo que debes tener en cuenta antes de decidirte a recuperarlo. <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">1. Tus problemas del pasado nunca dejar\u00e1n de perseguirte (por mucho que los ignores)<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>If you forgive him and decide to take him back, at first, it\u2019s going to feel like pure bliss. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He\u2019ll be on his absolute best behaviour and he\u2019ll make amends every chance he gets.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Te colmar\u00e1 de amor, afecto y gratitud, y te sentir\u00e1s como una reina. <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You will be able to temporarily ignore the cold fact that he did in fact cheat on you. You\u2019ll try to put it behind you, and for a while, you\u2019ll succeed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pero un d\u00eda volver\u00e1 arrastr\u00e1ndose. <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He\u2019s going to say something or do something that\u2019s immediately going to take you back to the day you found out, and you will remember what he\u2019s capable of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll try to ignore it, but it won\u2019t be possible. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Te dio por sentado, decidi\u00f3 acostarse con <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/you-chose-another-woman-now-im-choosing-freedom\/\">otra mujer<\/a>, and you\u2019ll never be able to fully forgive and forget, no matter how hard you\u2019ll want to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">2. Getting past his infidelity is going to be hard work and it won\u2019t happen overnight<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll actively try to move on and stop focusing on what he did. You may even consider therapy. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll do whatever it takes and you will truly try to move past this.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>But the thing is, it\u2019s always going to be in the back of your head. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>When you walk down the street and he merely glances at another woman passing by, you\u2019ll be pissed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He\u2019ll be texting somebody, and all you\u2019ll be able to think about is who the other person is and if he\u2019s making a fool out of you again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Ninguna cantidad de terapia va a ser capaz de hacerte olvidar, y tu paranoia y tu ira siempre van a estar ah\u00ed. <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Learning to live with this is a long, draining process that doesn\u2019t always work, and sometimes, that ends up being for the best.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">3. Tus inseguridades van a salir a la superficie<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>At times, you\u2019ll wonder what she looks like. Is she prettier, thinner, or younger than you?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Is she more easy-going and carefree? Does she make him laugh like you can\u2019t? <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Or is she simply a beast in the sheets that you just can\u2019t compete with?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Todas estas preguntas te rondar\u00e1n por la cabeza y te har\u00e1n sentir tan inseguro como sea posible. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s going to be exhausting as hell comparing yourself to his <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/10-signs-he-has-a-side-chick\/\">chica de compa\u00f1\u00eda<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll hate it that he made you so weak and self-conscious, but it\u2019s going to be your reality whether you like it or not.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\">4. The fact that \u201cthe other woman\u201d is still out there somewhere will be torture<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>You won\u2019t be able to get her out of your head. You\u2019ll try to find out her name, where she lives, and whatever else you can get your hands on.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll get your girls to stalk her on <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/heres-what-his-social-media-posts-reveal-about-him-and-your-relationship\/\">redes sociales<\/a>. The deeper you go, the harder it\u2019s going to be to let go and, frankly, you won\u2019t want to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And the worst part is if you find out she is hot, young, and everything you\u2019re not, it\u2019s over. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You\u2019ll never stop comparing yourself to her and you\u2019ll be secretly pissed all the time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Te torturar\u00e1s constantemente y tu relaci\u00f3n nunca sobrevivir\u00e1 a esto. <br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Son raros los casos en los que la pareja enga\u00f1ada es realmente capaz de superar todo esto y encontrar en s\u00ed misma el verdadero perd\u00f3n y empezar de nuevo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Pero a menos que sientas que puedes vivir con todas estas cosas desafortunadas que te van a alcanzar en un momento u otro, te sugiero que te retires de esta situaci\u00f3n y te cures en otra parte.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>He won\u2019t bring you peace that you need right now, so let him go, and find your strength and confidence again before you make any permanent decisions.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Take it from someone who\u2019s lived this nightmare and learned the hard way. True love awaits you\u2026 it\u2019s just not with him.<\/em><br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/PINTEREST-2019-04-11T095218.404-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"4 cosas que deber\u00edas saber antes de volver con un infiel\" class=\"wp-image-35344\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/PINTEREST-2019-04-11T095218.404-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/PINTEREST-2019-04-11T095218.404-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/PINTEREST-2019-04-11T095218.404.jpg 467w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>We\u2019ve all been there in one way or another. It\u2019s never easy trying to piece yourself back together after having your world shattered by a cheating partner, all the while learning to love yourself again. 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