{"id":35384,"date":"2020-05-12T07:08:53","date_gmt":"2020-05-12T07:08:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=35384"},"modified":"2022-01-04T15:41:46","modified_gmt":"2022-01-04T15:41:46","slug":"6-aspectos-cruciales-que-debes-tener-en-cuenta-antes-de-salir-con-un-amigo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/6-aspectos-cruciales-que-debes-tener-en-cuenta-antes-de-salir-con-un-amigo\/","title":{"rendered":"6 aspectos cruciales que debes tener en cuenta antes de salir con un amigo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Salir con un amigo puede acabar siendo lo mejor que te haya pasado nunca, sin ninguna duda.<\/p>\n

But before it gets to the good part, there are some steps to overcome in order to master that perfect new balance of emotions you\u2019re feeling.<\/p>\n

Mi hombre<\/em><\/a> and I started out as friends, and let me tell you\u2026 it was a bumpy ride before I finally figured out how to act, now that I was more than just his friend and my feelings were so much more intensified.<\/em><\/p>\n

La primera vez que me bes\u00f3 fue inc\u00f3modo AF, pero no porque \u00e9l era un mal besador (trust me, he\u2019s not),<\/em> sino porque los dos est\u00e1bamos muy indecisos e inseguros de lo que est\u00e1bamos haciendo.<\/p>\n

Aunque nos atrevimos a hacerlo, sucedi\u00f3 de repente y fue olvidable.<\/p>\n

Luckily, we both knew we could do so much better than that, so it didn\u2019t really discourage us from giving it another shot.<\/p>\n

Los primeros d\u00edas son los m\u00e1s raros, por no decir otra cosa.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

I guess it would depend on how close you were as friends, but for us, since we were really close, we just weren\u2019t totally sure if we wanted to risk losing the friendship that we had over something that might not work.<\/p>\n

Learning how to behave now that you\u2019re trying to be a little more than just two really close friends is daunting.<\/p>\n

Especially when certain feelings start appearing and you\u2019re feeling yourself get so much more attached and connected to him.<\/p>\n

It gets scary, because you know this is actually leading somewhere new and exciting, but at the same time, the over-encompassing level of affection you\u2019re feeling scares the shit out of you.<\/p>\n

Because if it ends up backfiring, you\u2019re probably losing one of tus mejores amigos<\/a>.<\/p>\n

For us, I thank my lucky stars we never gave up, because it\u2019s been a little over a year now, and I\u2019ve literally never been in a healthier, happier relationship.<\/em><\/p>\n

La base que ten\u00edamos como amigos es lo que m\u00e1s nos ha ayudado.<\/p>\n

Ya nos sent\u00edamos c\u00f3modos el uno con el otro y no hubo conversaciones inc\u00f3modas en profundidad en las que te preocupas por si te enteras de algo que te har\u00e1 corre a las colinas.<\/a><\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Ya sab\u00eda todo lo que hab\u00eda que saber sobre \u00e9l, y eso me dio la seguridad y la confianza necesarias para seguir adelante con esto.<\/p>\n

When you feel there is something more there than just a beautiful friendship, my sincere advice is \u2013 go for it!<\/p>\n

I wouldn\u2019t be the woman that I am now if I hadn\u2019t had the guts to start salir con un amigo<\/a>.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t try, you\u2019ll never know what you potentially could end up gaining, and if it works, it\u2019s going to feel that much better because he was your friend first.<\/p>\n

There isn\u2019t a rulebook on how to handle the transition from friends to lovers, but there are some things that are inevitably going to play a significant role in the process, and it definitely can\u2019t hurt to inform yourself before actually going for it.<\/p>\n

So if you\u2019re truly contemplating dating a friend, here are some things you should be mindful of before taking the leap!<\/em><\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1 quieras empezar coqueteando un poco para ver a qu\u00e9 atenerte...<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

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It can be challenging trying to decipher his feelings, since you\u2019re already close and you know he cares about you a lot.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s the whole thing. He cares for you as a friend, but you want to make sure it transcends that!<\/p>\n

How do you know if there is something more there when you\u2019re already close and have a fun, playful friendship?<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s how I resolved that. Every time I\u2019d go shopping, I\u2019d take a hot selfie in a new outfit and text it to him to ask for his opinion of whether I should buy it or not.<\/p>\n

Also, it needs to be something girly and hot, where he\u2019ll get what you\u2019re trying to do. And based on his response, you can see d\u00f3nde est\u00e1s<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Sus comentarios eran siempre coquetos y nada propios de un amigo, \u00a1y yo sab\u00eda que \u00e9l tambi\u00e9n estaba coqueteando!<\/p>\n

Eso me ayud\u00f3 a decidirme a contemplar la posibilidad de salir con \u00e9l de verdad.<\/p>\n

Mi consejo es que primero tantee el terreno, s\u00f3lo para estar seguro de que realmente hay algo ah\u00ed, antes de dar ese gran salto a lo desconocido.<\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farate primero de tener una base s\u00f3lida como amigos<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

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If you\u2019re thinking about dating a friend, make sure that it is in fact a true, genuine friend, and not someone you think might flake on you if he gets cold feet.<\/p>\n

The way he is as a friend is going to be a sign of what he\u2019d be like as a boyfriend.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPuede contar con \u00e9l en los momentos dif\u00edciles? \u00bfEs alguien en quien puedes confiar sin ninguna duda? \u00bfVendr\u00eda a recogerte a las 3 de la ma\u00f1ana si le llamas llorando?<\/em><\/p>\n

Estas son todas las cosas que debes tener en cuenta antes de pasar a cosas m\u00e1s serias.<\/p>\n

Es alguien con quien presumiblemente est\u00e1s muy unido, as\u00ed que deber\u00edas conocerle bastante bien.<\/p>\n

Si lo que ten\u00e9is es una amistad profunda y fuerte, y sabes que \u00e9l se preocupa de verdad por ti y que nunca darte por sentado<\/a>entonces tienes luz verde para hacerlo.<\/p>\n

But if you see him with other girls and you don\u2019t like the way he treats them, think about the fact that you would be just like those girls.<\/p>\n

\u00bfTe gustar\u00eda ese tratamiento?<\/p>\n

Deep down, you know exactly what he\u2019s like. Don\u2019t lie to yourself that he\u2019d be different with you. What you see is almost always what you get.<\/p>\n

Make sure he\u2019s a genuine, reliable person in your life before making any big decisions.<\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 quieres salir con \u00e9l?<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

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Be honest with yourself, and don\u2019t let your loss of faith in love or your current feeling of loneliness lead you into the wrong direction.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to start dating a friend just because you\u2019re harto de<\/a> estar solo.<\/p>\n

Si esa fuera una buena raz\u00f3n para salir con alguien, cr\u00e9eme, todo el mundo lo estar\u00eda haciendo porque s\u00ed.<\/p>\n

You want to make sure that you\u2019ve got all the right reasons for thinking about this.<\/p>\n

Ante todo, tiene que haber emociones genuinas por tu parte, que sepas que son algo m\u00e1s que plat\u00f3nicas.<\/p>\n

Without feeling anything different than just your typical friendly vibes, there\u2019s honestly no point in putting yourself through that.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019ve established that your feelings are indeed transcending that friend stage, you\u2019re good to go.<\/p>\n

Make sure that you have some shared interests first. You don\u2019t want to start anything with him unless you\u2019re on the same page about the future.<\/p>\n

I know he gives you that feeling of security and comfort, but that\u2019s not enough for an actual relationship if that\u2019s the only reason to start things up!<\/p>\n

Tambi\u00e9n tiene que haber atracci\u00f3n sexual, y t\u00fa tienes que querer de verdad tener una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not, sooner or later, it\u2019s going to backfire and you\u2019ll be at square one.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re really sure you want to do this, stop seeing him as a friend and truly go for it<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

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At first, it\u2019s only normal to worry about what this could potentially do to your friendship in case it doesn\u2019t work.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re worried about losing a really good friend and nobody can really blame you.<\/p>\n

But at some point, you\u2019re going to have to stop seeing him as a friend and start focusing on actually making it work as a couple.<\/p>\n

Because for as long as you worry about the future and how it may affect you, you\u2019re never going to be fully invested in this.<\/p>\n

Te mereces ser feliz. Te mereces darle a esto una verdadera oportunidad.<\/p>\n

And the only way you\u2019re going to succeed in doing that is by putting in tons of effort and making sure that you\u2019re working towards the same beautiful goal \u2013 a healthy, happy relationship.<\/p>\n

Deje que la amistad sea la base sobre la que construir unos cimientos a\u00fan m\u00e1s s\u00f3lidos que le ayuden a estrechar a\u00fan m\u00e1s sus lazos y alcanzar ese nivel de intimidad que s\u00f3lo comparten las parejas.<\/p>\n

Forget about all those things that could potentially go wrong, and stay focused on this thing you\u2019re trying to build with him.<\/p>\n

Every new relationship has a risk of burning out, so that\u2019s no reason to doubt yourself and sabotage something that could end up being the best thing in your life.<\/p>\n

Keep your budding romance private and don\u2019t overshare with your mutual friends<\/h2>\n

\"encantadora<\/p>\n

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Chances are, you two have some mutual friends and they will likely find out what\u2019s happening between you two.<\/p>\n

And that\u2019s fine. It\u2019s only natural to want to know about your two friends suddenly becoming romantically involved.<\/p>\n

Pero el truco est\u00e1 en no involucrar demasiado a esos amigos comunes.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s already challenging enough without prying eyes who want to know every last detail about what\u2019s new with you two.<\/p>\n

Puedes compartir algunas cosas b\u00e1sicas.<\/p>\n

Say that things are doing great and you\u2019re both happy with where it\u2019s heading, but don\u2019t get into too many details. Keep that to yourself.<\/p>\n

The attention is really going to just annoy the hell out of you and you don\u2019t want that additional pressure and all those nagging questions that you don\u2019t even know all the answers to.<\/p>\n

Until you\u2019re truly there, stay as private as possible; it\u2019s the best thing for the relationship.<\/p>\n

Only once you\u2019ve got it all figured out and you know exactly where you are and what your intentions are with each other can you allow yourself to talk about it with your other friends.<\/p>\n

That is the only way it won\u2019t bug and pressure you into God knows what.<\/p>\n

Besides, aren\u2019t secret relationships just the best?<\/p>\n

When you\u2019ve got this whole amazing, hot, exciting new thing just to yourself, and no one in the world knows about it?<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que eso fue lo mejor para m\u00ed personalmente.<\/p>\n

Fue mi peque\u00f1o secreto caliente durante todo el tiempo que pudimos mantenerlo en secreto.<\/p>\n

Be aware that everything is going to be awkward at first (but that\u2019s totally normal!)<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

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With every beautiful new experience comes an awkward first time, and you\u2019ll be no exception.<\/p>\n

Es probable que la primera vez que tengas relaciones sexuales no sea la sesi\u00f3n caliente y t\u00f3rrida que te has imaginado.<\/p>\n

It might be\u2026 but it\u2019s more likely that it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n

La presi\u00f3n y la idea de c\u00f3mo deber\u00eda ser van a desempe\u00f1ar un papel muy importante en el resultado final.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying it\u2019s going to be bad or anything, just a bit awkward, but in a cute way, really.<\/p>\n

Because as close as you two are, sex is another level of intimacy you haven\u2019t experienced with each other yet, so before you get to know his body and vice versa, it\u2019ll take a little time before it gets to that steamy, sexy level.<\/p>\n

Seg\u00fan mi experiencia, la segunda vez ya es mucho mejor.<\/p>\n

The first time, it\u2019s basically getting to know one another on that ultimate, most personal level and seeing what works for each of you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll try out things, see what feels right, and you\u2019ll know exactly what to do (or not do) the next time around.<\/p>\n

But the point is, if there\u2019s truly a connection there, you\u2019ll totally be able to just laugh about it and brush it off.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll find it cute and amusing, and when it\u2019s done, you\u2019ll be able to just lie there and make fun of each other, before falling asleep in his arms.<\/p>\n

And trust me, it\u2019s going to feel right. Just give it a few times, and you\u2019ll be on top of things.<\/p>\n

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