{"id":35509,"date":"2020-09-16T09:42:44","date_gmt":"2020-09-16T09:42:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=35509"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:48:32","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:48:32","slug":"deja-de-poner-excusas-a-un-chico-que-no-puede-darte-lo-que-necesitas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/deja-de-poner-excusas-a-un-chico-que-no-puede-darte-lo-que-necesitas\/","title":{"rendered":"Deja de poner excusas a un chico que no puede darte lo que necesitas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Through the course of my life, I\u2019ve had my fair share of relaciones t\u00f3xicas<\/a> y chicos que nunca supieron darme lo que necesitaba y simplemente quererme.<\/p>\r\n

You never really see it at the time, and you always try to idealize and romanticize what you have, because you are so eager to find what you\u2019re looking for that you go against yourself and tolerate what you shouldn\u2019t.<\/p>\r\n

En retrospectiva, muchas de mis relaciones superaron totalmente su marca de duraci\u00f3n mucho antes de que yo les pusiera fin.<\/p>\r\n

Ahora lo veo claro, pero en aquel momento no me di cuenta de nada.<\/p>\r\n

Siempre aguant\u00e9 cosas que no deb\u00eda, porque cre\u00eda que si me importaba lo suficiente, el chico saldr\u00eda adelante.<\/p>\r\n

Ver\u00eda mi esfuerzo y decidir\u00eda contribuir y ofrecer algo sustancial para variar. Casi nunca ocurr\u00eda.<\/p>\r\n

I got my hopes crushed more times than I\u2019d like to admit, and quite frankly, I am half to blame. And that is my whole point here.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

Cuando el chico te sigue demostrando lo poco que le importa y lo poco que est\u00e1 dispuesto a ofrecer, y t\u00fa sigues decidiendo ponerle excusas, est\u00e1s permitiendo ese comportamiento t\u00f3xico en \u00e9l.<\/p>\r\n

\"mujer<\/p>\r\n

\u00c9l ve que puede salirse con la suya siendo el culo de un novio, y lo utiliza en su beneficio. \u00a1As\u00ed que deja de permit\u00edrselo!<\/p>\r\n

Eres digno de alguien <\/em>que te amar\u00e1<\/em><\/a> cada hora del d\u00eda, y no s\u00f3lo cuando le conviene.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

Te mereces a alguien que te mande un mensaje primero y haga planes contigo porque QUIERE verte, y no porque sienta que tiene que hacerlo.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

Eres digno de alguien que apreciar\u00e1 tu esfuerzo demasiado como para tom\u00e1rselo tan a la ligera.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

Don\u2019t let your fear of loneliness make you choose el tipo equivocado<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n

En lugar de eso, decide que vas a ir sola hasta que aparezca en tu vida el chico al que de verdad le importas. Y ni un minuto antes.<\/p>\r\n

Durante mucho tiempo me he esforzado al m\u00e1ximo, pero la mitad de las veces me quedaba colgado. <\/em><\/p>\r\n

Siempre me he sentido in\u00fatil y como una mierda, pero nunca he sabido c\u00f3mo defender lo que merezco. <\/em>Siempre tuve miedo de que nadie me considerara suficientemente buena.<\/p>\r\n

\"mujer<\/p>\r\n

Pens\u00e9 que era demasiado dif\u00edcil de amar y decid\u00ed aceptar trozos antes que estar soltera.<\/p>\r\n

Y ese es el mayor error que se puede cometer. Excuses don\u2019t make a relationship. Effort does!<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Cuando te conformas con un comportamiento que s\u00f3lo te deja satisfecho a medias, eso es todo lo que vas a conseguir.<\/p>\r\n

And is that really what you want? Some guys just can\u2019t be bothered to show up when you need them, and that\u2019s on them.<\/p>\r\n

Agradece que te mostraran su verdadera cara antes de que cayeras demasiado fuerte.<\/p>\r\n

Some guys think that they are being all macho and shit if they don\u2019t show you the respect you deserve and appreciate what you give them.<\/p>\r\n

And those guys are exactly who you don\u2019t want to end up with.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

You want to find a guy who can give you what you need and won\u2019t drain you on a daily basis.<\/p>\r\n

\"mujer<\/p>\r\n

Un chico que aprecie tu esfuerzo, ponga la misma cantidad de trabajo y nunca te falte al respeto ni te haga sentir que no vales nada.<\/p>\r\n

Eso es lo que un hombre de verdad<\/a> really is. One who isn\u2019t afraid to show his emotional side and one who will stick true to his word.<\/p>\r\n

Anything else truly isn\u2019t worth the bother!<\/p>\r\n

Tus necesidades son importantes. Te mereces a alguien que te trate como a una reina al final de un d\u00eda largo y agotador.<\/p>\r\n

Alguien que te pregunte c\u00f3mo est\u00e1s y que realmente quiera o\u00edrlo.<\/p>\r\n

You are a strong, confident, badass woman who doesn\u2019t have time for excuses and assholes.<\/p>\r\n

Y el pr\u00f3ximo tipo que aparezca en tu puerta con cero esfuerzo puede mostrarse fuera inmediatamente. Aprender de mis errores. <\/em><\/p>\r\n

Tard\u00e9 mucho tiempo en darme cuenta y aceptar que, por muy ocupada que est\u00e9 una persona y por muchas cosas que tenga entre manos, si quiere verte, \u00a1va a verte!<\/em><\/p>\r\n

\"mujer<\/p>\r\n

La gente siempre encuentra tiempo para aquellos a los que realmente quiere dedic\u00e1rselo.<\/p>\r\n

Recu\u00e9rdalo la pr\u00f3xima vez que inventes una excusa para explicar por qu\u00e9 te ha vuelto a abandonar.<\/p>\r\n

You are not difficult to love, you are just too used to being around assholes who can\u2019t (and never will) give you what you need!<\/em><\/p>\r\n

Even on your darkest days when you don\u2019t love yourself, the man who is right for you is going to love you like hell.<\/p>\r\n

\u00c9l va a luchar por ti y nunca dejar\u00e1 que te menosprecies.<\/p>\r\n

He will make you feel what all those deadbeats couldn\u2019t, and then you will finally understand the importance of valuing yourself above anyone else.<\/p>\r\n

S\u00f3lo cuando por fin te des cuenta de que eres digna de ese maravilloso tipo de amor, te permitir\u00e1s dejar ir a los hombres indignos y aceptar s\u00f3lo lo que hace que tu coraz\u00f3n lata a mil por hora.<\/em><\/p>\r\n\r\n

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