At first, this fear doesn\u2019t manifest itself much, and you see it as a way of dealing with your past traumas.<\/p>\n
Despu\u00e9s de todo, es completamente natural que todos queramos evitar que nos hagan da\u00f1o.<\/p>\n
Sin embargo, con el tiempo, este miedo se convierte en su mecanismo de defensa.<\/p>\n
It makes you build walls around your heart, and it causes you to become a closed person who isn\u2019t ready to let anyone in.<\/p>\n
As well as every other fear, the fear of love is also irrational and something you can\u2019t control, as much as you\u2019d like to.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s not that you have the <\/em>capacidad de levantarte una ma\u00f1ana y decidir que quieres dejar de tener miedo.<\/p>\n En realidad, en la mayor\u00eda de los casos, las personas ni siquiera son conscientes de que padecen esta afecci\u00f3n porque se involucran en diferentes relaciones de las que huyen cuando las cosas se ponen serias y en el momento en que sorprenderse a s\u00ed mismos desarrollando sentimientos<\/a>.<\/p>\n Algunas personas tienen miedo de alcanzar una conexi\u00f3n m\u00e1s profunda con otra persona, a otras les aterra la intimidad y otras temen el compromiso.<\/p>\n Las personas con filofobia diagnosticada est\u00e1n dispuestas a hacer lo que sea para huir del amor, y la mera idea de enamorarse les asusta.<\/p>\n Once you\u2019ve learned everything there is to know about the fear of love, it\u2019s time to deal with some introspection and admit to yourself that you have a serious problem you need to fight.<\/p>\n Remember that this is nothing for you to be ashamed of and that many people deal with the same issues\u2014with or without knowing it.<\/p>\n Adem\u00e1s, reprimir sus emociones<\/a> and pretending that everything is OK when it clearly isn\u2019t will only make things worse.<\/p>\n It might be easier to act like your fear of love doesn\u2019t exist, but sooner or later, everything you\u2019ve tried to hide under the carpet will get to you, and you\u2019ll have to face it.<\/p>\n \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 no empezar ahora?<\/p>\n You\u2019ve obviously recognized yourself in some of these symptoms of philophobia, and that is always the first step toward helping yourself.<\/p>\n It\u2019s time to be brave enough and look at your fear of love straight in the eye.<\/p>\n Time to remember how strong you are and to be certain that you\u2019ll successfully defeat your fear of love.<\/p>\n Recuerde que esta afecci\u00f3n es bastante grave y no debe desatenderla.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, el miedo al amor se puede trabajar, y he aqu\u00ed las formas de superarlo.<\/p>\n Uno de los primeros pasos en el proceso de superar el miedo al amor es analizar todos sus segmentos.<\/p>\n Si esto es algo que quieres vencer, hay algunas preguntas a las que s\u00f3lo t\u00fa puedes dar respuesta.<\/p>\n \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo sentiste por primera vez ese miedo al amor? \u00bfC\u00f3mo se manifest\u00f3? \u00bfCu\u00e1l fue tu reacci\u00f3n?<\/p>\n \u00bfCu\u00e1ndo fue la primera vez que empezaste a dudar de que pudieras tener un problema? \u00bfC\u00f3mo decidiste afrontarlo?<\/p>\n \u00bfIgnor\u00f3 su miedo al amor o decidi\u00f3 solucionarlo de inmediato?<\/p>\n \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 apareci\u00f3 este sentimiento por primera vez? \u00bfSe debe a una experiencia negativa?<\/p>\n \u00bfFuiste t\u00fa herido en el pasado<\/a>? \u00bfTe arrepientes de haber dejado entrar a la gente equivocada?<\/p>\n \u00bfUna experiencia negativa acab\u00f3 con tu fe en el amor? \u00bfUna persona equivocada te hizo creer que cada vez que le das una oportunidad a alguien nuevo, el resultado ser\u00e1 siempre el mismo?<\/p>\n Did your toxic ex convince you that you aren\u2019t meant to be loved and that you should give up on romantic relationships all together?<\/p>\n \u00bfExiste la posibilidad de que, en alg\u00fan momento de tu vida, hayas llegado inconscientemente a la conclusi\u00f3n de que la \u00fanica forma de protegerte de m\u00e1s dolor es ponerte en guardia?<\/p>\n \u00bfAlguna vez has estado enamorado de verdad? \u00bfO este miedo al amor ha estado presente desde que tienes memoria?<\/p>\n \u00bfLe afectaron los acontecimientos de su entorno? \u00bfSu infancia fue abusiva? \u00bfPasaste por alg\u00fan trauma causado por una relaci\u00f3n con un amigo o un familiar que te afect\u00f3 gravemente?<\/p>\n The fear of love isn\u2019t manifested in the same way in everyone. It has different subtypes and aspects.<\/p>\n Actually, nobody is afraid of love itself because love is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world\u2013we\u2019re afraid of the things that we expect to come hand-in-hand with love.<\/p>\n Algunas personas tienen miedo de exponerse.<\/p>\n With time, being single became their comfort zone, they convinced themselves that a romantic partner would just disrupt their lives and that they\u2019re better of alone.<\/p>\n On the other hand, some are scared of rejection. Their ego is so fragile that they couldn\u2019t stand getting NO as an answer.<\/p>\n This group is panically afraid that they\u2019re actually not good for anyone, so they prefer not giving it a shot with the opposite sex at all.<\/p>\n Tambi\u00e9n hay personas cuyo miedo al amor no es en realidad m\u00e1s que el miedo al desamor.<\/p>\n Naturally, we\u2019re all scared of getting hurt, but with these people, it goes beyond that\u2013their fears control them and block them completely.<\/p>\n That is why it\u2019s important for you to determine your own specific fear. What is the thing that scares you the most out of all those mentioned above?<\/p>\n Another thing you should have in mind when it comes to overcoming your fear of love is the fact that you can\u2019t control all life circumstances, other people and their actions.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, en lugar de intentar cambiar eso, abraza la belleza de lo desconocido.<\/p>\n Aunque para todos nosotros ser\u00eda m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil saber siempre lo que va a pasar y poder controlar c\u00f3mo nos tratan los dem\u00e1s, eso es sencillamente imposible.<\/p>\n And that is the beauty of life\u2013never being certain of what tomorrow brings and never knowing what to expect.<\/p>\n Lo que sin duda te ayudar\u00e1 con tu miedo al amor es suelta<\/a>S\u00f3lo por una vez.<\/p>\n A dejar de lado su necesidad de control, a desprenderse de las expectativas y a ser un poco m\u00e1s espont\u00e1neo.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying that you shouldn\u2019t think your decisions through before making them, but relaxing and going with the flow from time to time won\u2019t hurt you.<\/p>\n Besides, you have to learn that you can\u2019t change the past.<\/p>\n You can\u2019t impact how some people treated you before, and you can\u2019t make them change their ways.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, what you can do is accept everything you can\u2019t control, including your history.<\/p>\n Puedes aprender de ello y tomarlo como un punto de crecimiento.<\/p>\n Aunque no todo lo que ocurre a tu alrededor est\u00e1 en tus manos, de lo que s\u00ed puedes tener pleno control es de c\u00f3mo reaccionas ante las cosas.<\/p>\n You\u2019re the only one who chooses how to accept life\u2019s circumstances and the only one who has control over your own emotions.<\/p>\n I know things don\u2019t look that way, but the truth is that you\u2019re a master of your own fears, including your miedo a enamorarse<\/a>.<\/p>\n You\u2019re the one who made it, the one who allowed it to grow, and the one who will conquer it.<\/p>\n Tu miedo es producto de tu propio cerebro, y tu cerebro es el \u00fanico que puede hacerlo desaparecer y el \u00fanico que puede ahuyentarlo.<\/p>\n So instead of trying to change the world, change yourself\u2013or to be exact, the parts of yourself you don\u2019t like.<\/p>\n En lugar de esperar que alguien aparezca de la nada con una varita m\u00e1gica que haga desaparecer todos tus miedos, recuerda que la varita m\u00e1gica est\u00e1 en tu mano y que s\u00f3lo puedes contar contigo mismo a la hora de superar tu miedo al amor.<\/p>\n En lugar de esperar que otro te salve, \u00a1empieza a salvarte a ti mismo ahora mismo!<\/p>\n El miedo al amor no es una emoci\u00f3n positiva.<\/p>\n Por el contrario, es algo que te abruma con pensamientos negativos, y algo que te hace sentir mal contigo mismo.<\/p>\n En consecuencia, debido a este miedo, al cabo de un tiempo empiezas a relacionar el amor con algo malo y negativo.<\/p>\n Precisamente por eso tienes que deshacerte de esos prejuicios sobre el amor si quieres avanzar.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, es mucho m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil decirlo que hacerlo.<\/p>\n \u00bfCu\u00e1ntas veces has o\u00eddo a la gente decirte que empieces a pensar de forma m\u00e1s positiva?<\/p>\n After all, wouldn\u2019t we all like to have a switch in our heads which gives us the ability to turn off pessimistic thoughts and turn on optimistic ones?<\/p>\n Well, sadly things don\u2019t work that way.<\/p>\n Entonces, \u00bfc\u00f3mo puedes dejar de relacionar el amor con algo oscuro, negativo y doloroso, especialmente cuando la mayor\u00eda de tus relaciones pasadas no te trajeron m\u00e1s que resentimiento, miedo al abandono y otros traumas emocionales?<\/p>\n Well, even though your romantic history is an awful experience which made you feel like this in the first place, I\u2019m sure that each one of your loves also brought some good things.<\/p>\n Recuerda c\u00f3mo estar enamorado ten\u00eda ganas de tener mariposas<\/a> en el est\u00f3mago? \u00bfC\u00f3mo sent\u00edas que pod\u00edas lograr cualquier cosa que te propusieras?<\/p>\n \u00bfRecuerdas lo bien que te sent\u00edas al caminar junto a alguien a quien quieres? \u00bfC\u00f3mo era de incre\u00edble sentir esa profunda conexi\u00f3n con otro ser humano?<\/p>\n Not having any of these things at the moment shouldn\u2019t make you depressed because you\u2019re the only one not allowing yourself to experience them once more.<\/p>\n That is exactly why you have to force yourself to think about all of your beautiful memories connected with love every time your brain involuntary starts having pessimistic and negative thoughts\u2013it\u2019s the only way for you to start connecting love with happiness, peace, and other positive emotions and the only way toward your full recovery.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve been through intense emotional pain in the past, it is perfectly natural for you to be traumatized.<\/p>\n It is clear that you carry a lot of emotional baggage around which has been weighing you down, and that is something you can\u2019t get rid of as easily as you\u2019d wish.<\/p>\n Pretending that you\u2019ve healed overnight and that your fear of love is magically gone won\u2019t make you feel any better.<\/p>\n Jumping from one relationship to another or getting yourself involved in casual sex or meaningless affairs won\u2019t fix you either.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2013I\u2019m not saying that your fear of love should be the reason for you to stay single forever or that you should let this fear paralyze you for the rest of your life.<\/p>\n What I\u2019m saying is for you to take your time and do things at your own pace and rhythm, now that you\u2019ve identified your problem and have decided to do your best to resolve it.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t expect everything to fall into place overnight. Instead, give your heart tiempo para curarse<\/a> y estar preparados para nuevas batallas.<\/p>\n Establece objetivos peque\u00f1os y alcanzables, y si\u00e9ntete orgulloso de ti mismo cada vez que consigas uno de ellos.<\/p>\n Considera esta curaci\u00f3n como un proceso paso a paso que requiere tiempo, devoci\u00f3n, paciencia y energ\u00eda.<\/p>\n Start with baby steps\u2013such as letting someone new into your life without immediately labelling things or cracking your brains open about what will happen next.<\/p>\n Vivir al d\u00eda<\/a>, and give yourself a high five after every day in which your fear of love didn\u2019t get the best of yo.<\/p>\n Before you know it, you\u2019ll turn around and see that you\u2019ve made incredible progress without even being aware of it.<\/p>\n Que todos tus pasos de beb\u00e9 te han llevado muy lejos y que nunca estuviste tan cerca de deshacerte por completo de tu miedo al amor.<\/p>\n1. Llega al fondo de tu miedo<\/strong><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n2. Identifique su miedo espec\u00edfico<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n3. Remember that you can\u2019t control everything<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Pero puedes controlarte<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Deja de centrarte en las cosas negativas<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. Permita que su coraz\u00f3n roto para sanar<\/a><\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7. Don\u2019t idealize love<\/h2>\n
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