{"id":36079,"date":"2020-08-29T08:17:05","date_gmt":"2020-08-29T08:17:05","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=36079"},"modified":"2021-08-11T08:58:27","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T08:58:27","slug":"5-cosas-que-hacer-cuando-la-falsa-esperanza-te-mantiene-en-una-relacion-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-cosas-que-hacer-cuando-la-falsa-esperanza-te-mantiene-en-una-relacion-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"5 cosas que hacer cuando una falsa esperanza te mantiene en una relaci\u00f3n abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Todos queremos ver lo mejor de nuestra pareja, sea cual sea la situaci\u00f3n real.<\/p>\n

Even when it\u2019s at our own expense, we tend to ignore those little things that we know are as\u00ed que<\/em> equivocados debido a nuestra falsa esperanza que es b\u00e1sicamente lo \u00fanico que nos hace pasar nuestra relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica.<\/a><\/p>\n

Getting out of an abusive relationship is always a difficult thing\u2014be it physical or emotional abuse.<\/p>\n

Saying \u2018no\u2019 to your partner and leaving him once and for all sounds easy enough, but in reality, it\u2019s an extremely tough situation to be in.<\/p>\n

Vivimos en una sociedad que impone todo tipo de estigmas y limitaciones a las personas por diversas razones.<\/p>\n

For example, if you are a woman in your late twenties, you are (silently) judged if you\u2019re not yet married<\/em>\u2014o al menos vas camino de ello.<\/em><\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t have a boyfriend by that age, there must be something wrong with you<\/em>\u2014or at least that\u2019s what you\u2019re made to believe<\/em>\u2014y te sientes juzgado y menospreciado.<\/em><\/p>\n

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All those things (and many more!) are what\u2019s doing us all a huge disservice because due to those stigmas, we choose to stay in unhealthy relationships that are toxic for us and are arruinando nuestra salud mental.<\/a><\/p>\n

We\u2019d rather silently suffer and pretend everything is peachy on the outside, than stay single and happy until the right man comes along\u2014one that\u2019s not going to be abusive, toxic, and make us feel like crap.<\/p>\n

Y debido a esos desafortunados problemas, las mujeres de todo el mundo sufren en silencio.<\/p>\n

Dejan que los hombres gobiernen sus mundos disminuyendo poco a poco su autopercepci\u00f3n y haci\u00e9ndolas sentir equivocadas por querer que se escuche su voz.<\/p>\n

I want you to remember that it really doesn\u2019t have to be that way. You puede<\/em> encuentra la salida. No es tu jefe, \u00a1y tienes que demostr\u00e1rselo!<\/p>\n

Hay muchas cosas que puedes hacer cuando dejas que tu falso sentido de la esperanza te mantenga en una relaci\u00f3n abusiva, \u00a1y aqu\u00ed hay 5 cosas que seguramente te ayudar\u00e1n a encontrar la salida para siempre!<\/em><\/p>\n

Recurre a tus seres m\u00e1s queridos (\u00a1que te ayuden!)<\/h2>\n

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Your partner may have painted a perfect picture of himself to your family and friends, but YOU are the one they love, and you are the one they are going to believe, so don\u2019t shy away from telling them the truth.<\/p>\n

Expl\u00edcales lo destruido emocionalmente que te sientes y de qu\u00e9 manera ha contribuido tu pareja a ello.<\/p>\n

Let them in, and don\u2019t fear being vulnerable.<\/p>\n

Son tu lugar seguro y una vez que empiecen a verle como realmente es y lo miserable y rota que est\u00e1s, van a ser el mejor sistema de apoyo mientras te ayudan a deshacerte de \u00e9l de una vez por todas.<\/p>\n

Start saying \u2018no\u2019 to his insane demands and refuse to obey him<\/h2>\n

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He needs to see that you are not his puppet\u2014not anymore. Be calm, sure of yourself, and don\u2019t let him get to you.<\/p>\n

La pr\u00f3xima vez que te exija una locura, rech\u00e1zala.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t raise your voice, and don\u2019t be spiteful. Just say that you do not agree with what he\u2019s asking of you, and you will not be doing that thing.<\/p>\n

Una vez que vea que est\u00e1s aprendiendo a enfrentarte a \u00e9l, empezar\u00e1 a asustarse poco a poco, y a ver que el control que tiene sobre ti se est\u00e1 agotando.  <\/p>\n

He is not going to like this, and with time, it\u2019s going to become easier for you to get out because an pareja abusiva<\/a> se alimenta de sumisi\u00f3n, lo que ya no es tu caso.<\/p>\n

Si te amenaza con ponerte las manos encima, llama a la polic\u00eda y hazle ver lo seria que eres.<\/h2>\n

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Si empieza a amenazarte con tocarte o hacerte da\u00f1o de alguna manera, coge el tel\u00e9fono y empieza a marcar.<\/p>\n

Demu\u00e9strale lo seria que eres y eso har\u00e1 que se le pase la locura.<\/p>\n

Fear is the most effective motivator, and once he sees you\u2019re not messing around and you\u2019re no longer going to put up with his craziness, he\u2019s going to ease up and back down.<\/p>\n

But in case he doesn\u2019t, leave immediately and call for help.<\/p>\n

Graba en secreto sus arrebatos y guarda este registro en un lugar seguro para cuando necesites pruebas de que est\u00e1 siendo maltratado.<\/h2>\n

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Keep a hidden phone somewhere and press \u2018record\u2019 when you feel he\u2019s being triggered in order to have it all on video.<\/p>\n

You can also or keep the phone in your pocket while it\u2019s recording so that you can have a recording of him verbally abusing you.<\/p>\n

This is going to come in handy should you decide to go to the police, as this is proof of him being abusive, and you\u2019re easily going to at least get a restraining order\u2014if nothing else.<\/p>\n

Also, you having actual proof of what he\u2019s like when he\u2019s gone mad is going to make him scared you\u2019ll show it to people, so it might make him let you go peacefully.<\/p>\n

Go to a family member\u2019s place, and cut off all contact with him<\/h2>\n

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Stay at your sister\u2019s for as long as you need, and have two or more people collect your things if you share a place with your partner.<\/p>\n

As long as you keep him outnumbered, it\u2019s going to be fine.<\/p>\n

Make him see you\u2019re really done with him and his bullshit, and don\u2019t respond to any of his calls and texts.<\/p>\n

Vive tu vida, mantente rodeado de tus allegados y al\u00e9jate de los lugares donde puedas toparte con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

Intenta estar siempre acompa\u00f1ada de un ser querido, y empieza a rehacer tu vida borr\u00e1ndole poco a poco de tu mente.<\/p>\n

Sooner or later, he\u2019s going to get tired of calling and harrassing you, and finally let you be happy and at peace surrounded by those who love you.<\/p>\n

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We all want to see the best in our partners, no matter what the real situation is. Even when it\u2019s at our own expense, we tend to ignore those little things that we know are so wrong due to our false hope which is basically the only thing getting us through our toxic relationship. Getting…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":20,"featured_media":114478,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29625],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-36079","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-toxic-relationship"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29625,"label":"toxic relationship"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/5-Things-To-Do-When-False-Hope-Keeps-You-In-An-Abusive-Relationship-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Christine Keller","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/christine\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29625,"name":"toxic relationship","slug":"toxic-relationship","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29625,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","parent":29620,"count":228,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29625,"category_count":228,"category_description":"Are you in a toxic relationship without even knowing it? What should you do if you find yourself in one? Here's all you need to know!","cat_name":"toxic relationship","category_nicename":"toxic-relationship","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36079","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/20"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=36079"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36079\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/114478"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=36079"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=36079"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=36079"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}