{"id":36083,"date":"2019-04-29T09:04:37","date_gmt":"2019-04-29T09:04:37","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=36083"},"modified":"2021-08-12T08:05:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T08:05:10","slug":"asi-es-como-tu-ex-es-el-culpable-de-tus-problemas-de-confianza","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/asi-es-como-tu-ex-es-el-culpable-de-tus-problemas-de-confianza\/","title":{"rendered":"As\u00ed es como tu ex es el culpable de tus problemas de confianza"},"content":{"rendered":"

En mis \u00faltimas relaciones, he notado un extra\u00f1o patr\u00f3n de comportamiento por mi parte que no se parece en nada a m\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He estado saboteando mis relaciones, sin ni siquiera darme cuenta de que lo estaba haciendo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Normally, when I\u2019m with a guy, I\u2019m all in. I let my guard down and invest whole-heartedly. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

But lately, I\u2019ve been more reluctant to do so, and it\u2019s been interesting realizing why that has been happening and what the actual cause of this was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It is not in my nature to be the type of woman who feels she isn\u2019t <\/em>suficientemente bueno<\/em><\/a> y que cuando las cosas van bien, algo tiene que ir mal. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

But now, I\u2019m constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me coh\u00edbo por las cosas m\u00e1s insignificantes y mi autoestima disminuye. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t feel like the guy I\u2019m with is all in, and it makes me feel like I\u2019m the one to blame.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

It has been really weird experiencing a totally different side of me, one that is more insecure and vulnerable than what I\u2019m used to being.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esto me ha hecho reevaluar todas mis relaciones pasadas para ver si puede haber algo que haya pasado con un ex que me haya hecho estar tan acomplejada y llena de dudas de repente.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that\u2019s when I realized that it all started with a particular ex of mine…<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I had this guy I was madly in love with. He made me feel what all the guys I had previously dated couldn\u2019t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Being with him was such a high.. and I just couldn\u2019t get enough.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pero todo ten\u00eda un precio. \u00c9l sab\u00eda muy bien el poder que ten\u00eda sobre m\u00ed. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sab\u00eda que yo har\u00eda cualquier cosa por \u00e9l, y utiliz\u00f3 contra m\u00ed mi incapacidad para verle como realmente era.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me manipul\u00f3. Jug\u00f3 conmigo. juegos mentales<\/a> conmigo, y me hizo sentir que lo necesitaba para estar completa.
<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He never let be who I really am, but at the time, I couldn\u2019t see it because I was blinded by the love I felt for him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Este tipo era malo y, con el tiempo, consegu\u00ed salir de esa relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fue dif\u00edcil y agotador, pero lo hice. Su naturaleza manipuladora me pas\u00f3 factura y eso se ha reflejado en todas mis relaciones despu\u00e9s de \u00e9l.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The good thing is, I have finally realized that HE is the one to blame for the way I\u2019ve been, as he is the one who constantly put me down and treated me like I was nothing!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

His manipulation has really messed with my mind, and now I don\u2019t feel like I\u2019m good enough for any man. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por suerte, estoy empezando a recuperar mi antiguo yo de nuevo porque me niego a dejar que un ex t\u00f3xico<\/a> \u00a1Arru\u00edname por amor!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There have been certain things he would say to me that really messed me up, and I\u2019ve decided to finally fight them and erase his toxicity from my head.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you haven\u2019t been acting like yourself lately and you feel your relationship has been suffering because of it, it is likely that your ex messed with your mind and made you this way.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once you realize this, it will be easier getting back to your old self because you\u2019ll know that it\u2019s really not you\u2014it\u2019s his toxic, manipulative nature, and luckily you don\u2019t have to put up with that any longer!<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tu ex forma parte de tu pasado, y todo lo que te dijo o hizo ya no forma parte de tu vida. <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

When you realize this, you\u2019ll be on your way back to that happy, healthy lady you know you are.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Don\u2019t let his inability to appreciate you mess with your current relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Fui una tonta por dejar que me hiciera sentir tan mal y que me demostrara constantemente que la confianza que ten\u00eda en \u00e9l estaba completamente fuera de lugar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Le dej\u00e9 salirse con la suya con tanta mierda t\u00f3xica, y siempre tuve una excusa para \u00e9l. \u00bfPero adivina qu\u00e9? NO hay excusa para ser un novio de mierda.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despu\u00e9s de soportar tantos <\/em>juegos de relaciones<\/em><\/a>Ya no sent\u00eda que pod\u00eda confiar en nadie. \u00bfC\u00f3mo pod\u00eda?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me dijo que pod\u00eda confiar en \u00e9l muchas veces, y siempre me defraud\u00f3. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cuando se comportaba como un imb\u00e9cil, me echaba toda la culpa a m\u00ed y, con el tiempo, empec\u00e9 a dudar de m\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Cuando le plantaba cara, me hac\u00eda sentir que exageraba y me pon\u00eda en mi sitio. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I just couldn\u2019t win, and I would often sob alone in my room, sad and misunderstood.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

All that is extremely unhealthy for anyone to put up with because when you listen to those lies for long enough, you\u2019re going to start believing them!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And that\u2019s how he got me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pero ya no. Despu\u00e9s de ver por fin en qu\u00e9 relaci\u00f3n insana y t\u00f3xica estaba y cu\u00e1nto me hab\u00eda cambiado para peor, por fin he podido empezar a recomponerme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I still have a ways to go\u2026 but I\u2019m getting there! I am so pleased that I have been getting better and that my outlook on relationships is once again a positive one!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Es maravilloso c\u00f3mo las cosas pueden empezar a mejorar cuando uno se lo propone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

He decidido volver a tomar las riendas de mi vida, \u00a1y nunca me he sentido tan feliz!
<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nadie puede meterse con tu mente una vez que decides negarles el acceso a tu cabeza. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Por fin tengo la mente despejada, y mi esp\u00edritu vuelve a estar vivo y ansioso por encontrar a mi elegido.
<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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In my last few relationships, I have noticed a strange pattern of behaviour on my part that is completely unlike me. I have been sabotaging my relationships, without even realizing I was doing so. Normally, when I\u2019m with a guy, I\u2019m all in. I let my guard down and invest whole-heartedly. But lately, I\u2019ve been…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":36084,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-36083","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/04\/shutterstock_552635749.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36083","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=36083"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/36083\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/36084"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=36083"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=36083"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=36083"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}