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If you have ever been betrayed, you will know how much it hurts and it leaves us devastated and questioning everything about the relationship\u2014this can be romantic or platonic. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mi experiencia con la traici\u00f3n viene de un ex. Yo le quer\u00eda y hasta ese momento pensaba que nuestra relaci\u00f3n pod\u00eda sobrevivir a todo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
One day I woke up and found myself blocked on all social media, even texting apps. I tried to call but it was going straight to a dead tone. I asked our friends what had happened but nobody would tell me anything. A few days later his friend sent me a link to my ex, John, signing a book deal. The amount of time we had spent talking and wishing for our books to become a reality, I couldn\u2019t understand why he wouldn\u2019t have told me that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
It was a couple of months later that the real scale of betrayal started to unfold. In the time we hadn\u2019t spoken, John had married and not only this but he\u2019d had his book published; but the book had a lot of my words and words we had shared, letters and poems we had sent each other.
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Now strangely, his marriage is something I can forgive him for but he took our words, our memories, and made them into a book without even telling me. The hurt of the betrayal and the deception is hard to forgive. I was left wondering what had been real and what hadn\u2019t. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
Lo que John hizo fue empa\u00f1ar nuestros recuerdos y robarme a una persona que fue una parte importante de mi vida. Utiliz\u00f3 sus propias necesidades ego\u00edstas para herir y manipular a alguien que realmente se preocupaba por \u00e9l. Ya no lo miro y veo a alguien a quien una vez am\u00e9. En su lugar, veo a un extra\u00f1o que me quer\u00eda tan poco que me dej\u00f3 una sensaci\u00f3n de vac\u00edo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The reason I want to share this story is to encourage others to find peace with events that have happened to them. Don\u2019t let the experience make you bitter or destroy the confidence in yourself or let it affect future relationships. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
This is your journey and no matter what, you are loved and worthy, despite other people\u2019s actions. No matter what you have experienced or what has happened to you on your life journey, you must find a way to make peace with it. Otherwise, it will find a way to lower your self-esteem and your self-worth. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
For a long time, John became a trigger point for me; as soon as I heard his name, I would have tears rolling down my face, I would have a panic attack to the point where I couldn\u2019t breathe, then my mind would start to race with all those unanswered questions, over and over. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
But it\u2019s a funny thing\u2014our human brain lies. It looks for absolutes to create a narrative with you and yourself, <\/b> a narrative that can, if not careful, paralyze us in a set state of fear and self-judgment. My inner dialogue went along these lines\u2014it couldn\u2019t have been John that had betrayed me, because he had been the best human I knew. Therefore, it had to be me; I couldn\u2019t have been good enough for him, I talked too much, I was thick-headed or I didn\u2019t support him enough. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
El ciclo de inseguridad y crueldad continuaba sin fin. Tuve que encontrar la manera de perdonarle, no por su bien sino por el m\u00edo, para aliviar mi ego herido, para acabar con la duda sobre m\u00ed misma.
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Im\u00e1genes restauradoras
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Una imagen reparadora es la parte de nuestra imaginaci\u00f3n cargada de emociones que alivia el dolor al cambiar el enfoque mental de la p\u00e9rdida al crecimiento. Nos recuerdan que nuestro sentido de lo que somos surge de lo que hemos ganado en la vida, m\u00e1s que de lo que hemos perdido o sufrido. Nuestra capacidad de crecer como seres humanos refuerza esto continuamente.<\/b>
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Las im\u00e1genes reparadoras m\u00e1s poderosas son las que pueden reforzar nuestros valores m\u00e1s profundos, como la humanidad b\u00e1sica, la conexi\u00f3n, el amor y la compasi\u00f3n. La curaci\u00f3n emocional consiste en gran medida en reacondicionar el cerebro para que asocie im\u00e1genes reparadoras con recuerdos dolorosos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n
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