{"id":36475,"date":"2020-09-10T11:43:58","date_gmt":"2020-09-10T11:43:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=36475"},"modified":"2021-08-12T11:27:17","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T11:27:17","slug":"cuando-decir-te-quiero-por-primera-vez-en-una-relacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/cuando-decir-te-quiero-por-primera-vez-en-una-relacion\/","title":{"rendered":"Cu\u00e1ndo decir \"te quiero\" por primera vez en una relaci\u00f3n"},"content":{"rendered":"

Saying, \u201cI love you,\u201d to your partner is one of the most romantic things when it comes to new relationships but knowing when to say, \u201cI love you,\u201d is also one of the hardest.<\/em><\/p>\n

When you spend lots of time with someone and every time you\u2019re about to see them, you experience the sensation of butterflies in your stomach, their presence feels like home and you can\u2019t imagine living without them, it is normal to come to the conclusion that you\u2019re in love with them.<\/p>\n

Y no hay mayor sensaci\u00f3n en el mundo que \u00e9sta.<\/p>\n

Pero ahora viene la parte m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil, en la que piensas y piensas demasiado en dec\u00edrselo.<\/p>\n

De repente, la incertidumbre te abruma hasta el punto de que empiezas a dudar de tus propios sentimientos.<\/p>\n

Empiezas a hacerte preguntas como: \u201cShould I be the first one declaring my love or should I wait for them to do so? <\/em><\/p>\n

What if they don\u2019t feel the same about it and I get humiliated by saying <\/em>\u2018I love you\u2019 <\/em><\/a>too early?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

When to say, \u201cI love you\u201d?<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

When is the right time to say, \u201cI love you,\u201d for the first time in a relationship?<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs al cabo de dos semanas, despu\u00e9s de conocer a toda su familia, o en ese mismo momento cuando empiezas a sentirlo en tus entra\u00f1as?<\/p>\n

La verdad es que no hay una receta perfecta ni un momento oportuno para soltar la bomba L.<\/p>\n

But there are some essential things that you should pay attention to that serve as rules and advice about when to tell your partner, \u201cI love you\u201d.<\/p>\n

If you stick to them and if you\u2019re being genuine and honest about your feelings, you will significantly increase your chances of doing so successfully and mutual reciprocity will be granted!<\/p>\n

WHEN TO SAY, \u201cI LOVE YOU,\u201d FOR THE FIRST TIME IN A RELATIONSHIP<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tener al menos cinco citas<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Lo m\u00e1s importante a la hora de soltar la bomba de la L es asegurarse de no hacerlo ni demasiado pronto ni demasiado tarde.<\/p>\n

Too early would be the first one to four dates because you can\u2019t really conectar tanto con tu pareja<\/a> si acabas de verlos tres veces en tu vida o acabas de empezar a salir con ellos.<\/p>\n

However, if you\u2019ve been connected all the time via texting and you couldn\u2019t go on dates like regular couples and now when you\u2019ve spent some time with them in person you feel that your bond has become even stronger, then you know saying, \u201cI love you,\u201d is just the right thing to do.<\/p>\n

Make sure that you\u2019re really feeling it<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Many people spend too much time thinking about when to say, \u201cI love you,\u201d instead of also thinking about how they feel about saying it.<\/p>\n

If you just want to say it for the sake of declaring your love to your partner because you\u2019ve been dating for a while now and because you think it is expected of you to say it, don\u2019t do it.<\/p>\n

Say it only if you\u2019re one hundred percent sure that you\u2019re really feeling it. Now you\u2019re probably asking yourself: \u201cBut how can I be totally sure about it because no one can confirm it to me?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n

Well, there\u2019s one trick when it comes to this (that I found out a little bit too late) and that is: \u201cIf you don\u2019t know why you love someone but you know that you love them, then you really love them.\u201d (I guess it makes sense.)<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t wait too long and don\u2019t overthink it<\/h2>\n

\"el<\/p>\n

Igual que es importante no decirlo demasiado pronto, tambi\u00e9n lo es no esperar demasiado para decirlo.<\/p>\n

La gente suele cometer este error por pensar demasiado y no estar segura de sus sentimientos.<\/p>\n

They wait for the perfect moment to say it, only to realize that they\u2019ve waited for too long.<\/p>\n

La verdad es que cuanto m\u00e1s esperes, m\u00e1s le dar\u00e1s vueltas a las cosas y no har\u00e1s m\u00e1s que dar vueltas en c\u00edrculos durante una eternidad.<\/p>\n

Once you\u2019ve spent enough time with your partner and you feel that you should level up things, do not let your mind interfere with your decision all the time.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t wait too long and don\u2019t overthink it and everything will be just fine.<\/p>\n

Wait until you\u2019re bursting inside out to say it<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Do you feel like you should say, \u201cI love you,\u201d but the feeling is not that strong within you? Do you feel like you could wait longer to say it?<\/p>\n

If yes, then you should indeed wait because the best timing to say it is when you\u2019re totally bursting inside out to declare your love to your partner.<\/p>\n

Now, you\u2019re probably wondering why. It is because love works on the principle of growth, like trees.<\/p>\n

Cuando hagas crecer en tu interior el amor por tu pareja y esperes a que llegue a su c\u00faspide, ser\u00e1 m\u00e1s intenso y, por tanto, m\u00e1s efectivo y genuino.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t do it before, during or after sex<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

One of the worst things you could do is say, \u201cI love you,\u201d before, during or after sex with your partner. Why?<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re about to haz el amor con tu pareja<\/a>, your hormones go wild and you feel everything ten times more intense and that is why sometimes people tend to say those three words, even though in most cases they don\u2019t really mean it.<\/p>\n

Lo dicen porque sus hormonas se lo ordenan.<\/p>\n

That is why you should never say it at that time and instead when you\u2019re thinking rationally and when you\u2019re not too intoxicated by their appearance or presence.<\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farate de que conf\u00edas plenamente en tu pareja<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

\u00bfConf\u00eda su vida a su pareja? \u00bfTe ha traicionado alguna vez tu pareja o te ha hecho dudar de su lealtad?<\/p>\n

Before saying, \u201cI love you,\u201d you should always first make sure that you trust your partner completely.<\/p>\n

La confianza es la base de relaci\u00f3n sana<\/a> y si te falta de alguna manera, entonces ni se te ocurra decirle esas tres palabras a tu pareja hasta que te asegures de que las cosas han cambiado.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, confiar en tu pareja significa no tener miedo de los posibles resultados cuando finalmente lo digas, porque no temer\u00e1s si huir\u00e1 por su vida o te har\u00e1 sentir est\u00fapido por ello.<\/p>\n

Te sientes c\u00f3modo con tu pareja<\/h2>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

Sentirse c\u00f3modo con alguien es un requisito previo para todo y, en especial, para tener \u00e9xito en las relaciones.<\/p>\n

Si te sientes a gusto con tu pareja, significa que te sientes libre para ser quien realmente eres con ella.<\/p>\n

You should never be something that you\u2019re not when it comes to love.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re sure that you can be one hundred percent yourself when hanging out with them, then it means your love for each other is genuine.<\/p>\n

Y s\u00f3lo entonces debes decir esas tres palabras.<\/p>\n

You need to make sure that the feeling you have for your partner is not in any way fake because if it is, no matter how many times you say, \u201cI love you,\u201d to them, nothing will ever change.<\/p>\n

Lo sientes en tus entra\u00f1as<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve probably heard a lot of times so far that you should always listen to your gut.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not sure about something, just listen to that little voice in your head telling you what the right thing to do is.<\/p>\n

And in the majority of cases, this is true. If you feel something in your gut, it means that it\u2019s real because you feel it in your soul.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, si sientes que definitivamente debes decirles que les quieres, no te lo pienses demasiado.<\/p>\n

Follow your heart and gut and I\u2019m sure that everything will be just fine.<\/p>\n

(Especially if you\u2019ve already followed your gut before and convinced yourself of positive outcomes.)<\/p>\n

Tu pareja ha confesado su amor con sus actos<\/h2>\n

\"el<\/p>\n

Cuando se trata de amor, muchas personas se centran \u00fanicamente en las palabras, olvidando as\u00ed pensar tambi\u00e9n en las acciones.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re thinking about saying, \u201cI love you,\u201d to your partner first, first make sure that you\u2019ve noticed little things that your partner does which mean their confession of their love to you.<\/p>\n

Si siempre est\u00e1n ah\u00ed para ti, ayud\u00e1ndote con las cosas, asegur\u00e1ndose de te hacen sentir especial<\/a>, surprising you and genuinely taking care of you, then you can be sure they love you but they probably haven\u2019t gathered up the courage to admit it to you yet or they are just like you, waiting for the perfect moment to do it.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t say it when you want to make up for something or reward your partner for something<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t use those three words as a reward for your partner or for making up to them when you fuck things up.<\/p>\n

You don\u2019t want to say, \u201cI love you,\u201d in those circumstances (believe me) and there are two major reasons why you definitely shouldn\u2019t:<\/p>\n

a) If you say, \u201cI love you,\u201d just to reward your partner for something nice they have done for you, then it means you\u2019re probably not even feeling it but you\u2019re just doing it for the sake of rewarding them.<\/p>\n

b) If you say, \u201cI love you,\u201d just to make up for something you fucked up, it means your relationship is not healthy because there are other ways to apologize and make up for things instead of saying those three words; loving someone has nothing to do with being sorry for something.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re not one hundred percent sure, don\u2019t say it first<\/h2>\n

\"la<\/p>\n

Aunque lo mejor siempre es esperar a que tu pareja lo diga primero, \u00e9sta no debe ser la norma.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, algunas personas piensan que los hombres son los que siempre deben declarar su amor primero, pero esto no es cierto en absoluto.<\/p>\n

Love is not picky and it doesn\u2019t have the ability to choose between genders.<\/p>\n

We all feel insecure when it comes to dropping the L bomb for the first time and there shouldn\u2019t be specific rules about it.<\/p>\n

Especially if you\u2019re not one hundred percent sure, there is nothing wrong with waiting a little bit longer and not saying it first, regardless of whether you\u2019re a man or a woman.<\/p>\n

Escucha a tu mente y a tu cuerpo y haz lo que te parezca correcto.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t say it when you\u2019re overly emotional<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Have you watched a sad or happy movie together, where the story ends with a \u2018happily ever after\u2019 and now you can\u2019t help but want to declare your love to your partner as well?<\/p>\n

While it may seem like the right thing to do on so many levels, please don\u2019t do it when you\u2019re overly emotional.<\/p>\n

Las emociones pueden ser complicadas.<\/p>\n

They have the ability to lift you up to the sky and down to the ground you in seconds and that is why you should be careful when it comes to saying, \u201cI love you,\u201d because you need to say it when you\u2019re totally chill and not under other influences in your surroundings.<\/p>\n

Dilo despu\u00e9s de tu primera pelea o dos<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

I know it may seem weird to you but yes, you should say, \u201cI love you,\u201d after your first fight or two.<\/p>\n

Deber\u00edas hacerlo porque las peleas son como probadores de lo fuerte que es realmente vuestro amor.<\/p>\n

It is easy to love someone when everything is perfect in a relationship, when the sun is shining, the birds are chirping and you\u2019re having a great time with each other.<\/p>\n

Pero cuando llega la tormenta (y habr\u00e1 muchas en vuestro futuro juntos), s\u00f3lo sobrevive el amor m\u00e1s fuerte.<\/p>\n

Sabes que quieres de verdad a tu pareja cuando sabes aceptar que no est\u00e1s de acuerdo, cuando sabes respetar sus deseos y transigir.<\/p>\n

Y es entonces cuando definitivamente debes diles que les quieres<\/a>!<\/p>\n

THE TOP 5 MOMENTS WHEN YOU DEFINITELY SHOULDN\u2019T SAY, :I LOVE YOU,\u201d TO YOUR PARTNER FOR THE FIRST TIME<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Lo peor que te puede pasar cuando decides soltar la bomba L es que lo hagas en el momento y el espacio totalmente equivocados.<\/p>\n

Your partner might feel the same way but if you do it in the wrong timing, you will ruin the whole, \u201cI love you,\u201d thing.<\/p>\n

Apart from not saying it before, during or after sex, or when you\u2019re overly emotional (as stated above), there are more rules for when you should definitely not say, \u201cI love you,\u201d to your partner for the first time!<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t say it when you\u2019re drunk<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

When you indulge in plenty of alcohol, your body and mind start doing things you usually wouldn\u2019t do when you\u2019re sober, which means you should never, ever say that you love your partner for the first time when you\u2019re drunk and you\u2019re fighting to keep your balance.<\/p>\n

If you do that, the chances are that you\u2019re not even feeling it but the alcohol has forced you to say it or, maybe even worse, you are feeling it but despite that, the alcohol will ruin all the romance.<\/p>\n

So, it is always better to keep your mouth shut when you\u2019re loaded with alcohol so that you don\u2019t regret your actions when you wake up tomorrow and realize what you\u2019ve done.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t say it at the first wedding you attend together<\/h2>\n

\"los<\/p>\n

We all know that weddings can be really emotional and there isn\u2019t a single soul who can be indifferent when it comes to watching dos personas que se casan<\/a> y deciden compartir su cuerpo y su alma.<\/p>\n

And no matter how hard it would be for you to endure the wedding ceremony without feeling the urge to admit your own feelings to your partner (to say, \u201cI love you,\u201d) just try to keep yourself from doing so because it is not the time or space for such doings and because you\u2019re probably just overly emotional.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t say it at dinner with your\/their parents<\/h2>\n

\"familia<\/p>\n

If you say, \u201cI love you,\u201d to your partner while you\u2019re at dinner with your or their parents, I can guarantee you that you will make them feel uncomfortable and, let\u2019s say, ruin the dinner.<\/p>\n

You should always say those three words first when you\u2019re alone with your partner and not with your family around you because saying, \u201cI love you,\u201d is not the same thing as proposing or similar.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in a fight<\/h2>\n

\"una<\/p>\n

Si alguna vez has tenido la tentaci\u00f3n de utilizar esas tres palabras como chupete durante una pelea, no lo hagas.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t say to your partner that you love them just because you want to stop fighting and make them feel better.<\/p>\n

There are other, healthier ways to end the fight and saying, \u201cI love you,\u201d is definitely not one of them.<\/p>\n

After they say it to you (if you\u2019re not feeling the same yet)<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re really anxious about how to respond when your partner says that they love you but you don\u2019t want to hurt their feelings, you should never say something that you don\u2019t really mean.<\/p>\n

Si lo haces, puedes herir sus sentimientos y empeorar a\u00fan m\u00e1s las cosas.<\/p>\n

It is always better to say that you really like them but you simply cannot say yet that you love them, which doesn\u2019t mean that you will not eventually be ready for it.<\/p>\n

S\u00f3lo significa que necesitas m\u00e1s tiempo, porque no todas las personas experimentan el amor al mismo ritmo.<\/p>\n

\"Cu\u00e1ndo<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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