{"id":38433,"date":"2020-05-05T13:02:58","date_gmt":"2020-05-05T13:02:58","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=38433"},"modified":"2021-08-24T13:11:15","modified_gmt":"2021-08-24T13:11:15","slug":"si-hace-estas-20-cosas-toxicas-es-un-narcisista-encubierto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/si-hace-estas-20-cosas-toxicas-es-un-narcisista-encubierto\/","title":{"rendered":"Si hace estas 20 cosas t\u00f3xicas, es un narcisista encubierto"},"content":{"rendered":"

Most of us never see this coming. Especially when a people are in love, they go instantly blind to everything that might endanger their happiness\u2014call it conscious denial.<\/p>\n

Lamentablemente, s\u00f3lo nos damos cuenta de lo que nos ha ocurrido cuando el da\u00f1o ya est\u00e1 hecho.<\/p>\n

De repente, algo nos abre los ojos y todo lo que hemos vivido nos parece horrible.<\/p>\n

The truth is, they were always horrible, but we chose to make them pretty. That\u2019s what happens when emotional abuse sneaks up on you. You never see it coming; you only feel the consequences.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo puede tu mente estar preparada para afrontar algo que cre\u00edas que hab\u00eda sucedido de repente?<\/strong><\/p>\n

I know, it\u2019s impossible.<\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Then, you\u2019re faced with one of the greatest challenges of your life\u2014healing.<\/p>\n

Primero echas la vista atr\u00e1s y no dejas de preguntarte c\u00f3mo has podido aguantar tanta mierda que te ha dado. No puedes creer lo que hizo y c\u00f3mo reaccionaste.<\/p>\n

You cannot believe how many things you\u2019ve found an excuse for. From where you\u2019re standing now, it\u2019s absolutely ridiculous and sad at the same time.<\/p>\n

But there is an important lesson you\u2019ve learned. You cannot change someone who doesn\u2019t want to change. You cannot force someone to love you by loving them back.<\/p>\n

Here\u2019s the lesson each of you needs to learn if you\u2019re dating (and probably suspecting) es un narcisista disfrazado<\/a>.<\/p>\n

It is only \u2018I\u2019, and no one else<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

He only cares about himself. There is no sentence that doesn\u2019t contain the letter \u2018I\u2019 in it. You\u2019ll notice when you’re out with your friends, all he talks about is himself.<\/p>\n

The whole conversation revolves around him. Even if someone starts talking about something else, he\u2019ll use that to take the focus back on himself.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s his way or the highway<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

He never takes other people\u2019s opinions into consideration. When he decides something, it has to be his way.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you don\u2019t even exist in his world. You can talk and beg; he won\u2019t give you the time of his day.<\/p>\n

Te manipula\"mujer<\/h2>\n

Conoce todos tus movimientos y todas tus reacciones. Por eso, puede manipularte y controlarte para que hagas exactamente lo que \u00e9l quiere.<\/p>\n

And at the end of the day, you\u2019ll have the feeling you\u2019ve done what he wanted willingly. That\u2019s how good of a manipulator he is.<\/p>\n

Eso no es lo peor. No, lo peor es que disfruta vi\u00e9ndote bailar al ritmo de la m\u00fasica que pone.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 orgulloso de tener una marioneta simp\u00e1tica y bien educada que har\u00e1 exactamente lo que a \u00e9l le gusta.<\/p>\n

Tiene un doble rasero<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Cuando se trata de tu vida, hay m\u00e1s reglas de las que nadie puede imaginar.<\/p>\n

You have to take steps through life carefully, making sure you don\u2019t take the wrong one (according to him).<\/p>\n

But, when it comes to him, different rules apply. All the things you\u2019re not allowed to do, he is.<\/p>\n

When he makes a mistake you\u2019d be punished for, it\u2019s not such a big deal.<\/p>\n

Other people\u2019s opinions matter to him a lot<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

He cares deeply about his reputation. He would always talk himself up because he had to be the most delightful and kindest person you\u2019d ever met.<\/p>\n

He wouldn\u2019t stop until he provoked that feeling in someone new he met.<\/p>\n

If talking himself up meant putting another down, he\u2019d still do it because he doesn\u2019t care who he has to run over to appear the best.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re the only one to blame<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

El juego de la culpa era su favorito. Nunca tuvo la culpa de nada. Si est\u00e1s mal, es porque te lo has hecho t\u00fa mismo. Nunca fue \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

He is the angel, and you\u2019re the devil. He probably called you \u2018evil\u2019 and \u2018manipulative\u2019 a few times although you both know he is the evil one and not you.<\/p>\n

Es el mejor que hay<\/h2>\n

\"dos<\/p>\n

He is always bragging about how he\u2019s the best, how he does everything better than anyone else.<\/p>\n

Si le preguntas, es el amo del universo. Lo admitir\u00e1 sin ning\u00fan pudor.<\/p>\n

Ya sabes que la gente que realmente ha conseguido algo nunca presume de ello. Se lo guardan para s\u00ed, y s\u00f3lo si insistes en que te lo cuenten, lo har\u00e1n.<\/p>\n

Bueno, nunca tienes que preguntarle nada, presumir\u00e1 de todo sin ninguna iniciativa.<\/p>\n

Se alimenta de negatividad<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Cada vez que siente una energ\u00eda positiva, se acercar\u00e1 lo m\u00e1s posible a ti para drenarla toda. En esos momentos, incluso finge que te quiere de verdad. Finge que quiere hacerte feliz.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, naturalmente, despu\u00e9s de cada conversaci\u00f3n con \u00e9l, te sientes emocionalmente agotada.<\/p>\n

Your positive energy is sucked dry, and you\u2019re left with only the negative one.<\/p>\n

Tiene una doble personalidad<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re out with other people, he\u2019s so charming and positive. Everyone who gets a chance to talk to him likes him instantly. He\u2019s a peach.<\/p>\n

Pero, cuando os qued\u00e1is los dos solos, su personalidad cambia. Se vuelve oscuro y cruel, sin compasi\u00f3n ni respeto por ti.<\/p>\n

He can\u2019t handle criticism<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Es un profesional cuando se trata de criticar a los dem\u00e1s, especialmente a ti. Act\u00faa como si lo supiera todo y finge que quiere ayudarte de verdad.<\/p>\n

When the situation is another way around, except for the fact you really want to help him while he only fakes it, he won\u2019t listen.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t take your advice because he truly believes he is perfect the way he is.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1 lleno de excusas<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Espera que lo dejes todo cuando te necesita, pero cuando le necesitas, siempre tiene algo mejor que hacer.<\/p>\n

Siempre tiene una excusa para no hacer algo que t\u00fa quieres.<\/p>\n

Es una reina del drama<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Nada es sencillo con \u00e9l en tu vida. Incluso es probable que a veces te preguntes si est\u00e1s en una telenovela espa\u00f1ola porque todas las situaciones son muy parecidas.<\/p>\n

Hay mucho drama en marcha.<\/p>\n

Necesita validaci\u00f3n constante<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Los narcisistas tienen esta necesidad de probarse a s\u00ed mismos, especialmente a las personas que dudan de ellos.<\/p>\n

This is something that bothers them constantly, and almost everything they do is to prove to everyone around that they are perfect\u2014that they have made it in life.<\/p>\n

What he does is not because he wants to be a better man. It\u2019s not because he wants to prove to himself he can, but it\u2019s because he wants to brag to everyone around how great he is.<\/p>\n

La perfecci\u00f3n es el \u00fanico camino<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t stop until he gets what he wants and in the way he wants it. So, nothing is good enough until it\u2019s perfect.<\/p>\n

This is a pretty bad personality trait, and it\u2019s characteristic for narcissists because seeking perfection means getting what you want at all costs\u2014even if that means running over people, they don\u2019t care.<\/p>\n

Har\u00e1n lo que haga falta.<\/p>\n

He doesn\u2019t understand empathy<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

You\u2019ve probably tried talking to him about something that bothered you. You probably got nothing in return.<\/p>\n

Your misery and your suffering don\u2019t mean anything to him because they don\u2019t concern or affect him directly.<\/p>\n

He only understands empathy when it has to do something with him. When another person is in pain, he doesn\u2019t give a shit.<\/p>\n

He will even stir the conversation you\u2019re having with him back to him being the topic to speak about.<\/p>\n

Tiene un mecanismo de defensa<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

Lo creas o no, hay una raz\u00f3n por la que todos los narcisistas son malvados y fr\u00edos. Debe haber habido un desencadenante que los hizo as\u00ed, probablemente cuando a\u00fan eran j\u00f3venes.<\/p>\n

Un narcisista huir\u00e1 si accidentalmente consigues descifrarlo y comprender por qu\u00e9 act\u00faa de esa manera.<\/p>\n

They have huge emotional walls built around themselves, and they won\u2019t tear them down for anybody\u2019s sake.<\/p>\n

Han aprendido que la vulnerabilidad es un signo de debilidad que no pueden permitir que nadie vea.<\/p>\n

Te rompe y te arregla justo despu\u00e9s<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like a hobby of his. In the normal world, the person who caused you pain, the person who broke you isn\u2019t allowed to come back into your life.<\/p>\n

That person doesn\u2019t have the right to help you heal because they are the reason you have to heal.<\/p>\n

Lo l\u00f3gico es alejarse de esa persona y ocuparse de lo que te ocurre.<\/p>\n

Well, that\u2019s not the case when you\u2019re with a narcissist. A narcissist will break you and then come back and comfort you.<\/p>\n

You\u2019ll be confused, but at the time when you\u2019re broken, consolation is all you need, so naturally, you take what you can get. That\u2019s the game he\u2019s playing.<\/p>\n

Nunca se olvida del pasado<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Nunca. Recuerda lo que peleasteis hace un a\u00f1o.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like he\u2019s keeping a diary of all the things you said or did wrong, and he makes sure you never forget them either.<\/p>\n

Cada vez que empiezas una nueva pelea, \u00e9l saca a relucir el pasado.<\/p>\n

There is a reason why he does that. If you noticed, if you\u2019re winning the fight and he has nothing to say back at you, he pulls out something you did in the past and opens a Pandora\u2019s box of arguments which never end.<\/p>\n

Te maltrata emocionalmente<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Cuando quieres a alguien, las posibilidades de darte cuenta de que esa persona te maltrata emocionalmente son muy escasas. Despu\u00e9s de que te traten mal durante alg\u00fan tiempo, como que te acostumbras.<\/p>\n

Ese comportamiento se convierte en algo normal para ti. Al cabo de un tiempo, empiezas a poner excusas a tu pareja.<\/p>\n

You start justifying his behavior because you still love that person, and you\u2019re hoping badly it\u2019s all just a phase. and it will go away.<\/p>\n

He is aware of the fact you love him, and he takes advantage of that by doing whatever the hell he wants to you because he knows you\u2019ll come back as you always do.<\/p>\n

El amor ya no es lo que pensabas que era<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

He has convinced you with the way he treats you that love is a one-way street\u2014you give and get nothing in return.<\/p>\n

He has made you believe that is what it is supposed to look like. Well, it\u2019s not!<\/p>\n

Los narcisistas son incapaces de amar a nadie m\u00e1s que a s\u00ed mismos. Porque para amar a alguien, primero tienes que amarte a ti mismo.<\/p>\n

\"Si<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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