{"id":38698,"date":"2019-06-19T12:12:13","date_gmt":"2019-06-19T12:12:13","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=38698"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:20:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:20:01","slug":"a-veces-se-necesita-un-hombre-equivocado-para-ensenarte-la-leccion-correcta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/a-veces-se-necesita-un-hombre-equivocado-para-ensenarte-la-leccion-correcta\/","title":{"rendered":"A veces se necesita un hombre equivocado para ense\u00f1arte la lecci\u00f3n correcta"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>I\u2019ve learned my most valuable lesson in life by spending a huge chunk of it with a man who was all sorts of wrong for me. It took a while to become aware of this, but today, I\u2019m nothing if not thankful.<\/p>\r\n<p>Circa 5 years back, I was a shell of the woman I am today. My self-esteem was at an all-time low and my standards had embarrassingly plunged. I didn\u2019t think I was a catch, to be honest, so when a guy looked at me for longer than three seconds, I felt flattered.<\/p>\r\n<p>It\u2019s shameful for me to reminisce about this now, but it\u2019s important to be self-aware in order to grow from your shortcomings and misconceptions \u2013 in order to become the person you\u2019re capable of being.<\/p>\r\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">And back then, I didn\u2019t think I was <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/no-puedes-perder-al-hombre-que-esta-destinado-a-ser-tuyo\/\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">destinado a ser<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> much. I wasn\u2019t in a good place, mentally or emotionally. I was going through a dark phase and nothing was going in my favor.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\r\n<p>As\u00ed que no deber\u00eda sorprenderme que el hombre con el que eleg\u00ed pasar mi tiempo fuera alguien completamente equivocado para m\u00ed. Alguien que me hizo pasar por un infierno para sacudirme hasta la m\u00e9dula y hacerme ver lo poco que cre\u00eda merecer.<\/p>\r\n<p>This man saw me at my weakest and decided to take advantage of a girl he knew wouldn\u2019t say no. He didn\u2019t do any physical harm \u2013 just to be clear \u2013 but his abuse was emotional, and it shattered me almost beyond repair.<\/p>\r\n<p>It sucks that I let anyone come so close to me when I was at my most fragile, but back then, I didn\u2019t know any better. I felt like any attention was better than none.<\/p>\r\n<p>I was switching from one shitty job to another, I was new in the city and had one friend. I wasn\u2019t on the best terms with my folks, and I didn\u2019t really have anyone to turn to.<\/p>\r\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">As\u00ed que cuando este chico se me insinu\u00f3 en un bar que frecuentaba todas las noches, sent\u00ed un rayo de esperanza y una vocecita dentro de m\u00ed grit\u00f3 de excitaci\u00f3n tan fuerte, que fue casi como si fuera la primera vez que le gustaba de verdad a un chico...<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\r\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-38731 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1010958733.jpg\" alt=\"A veces se necesita un hombre equivocado para ense\u00f1arte la lecci\u00f3n correcta\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1010958733.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1010958733-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1010958733-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\r\n<p>Al principio me pareci\u00f3 bien, as\u00ed que le di el gusto y seguimos hablando durante toda la velada.<\/p>\r\n<p>He was a regular at the bar, so I had no choice but to see him every night, and going on a date with him just felt like the smart thing to do. If I said no, I\u2019d just keep seeing him regardless and it would\u2019ve been so awkward\u2026 so I made myself like him.<\/p>\r\n<p>Empezamos a vernos. Y con el tiempo empez\u00f3 a gustarme de verdad.<\/p>\r\n<p>He was thoughtful, kind, and seemed to really care about me at first. And that hadn\u2019t happened in a long, long time, so I was slowly becoming more and more hooked on the feeling.<\/p>\r\n<p>But what I didn\u2019t know was that it was his plan all along. He apparently had a habit of catching young, weak, and fragile women off guard, winning them over with his fake words. Once they were in his web, he\u2019d use them to feed his inflated ego.<\/p>\r\n<p>Descubr\u00ed su patr\u00f3n de conducta mucho despu\u00e9s de haber terminado con \u00e9l, pero de repente todo ten\u00eda mucho sentido.<\/p>\r\n<p>I was nothing but a punching bag to him. When he\u2019d feel like shit, he\u2019d use me to shift the blame on me and make himself feel better.<\/p>\r\n<p>When he felt like it, he\u2019d just yell at me for no reason to get it all out of his system and then be on his best behaviour with his buddies.<\/p>\r\n<p>Nadie sab\u00eda realmente c\u00f3mo era a puerta cerrada, excepto yo y algunas de sus anteriores novias, que me confiaron y me contaron todas sus experiencias una vez que sal\u00ed definitivamente de su vida.<\/p>\r\n<p>Me trataron <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/si-la-quieres-no-hay-excusas-para-tratarla-como-una-mierda\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">como la mierda<\/span><\/a>Mis sentimientos nunca fueron importantes y ten\u00eda que hablar con \u00e9l antes de salir de casa. Era un gran obseso del control que nunca me dejaba ser yo misma y me causaba tanto miedo y dolor como para defenderme.<\/p>\r\n<p>It was an all-time low for me and it really got me thinking\u2026<\/p>\r\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-38732 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_589683482.jpg\" alt=\"A veces se necesita un hombre equivocado para ense\u00f1arte la lecci\u00f3n correcta\" width=\"1000\" height=\"667\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_589683482.jpg 1000w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_589683482-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_589683482-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 1000px) 100vw, 1000px\" \/><\/p>\r\n<p>Was this the life I wanted for myself? Was this the man I was going to let invade my life and make me so miserable? If I didn\u2019t say anything right then and there, I never would\u2019ve found the courage to do so.<\/p>\r\n<p>As\u00ed que decid\u00ed que ya era suficiente. \u00bfQui\u00e9n demonios se cre\u00eda que era? \u00bfPor qu\u00e9 se cre\u00eda con derecho a menospreciarme y tratarme como a una mierda para sentirse como <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/solo-un-hombre-de-verdad-haria-estos-8-gestos-romanticos\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">un hombre de verdad<\/span><\/a>?<\/p>\r\n<p>Una vez que me di cuenta de todo esto, me result\u00f3 muy f\u00e1cil decirle exactamente lo que sent\u00eda y largarme de all\u00ed. No iba a dejar que arruinara mi vida y mi futuro. Yo era mucho mejor que eso.<\/p>\r\n<p>And that\u2019s how I finally found my power again. I felt like the freaking queen of the world.<\/p>\r\n<p>Me fui y nunca mir\u00e9 atr\u00e1s. Fue un torbellino de emociones y superarlo fue un proceso largo, pero era necesario para darme cuenta de que nunca m\u00e1s iba a dejar que un hombre controlara ninguna parte de m\u00ed.<\/p>\r\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not today, not ever. And it felt so damn good. We as women face so many obstacles in life just because of our gender, so I decided to take back my life and show the man who\u2019s really in charge!<\/span><\/i><\/p>\r\n<p>Lo \u00fanico que hace falta es que esa vocecita interior te diga que vayas a por ello, y una vez que encuentres el valor para dejar que esa voz se oiga, \u00a1nunca m\u00e1s vas a querer estar callado!<\/p>\r\n<p>That was my lesson. And boy am I glad I went through all that. Because that\u2019s what needed to happen to shape me into the woman I am today \u2013 and this woman takes no more shit from no man!<\/p>\r\n<p>I am in control of my life, my love, and my future. Any man who has a problem with that can stand in line. I simply don\u2019t have time for you anymore! And it feels so damn good to finally be able to say that.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":38699,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29617],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-38698","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-heartbreak"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29617,"label":"heartbreak"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/06\/shutterstock_1320208943-1.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29617,"name":"heartbreak","slug":"heartbreak","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29617,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Recovering after having your heart broken is tough. 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