{"id":39431,"date":"2019-06-28T09:36:21","date_gmt":"2019-06-28T09:36:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39431"},"modified":"2021-08-12T07:09:01","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T07:09:01","slug":"5-senales-de-que-tienes-miedo-a-curarte-y-ni-siquiera-te-das-cuenta","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-senales-de-que-tienes-miedo-a-curarte-y-ni-siquiera-te-das-cuenta\/","title":{"rendered":"5 se\u00f1ales de que en realidad te da miedo curarte (y ni siquiera te das cuenta)"},"content":{"rendered":"

A pesar de todo lo que dicen, algunas personas se niegan a dejar atr\u00e1s los recuerdos y el dolor. Se aferran con fuerza al pasado, sin ni siquiera ser conscientes de ello.<\/p>\n

There are people who don\u2019t allow time to do its magic. The ones who refuse to start the repairing process simply because it means they\u2019d have to accept the end. The ones who don\u2019t want to heal because they are scared of the real life which awaits them after they recover.<\/p>\n

Here are 5 signs that you\u2019re one of these people and that your fear is responsible for the fact that you\u2019re not curaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

1. S\u00f3lo recuerdas las cosas buenas<\/h2>\n

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The first sign you actually don\u2019t want to let go lies in the fact that you don\u2019t look at your past relationship realistically. Instead of remembering things the way they really were, you only think of the good times and beautiful memories.<\/p>\n

Teniendo esto en cuenta, es perfectamente natural que pienses en el pasado como algo mucho mejor de lo que realmente fue. Idealizas a tu ex y todo lo que sent\u00edas a su lado, lo que te impide sanar.<\/p>\n

Te obsesionas con el potencial de tu relaci\u00f3n pasada, pensando en todo lo que podr\u00eda y deber\u00eda haber pasado si hubierais conseguido que las cosas funcionaran. En lugar de eso, lo que deber\u00edas hacer es mirar la verdad a los ojos y darte cuenta de que termin\u00f3 por una raz\u00f3n v\u00e1lida y que estaba lejos de ser perfecta.<\/p>\n

2. Romantizas el dolor<\/h2>\n

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While looking at your relationship through rose-tinted glasses, somehow you\u2019ve also managed to romanticize the emotional pain that\u2019s been consuming you. Instead of seeing it as something you need to get rid of ASAP, you\u2019ve found something noble and divine in it.<\/p>\n

Deep down, you are proud of yourself for being this consistent. You\u2019re proud of being capable of loving one man for as long as you breathe, even if this is the man who\u2019s caused you so much harm.<\/p>\n

Well, let me tell you something\u2014despite everything the love songs, poems and novels are trying to tell you, there is nothing poetic about wasting years crying over someone. There is nothing romantic about being emotionally damaged and there doesn\u2019t exist such a thing as being beautifully broken.<\/p>\n

3. Y se hizo familiar<\/h2>\n

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Another sign that you\u2019re scared of healing, without even realizing it, is the fact that with years, the pain has become familiar. This is something you don\u2019t see at first but if you dig through your subconscious, you\u2019ll see that it really did become your comfort zone.<\/p>\n

After so much time you\u2019ve spent suffering, holding on to the past and thinking about the man who hurt you became a habit of yours. After so much time, you convinced yourself that sadness is the only emotion you know how to feel.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not saying that you should have pretended that the pain isn\u2019t real because that wouldn\u2019t bring you any good either. However, it is obvious that you\u2019ve allowed it to define qui\u00e9n eres<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Whether you like to admit it or not, the fact is that you\u2019ve ceased to exist outside of the pain. You\u2019ve stopped being a daughter, a sister, a mother or a friend and you\u2019ve reduced your entire being to a broken-hearted woman. Please, remember that you\u2019re much more than that!<\/p>\n

4. Crees que todo el mundo es como tu ex<\/h2>\n

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Cuando una persona te hace tanto da\u00f1o, es natural que pierdas la fe en toda la humanidad. Piensas que todo el mundo tiene la intenci\u00f3n de romperte el coraz\u00f3n y que todos los hombres son iguales que tu ex.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, sin ni siquiera ser consciente de ello, te aferras a su recuerdo porque es mejor que ponerte en evidencia y exponer tus vulnerabilidades a alguien nuevo que puede acabar trat\u00e1ndote igual que tu ex.<\/p>\n

5. Or that you\u2019ll never find someone like him<\/h2>\n

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Of course, there is also the possibility that you\u2019re convinced you\u2019ll never encontrar a alguien mejor<\/span><\/a> and that no man on this earth could ever make you feel the way he did. Maybe your ex-boyfriend manipulated you into thinking that he was the best you\u2019d ever find so now you think it is pointless to even try searching for someone new.<\/p>\n

Not wanting to settle for a loveless relationship just so you don\u2019t end up being single is one thing. However, not giving anyone a chance just because you are convinced you could never love again after your ex is not only foolish but is also a sure-fire sign that you are actually afraid of healing.<\/p>\n

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