{"id":39513,"date":"2019-07-01T07:34:20","date_gmt":"2019-07-01T07:34:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39513"},"modified":"2021-08-24T13:27:14","modified_gmt":"2021-08-24T13:27:14","slug":"4-senales-evidentes-de-que-solo-usas-el-amor-como-un-apano","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/4-senales-evidentes-de-que-solo-usas-el-amor-como-un-apano\/","title":{"rendered":"4 se\u00f1ales obvias de que s\u00f3lo usas el amor como un apa\u00f1o"},"content":{"rendered":"

La adicci\u00f3n al amor es un tema serio, y si existe la m\u00e1s m\u00ednima posibilidad de que est\u00e9s luchando contra ella, deber\u00edas seguir leyendo.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many people won\u2019t give this much thought, but those who use love to replace all other shortcomings in their life deserve to find their happy ending.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Just like with addicts (to drugs, alcohol, etc\u2026) it is possible that you, too, are using the idea of love as a replacement for something that you might be missing in life, but don\u2019t want to tratar con.<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

You get on this \u2018\u2019love train\u2019\u2019 and you keep pursuing it because getting off is not an option. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You\u2019re scared where it would leave you, and you\u2019re not sure how you\u2019d function alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And this is why you use men to keep you busy and deflect your attention from serious shit that\u2019s going on in your life that you don\u2019t want to face just yet.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You are unable to connect emotionally with a man, which is why you jump from one meaningless fling to another and tell yourself that it\u2019s love and that it\u2019s totally fine. But it really isn\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

La adicci\u00f3n al amor puede cobrar vida propia y desordenar totalmente tu vida al no permitirte encontrar tiempo para ocuparte de lo que hay que ocuparse. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tienes un serio problema con intimidad emocional<\/a>y tu adicci\u00f3n al amor lo est\u00e1 haciendo m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pero hay mucho m\u00e1s que eso. Aqu\u00ed hay 4 se\u00f1ales de que s\u00f3lo est\u00e1 utilizando el amor como una soluci\u00f3n para salir de tener que lidiar con la vida real y los problemas reales:<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. You have to be in constant contact with the person whose love you\u2019re using as a fix<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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You always have your phone on you, and you\u2019re constantly checking to see if his name will pop up on your screen. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If it doesn\u2019t, you absolutely must m\u00e1ndale un mensaje,<\/a> even if just to say: \u2018What\u2019s up?\u2019<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Para ti es inconcebible no tener noticias suyas en todo un d\u00eda. Te hace sentir paranoica y ansiosa, y simplemente necesitas tu dosis. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You can\u2019t maintain conversations with other people. You are so focused on getting a text from him that it\u2019s hard to focus on anything else.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Your other relationships (with friends, family) suffer due to your obsessive need for your fix, and you don\u2019t even care to remedy it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

All you want is him, and you don\u2019t care what anyone thinks.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esta es una clara se\u00f1al de que hay algo que te preocupa seriamente en tu interior, ya sea tu necesidad insatisfecha de una conexi\u00f3n m\u00e1s profunda o tu miedo al rechazo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Whichever it is, it is making you go crazy for the idea of love you think you have with this guy because you think it will magically make it all better. (It won\u2019t.)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Vives bajo la falsa creencia de que esa otra persona es la soluci\u00f3n a todos tus problemas m\u00e1s profundos<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Just like with any other addiction, this one makes you think that your \u2018\u2019love fix\u2019\u2019 is the actual solution to your problems you don\u2019t want to face head on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

You get lost in this supposed love, assuring yourself that it is going to make it all better. But it won\u2019t.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfSabe que dicen que la hierba siempre es m\u00e1s verde al otro lado? Pues este es tu principal problema. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Persigues una fantas\u00eda esquiva, convenci\u00e9ndote a ti mismo de que est\u00e1 a tu alcance, pero sin llegar a alcanzarla del todo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00f3lo mejora las cosas en ese momento concreto. Nunca dura. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nunca te hace sentir mejor una vez que se va, y te deja en una condici\u00f3n a\u00fan peor que antes.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Mucha gente lucha con estar solo<\/a>Y eso es lo que les hace perseguir cosas para sentirse menos solos.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Simplemente eres incapaz de estar con tus propios pensamientos porque sabes que te corroer\u00e1n, as\u00ed que eliges cruzar a la adicci\u00f3n al amor para no tener que enfrentarte a las cosas como es debido.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. You value yourself based on other people\u2019s opinions of you<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Las personas que luchan contra las adicciones suelen encontrarse en una encrucijada vital. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Suelen estar pasando de un cap\u00edtulo de su vida al siguiente, y su opini\u00f3n de s\u00ed mismos es m\u00e1s fr\u00e1gil en ese momento.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

They aren\u2019t really sure who they are and what their purpose is yet, so they choose to let other people\u2019s opinions and impressions of them affect the way they see themselves. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This\u00a0 is a wrong thing to do, but it is also the main thing that sends you into overdrive and turns you to your type of addiction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Piensas que mereces s\u00f3lo lo que una persona irrelevante considera que mereces, y \u00e9sa es la causa de tu espiral descendente que te llev\u00f3 a esta adicci\u00f3n al amor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Cruzar\u00e1s ciertas l\u00edneas para conservar a esa persona incluso hasta el punto de manipularla<\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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When a person is so adamant to keep a partner by their side, regardless of how far they\u2019re willing to go, it is no longer love, but a destructive pattern of behaviour that has resorted in your toxic love addiction.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Resorting to manipulation and similar tactics means you\u2019ve started treading on dangerous territory that will likely end up breaking apart from under you.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When your behaviour changes for the worse and you end up acting completely unlike yourself, it\u2019s time to ask yourself what it is that led you to this point.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Has sustituido el amor, la honestidad y el respeto por la manipulaci\u00f3n, la mentira y un comportamiento controlador. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

En lugar de intentar encontrar una conexi\u00f3n emocional, saltas de un sustituto a otro, sin permitirte experimentar la soledad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Y ese es precisamente su principal problema. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Tienes que aprender a estar bien por tu cuenta, para poder trabajar en arreglar tu adicci\u00f3n al amor que ya no te har\u00e1 mendigar desesperadamente tu dosis. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

S\u00f3lo entonces podr\u00e1s curarte y trabajar en tu recuperaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Love addiction is a serious issue, and if there\u2019s even a slight chance you might be struggling with it, you should definitely keep on reading.\u00a0 Many people won\u2019t give this much thought, but those who use love to replace all other shortcomings in their life deserve to find their happy ending. Just like with addicts…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":39519,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-39513","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/07\/shutterstock_475703821.jpg",800,532,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39513","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=39513"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/39513\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/39519"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=39513"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=39513"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=39513"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}