{"id":39772,"date":"2019-07-03T11:47:15","date_gmt":"2019-07-03T11:47:15","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=39772"},"modified":"2022-03-23T12:17:01","modified_gmt":"2022-03-23T12:17:01","slug":"6-trucos-para-hablar-con-un-interlocutor-a-la-defensiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/6-trucos-para-hablar-con-un-interlocutor-a-la-defensiva\/","title":{"rendered":"6 trucos para hablar con una pareja a la defensiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Est\u00e1s en una estable, relaciones comprometidas<\/a>p. Your partner makes you genuinely happy and you have stood the test of time. There\u2019s not much you\u2019d change, but there is that one thing\u2026<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Whenever he does something that upsets you and whenever there\u2019s something you need to discuss, he gets overly defensive, crosses his arms, and cannot take any constructive criticism.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

There is no talking to him when he does something wrong, and you don\u2019t know how to get through to him.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

People who get this defensive when confronted with their actions usually feel like a complete failure if they\u2019ve done something wrong, and admitting it makes them severely uncomfortable.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

As\u00ed que en lugar de poder escucharte y hablar como una persona normal, recurren a el tratamiento silencioso<\/a> y\/o acus\u00e1ndote de meterte constantemente con ellos.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Unfortunately, you can\u2019t change how a person acts and reacts to your words, but you CAN change how you approach the conversation with them. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

As\u00ed que aqu\u00ed tienes algunos trucos ingeniosos dise\u00f1ados para ayudarte a hablar con tu pareja excesivamente a la defensiva y encontrar una forma pac\u00edfica de comunicarse.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

1. Steer clear of the \u201cblame language\u201d<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Refrain from using phrases like \u201cYou did this\u2026\u201d or \u201cYou didn\u2019t listen to me, again\u2026\u201d and don\u2019t use words such as \u201calways\u201d or \u201dnever\u201d.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Esto no deja otra opci\u00f3n a tu pareja que sentirse culpada y se\u00f1alada. Eso es muy cr\u00edtico y obliga inmediatamente a la persona a adoptar una postura defensiva.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

En lugar de eso, intenta decirles c\u00f3mo te sientes T\u00da y c\u00f3mo te han afectado sus acciones.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Do not point fingers but rather make it clear that you feel a certain way and you wish that wasn\u2019t the case.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Eso podr\u00eda hacer que tu pareja reeval\u00fae sus acciones y baje la guardia.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

2. Inicie la conversaci\u00f3n con una nota positiva<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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It is important that, before you accuse them of something, you let them know how much they mean to you and that you don\u2019t want to lose them. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You can say \u201cI am only telling you this because I deeply care about you and want this to last.\u201d<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Visite tu pareja<\/a> Siento que esto viene de un lugar positivo y que todo lo que est\u00e1s tratando de hacer es encontrar una soluci\u00f3n para que puedas sanar y seguir adelante de esto.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

They don\u2019t need to keep hearing about how they messed up, it will only make them close off even more.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

S\u00e9 amable y mant\u00e9n la esperanza de que se resuelva, al tiempo que le haces saber cu\u00e1nto aprecias su esfuerzo por mejorar.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

3. Perm\u00edtete ser vulnerable y asume tu parte de responsabilidad<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Para conseguir que tu pareja derribe sus muros y se abra a ti, empieza por hacerlo t\u00fa.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Share a vulnerable part of yourself and show him that you\u2019re no stranger to messing up.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

And if there is any portion of this that\u2019s your fault \u2013 own up to it.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Esto har\u00e1 que su pareja vea que est\u00e1 en un lugar seguro y libre de culpa, y empezar\u00e1 a relajarse y a ser m\u00e1s propenso a una discusi\u00f3n sana.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Necesita sentirse seguro y no juzgado, lo que le ayudar\u00e1 en el proceso de superaci\u00f3n de su postura defensiva.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

4. Don\u2019t diminish their right to feel a certain way<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Never try to take away a person\u2019s right to feel how they\u2019re feeling. Everybody\u2019s entitled to their emotions.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Just because it\u2019s not ideal for you, doesn\u2019t make them invalid. So let your man know that you respect his feelings and are in no way trying to diminish them.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Pero al mismo tiempo, explique c\u00f3mo est\u00e1 afectando tu relaci\u00f3n<\/a> y hacerle ver que t\u00fa tambi\u00e9n tienes emociones.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Est\u00e1 claro que no se est\u00e1n integrando, as\u00ed que su \u00fanico objetivo es encontrar un t\u00e9rmino medio, siendo respetuosos el uno con el otro y dejando que afloren sus emociones.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

5. H\u00e1gales preguntas significativas<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Quieres llegar al fondo de esta situaci\u00f3n, y la mejor manera de hacerlo es haciendo preguntas sinceras que ayuden a establecer c\u00f3mo se ha llegado hasta aqu\u00ed. <\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

En el fondo, tu pareja puede sentirse rechazada, triste e incompetente, as\u00ed que esto es muy importante para que se sienta escuchada.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Si has hecho algo para provocar esta reacci\u00f3n, preg\u00fantaselo amablemente. Hazles saber que lamentas haberles hecho reaccionar as\u00ed sin querer y que deseas mejorar la situaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Preg\u00fanteles c\u00f3mo se sienten y c\u00f3mo puede ayudarles a aliviar sus preocupaciones.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

But you have to be genuine and actually care. Otherwise, they\u2019re not going to believe you.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

6. No matter what happens \u2013 don\u2019t lose your cool<\/h2>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n
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Your partner might start listing 100 reasons why he\u2019s right and you\u2019re wrong or he might start blaming you for the whole thing.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Pero de lo que se trata es de mantener la calma y no perder nunca los nervios con \u00e9l.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Understand that he does not actually mean all that \u2013 he just doesn\u2019t know how to deal with blame and is therefore resorting to hostility.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Mant\u00e9n la calma y respira hondo. Cuando vea que has conseguido mantener la calma mientras \u00e9l no se comportaba bien, es posible que tambi\u00e9n empiece a calmarse.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Tu intenci\u00f3n de resolverlo ser\u00e1 clara para \u00e9l y le obligar\u00e1 a enfrentarse a tu silencio a menos que baje la voz.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Pero recuerda que puedes hacer todo lo correcto y decirle justo lo que necesita o\u00edr, y aun as\u00ed puede que no sea suficiente.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Y eso no depende de ti. No tiene nada que ver con su enfoque y todo que ver con la persona.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

If he doesn\u2019t want to change, there isn\u2019t much you can do anymore.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

You have to face the fact that sometimes, it just won\u2019t be enough.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

Y en esos momentos, s\u00f3lo tienes que alejarte, respirar hondo y pensar en lo que quieres y en la mejor manera de llegar a ese lugar.<\/p>\r\n\r\n\r\n\r\n

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