{"id":4090,"date":"2017-09-05T11:58:11","date_gmt":"2017-09-05T11:58:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=4090"},"modified":"2022-01-17T23:51:34","modified_gmt":"2022-01-17T23:51:34","slug":"realmente-gano-perdiendo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/realmente-gano-perdiendo\/","title":{"rendered":"Esto es lo que realmente ha ganado al perderle"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mientras estabas con \u00e9l, pensabas que el mundo entero estaba al alcance de tu mano. Pensaste que lo que ten\u00edas con \u00e9l era lo m\u00e1ximo porque hizo todo lo posible para que te enamoraras de \u00e9l. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Unfortunately, after his \u201cMr. Darcy\u201d period, instead of rising to new heights together, your whole world fell apart. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

The truth is, you never really had him in the first place. You had an illusion of him and that\u2019s it. You fell for a side of him that wasn\u2019t truly his.<\/p>\r\n

You fell for the guy he chose to show you, but he wasn\u2019t that guy. He was totally the opposite of a good guy. He was toxic and you had no idea.<\/b><\/p>\r\n

El problema con formar parte de una relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica<\/a> is that you don’t even realize  that you\u2019re in one.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

\u00bfRecuerdas el cuento de la rana y el agua hirviendo? <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Pues bien, la rana no ten\u00eda ni idea de que el agua estaba cada vez m\u00e1s caliente hasta que fue demasiado tarde. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

The same thing might\u2019ve happened to you\u2014you might have stayed in a toxic relationship till there was nothing left of you anymore. <\/span><\/h2>\r\n

Por suerte, saltaste del agua hirviendo justo a tiempo para salvarte.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Al principio, despu\u00e9s de perderle, sent\u00edas como si hubieras perdido todo lo que te era familiar. <\/span>Parec\u00eda que el suelo bajo tus pies hab\u00eda desaparecido y que s\u00f3lo era cuesti\u00f3n de tiempo que cayeras al agujero. Pero la realidad era muy distinta.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Yes, by losing him, you lost a few things as well. Luckily, none of those things was a good thing. It’s nothing you should cry for.<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

Tu ansiedad te abandon\u00f3 junto a \u00e9l.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

Los dos tardaron demasiado en recoger sus cosas e irse, pero fue un gran alivio cuando aquellos invitados abandonaron su casa. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Sol\u00edas temblar ante la m\u00e1s m\u00ednima cosa que hac\u00edas porque no dejabas de anticipar su reacci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Todo lo que hac\u00edas iba seguido del miedo a que no lo aprobara, a que no lo entendiera y a que te metiera en problemas. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

For a long time, you were the girl that didn\u2019t care for anyone’s opinion, but he made you feel insecure and scared, and for each and every thing you did or thought of doing, you felt like you needed his approval. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You needed him to go along with your ideas otherwise you\u2019d live in hell with him withdrawing his attention and love from you. When you let him go, you let your anxiety go as well.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Despu\u00e9s de perderlo, perdiste la sensaci\u00f3n de tener a alguien y no ser amada. <\/span><\/h2>\r\n

After he\u2019d emotionally punish you for anything and everything, you\u2019d just sit there, next to the man you love, and you\u2019d feel like the loneliest person in the world. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

If you\u2019d just have stretched your arm, you could\u2019ve touched him, but what was the use of it? After the episodes he\u2019d put you through, he seemed more like your headsman than the man that loves and cares for you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Despu\u00e9s de perderlo, te libraste de la tortura de tenerlo sentado a tu lado estando a una milla de distancia. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

If it was really a loss, I\u2019d say it was a good loss.<\/em><\/h2>\r\n

You might think now that you\u2019re missing a lot since he\u2019s gone, but all the things that you\u2019re left without now are the things that were actually not good for you. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Even if those things might have felt good, they were used for one sole purpose\u2014for a toxic man to make you stay with him. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

If you\u2019d free yourself from the idea that you need him, you\u2019d see that you\u2019re doing really fine. If you\u2019d just open your eyes, you\u2019d see that you gained a lot more than you lost.<\/em><\/p>\r\n

Ganaste tu libertad al perderle.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

There isn\u2019t a thing in this world holding you back now. There isn\u2019t a thing or a person that might stop you. Y<\/span><\/p>\r\n

ou are not going to hear a big fat \u2018NO\u2019 from anybody because nobody has that power over you, anymore. You finally took your freedom back in your hands\u2014the only place where it really belongs.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Usted gan\u00f3 su<\/span> lo<\/span>ve<\/span> de perderlo.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

You might think he\u2019s your love, but he isn\u2019t and he wasn\u2019t. You need to let go of that idea and only then you\u2019ll see where true love lies.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Encuentras el amor por las ma\u00f1anas, cuando te despiertas y ya no tienes miedo. Encuentras el amor leyendo ese libro o sonriendo a un desconocido cualquiera. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You find love in your family and your friends that you get to see now since he\u2019s no longer there to give you a hard time for making space in your heart for anybody else but him.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Encontraste la felicidad despu\u00e9s de perderlo.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

You might not see it yet, but you are happier now. The wrinkles that you have around your eyes are not from frowning or crying, but from those happy moments you\u2019re living now. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You are a different person\u2014you resemble the girl that you were before he made you change.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Recuperaste la confianza despu\u00e9s de perderlo.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

You might think that you were confident because you had him sitting with you at the table or because you never had to walk into a room full of people alone, but that\u2019s not what confidence is about. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You might have been confident when he was around, but the moment he left you alone, you’d start panicking and screaming inside. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

You’d feel like there is a part of you missing and that you can’t do anything on your own. Luckily, that changed as well. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ahora puedes entrar en una habitaci\u00f3n llena de gente y sentirte segura de ti misma. Ahora puedes verte en el espejo y sentirte guapa. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

No hay nadie que te diga lo contrario. Ahora puedes tener esa entrevista de trabajo y ver si consigues el puesto porque no hay nadie que te lo impida haci\u00e9ndote sentir incompetente. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Now, you get to become whoever you want because there is nobody to tell you you can’t.<\/span><\/p>\r\n

Recuperaste tu vida despu\u00e9s de perderlo<\/a>.<\/span><\/h2>\r\n

Aunque dej\u00f3 una cicatriz en tu coraz\u00f3n y puede que lloraras al cerrar la \u00faltima p\u00e1gina de tu libro con \u00e9l. <\/span><\/p>\r\n

Ahora hay espacio para cosas nuevas. Todav\u00eda puedes escribir otro libro y esta vez aseg\u00farate de que tenga un final feliz. <\/span><\/p>\r\n\r\n

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