{"id":40913,"date":"2019-07-24T09:31:42","date_gmt":"2019-07-24T09:31:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=40913"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:26:24","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:26:24","slug":"7-cualidades-que-pensaba-que-queria-en-una-pareja-hasta-que-conoci-a-mi-actual-novio","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/7-cualidades-que-pensaba-que-queria-en-una-pareja-hasta-que-conoci-a-mi-actual-novio\/","title":{"rendered":"7 cualidades que pensaba que quer\u00eda en una pareja hasta que conoc\u00ed a mi novio actual"},"content":{"rendered":"

Like many women out there, I too admit that I’ve been guilty of constantly falling for the wrong guys. I always had this kind of imaginary list of qualities that my partner should have, and every single time I met someone who had everything from the list, I would end up being disappointed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I couldn’t understand why this \u201ccurse\u201d became a big, endless repeat, and I didn\u2019t know how to stop it. It is really frustrating to think that you\u2019ve met the one every time you meet someone who has the qualities you\u2019ve been looking for so long.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pero entonces las cosas cambiaron. Las cosas cambiaron DR\u00c1STICAMENTE (cambiaron a positivo, por supuesto) cuando conoc\u00ed a mi actual novio.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And the biggest irony of all is that he\u2019s the total opposite of any of my previous partners. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This made me realize that those qualities I was looking for are actually one big bullshit because my current boyfriend lacks all of them, and I\u2019ve never been happier in my life!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yup. This made me realize that I don\u2019t really want any of these qualities in my partner. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yo s\u00f3lo pensamiento<\/em> Los quer\u00eda y los necesitaba, pero mi actual novio me demostr\u00f3 que no son ni importantes ni imprescindibles para establecer una relaci\u00f3n feliz y satisfactoria<\/a>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7 CUALIDADES QUE PENSABA QUE QUER\u00cdA EN UNA PAREJA HASTA QUE CONOC\u00cd A MI ACTUAL NOVIO<\/p>\n\n\n\n

1. Someone who\u2019s (overly) spontaneous<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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I mean, who doesn\u2019t like to be around people who are spontaneous? It\u2019s in our human nature to want to have fun and do crazy things with someone who is the embodiment of spontaneity (especially if we are lacking it).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, I\u2019ve realized that being (overly) spontaneous has its bad sides as well, and I\u2019m glad that my current partner in a way lacks it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s one thing to live life as you please, and it\u2019s completely another to be spontaneously irresponsible, and live life like there\u2019s no tomorrow.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I\u2019ve realized that there\u2019s a really thin line between the two. Most of my spontaneous partners turned out to be irresponsible and fucked up which influenced the entire course of our relationship as well.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 5 razones inesperadas por las que sigues atrayendo a los chicos equivocados<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

2. Someone who\u2019s the life of the party<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Al igual que en el caso anterior, sol\u00eda elegir a mis parejas en funci\u00f3n de lo atractivas y divertidas que me resultaban. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Siempre me enamor\u00e9 de esos tipos que eran el alma de la fiesta, que eran insaciables en cuanto a beber, bailar y hacer el rid\u00edculo.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pero, ahora me doy cuenta de que esto era totalmente err\u00f3neo, y s\u00e9 perfectamente por qu\u00e9. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s because guys who are the life of the party are thirsty for attention (aka attention whores), and it can be really stressful and sometimes unbearable to deal with them in certain situations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

3. Alguien que quiera complacerme en todo lo posible<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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No, I don\u2019t mean anything sexual, but it could refer to that, too. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

What I mean is I don\u2019t want someone who wants to please me mentally in every way possible. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I don\u2019t want someone who is afraid to contradict me when needed and to say what they really mean.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Unfortunately, I\u2019ve realized it too late, but better late than never, right?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

4. Alguien con problemas que necesitan soluci\u00f3n<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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Oh, lord. I can\u2019t emphasize how mad I am at myself for this one. I always tended to fall for bad boys who need fixing. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I guess it\u2019s in my nature to feel sorry for them and want to help them at any cost (and each one cost me a lot of time and nerves as well).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I always felt good when I was able to help them and show them a different perspective of life, but I didn\u2019t understand that by doing it, I was hacerme da\u00f1o<\/a>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

En lugar de disfrutar con un compa\u00f1ero que tiene las cosas claras, he perdido el tiempo intentando arreglar almas rotas e imaginando que tengo poderes especiales que las curar\u00e1n y har\u00e1n del mundo un lugar mejor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

5. Alguien cuya mayor prioridad sea nuestra relaci\u00f3n<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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S\u00ed. Siempre tuve miedo de que mi pareja me descuidara a m\u00ed y a nuestra relaci\u00f3n, as\u00ed que estaba literalmente obsesionada con estar con alguien cuya mayor prioridad fuera nuestra relaci\u00f3n. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can\u2019t even describe how happy I am now with my current boyfriend because he understands the need to spend some time alone.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Esta es realmente una de las cosas m\u00e1s importantes en toda relaci\u00f3n. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Todos deber\u00edamos tener tiempo para nosotros mismos, para recargar las pilas y pasar tiempo con nuestros amigos y familiares. Centrarse \u00fanicamente en la relaci\u00f3n no es sano y est\u00e1 condenado al fracaso.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

6. Someone who\u2019s heavy on the compliments<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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I bet there isn\u2019t any woman out there who doesn\u2019t like to receive compliments. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

A todas nos encanta que nos digan que nuestro pelo est\u00e1 bien, que nuestro atuendo y nuestro cuerpo est\u00e1n de moda, y siempre nos enamoramos de ese chico que sabe c\u00f3mo hacer cumplidos perfectos<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But, by doing that, we forget about our personality as well! By being blinded by these \u201ctrivial\u201d compliments, we forget to think about more important ones regarding our souls. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I can\u2019t even explain you how grateful I am for finally being with someone who doesn\u2019t only focus on my looks. It\u2019s really refreshing and motivating!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

7. Someone who\u2019s just there to provide me with an escape<\/strong><\/h2>\n\n\n\n
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We\u2019re back to the bad boys again. All this time, I only wanted to be with someone who was just there to provide me with an escape. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Siempre me enamor\u00e9 de los chicos malos que hac\u00edan locuras que les sub\u00edan la adrenalina, y esto me hac\u00eda sentir tan viva.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Pensaba que estaba viviendo el momento, pero me di cuenta de que me estaba perdiendo muchas cosas. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

With my current boyfriend, I\u2019ve learned that living in the moment means being present physically and mentally, without any of that crazy shit and the need to prove yourself something that is not true.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I\u2019ve realized that I don\u2019t need any of these. Real relationships are about being there for each other and focusing on the good things instead of solely providing an escape to each other. And, believe me, I\u2019ve never been happier in my life!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Al \u00danico Hombre Que Me Hizo Sentir Viva Pero No Era Para M\u00ed<\/a><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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