{"id":41547,"date":"2020-06-06T08:18:30","date_gmt":"2020-06-06T08:18:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=41547"},"modified":"2021-08-31T07:35:06","modified_gmt":"2021-08-31T07:35:06","slug":"como-la-abstinencia-me-ayudo-a-conocer-al-chico-adecuado","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/como-la-abstinencia-me-ayudo-a-conocer-al-chico-adecuado\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo la abstinencia me ayud\u00f3 a conocer al chico adecuado"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Hac\u00eda m\u00e1s de dos a\u00f1os que no ten\u00eda relaciones sexuales. La persona con la que hab\u00eda mantenido relaciones me hizo mucho da\u00f1o y despu\u00e9s no dej\u00e9 que nadie se me acercara.<\/p>\n<p>Sent\u00ed asco y miedo. Tambi\u00e9n cre\u00eda que se arrepentir\u00eda y volver\u00eda conmigo, pero nunca lo hizo.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Hab\u00edan pasado los meses y \u00e9l abrazaba su vida con su nueva novia, pero yo s\u00f3lo ve\u00eda su cara delante de m\u00ed y de nadie m\u00e1s. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>If Tom Hardy had approached me, I wouldn\u2019t have reacted at all. I only wanted my ex to touch me and no one else.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>El hecho de que su relaci\u00f3n con su nueva novia progresara bien despert\u00f3 mi ira.<\/p>\n<p>I wanted so badly to have sex with random guys but I just couldn\u2019t. Luckily, something always turned me off.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96611\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-flirting-with-man-in-the-pub.jpg\" alt=\"mujer flirteando con hombre en el pub\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-flirting-with-man-in-the-pub.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-flirting-with-man-in-the-pub-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-flirting-with-man-in-the-pub-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-flirting-with-man-in-the-pub-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-flirting-with-man-in-the-pub-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>Ten\u00eda miedo de encari\u00f1arme con una persona que eligiera al azar para tener relaciones sexuales y de que esa persona tambi\u00e9n me hiciera da\u00f1o. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Luego tuve una fase de sentir asco hacia todos los chicos. Era como si mi piel se hubiera acostumbrado a no tener ning\u00fan contacto.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Durante los primeros meses, me cost\u00f3 adaptarme. Mi cuerpo me ped\u00eda sexo y no paraba de hablar de ello.<\/p>\n<p>I kept watching porn, which didn\u2019t help at all. Every time I went out with the girls, I was looking for my prey but my ex kept popping up in my mind. It kept me safe from all those random guys.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>En aquel momento, parec\u00eda que yo era la chica m\u00e1s atractiva de la zona. Hab\u00eda una energ\u00eda sexual a mi alrededor y todo el mundo pod\u00eda sentirla.<\/p>\n<p>As time passed, this energy decreased. I felt miserable and like I couldn\u2019t attract anyone. And it was true at that time. I really had this toxic energy around me.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96614\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-hugging-pillow.jpg\" alt=\"mujer triste abrazando una almohada\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-hugging-pillow.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-hugging-pillow-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-hugging-pillow-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-hugging-pillow-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/sad-woman-hugging-pillow-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I was confused and I couldn\u2019t take anyone or anything seriously. I just existed.<\/p>\n<p><strong>That was the point when I decided to turn the tables. It could have been Uranus in Taurus, I don\u2019t know, but I accepted every situation and every change. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>Decid\u00ed no tener relaciones sexuales con nadie hasta que supiera que hab\u00eda encontrado a alguien especial o, al menos, a una persona relativamente fiable.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Lo que ocurri\u00f3 despu\u00e9s fue que empec\u00e9 a prestar atenci\u00f3n a la gente y a los acontecimientos que me rodeaban.<\/p>\n<p>Dej\u00e9 de preocuparme por mi falta de sexo, contacto humano y emociones y todo lo que ven\u00eda en ese paquete.<\/p>\n<p>My body didn\u2019t crave it anymore, it adjusted well.<\/p>\n<p>Empec\u00e9 a hacer footing, aunque nunca antes hab\u00eda practicado ning\u00fan deporte. Mi cuerpo se form\u00f3 bien y, gracias a las endorfinas que se liberan al hacer deporte, me sent\u00eda satisfecho.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96616\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-joging-through-the-wood.jpg\" alt=\"mujer trotando por el bosque\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-joging-through-the-wood.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-joging-through-the-wood-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-joging-through-the-wood-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-joging-through-the-wood-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/woman-joging-through-the-wood-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Conoc\u00ed a mucha gente estupenda y empec\u00e9 a prestarme atenci\u00f3n a m\u00ed misma.<\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p>Surgieron muchas oportunidades de trabajo. Me sent\u00ed muy poderosa.<\/p>\n<p>Era como si hubiera sacado de m\u00ed esta necesidad cruda y primitiva y de repente me hubiera convertido en alguien tan exitoso y profundo, como un hombre del Renacimiento.<\/p>\n<p>Lo m\u00e1s importante fue que me sent\u00ed tan pura y fortalecida.<\/p>\n<p>Despu\u00e9s de abrazarme a m\u00ed misma y a mi nueva pureza, y tambi\u00e9n a mi nuevo aspecto de mujer de negocios, de repente me di cuenta de que ahora les gustaba a muchos chicos.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Es casi como si hubieran podido oler mi nueva confianza en m\u00ed misma y mi \u00e9xito. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Al principio, no dejaba de rechazar sus ofertas y hu\u00eda de sus ojos porque estaba muy centrada en m\u00ed misma y en mi reci\u00e9n adquirida independencia y confianza.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96618\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/confident-woman-posing.jpg\" alt=\"mujer segura de s\u00ed misma posando\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/confident-woman-posing.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/confident-woman-posing-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/confident-woman-posing-768x513.jpg 768w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/confident-woman-posing-150x100.jpg 150w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/confident-woman-posing-720x481.jpg 720w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p><strong>El hecho de que yo fuera inalcanzable para ellos les volv\u00eda a\u00fan m\u00e1s locos por m\u00ed. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>But I wasn\u2019t playing the ice queen actually. I was still afraid that they were going to hurt me and I was focusing on my job and my needs only. <\/strong><\/p>\n<p>It lasted for a couple of months and then I fell in love again. I can\u2019t explain to you how suspicious I was in the beginning but he turned out to be the best thing that ever happened to me.<\/p>\n<p>Me comprende y me apoya, me admira y me dice que soy la chica m\u00e1s guapa del mundo, aunque acabe de levantarme de la cama y tenga mal aliento.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Sigo destacando en mi trabajo y en mi vida social porque cuento con todo su apoyo. Y el sexo es incre\u00edble.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong> Tal vez porque esper\u00e9 tanto tiempo a alguien especial.<\/strong><\/p>\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><\/figure>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-96609\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/How-Abstinence-Helped-Me-Meet-The-Right-Guy-pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"C\u00f3mo la abstinencia me ayud\u00f3 a conocer al chico adecuado\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/How-Abstinence-Helped-Me-Meet-The-Right-Guy-pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/How-Abstinence-Helped-Me-Meet-The-Right-Guy-pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/How-Abstinence-Helped-Me-Meet-The-Right-Guy-pinterest-150x225.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>It had been more than two years that I had sex. The person I had been involved with hurt me really badly and I didn\u2019t let anyone approach me afterward. I felt disgusted and afraid. I also believed that he would repent and come back to me but he never did. Months had passed and&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":96619,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-41547","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/How-Abstinence-Helped-Me-Meet-The-Right-Guy.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41547","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=41547"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/41547\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/96619"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=41547"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=41547"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=41547"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}