{"id":42193,"date":"2019-08-19T10:21:24","date_gmt":"2019-08-19T10:21:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=42193"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:01:02","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:01:02","slug":"una-carta-al-tercero-en-discordia-en-todas-mis-citas-mi-ansiedad-por-las-citas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/una-carta-al-tercero-en-discordia-en-todas-mis-citas-mi-ansiedad-por-las-citas\/","title":{"rendered":"Una carta a la tercera rueda de todas mis citas: Mi ansiedad por las citas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hey, old friend. You might be surprised that I’m writing you like this, since you and I are rarely apart and you\u2019ve been a piece of me for ages.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, I’m not sure about the first time I met you. I can’t tell how, when, and why you entered my life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Todo lo que s\u00e9 es que no hay ni una sola cita en mi memoria en la que t\u00fa no seas la tercera rueda. <\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I can’t remember any of my romantic relationships of which you weren’t a part, including those in my teenage years.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let’s face it, you’ve made my life hell harder. But with time, I got used to you and even accepted you to a certain extent.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Nevertheless, it doesn’t mean I like you. It doesn’t mean that I’m comfortable with all of these fears and overthinking you’re causing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, \u00bfa qui\u00e9n le gustar\u00eda tener una vocecita en la cabeza todo el tiempo? Una vocecita que le dice que las cosas se desarrollar\u00e1n en el peor escenario posible y que nada le saldr\u00e1 bien.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Primero, empieza cuando conozco a un chico nuevo.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

En <\/em>realmente le gusto<\/em><\/a>? \u00bfO es que me est\u00e1 tomando el pelo?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps he had a bet with his friends about whether he’ll be able to score my number? Maybe he\u2019s trying to get to my friend through me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfPorque a qui\u00e9n le gustar\u00eda? \u00bfA qui\u00e9n le interesar\u00eda de verdad?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Y lo m\u00e1s importante, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9? \u00bfQu\u00e9 ve este tipo en m\u00ed?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Despu\u00e9s de permitirme avanzar de alg\u00fan modo desde esta etapa inicial, la lucha contin\u00faa.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Una<\/figure>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo debo responder a su mensaje de texto? C\u00f3mo responder\u00e9 a su llamada sin que me tiemble la voz?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

How can I hide the fact that I\u2019m terrified of something so ordinary and everyday like going out on a date?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Naturalmente, el <\/strong>primera cita<\/strong><\/a> es una aut\u00e9ntica pesadilla.<\/strong> I\u2019m not just talking about some random stuff that goes through almost every girl\u2019s mind when she\u2019s about to go out with a guy for the first time, like what she should wear or whether she\u2019ll like him.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

No, I\u2019m talking about real panic attacks that stop me from functioning properly. I\u2019m talking about the fact that I feel like someone is forcing me to go out with this guy I\u2019m really attracted to.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfMe dejar\u00e1 plantada? \u00bfPasaremos toda la noche en un silencio inc\u00f3modo?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfLe decepcionar\u00e1 mi aspecto? \u00bfSe dar\u00e1 cuenta de que me cuesta respirar y de que me sudan las palmas de las manos todo el tiempo?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Once I manage to enter a relationship (which rarely happens), that\u2019s when my real battles start and when I notice that everything up to that point was just a piece of cake.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if he grows tired of me? What if he\u2019s still thinking about his ex?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

What if I\u2019m not good enough in bed? What if he\u2019s just playing with me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfMe quiere o s\u00f3lo finge? \u00bfEstoy demasiado necesitada?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why did he kiss me differently this morning? Why isn\u2019t he holding my hand right now?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfSe est\u00e1 enfriando? \u00bfO me estoy imaginando cosas?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Does he want to end things but can\u2019t find a way to do so? Is he staying with me out of pity?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u00bfEstoy desesperado por dar demasiado de m\u00ed? \u00bfDeber\u00eda mostrar menos emociones?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Did he say \u201cI love you\u201d because it was time or did he really feel it? Would he care if he lost me?<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Sounds pretty exhausting, right? Well, this is just the tip of the iceberg and something I\u2019ve been living with ever since I can remember.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

However, this isn\u2019t only a hate letter for everything you\u2019re putting me through. Believe it or not, I also want to thank you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you for all those times you chased away the men who couldn\u2019t handle me <\/strong>en mi peor momento<\/strong><\/a>, showing me that they didn\u2019t deserve my best either.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

For all those times you saved me from those superficial fuckboys who didn\u2019t even try looking past my trauma. For every time my overthinking and not wanting to rush things helped me avoid guys who only wanted to get me in bed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Thank you for being my shield and my defense mechanism from all the men who don\u2019t deserve to meet the real me.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Gracias por darme esta fuerte intuici\u00f3n que me permite percibir las malas intenciones a la legua. Por no permitirme saltar de una relaci\u00f3n a otra y hacerme esperar a que llegue el hombre adecuado.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

A guy who will see that I\u2019m much more than my anxiety. A guy who will be patient enough to uncover the layers of my personality. The guy who will love me for who I am.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\"Una<\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Hey, old friend. You might be surprised that I’m writing you like this, since you and I are rarely apart and you\u2019ve been a piece of me for ages. However, I’m not sure about the first time I met you. I can’t tell how, when, and why you entered my life. All I know is…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":42197,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29634],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-42193","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-anxiety"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29634,"label":"anxiety"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_1127629844.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29634,"name":"anxiety","slug":"anxiety","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29634,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learning how to control your anxiety or help and understand your partner struggling with anxious thoughts will improve the quality of your life.","parent":22911,"count":30,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29634,"category_count":30,"category_description":"Learning how to control your anxiety or help and understand your partner struggling with anxious thoughts will improve the quality of your life.","cat_name":"anxiety","category_nicename":"anxiety","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42193","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=42193"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42193\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/42197"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=42193"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=42193"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=42193"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}