{"id":42345,"date":"2019-08-28T07:48:14","date_gmt":"2019-08-28T07:48:14","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=42345"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:58:32","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:58:32","slug":"una-ventana-a-mi-curacion-mi-valiente-aventura-sin-hombre","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/una-ventana-a-mi-curacion-mi-valiente-aventura-sin-hombre\/","title":{"rendered":"Una ventana a mi curaci\u00f3n: Mi valiente aventura sin un hombre"},"content":{"rendered":"<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Acabo de volver de mis primeras vacaciones en 11 a\u00f1os. Hace poco dije que hab\u00edan sido 15, pero olvid\u00e9 que fui a Las Vegas hace 11 a\u00f1os. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u2019ve written about how my ex would screw up our finances beyond repair and that I have since discovered he also had a gambling habit. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This obviously limited our ability to go on vacations. Our oldest had been begging us to take a trip to the ocean since she was four, and I always felt bad that I couldn\u2019t ever make it come true.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> Well, I finally did just that, on my own. Yes, a family member came with me, but I wouldn\u2019t have even been able to afford this either way, within my marriage. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Me sent\u00ed bien al llevar a mis hijos al otro lado del pa\u00eds, en un viaje por carretera, para ver el oc\u00e9ano.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\tThis blog is about loving the other side of marriage, life, and love, and what I just experienced speaks to all of that\u2014all while having nothing to do with any man, any dating stories or anything related to a male or significant other. This is purely about loving the other side of my life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> Empec\u00e9 a planear este viaje como una forma de distraerme de pensar en citas para ser totalmente honesto. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Empec\u00e9 a jugar con aplicaciones como AirBnB hace m\u00e1s de un a\u00f1o y a darle vueltas a la idea de poder hacer por fin este viaje con mis hijos. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Y como con la mayor\u00eda de las cosas desde que rehice mi vida, lo hice realidad.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\tIn my marriage, I would\u2019ve never been able to do this because there wouldn\u2019t have been money to do so. I was too busy just trying to survive\u2014all the time.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\tS\u00ed, he trabajado duro para poder viajar al oc\u00e9ano, pero ha merecido la pena. Este viaje me sac\u00f3 de mi zona de confort de muchas maneras, y me deleit\u00e9 con cada paso.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Aside from the financial aspect of being able to actually book and plan the trip, I never would\u2019ve imagined I, alone, as the sole driver, would drive nearly 15 hours to a beach.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">But I did. I don\u2019t think it would\u2019ve even been a thought of mine to do it because if it had been a reality financially, I would\u2019ve expected him to drive. But I got my car ready, and I made that trip. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"565\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_159616337.jpg\" alt=\"Una ventana a mi curaci\u00f3n: Mi valiente aventura sin un hombre \" class=\"wp-image-42347\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_159616337.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_159616337-300x212.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_159616337-768x542.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Conduje por muchos estados, campos abiertos y monta\u00f1as. Atraves\u00e9 los sinuosos y ventosos Apalaches y me qued\u00e9 asombrado. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Vi lugares que nunca hab\u00eda visto antes y, con exclamaciones de deleite, los asimil\u00e9 tanto como pude.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\tI am in awe I made this trip so well, so calmly overall. I am proud I drove it. And just like I\u2019ve been learning these last couple of years, when the road got treacherous, I simply slowed down a bit, took my time, and enjoyed the view.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\tEsto es lo que hago en mi vida. Cuando las cosas se ponen dif\u00edciles, puede que baje el ritmo, que pase un fin de semana tumbada, sola, pero me tomo mi tiempo para volver a lo que s\u00e9 que son mis valores fundamentales: fuerza, pasi\u00f3n, ambici\u00f3n y el deseo de proporcionar una vida hermosa a mis hijos y a m\u00ed misma.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> My journey to this point hasn\u2019t always been easy. In fact, it was often fret with struggle, fear, and unexpected\u2014as well as expected\u2014setbacks. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hasta ahora, este camino ha dado muchas vueltas. Hubo monta\u00f1as que tuve que escalar y momentos en los que pude bajar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">If the road got hard to see or became too twisty for me to handle, I\u2019d slow down and take it step by step, until I could find a way.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> No todas las vistas eran para disfrutarlas. Hubo miedo y conflictos en mi vida poco despu\u00e9s de decir que quer\u00eda el divorcio. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La cuesta arriba financiera que dej\u00f3 tras de s\u00ed el desastre que cre\u00f3. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">When I lost my job twice along the way, and then spent a summer without much pay and no child support, it was an uphill climb, but I made it to the top\u2014well, compared to where I have been, indeed this is the top.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\tEn cada punto, simplemente ajust\u00e9 mi velocidad. Y trat\u00e9 de disfrutar de la vista.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> No todas las vistas eran bonitas. La industria minera de Virginia Occidental mancha lo que podr\u00edan ser unos valles impresionantes, aunque Virginia Occidental en s\u00ed era, con diferencia, la m\u00e1s bonita para recorrer en coche. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">El centro de casi todas las grandes ciudades est\u00e1 plagado de edificios en ruinas, recuerdo de una gloria desvanecida.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"> Pero hab\u00eda monta\u00f1as cubiertas de \u00e1rboles tan espesos que me suplicaban que me subiera a ellos, al tiempo que escond\u00edan sus peligros en lo m\u00e1s profundo. Hab\u00eda extensiones abiertas de tierras de labranza ba\u00f1adas por la luz del sol que me daban ganas de pintar. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">El oc\u00e9ano, en toda su poderosa gloria, se mostraba apacible, y a veces embravecido, pero en cualquier caso, las olas persist\u00edan, acerc\u00e1ndose incesantemente a la orilla, toc\u00e1ndola con una suave caricia o con un estruendo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">La marea arrastraba peces, conchas, rocas, algas, y se lo llevaba todo con la misma rapidez.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A veces las olas se deslizan suavemente sobre ti, sumergi\u00e9ndote en la calma. Otras veces te golpean con la fuerza necesaria para derribarte, aunque s\u00f3lo sea por un segundo. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Puedes caer con una ola, mientras otra te golpea por detr\u00e1s antes de que puedas orientarte.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This week, I enjoyed the view. I sat back on the beach, watching my oldest jump in waves she could hardly believe she was brave enough to jump into, as my youngest flirted with his idea of danger by dancing at the water\u2019s edge and occasionally letting a small wave lick at his legs. I knew, for them, they were demonstrating their own brand of bravery. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"539\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_437089297.jpg\" alt=\" Una ventana a mi curaci\u00f3n: Mi valiente aventura sin un hombre \" class=\"wp-image-42348\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_437089297.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_437089297-300x202.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_437089297-768x517.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">My mother, who can\u2019t swim, got in, and I didn\u2019t even expect that. She didn\u2019t either. Life is about risk if it&#8217;s going to be any fun. It\u2019s about doing things that scare you, feeling the fear, the rush, and then the pride.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mir\u00e9 al horizonte y a las nubes que pasaban por encima. Sonre\u00ed, sabiendo que mis hijos eran felices. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sabiendo que lo hab\u00eda hecho. Sabiendo que los hab\u00eda tra\u00eddo hasta aqu\u00ed. Los hab\u00eda llevado a la costa de nuestro gran pa\u00eds, nuestro hermoso pa\u00eds.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I thought of Zora Neale Hurston\u2019s words in <em>Sus ojos miraban a Dios<\/em>. Habla del horizonte y lo compara con los sue\u00f1os. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">She talks about love being like the shore, and how it\u2019s never the same for everyone. She talks about ships at a distance\u2026.you <em>debe<\/em> leer el libro en su vida. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Pero, en cada pensamiento, recordaba c\u00f3mo hab\u00eda llegado al horizonte, y c\u00f3mo mi amor es tan grande por mis hijos, y ahora, tambi\u00e9n por m\u00ed misma. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I don\u2019t know that I knew what love really was until I got divorced. Isn\u2019t that ironic?\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Just as I had once brought myself to the painful realization that many waves would knock me down before I would be strong enough to swim in them, this vacation was metaphorically, my realization that I have healed completely. I don\u2019t think the vacation healed me. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I think I was healed, but it was during this trip, 1000 miles from home, that it dawned on me that I am healed. This is what healing looks like, and it\u2019s beautiful, and tan, and glowing.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mi antiguo terapeuta me pregunt\u00f3 una vez c\u00f3mo cre\u00eda que ser\u00eda estar completamente curado. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u2019m not sure how anyone can answer that question, at least without some hesitation, wondering if you would recognize healing when it came. There were times I thought I wouldn\u2019t recognize it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">There were times I thought of it as a process, and times I thought I\u2019d wonder if I\u2019d ever heal because there will always be a part of me that will be left shattered, and there will be times that scared woman will return. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">This doesn\u2019t mean I haven\u2019t healed. Your knee might heal from surgery, but it may ache every time it rains. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">True healing means that things are mended enough to resume normal life\u2014or at least, your new normal. This is my new, and wonderful, normal.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">A decir verdad, he llegado muy lejos y he trabajado mucho conmigo misma durante este proceso. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ni una sola vez le he echado de menos, aunque hubo unas cuantas veces, tal vez tres, en las que ech\u00e9 de menos la idea de lo que cre\u00eda que una vez fue y de lo que podr\u00edamos ser.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Puede que esta \u00faltima semana sea la de mi curaci\u00f3n. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"600\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_556022257.jpg\" alt=\"Una ventana a mi curaci\u00f3n: Mi valiente aventura sin un hombre \" class=\"wp-image-42350\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_556022257.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_556022257-300x225.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/shutterstock_556022257-768x576.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u00ed, he conseguido muchas otras cosas realmente incre\u00edbles y he dado un giro completo a mi vida. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Es totalmente irreconocible de la vida que viv\u00eda hace s\u00f3lo dos a\u00f1os. Pero ver la aventura, sin un hombre como apoyo, es una experiencia totalmente infundada para m\u00ed, sobrecogedora e inquietantemente hermosa.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fui yo quien condujo casi 15 horas en cada sentido,<em> en ambos sentidos<\/em>, and even though I was offered help, this time I didn\u2019t want to take it. I wanted to be the one to do it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I wanted to know that I could make that drive without him, that I wouldn\u2019t be the one napping in the passenger seat like before. Because nobody is steering my life but me.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I love myself and my children so very much that I cannot wait for my next adventure\u2014solo and with them. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u2019m ready to live again; nay, I\u2019m ready to live for the first time. I\u2019m ready to drive the open road; race down hills; get knocked over by gnarly waves; hike tall hills, mountains, and deserts; and in the process, hit road bumps. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I\u2019m ready to fully embrace all that life has to offer me and to drink from every cup passed my way. I\u2019m ready to see this brave, new world!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Lately, although I haven\u2019t felt down, my posts have been a bit darker. This trip shined a light, both figuratively and literally, on all that I was neglecting to tell you about existence on the other side of love, marriage, and life. It\u2019s got some absolutely breathtaking vistas if you give it a chance.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I hope that if you are going through the thick of it right now, you\u2019re on the upswing or you haven\u2019t left because you\u2019re too afraid, this post might remind you how beautiful life can be. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Espero que aunque tu matrimonio sea saludable, tu pareja sea incre\u00edble o tu vida de soltero sea fabulosa, recuerdes fijarte en las peque\u00f1as cosas que haces cada d\u00eda y en lo incre\u00edble que eres.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">It might have been brave of you to go out waist deep in the ocean or maybe it\u2019s just enough to dip your feet in, but do it. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Strive each day to something you\u2019ve never done before\u2014to go a little harder in your workout, to make a new dish, to drive somewhere far away. It doesn\u2019t have to be big though. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Lo que importa es que fue nuevo para ti, que te tomaste un momento para salir de lo que sabes, para hacer lo que puedes. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">To live fully. I always tell my oldest to \u201cfear less, live more\u201d. That\u2019s my brave new world life\u2019s motto.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Don\u2019t forget to notice how inspiring life and this beautiful world we live in is either. Love the other side! My God\u2014there is so much to love!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Por favor, comparte este post con cualquiera que necesite ser levantado hoy o con cualquiera que haya llegado tan lejos. Por favor, introduzca su informaci\u00f3n a continuaci\u00f3n para seguir mi blog.\u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Con mucho amor,<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Adriana<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Por Adriana Verdad<br><\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/PINTEREST-2019-08-28T094744.287-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\" Una ventana a mi curaci\u00f3n: Mi valiente aventura sin un hombre \" class=\"wp-image-42356\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/PINTEREST-2019-08-28T094744.287-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/PINTEREST-2019-08-28T094744.287-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/08\/PINTEREST-2019-08-28T094744.287.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/figure>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>I just got back from my first vacation in 11 years. I recently said it had been 15, but I did forget I went to Vegas 11 years ago. I\u2019ve written about how my ex would screw up our finances beyond repair and that I have since discovered he also had a gambling habit. 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