{"id":42754,"date":"2019-09-04T13:50:06","date_gmt":"2019-09-04T13:50:06","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=42754"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:49:00","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:49:00","slug":"por-que-no-te-vas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-no-te-vas\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 no te vas?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><b>Debe gustarte.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>You\u2019re weak &#8211; You want attention.<\/p>\n<p>Estas son las declaraciones que recib\u00ed todos los d\u00edas durante a\u00f1os de amigos, familiares y desconocidos que fueron testigos de lo que ocurr\u00eda.<\/p>\n<p>Even to this day when telling my story, looks of confusion and sympathy are painted across their faces. And then there is the occasional asshole who has only ever had good relationships in their life that thinks you enjoy what you&#8217;re going through.<\/p>\n<p><b>Abuse ranges from emotional, physical, financial, sexual, and many more.\u00a0 I found myself in the worst emotionally &amp; physically abusive relationship.<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-42760 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/shutterstock_546053680-23.jpg\" alt=\"\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 no te vas?\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/shutterstock_546053680-23.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/shutterstock_546053680-23-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/shutterstock_546053680-23-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Mi retorcida historia de amor empez\u00f3 con el control de las redes sociales, luego con empujones. Se gradu\u00f3 a ser escupido, patadas, pu\u00f1etazos, objetos que se azotan a m\u00ed, y, finalmente, ser mordido \/ maltratado varias veces por su perro.<\/p>\n<p>Luego estaba el control de si pod\u00eda dormir, ducharme, maquillarme, a qui\u00e9n ve\u00eda en mi familia y cu\u00e1ndo pod\u00eda trabajar.<\/p>\n<p>Staying felt in some royally messed up way safer then leaving. Imagine deciding to endure abuse because you\u2019re more afraid of what happens after. Learning to do your day-to-day without being told what you will be doing that day or allowed to.<\/p>\n<p>Lo m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil es marcharse y no volver. Pod\u00eda marcharme en un arrebato de derrota, rabia, tristeza, pero no contestar al tel\u00e9fono y aceptar la disculpa a medias fue lo m\u00e1s duro.<\/p>\n<p>HOPE WAS HUGE &#8211; Hope that it would go back to how it once was; hope that you&#8217;d change and realize what was going on wasn\u2019t okay. Hope that you would just stop leaving marks across my body. In your drug-induced nice spells, you would talk about knowing that you can&#8217;t hurt me physically the way you were anymore. <\/p>\n<p>El mism\u00edsimo Jekyll y Hyde original. Me hiciste sentir in\u00fatil y me lo cre\u00ed. Hasta el d\u00eda en que toda mi esperanza se agot\u00f3, soport\u00e9 todo lo que me lanzabas.<\/p>\n<p>Leaving is not even a thought in your head most of the time. Or if it is one, it quickly fades away because the one abusing you I guarantee is a narcissistic asshole who knows telling you he&#8217;ll be with another woman or something insane like that will keep you there.<\/p>\n<p>The thought of losing the person that you went through so much for is terrifying. You\u2019ve gotten brainwashed into thinking you aren&#8217;t worth the dirt on the streets. But I&#8217;m here to tell you baby girl &#8211; the only dirt in your life is the one doing this to you!<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-42761 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/shutterstock_546053680-24.jpg\" alt=\"\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 no te vas?\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/shutterstock_546053680-24.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/shutterstock_546053680-24-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/shutterstock_546053680-24-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>I know this is scary, I know not answering his phone call literally makes you shake at the thought of how he is going to react. He is going to tell all of your friends you&#8217;re a terrible person, and he NEVER laid a hand on you or cheated. Trust and believe that once you walk away, anything private shared between you and him is now public knowledge.<\/p>\n<p>I have been there. I stood with my head down, by myself, shaking outside of The Protection From Abuse (PFA) department in my county with tears running down my face. I froze. I couldn&#8217;t move until an officer approached me asking if I was lost.<\/p>\n<p>Estaba perdida. Ya no sab\u00eda qui\u00e9n era cuando me miraba al espejo. No ten\u00eda ni idea de lo que me gustaba, ni aficiones, ni amigos. Lo perd\u00ed todo en los tres a\u00f1os que me dediqu\u00e9 a \u00e9l.<\/p>\n<p>Even after having court order put in place, it took a long time to want to face myself and see if the picture he painted me to be in my mind was the same one staring back at me in the mirror. It took a long time to be able to take a picture of myself and post it online. Finding myself beautiful again or leaving my house to be social took a very long time. Most of my friends have returned into my life. I&#8217;ve made more. I\u2019ve started to date again. This was by no means easy, but I guarantee once you realize it is not normal to cry on a daily basis and be so upset, you will fall in love with the peace.<\/p>\n<p>There is no overnight cure to fix the traumas you\u2019ve endured. The only fix is time and self-love. Loving yourself and putting your safety, happiness, and future in your hands.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: right;\"><b>por Jess Heller<\/b><\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-42764 size-large\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/10-Sides-You-Experience-When-You-Are-Head-Over-Heels-With-Him-7-683x1024.jpg\" alt=\"\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 no te vas?\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/10-Sides-You-Experience-When-You-Are-Head-Over-Heels-With-Him-7-683x1024.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/10-Sides-You-Experience-When-You-Are-Head-Over-Heels-With-Him-7-200x300.jpg 200w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/10-Sides-You-Experience-When-You-Are-Head-Over-Heels-With-Him-7.jpg 735w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":42763,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-42754","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/shutterstock_546053680-25.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42754","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=42754"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/42754\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/42763"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=42754"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=42754"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=42754"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}