{"id":43487,"date":"2020-07-25T20:24:21","date_gmt":"2020-07-25T20:24:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=43487"},"modified":"2021-08-12T09:22:16","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T09:22:16","slug":"querido-ex-gracias-por-ensenarme-puedo-hacerlo-mucho-mejor-que-tu","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/querido-ex-gracias-por-ensenarme-puedo-hacerlo-mucho-mejor-que-tu\/","title":{"rendered":"Querido ex: Gracias por ense\u00f1arme que puedo hacerlo mucho mejor que t\u00fa"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>En lugar de perder el tiempo enfadada, frustrada y confusa sobre por qu\u00e9 o c\u00f3mo terminamos de la manera en que lo hicimos, elijo verlo desde una perspectiva sana y agradecida.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;Weird, I know. Those are the last words that you\u2019d expect to hear from me now but I genuinely feel no resentment toward you anymore.<\/p>\n<p>Ese barco ha zarpado.<\/p>\n<p>Durante el tiempo que ha pasado desde que t\u00fa y yo nos separamos, he sentido todas las emociones del espectro.<\/p>\n<p>And it wasn\u2019t all roses and butterflies. Not by a long shot.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<b>Primero, estaba cabreada. Y quiero decir TAN cabreado.<\/b> Y creo que sabes por qu\u00e9.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91862\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/upset-woman-pulling-her-hair.jpg\" alt=\"mujer disgustada tir\u00e1ndose del pelo\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/upset-woman-pulling-her-hair.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/upset-woman-pulling-her-hair-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/upset-woman-pulling-her-hair-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>We spent almost two years basically living together and planning a future by each other\u2019s side.<\/p>\n<p>Hablamos del lugar al que quer\u00edamos mudarnos y nos planteamos seriamente comprar ese precioso Golden Retriever que vimos aquel d\u00eda en la protectora.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;Me sent\u00eda feliz. Me sent\u00eda realizada. Estaba segura de que hab\u00eda encontrado la pieza que me faltaba y me sent\u00eda tan segura y c\u00f3moda a tu lado.<\/p>\n<p>Usted <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/to-the-only-man-who-made-me-feel-alive-but-was-wrong-for-me\/\">me hizo sentir<\/a> that way. I know it wasn\u2019t all in my head.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que cuando decidiste hacer lo que hiciste, puedes entender lo incre\u00edblemente cabreado y confuso que estaba.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;Me quitaste lo \u00fanico bueno que ten\u00eda en ese momento (\u00a1nuestra relaci\u00f3n!) y decidiste que ya no era algo con lo que quisieras seguir, como si yo fuera una aventura temporal con la que pasar el tiempo hasta que llegara una persona mejor.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfQui\u00e9n co\u00f1o hace eso?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<b>Y eso me dej\u00f3 completamente inconsolable.<\/b> Sec\u00e1ndome las l\u00e1grimas en la almohada durante semanas del tipo inconsolable.<\/p>\n<p>Ya no pod\u00eda soportar estar tan enfadado. Casi me convirti\u00f3 en un completo psic\u00f3pata.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;I\u2019d look at your photos and I just wanted to punch you but then tears would come streaming down my face and I\u2019d just weep, staring at something that no longer existed.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91864\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/close-up-photo-of-crying-woman.jpg\" alt=\"foto de primer plano de mujer llorando\" width=\"800\" height=\"533\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/close-up-photo-of-crying-woman.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/close-up-photo-of-crying-woman-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/close-up-photo-of-crying-woman-768x512.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>And I just couldn\u2019t believe you and I no longer were what we <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/una-carta-a-la-chica-que-fui\/\">sol\u00eda ser<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;Me preguntaba por qu\u00e9 ocurr\u00eda esto cada noche mientras intentaba llegar al fondo del asunto.<\/p>\n<p>\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 tiraste de la manta tan inesperada e inmerecidamente? \u00bfC\u00f3mo es que mis emociones no te importaban?<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;You must have known how gutted you would leave me and yet\u2026 you didn\u2019t seem to care.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>I didn\u2019t know if you\u2019d found someone else or if I simply no longer pleased your every need but it hurt like a motherfucker.<\/p>\n<p>Until it no longer didn\u2019t.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<b>Cuando por fin termin\u00e9 con la parte del duelo, ocurri\u00f3 lo m\u00e1s inesperado.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>De repente sent\u00ed que me quitaba un peso de encima. Me sent\u00ed fortalecido.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91860\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/relaxed-woman-with-closed-eyes-leaning-on-wall.jpg\" alt=\"mujer relajada con los ojos cerrados apoyada en la pared\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/relaxed-woman-with-closed-eyes-leaning-on-wall.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/relaxed-woman-with-closed-eyes-leaning-on-wall-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/relaxed-woman-with-closed-eyes-leaning-on-wall-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Fue como si por fin pudiera ver las cosas desde una distancia segura y todo empezara a tener sentido.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;I\u2019m not saying I was suddenly, magically healed or anything.<\/p>\n<p>Pero por FIN sent\u00ed que las cosas empezaban a tener mucho m\u00e1s sentido.<\/p>\n<p>Despu\u00e9s de cabrearme y llorar a moco tendido, recuper\u00e9 la perspectiva. Por fin pod\u00eda ver con claridad.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;Pude verte como realmente eras y pude ver nuestra relaci\u00f3n como lo que realmente era, en lugar de lo que yo idealizaba en mi cabeza.&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>S\u00ed, claro, <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/love\/i-hope-youll-always-remember-the-way-i-loved-you\/\">Te quer\u00eda<\/a> y durante un tiempo, estuvimos muy bien juntos.<\/p>\n<p>But after doing some serious soul searching, I realized we didn\u2019t belong with each other.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<b>Aunque te quer\u00eda, nuestra ruptura fue lo que necesitaba para darme cuenta de lo que merezco. <\/b><\/p>\n<p>And it wasn\u2019t you!<\/p>\n<p>See\u2026 what I finally realized was that a person who loves you deeply and unconditionally does not leave you broken and in pieces the way you did me.<\/p>\n<p>As\u00ed que lo que realmente quiero hacer aqu\u00ed es decirte GRACIAS. Gracias por ense\u00f1arme que no eras un tipo digno de mis l\u00e1grimas.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91861\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/smiling-woman-wearing-sunglasses.jpg\" alt=\"mujer sonriente con gafas de sol\" width=\"800\" height=\"537\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/smiling-woman-wearing-sunglasses.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/smiling-woman-wearing-sunglasses-300x201.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/smiling-woman-wearing-sunglasses-768x516.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>No eras alguien que mereciera mi amor o mis esfuerzos. Fuiste una lecci\u00f3n sobre con qu\u00e9 no conformarse nunca m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n<p>Y hoy, con la cabeza despejada, la mente sana y una perspectiva feliz de la vida, puedo decir con orgullo: \u00a1Gracias por ense\u00f1arme que puedo hacerlo MUCHO mejor que t\u00fa!<\/p>\n<p>Y lo digo con cero resentimiento, cero rabia y completamente agradecida por haber aprendido esto (aunque haya sido por las malas).<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<b>Ahora, ya no estoy centrada en odiarte por lo que me hiciste a m\u00ed y a mi autoestima.<\/b><\/p>\n<p>Ya no estoy centrada en resentirte por haber desperdiciado dos preciosos a\u00f1os de mi vida.<\/p>\n<p>And I no longer want to punch you in the face (well, okay\u2026 maybe a <i>peque\u00f1o<\/i> bit).<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;Pero ya me entiendes.<\/p>\n<p>If it wasn\u2019t for you leaving me all alone and in the dark, I would never have realized what <a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/relationship\/5-maneras-de-saber-si-es-amor-de-verdad-o-solo-una-ilusion-narcisista\/\">amor verdadero<\/a> realmente es y con qu\u00e9 no confundirlo nunca.<\/p>\n<p>Gracias.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;If it wasn\u2019t for you, I never would\u2019ve realized that I am more than deserving of that over-the-top grandiose love story that I will tell my grandkids about one day, making them wish to find something exactly like that.<\/p>\n<p>I would always settle for what I could get\u2026 but now, my standards are higher and my tolerance for assholes like you is much lower.<\/p>\n<p>Y tengo que agradec\u00e9rtelo nada menos que a TI, mi querida y dulce ex.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91863\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-raising-her-hands-outside-while-smiling.jpg\" alt=\"mujer levantando las manos al aire libre mientras sonr\u00ede\" width=\"800\" height=\"534\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-raising-her-hands-outside-while-smiling.jpg 800w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-raising-her-hands-outside-while-smiling-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/woman-raising-her-hands-outside-while-smiling-768x513.jpg 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;Ahora, s\u00f3lo acepto en mi vida a personas puras y aut\u00e9nticas cuyas intenciones est\u00e9n claras desde el principio.<\/p>\n<p>Ya no tolero esfuerzos a medias que en el fondo son enormes banderas rojas de lo que me espera en el futuro. No, se\u00f1or, ya no.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;Don\u2019t get me wrong. If a good guy comes into my life and sweeps me off my feet, I\u2019ll welcome him with open arms!<\/p>\n<p>Pero hasta que eso ocurra, soy perfectamente feliz por mi cuenta. Y sinti\u00e9ndome mejor conmigo misma de lo que nunca me he sentido mientras estuve contigo.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<b>En \u00faltima instancia, <\/b><a href=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/life\/me-rompiste-el-corazon-pero-no-me-rompiste-a-mi\/\"><b>you didn\u2019t break me<\/b><\/a><b>. <\/b>Me has convertido en una versi\u00f3n mejor, m\u00e1s fuerte y mejorada de m\u00ed misma. Y por eso te estar\u00e9 siempre agradecido.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;Le deseo lo mejor,<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;El que se escap\u00f3<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"aligncenter size-full wp-image-91865\" src=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Dear-Ex-Thank-You-For-Teaching-Me-I-Can-Do-SO-Much-Better-Than-You-Pinterest.jpg\" alt=\"Querido ex: Gracias por ense\u00f1arme que puedo hacerlo mucho mejor que t\u00fa\" width=\"683\" height=\"1024\" srcset=\"https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Dear-Ex-Thank-You-For-Teaching-Me-I-Can-Do-SO-Much-Better-Than-You-Pinterest.jpg 683w, https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Dear-Ex-Thank-You-For-Teaching-Me-I-Can-Do-SO-Much-Better-Than-You-Pinterest-200x300.jpg 200w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 683px) 100vw, 683px\" \/><\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Instead of wasting my time being angry, frustrated and confused about why or how we ended the way we did, I choose to look at it from a healthy and thankful perspective. &nbsp;Weird, I know. Those are the last words that you\u2019d expect to hear from me now but I genuinely feel no resentment toward&#8230;<\/p>","protected":false},"author":41,"featured_media":91859,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29653],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-43487","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-letters"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29653,"label":"letters"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/Dear-Ex-Thank-You-For-Teaching-Me-I-Can-Do-SO-Much-Better-Than-You.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Martha Sullivan","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/martha-sullivan\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29653,"name":"letters","slug":"letters","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29653,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Regardless if you're looking for moving on, romantic, emotional, or open letters on various topics, you can be sure that you'll find it all here. 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