{"id":43528,"date":"2019-09-26T14:33:46","date_gmt":"2019-09-26T14:33:46","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=43528"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:13:19","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:13:19","slug":"si-te-duele-mucho-la-cicatrizacion-lee-esto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/si-te-duele-mucho-la-cicatrizacion-lee-esto\/","title":{"rendered":"Si la curaci\u00f3n te duele demasiado, lee esto"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sol\u00eda pensar que el tiempo era todo lo que necesitaba para sentirme mejor. <\/span><\/p>\n

I thought healing was moving up the scale with each new day at the same speed towards something better\u2014something less painful. <\/span><\/p>\n

I thought that is how it\u2019s supposed to be. Enduring the pain, and trying to move on with your life, fighting hard to believe that each following day is better. <\/span><\/p>\n

But, it\u2019s not. <\/span><\/p>\n

Healing doesn\u2019t work the way I thought it did. <\/span><\/p>\n

You should think that after so many times of being stuck in the same circle of pain and self-pity, I\u2019d learn to be better and smarter about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

I wasn\u2019t smarter, and I wasn\u2019t better. I made the same mistake over and over again. <\/b><\/p>\n

Pens\u00e9 que me curar\u00eda s\u00f3lo porque tengo que hacerlo. Pens\u00e9 que mejorar\u00eda de un d\u00eda para otro.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Silueta<\/p>\n

But healing isn\u2019t like that at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Habr\u00e1 d\u00edas o incluso meses que parezcan interminables y estancados. <\/b><\/p>\n

On the other hand, there will be days where you\u2019ll see progress you haven\u2019t seen in months. <\/b><\/p>\n

\u00bfLo entiendes ahora?<\/span><\/p>\n

La curaci\u00f3n no es un proceso que implique reglas y un determinado calendario por el que tengas que pasar. <\/span><\/p>\n

No se empieza desde abajo y se asciende a la misma velocidad y con la misma constancia. <\/span><\/p>\n

Time alone won\u2019t make things better. Actually, the whole \u2018getting better\u2019 thing depends solely on you. <\/span><\/p>\n

Depende de lo fuerte que seas, del tiempo que tardes en levantarte y, lo m\u00e1s importante, de tu capacidad para mantenerte positivo y dispuesto a seguir adelante.  <\/span><\/p>\n

It depends on the days and the mood you\u2019re in. We\u2019ve all been through bad days, regardless whether we\u2019re healing or not. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even when we aren\u2019t, bad days are bad on their own. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por lo tanto, pasar por el proceso de curaci\u00f3n en los d\u00edas malos simplemente no puede ser positivo. De alguna manera hay que crear maravillas para que esos d\u00edas sean soportables y no tan malos.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Tienes que entender que la curaci\u00f3n se pondr\u00e1 fea. <\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Te quitar\u00e1 la autoestima, el respeto por ti mismo y te har\u00e1 dudar de tus capacidades. Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, har\u00e1 tambalear tu confianza y tus ganas de ganar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Healing isn\u2019t constant. It goes up and down; it\u2019s like a rollercoaster. It\u2019s unpredictable and extremely painful. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tu coraz\u00f3n ya herido y tu alma sensible no pueden subirse a una monta\u00f1a rusa emocional m\u00e1s. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s devastating and painful as hell. It\u2019s not something you can handle at this point.  <\/span><\/p>\n

But you mustn\u2019t fall under pressure. You mustn\u2019t give up. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even when you feel like you\u2019re drowning in a sea of self-loathing and guilt, you mustn\u2019t give in to your toxic feelings and thoughts. <\/span><\/p>\n

After all, there will be days when healing won\u2019t hurt as much and when you\u2019ll feel like you have everything under control. <\/b><\/p>\n

There will be times when you\u2019ll think everything will be okay. <\/b><\/p>\n

\"Chica<\/p>\n

Tienes que abrazar esos d\u00edas y aferrarte a ellos con fuerza. Esos d\u00edas son la clave de tu curaci\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farate de que esos d\u00edas duren lo m\u00e1ximo posible; aseg\u00farate de sentirte positivo y esperanzado.<\/span><\/p>\n

While you\u2019re in the good phase of healing, you\u2019ll notice people who love you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll appreciate their help, and you\u2019ll take their love both-handed without even thinking about it. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll feel like you can do this. You\u2019ll be confident and determined to get through this rough period.<\/span><\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in your bad phase, you\u2019ll push people who love you away from you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll deny anyone\u2019s help and support which will make you feel even more alone. Then, it\u2019s so much easier to fall into the depression and self-judgment pit.  <\/span><\/p>\n

Lleva tiempo curarse, pero nunca se sabe cu\u00e1ndo ocurrir\u00e1. <\/b><\/p>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Hace falta un peque\u00f1o detonante para que solloces y te derrumbes, para que liberes todo lo t\u00f3xico de tu organismo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Puede ocurrir cuando menos te lo esperas. Puede ocurrir en mitad de la noche a causa de un sue\u00f1o extra\u00f1o. <\/span><\/p>\n

Puede desencadenarlo algo o alguien que ves. La cuesti\u00f3n es que te golpea en el coraz\u00f3n y, en esos momentos, tienes que mantenerte firme.<\/span><\/p>\n

But all that pain is worth that one sincere and huge smile you crack on your face. It\u2019s worth every tear and every stab in the heart you felt. <\/span><\/p>\n

That smile is the first sign you\u2019re actually getting to a state where you want to be\u2014healed and happy.<\/span><\/p>\n

La curaci\u00f3n comienza y termina en periodos.<\/span><\/a> Lo importante es que mantengas la calma en todo momento. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tranquilo y racional. Tienes que creer en ti mismo y en tu capacidad para sentirte mejor, para ser mejor. <\/span><\/p>\n

You have to believe that you won\u2019t drown in self-pity and depression. <\/b><\/p>\n

Every day is a battle when you\u2019re healing. But you\u2019re not gaining strength in vain. That strong will and strength won\u2019t disappear once you get better. <\/span><\/p>\n

It will stay a part of you, a part of your character. It will be a lesson you\u2019ve learned and a piece of past you\u2019re carrying as a reminder of what not to do.<\/b><\/p>\n

Until then…hold on. Endure the pain because it eventually ends. Just be strong and build the person you want to be for the rest of your life.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Si<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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