{"id":43715,"date":"2020-09-30T12:22:20","date_gmt":"2020-09-30T12:22:20","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=43715"},"modified":"2021-08-11T12:42:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T12:42:30","slug":"7-pensamientos-que-se-te-pasan-por-la-cabeza-cuando-tienes-una-relacion-trastorno-de-estres-postraumatico","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/7-pensamientos-que-se-te-pasan-por-la-cabeza-cuando-tienes-una-relacion-trastorno-de-estres-postraumatico\/","title":{"rendered":"7 pensamientos que se te pasan por la cabeza cuando tienes una relaci\u00f3n TEPT"},"content":{"rendered":"

Las relaciones traum\u00e1ticas pueden basarse en un trauma psicol\u00f3gico, verbal, f\u00edsico o sexual, o pueden ser una combinaci\u00f3n de todo lo anterior.<\/p>\n

If you\u2019re coming out of such a relationship, you\u2019re probably experiencing post-traumatic relationship syndrome, where you feel like no one understands you and you feel vulnerable, hurt and unable to trust anyone.<\/p>\n

Tu cuerpo y tu mente est\u00e1n doloridos y pierdes la esperanza en d\u00edas mejores y en la curaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

You feel afraid of making another commitment because you\u2019re convinced that someone will hurt you again.<\/p>\n

Or you feel utterly helpless and you don\u2019t see the point in trying to do anything about it or seeking help from others.<\/p>\n

While it\u2019s totally understandable that victims of a traumatic relationship feel that way, certain attitudes can prolong your pain and make you even more vulnerable.<\/p>\n

Las siguientes 7 actitudes pueden mantenerte atascado en un relaci\u00f3n traum\u00e1tica <\/a> \u00a1alias limbo y por eso es de vital importancia empezar a trabajar en ellos a tiempo!<\/p>\n

\u201cI don\u2019t see the point in trying\u2026\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This one reflects the syndrome called \u2018learned helplessness\u2019.<\/p>\n

When you don\u2019t see the point in trying and dealing with the current situation, it means you\u2019re being overly pessimistic, you don\u2019t believe that things will change and you give up because you have no motivation to keep pushing forward in life.<\/p>\n

This attitude can become ingrained (especially if you\u2019ve experienced a few traumas in a row) but it\u2019s really important that you fight it with all of your strength.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to find a silver lining and understand the need to push forward in life instead of giving up immediately.<\/p>\n

\u201cNo one ever made it, so why should I try?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

When we\u2019re trying to find an excuse for not doing something, we reflexively refer to other people who haven\u2019t succeeded in overcoming something and not those who did.<\/p>\n

Como los ni\u00f1os en la escuela.<\/p>\n

When they get a bad grade, they instantly point to others who got a bad grade too, just to prove that it should be so and the majority didn\u2019t succeed in getting a good grade.<\/p>\n

Whenever this sentence \u2018No one ever made it, so why should I try?\u2019 comes to your mind, just convert it into a statement: \u201cIf I never try, I\u2019ll never make it!\u201d<\/p>\n

Y t\u00fa mismo sabes la verdad que hay gente que lo ha conseguido y lo han conseguido por ser decididos, optimistas y por creer que sus esfuerzos dar\u00e1n fruto.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhy me?\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

This is one of the most frequent questions when we\u2019re dealing with post-traumatic experiences.<\/p>\n

We ask ourselves, \u201cWhy me?\u201d when things don\u2019t go as we would like them to.<\/p>\n

Pero lo cierto es que nada sale en la vida como queremos y cuanto antes lo aceptemos, mejor.<\/p>\n

En lugar de maldecir tu destino, comprende que hay otra persona (o miles de ellas) en el mundo haci\u00e9ndose esa misma pregunta.<\/p>\n

We can\u2019t influence what will happen to us but we can influence its consequences.<\/p>\n

Recuerda que la aceptaci\u00f3n de nuestra realidad es la primera \u00a1paso a la curaci\u00f3n! <\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cI will just forget that anything happened and make the best of it!\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Otra actitud peligrosa es desentenderse de los acontecimientos pasados y decidir seguir viviendo como si nada hubiera ocurrido.<\/p>\n

Denial can cause ten times more serious consequences and that is why we should never try to suppress our emotions or something we\u2019ve gone through.<\/p>\n

Como ya se ha dicho, el primer paso para curarse es aceptar lo que pas\u00f3 y comprenderlo en lugar de olvidarlo todo y seguir adelante como si nada hubiera pasado.<\/p>\n

Esto es lo peor que puedes hacer por ti mismo y, si te quedas demasiado tiempo con esa actitud, lo m\u00e1s seguro es que te salga el tiro por la culata con tremendas consecuencias.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Si reprimes tus emociones, deber\u00edas leer esto <\/a><\/p>\n

\u201cNothing hurts me. I\u2019m strong. I don\u2019t cry.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"morena<\/p>\n

Sometimes we\u2019re afraid to be vulnerable and we think that if we don\u2019t show any sign of being hurt, we will win the battle.<\/p>\n

Pero esto no es cierto en absoluto. Este tipo de actitud s\u00f3lo prolongar\u00e1 las consecuencias del dolor y el trauma en lugar de hacerte sentir mejor.<\/p>\n

Recuerda que forzarte a sentir ciertas emociones no es lo mismo que sentirlas de verdad en tu interior.<\/p>\n

Pretending that you\u2019re tough and strong will only result in wasting your time and avoiding the inevitable, which is dealing with your emotions instead of neglecting them.<\/p>\n

\u201cI will never open myself up to anyone again.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

It\u2019s normal to feel scared of opening yourself up to someone new after a traumatic relationship but constantly repeating to yourself that you will never open yourself up to anyone again is not really healthy and it will bring you more harm than good.<\/p>\n

You need to understand that if something happened to you once, twice or three times, it doesn\u2019t mean that it will happen the fourth time as well.<\/p>\n

No todas las relaciones est\u00e1n condenadas a ser tachadas de traum\u00e1ticas ni todas las personas son maltratadores emocionales en potencia.<\/p>\n

Para curarse de una relaci\u00f3n traum\u00e1tica, uno de los pasos es tambi\u00e9n estar abierto a nuevas relaciones, porque si temes algo, significa que tus heridas a\u00fan necesitan tiempo para cicatrizar.<\/p>\n

But this doesn\u2019t mean that you should force yourself to enter a new relationship only to prove to others that you\u2019re over your past one.<\/p>\n

Como todo, esto deber\u00eda salirte de forma natural.<\/p>\n

\u201cMaybe if I hadn\u2019t done (sth.), this wouldn\u2019t have happened to me.\u201d<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Sentirse culpable es tambi\u00e9n una de las actitudes m\u00e1s venenosas tras una relaci\u00f3n traum\u00e1tica.<\/p>\n

You start thinking about too many possible outcomes and your actions and by doing that, you refuse to cope with the current situation you\u2019re in.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s important to understand that you can\u2019t go back and you cannot change things and you need to understand that it\u2019s not your fault that you\u2019re going through this.<\/p>\n

Everything happens for a reason and this doesn\u2019t mean that you deserved it.<\/p>\n

Bad things happen to us to make us stronger, not weaker, and it\u2019s up to you to either choose to keep running in circles or choose to be a winner!<\/p>\n

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Traumatic relationships can be based on psychological, verbal, physical or sexual trauma or they can be a combination of all of the above-mentioned. If you\u2019re coming out of such a relationship, you\u2019re probably experiencing post-traumatic relationship syndrome, where you feel like no one understands you and you feel vulnerable, hurt and unable to trust anyone….<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":114995,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-43715","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/09\/7-Thoughts-That-Cross-Your-Mind-When-You-Have-A-Relationship-PTSD-1024x684.jpg",1024,684,true],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/43715","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=43715"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/43715\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/114995"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=43715"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=43715"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=43715"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}