{"id":44571,"date":"2019-10-08T13:16:25","date_gmt":"2019-10-08T13:16:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44571"},"modified":"2022-03-07T16:19:33","modified_gmt":"2022-03-07T16:19:33","slug":"6-cosas-que-ojala-hubiera-sabido-sobre-los-malos-tratos-antes-de-sufrirlos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/6-cosas-que-ojala-hubiera-sabido-sobre-los-malos-tratos-antes-de-sufrirlos\/","title":{"rendered":"6 cosas que desear\u00eda saber sobre el maltrato antes de sufrirlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Trust me when I tell you that you have no clue about abuse (whether it\u2019s physical, verbal, emotional, or sexual) and abusive relationships until you\u2019ve dealt with one.<\/p>\n

That is why you should take advice from an expert: from a woman who\u2019s been a trav\u00e9s de este infierno<\/a> y que afortunadamente sali\u00f3 con vida de ella.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m not saying that my experience can save every woman in this world from getting abused.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, lo que s\u00ed puedo hacer es contarte algunas cosas que ojal\u00e1 alguien me hubiera dicho antes de convertirme en v\u00edctima.<\/p>\n

1. Todo empieza como un sue\u00f1o<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Una de las ideas err\u00f3neas m\u00e1s comunes sobre el maltrato es que empieza enseguida.<\/p>\n

People think that abusers begin with their violent behavior as soon as they enter your life, so naturally, everyone wonders how the victim didn\u2019t notice the alarming red flags in time.<\/p>\n

Bueno, lo que nadie te dice es que las relaciones abusivas casi siempre empiezan como el sue\u00f1o m\u00e1s bonito y nada apunta a lo que ocurrir\u00e1 en el futuro. <\/p>\n

You see, abusers have a way of pretending to be someone they\u2019re not until they drag you into their net.<\/p>\n

Suelen ser encantadores, educados, seductores y demasiado buenos para ser verdad.<\/p>\n

2. Pero termina como tu peor pesadilla<\/h2>\n

An abuser will not start with his toxic behavior until he\u2019s certain that you\u2019ve fallen for him.<\/p>\n

He needs to be sure that he\u2019s managed to get under your skin and deep inside your heart before he shows you his true colors.<\/p>\n

Sadly, when this happens, it\u2019s usually too late for the victim to dejar su relaci\u00f3n abusiva<\/a>.<\/p>\n

You\u2019re already manipulated to the point where you wouldn\u2019t walk away from this man, no matter what he does to you.<\/p>\n

This is when the real nightmare starts \u2013 when the bitter reality hits you.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, sigues aferr\u00e1ndote a tus recuerdos felices, con la esperanza de que esto no sea m\u00e1s que una fase fea y las cosas vuelvan pronto a ser como antes, lo que por supuesto nunca sucede.<\/p>\n

3. Puede ocurrirle a cualquiera<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

When you hear about abuse, you always think that it\u2019s happening somewhere far away from you, to someone else.<\/p>\n

Subconsciously, you think that you could never fall into this trap because you\u2019re wiser and smarter than that.<\/p>\n

Let me tell you that this can\u2019t be further from the truth.<\/p>\n

De hecho, los malos tratos son mucho m\u00e1s frecuentes de lo que crees y no tienen nada que ver con tu aspecto, estatus social, educaci\u00f3n o historial sentimental.<\/p>\n

4. Nunca es culpa tuya<\/h2>\n

What many victims seem to forget is that they should never blame themselves for the hell they\u2019re going through.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, \u00e9ste sigue siendo el pensamiento n\u00famero uno que cada uno de nosotros tiene cuando sufre malos tratos.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t help but wonder if you did something to deserve this kind of treatment. <\/p>\n

\u00bfDeber\u00edas haberlo sabido mejor? \u00bfDeber\u00edas haber elegido con m\u00e1s sabidur\u00eda?<\/p>\n

Si estas son algunas de las cosas que pasan por tu cabeza, recuerda que la v\u00edctima nunca es la que debe sentirse culpable.<\/p>\n

Est\u00e1s siendo manipulada y maltratada por este horrible hombre y \u00e9l es el \u00fanico que carga con toda la responsabilidad.<\/p>\n

5. Puedes amar a tu agresor<\/h2>\n

\"Cansada<\/p>\n

Uno de los mayores tab\u00faes relacionados con los malos tratos son los sentimientos de las v\u00edctimas hacia sus agresores.<\/p>\n

Aunque la psicolog\u00eda ha demostrado que preocuparse por tu agresor, a pesar de todo lo que te est\u00e1 haciendo, es bastante com\u00fan y normal, muchas v\u00edctimas se averg\u00fcenzan de estas emociones y, por lo tanto, se niegan a admitirlas.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in this type of situation, you are perfectly aware that there is nothing to be loved about this guy.<\/p>\n

In fact, your mind is telling you that you\u2019re crazy for feeling this way \u2013 that something is definitely wrong with you.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, la verdad es que se puede ama a tu maltratador<\/a>, even after you get the courage to walk away from him, and that you need a lot of time before accepting it as something you shouldn\u2019t be ashamed of.<\/p>\n

Al fin y al cabo, este hombre te ha lavado el cerebro haci\u00e9ndote creer que es el indicado para ti y el \u00fanico al que podr\u00edas amar.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, ir\u00f3nicamente, con el tiempo, sus abusos se convirtieron en tu zona de confort de la que estabas demasiado asustada para salir.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfPuede un estafador enamorarse de su v\u00edctima? La verdad revelada<\/a><\/strong><\/p>\n

6. But he can\u2019t love you<\/h2>\n

Despite what he might keep telling you, a man who abuses you in any way doesn\u2019t love you nor does he have the ability to love you.<\/p>\n

Forget about how he treats you after his violent episodes are done, forget about his sweet words and presents, don\u2019t pay attention to his false excuses.<\/p>\n

A hombre que te quiere<\/a> nunca pensar\u00e1 en insultarte, pegarte o hacerte cualquier otro da\u00f1o.<\/p>\n

Even though this seems obvious to women who have never been through something like this, it can\u2019t be stressed enough to victims of abuse because it\u2019s actually one of the most common reasons they stay in these relationships.<\/p>\n

Muchos se enga\u00f1an pensando que sus maltratadores les quieren a su extra\u00f1a manera y utilizan sus emociones inexistentes como excusa para no alejarse de ellos.<\/p>\n

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