{"id":44573,"date":"2019-10-08T13:22:19","date_gmt":"2019-10-08T13:22:19","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44573"},"modified":"2022-02-11T10:59:17","modified_gmt":"2022-02-11T10:59:17","slug":"4-estupideces-que-cometi-cuando-casi-tenia-pareja-pero-queria-mas","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/4-estupideces-que-cometi-cuando-casi-tenia-pareja-pero-queria-mas\/","title":{"rendered":"4 estupideces que comet\u00ed cuando casi ten\u00eda pareja pero quer\u00eda m\u00e1s"},"content":{"rendered":"

Todos hacemos locuras cuando estamos enamorados y, sobre todo, cuando no estamos seguros de que nuestros sentimientos sean rec\u00edprocos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, we don\u2019t see our mistakes until we stop making them.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was the same\u2014I kept making some stupid moves in my <\/span>casi relaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a> y s\u00f3lo fui consciente de ellos cuando las cosas se desmoronaron.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Tuvo problemas de pareja a pesar de no tener pareja<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Una de las cosas m\u00e1s dolorosas y devastadoras que hac\u00eda mientras estaba en una casi relaci\u00f3n era actuar como si estuviera tomada, mientras mi ex viv\u00eda la vida de un soltero. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, now I know that he didn\u2019t do anything wrong because technically we both were single and he didn\u2019t owe me much.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, mis sentimientos por \u00e9l me impidieron ponerme en el mercado de las citas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nunca mir\u00e9 a otros chicos y nunca le di a nadie nuevo la oportunidad de entrar en mi vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

La cosa era que ten\u00eda <\/span>problemas de pareja<\/span><\/a> with a man I wasn\u2019t officially dating. <\/span><\/p>\n

The whole package was there: the jealousy, the arguments, the worrying\u2026<\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, I didn\u2019t have the good things every relationship should bring. <\/span><\/p>\n

No ten\u00eda amor, ni seguridad, ni derecho a pedir nada, ni a quejarme, ni a planificar un futuro.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Actu\u00f3 como si esto fuera suficiente para m\u00ed<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Desde el primer d\u00eda, fing\u00ed que este acuerdo me parec\u00eda perfecto. <\/span><\/p>\n

I acted as if I wouldn\u2019t change a thing, even if I had the chance to and as if this was exactly what I wanted.<\/span><\/p>\n

Fing\u00ed que era una chica que disfrutaba de las citas modernas y de todo lo que conllevaban. <\/span><\/p>\n

That I didn\u2019t need a label to make me happy and that making things official wouldn\u2019t mean much to me.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was saying all of this to my ex and to everyone around me. Not only that\u2014I kept lying to myself that this was more than enough.<\/span><\/p>\n

Desde este punto de vista, supongo que era m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil para m\u00ed actuar como si esta casi relaci\u00f3n fuera algo que yo quer\u00eda que admitir que simplemente lo estaba aceptando porque era la \u00fanica manera de tener a este hombre que tanto amaba en mi vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, what I didn\u2019t know was that I actually never had him for real.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, cre\u00eda estar satisfecha con fragmentos de \u00e9l y con migajas de su amor y atenci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Esperaba en secreto que las cosas cambiaran<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, la verdad era completamente distinta. En realidad, durante todo este tiempo, secretamente esperaba que las cosas cambiaran eventualmente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pas\u00e9 muchas noches so\u00f1ando con que este hombre fuera completamente m\u00edo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Even though I knew I shouldn\u2019t, I kept planning our future together.<\/span><\/p>\n

Segu\u00eda esperando que llegara el d\u00eda en que ese chico se me acercara, me dijera cu\u00e1nto me quer\u00eda y me pidiera que hici\u00e9ramos las cosas oficiales. <\/span><\/p>\n

I kept seeing the two of us holding hands in public, going to important events together and celebrating our anniversary, Valentine’s Day and all the other holidays next to each other.<\/span><\/p>\n

I kept hoping that I would grow old with this man, even though that was never likely to happen. That sooner or later, we\u2019d have our happy ending.<\/span><\/p>\n

Ahora me doy cuenta de que perd\u00ed a\u00f1os esperando un cambio que nunca llegar\u00eda.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Pero sin hacer nada al respecto<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

De todos los errores que comet\u00ed con respecto a mi casi relaci\u00f3n<\/a>...lo peor era callar mis deseos y anhelos. <\/span><\/p>\n

The truth is that I don\u2019t have the right to hate my <\/span>casi ex<\/span><\/a> por no llevar nuestra relaci\u00f3n al siguiente nivel porque nunca le dije que eso era lo que quer\u00eda. <\/span><\/p>\n

I don\u2019t have the right to blame him for never giving me a real chance because I never asked for one.<\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, I expected him to read my mind. I hoped that he\u2019d miraculously know that I wanted to become his girlfriend without actually ever making a move on it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Al cabo de un rato, me di cuenta de que hab\u00eda permanecido en silencio por miedo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Prefer\u00eda pensar en todo lo que podr\u00eda pasar y so\u00f1ar con todo el potencial que podr\u00edamos tener que tener que enfrentarme a su rechazo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because let\u2019s face it\u2014if he had told me that he didn\u2019t want to label things, my pride wouldn\u2019t have allowed me to stay next to him. <\/span><\/p>\n

No me habr\u00eda quedado m\u00e1s remedio que marcharme y eso es algo para lo que no ten\u00eda fuerzas ni valor.<\/span><\/p>\n

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All of us do insane things when we\u2019re in love and especially when we\u2019re not sure whether our feelings are reciprocated. Of course, we don\u2019t see our mistakes until we stop making them. I was the same\u2014I kept making some stupid moves in my almost relationship and I only became aware of them once things…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":40,"featured_media":44586,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29619],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-44573","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-stories-love"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29619,"label":"stories"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_552635749.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Tara Brown","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/tara-brown\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29619,"name":"stories","slug":"stories-love","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29619,"taxonomy":"category","description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","parent":38,"count":424,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29619,"category_count":424,"category_description":"To all the souls struggling with complicated love experiences: These heartfelt stories about love, heartbreak, and moving on will be your voice of wisdom.","cat_name":"stories","category_nicename":"stories-love","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44573","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/40"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44573"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44573\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44586"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44573"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44573"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44573"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}