{"id":44658,"date":"2019-10-09T13:44:09","date_gmt":"2019-10-09T13:44:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=44658"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:15:20","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:15:20","slug":"5-maneras-a-prueba-de-balas-para-dejar-de-salir-con-arregladores","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-maneras-a-prueba-de-balas-para-dejar-de-salir-con-arregladores\/","title":{"rendered":"5 maneras a prueba de balas para dejar de salir con \"Fixer-Uppers\""},"content":{"rendered":"

Desde que tienes uso de raz\u00f3n, siempre te has comportado como una supermujer en tus relaciones sentimentales. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por mucho que intentes luchar contra ello, sigues encontr\u00e1ndote con hombres que necesitan ser salvados o arreglados de un modo u otro.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, these men are called \u201cfixed-uppers\u201d and these are the steps you should follow if you finally want to stop getting yourself involved with them.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. P\u00f3ngase usted primero<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Si quieres salvarte de los tipos que necesitan ser salvados, lo primero que tienes que hacer es ponerte t\u00fa primero y concentrarte en tu propio bienestar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tienes que entender que ninguna otra persona, y especialmente ning\u00fan hombre, puede ser m\u00e1s valioso para ti que t\u00fa misma.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cuando te involucras con arregladores, te quitan toda la energ\u00eda. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estar en esta situaci\u00f3n te agota por completo, tanto f\u00edsica como emocionalmente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Having to take care of another human being (who is an adult and not your child) and having the entire responsibility for his life rest on your shoulders while you receive nothing in return can\u2019t be good for your mental health. <\/span><\/p>\n

Raising someone who is already a formed person is everything but easy \u2013 in most cases, impossible.<\/span><\/p>\n

Entonces, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 sigues haci\u00e9ndote esto?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 das prioridad a ayudar a los dem\u00e1s aunque eso signifique destruirte a ti mismo? <\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you focus on becoming the best possible version of yourself instead of trying to push some guy forward?<\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you redirect all of this energy you\u2019re wasting on him and invest it in yourself? <\/span><\/p>\n

Why don\u2019t you start <\/span>qui\u00e9rete a ti mismo<\/span><\/a> con la misma intensidad con la que amas tu casa de segunda mano?<\/span><\/p>\n

2. Elige hombres maduros<\/h2>\n

\"Dulce<\/p>\n

The only type of guy who needs fixing is an immature mama\u2019s boy who\u2019s got used to someone holding his hand and leading him through life. <\/span><\/p>\n

This guy clearly didn\u2019t grow up on time and he\u2019s accustomed to someone else resolving his problems and living his life on his behalf.<\/span><\/p>\n

B\u00e1sicamente, uno de los mayores problemas radica en el tipo de hombres que eliges como pareja rom\u00e1ntica. <\/span><\/p>\n

If you find a man who knows what he wants and is capable of taking care of himself, he won\u2019t need your guidance and assistance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes,the two of you will help each other when needed, but you won\u2019t have to mother him. <\/span><\/p>\n

You two will be completely equal and he\u2019ll benefit you in the same way you\u2019ll benefit him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y en eso consiste la verdadera colaboraci\u00f3n.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Deja de enamorarte del potencial<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

One of the most common problems for all girls involved with fixer-uppers is that they don\u2019t actually fall in love with the man standing in front of them. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead, they fall for his possibilities \u2013 for the person he might become. <\/span><\/p>\n

En lugar de enamorarse de un hombre real hecho de carne y hueso, ellas <\/span>ca\u00edda por potencial<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is exactly what you\u2019re doing too, and it\u2019s the type of behavior that has to come to an end if you want to get rid of men who need fixing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tienes que dejar de imaginar c\u00f3mo ser\u00eda este tipo si pudieras modificarlo y si pudiera dejar de lado algunos de sus defectos.<\/span><\/p>\n

En lugar de amar la versi\u00f3n mejorada de \u00e9l y pensar en lo que podr\u00eda ser, enfr\u00e9ntate a la realidad y m\u00edralo como realmente es.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. Remember that you can\u2019t change anyone<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

El error n\u00famero uno que cometen la mayor\u00eda de las mujeres que tienen pareja es convencerse de que pueden cambiar al hombre que quieren. <\/span><\/p>\n

Creen que su amor es tan fuerte que puede inspirar a un hombre a convertirse en una versi\u00f3n mejor y actualizada de s\u00ed mismo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pues d\u00e9jeme decirle que esto no es m\u00e1s que una idea equivocada. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, las personas se adaptan unas a otras por amor hasta cierto punto, pero nunca cambian esencialmente por otra persona.<\/span><\/p>\n

Recuerde que <\/span>you can\u2019t save a man who doesn\u2019t want to be saved<\/span><\/a> and you can\u2019t heal someone who refuses to be cured, as much as you try. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you can give this man your hand, but if he doesn\u2019t accept it, all of your efforts are in vain.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Elegir la paz antes que el desaf\u00edo<\/h2>\n

\"Descansar<\/p>\n

Whether you\u2019d like to admit it or not, men who need fixing represent a challenge. <\/span><\/p>\n

At first, they bring excitement and thrill to your life and before you know it, you\u2019re hooked.<\/span><\/p>\n

Will you be the only girl to make him change his ways \u2013 the girl who\u2019ll save him from himself? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfSer\u00e1s t\u00fa aquella cuya luz venza a su oscuridad?<\/span><\/p>\n

Will you succeed where every other woman\u2019s failed? <\/span><\/p>\n

Aunque todo esto pueda parecer un reto, cr\u00e9eme, suele traerte m\u00e1s quebraderos de cabeza que alegr\u00edas.<\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en lugar de dejarte arrastrar una y otra vez por el mismo caso, por una vez, elige la paz por encima de todo lo dem\u00e1s. <\/span><\/p>\n

Choose a consistent man with whom you\u2019ll always know where you stand \u2013 a man whose behavior won\u2019t threaten your mental health.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"5<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

For as long as you can remember, you\u2019ve always behaved like a super woman in your romantic relationships. As much as you try to fight it, you keep running into men who need saving or fixing in one way or another. Well, these men are called \u201cfixed-uppers\u201d and these are the steps you should follow…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":25,"featured_media":44666,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29622],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-44658","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-relationship-advice"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29622,"label":"relationship advice"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_488521804.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Amy Nicholson","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/amy\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29622,"name":"relationship advice","slug":"relationship-advice","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29622,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","parent":29620,"count":544,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29622,"category_count":544,"category_description":"Making all aspects of your relationship work is one of the biggest challenges. Here, you can find advice for most of the issues you might encounter. ","cat_name":"relationship advice","category_nicename":"relationship-advice","category_parent":29620}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44658","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/25"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=44658"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/44658\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/44666"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=44658"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=44658"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=44658"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}