Hoy en d\u00eda, todo sucede muy deprisa.<\/p>\n
El mercado de las citas es despiadado y carente de emociones, y parece que ya nadie busca el amor verdadero.<\/p>\n
Ya no hay expectaci\u00f3n ante el primer abrazo frontal y el primer beso.<\/p>\n
Hand holding is not a big deal, and side hugs have become something you can expect while you\u2019re at the club, minding your own business.<\/p>\n
De hecho, el sexo en s\u00ed se ha convertido en algo tan habitual y cotidiano, \u00bfpor qu\u00e9 iba a ser \u00edntimo ir de la mano con alguien?<\/p>\n
As\u00ed que, cuando oyes hablar de cortejo, lo primero que piensas es en pr\u00e1cticas anticuadas y pasadas de moda de la historia antigua.<\/p>\n
\u00bfTe preguntas cu\u00e1les eran las reglas del cortejo antiguamente?<\/p>\n
What were the rules of courtship in Othello , in the Bible, in the Victorian Age\u2026?<\/p>\n
What you don\u2019t know is that in modern times, there are a lot of people following these rules successfully.<\/p>\n
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Reglas de cortejo de los Duggar<\/b><\/p>\n
I\u2019m sure that you\u2019ve already heard about TLC \u2019s show \u201c19 Kids and Counting\u201d, which stars Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar , the parents of the huge Duggar family with 19 kids.<\/p>\n
The show ” Counting On ” follows this religious family and the way they respect the Christian teachings of the Lord .<\/p>\n
However, this season of the TLC ‘s show was concerned with Jim Bob and Michelle setting up strict rules regarding courting in their family, i.e. for their daughters Jessa , Jinger , Janna (who has been mainly keeping her courting a secret), and Jill Duggar with their dates (now husbands): Ben Seewald ( Jessa \u2019s husband), Jeremy Vuolo ( Jinger \u2019s husband) and Derick Dillard ( Jill Duggar \u2019s husband).<\/p>\n
They\u2019re showing us a completely different world: a world in which parents help their children choose their partners, a world in which any physical touch is prohibited before marriage,and a world in which casual dating is not an option.<\/p>\n
La familia Duggar vive con reglas estrictas que todos deben respetar.<\/p>\n
En la familia Duggar, el padre Jim Bob (junto con la madre, Michelle Duggar) tiene que aprobar cada elecci\u00f3n amorosa de sus hijos.<\/p>\n
En algunos casos, el padre incluso present\u00f3 a sus hijas a sus ahora maridos (por ejemplo, fue \u00e9l quien present\u00f3 a Derick Dillard a la familia).<\/p>\n
However, this doesn\u2019t mean that some exceptions didn\u2019t happen.<\/p>\n
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Por ejemplo, Jinger le dio a su novio Jeremy un abrazo en toda la cara cuando le hizo la pregunta.<\/p>\n
Adem\u00e1s, Jessa y Ben Seewald han roto algunas de las reglas, por ejemplo, cuando Jessa decidi\u00f3 empezar a abrazar a su novio cuando se saludan.<\/p>\n
Jessa confes\u00f3 que ella y su marido se enviaban mensajes de texto en privado mientras eran novios, sin que otros miembros de la familia leyeran sus conversaciones.<\/p>\n
\u00a0Reglas del cortejo Bates<\/b><\/p>\n
Otra familia que vive con reglas similares a las de los Duggar son los Bates.<\/p>\n
They also have 19 children and don\u2019t engage in sexual intimacy before marriage.<\/p>\n
However, it seems that the Bates aren\u2019t as strict as the Duggars, since they allow their children to make their own choices regarding dating.<\/p>\n
Pero, \u00bfc\u00f3mo pueden aplicarse todas estas reglas a las citas modernas?<\/p>\n
\u00bfEs posible sustituir las citas por el cortejo?<\/p>\n
Siga leyendo y desc\u00fabralo.<\/p>\n
Cortejar siempre tiene un prop\u00f3sito<\/h2>\n
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Una de las principales diferencias entre cortejar y salir con alguien radica en el hecho de que el cortejo siempre tiene un prop\u00f3sito.<\/p>\n
\u00bfSabes que a veces personas fecha<\/a> \u00bfs\u00f3lo para divertirse, para tener a alguien con quien pasar el tiempo o por sexo sin sentido?<\/p>\n Bueno, cuando se trata de cortejar, algo as\u00ed es imposible.<\/p>\n De hecho, decides cortejar o ser cortejado s\u00f3lo cuando est\u00e1s 100% preparado para una relaci\u00f3n en el futuro.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not looking for a good time, and you\u2019re not exploring your options.<\/p>\n Sabe que su objetivo final es encontrar una pareja adecuada y su persona para siempre <\/a> , and you\u2019re only going in that direction.<\/p>\n Aunque esto pueda parecer aterrador y demasiado comprometedor, lo cierto es que ahorra a la gente muchos quebraderos de cabeza.<\/p>\n Young people shouldn\u2019t engage in courting unless they\u2019re mature enough to know what they want<\/p>\n However, this doesn\u2019t mean that you are obligated to say \u201c I do \u201d to the person you\u2019re courting.<\/p>\n After all, the decision is all yours, and nobody is forcing you to do anything you don\u2019t want to do.<\/p>\n Courting\u2019s purpose is to get to know the person you\u2019re about to see down the aisle on your d\u00eda de la boda <\/a> .<\/p>\n It\u2019s the same as dating\u2014you\u2019re trying to find the right one for you and the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\n Nevertheless, this doesn\u2019t mean that courting can\u2019t fail. You\u2019re still allowed to break up and to end paths with someone you\u2019re courting.<\/p>\n La cuesti\u00f3n es que en el cortejo, este tipo de cosas ocurren con menos frecuencia que en las citas.<\/p>\n Se siguen reglas estrictas y es poco probable que a uno de los dos se le rompa el coraz\u00f3n, mientras que en las citas modernas eso ocurre con bastante frecuencia.<\/p>\n Una de las reglas cruciales del cortejo es que todo sea estrictamente mon\u00f3gamo desde el primer d\u00eda.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not talking about being faithful in a relationship here only (because that should be normal when it comes to dating, as well).<\/p>\n I\u2019m not talking about the fact that you\u2019re not allowed to physically cheat on the person you\u2019re seeing.<\/p>\n I\u2019m talking about the fact that following these rules means that you only court one person at a time, even if you guys haven\u2019t made things official just yet.<\/p>\n Actually, there doesn\u2019t exist such a thing as unofficial courting.<\/p>\n There doesn\u2019t exist such things as casi relaciones <\/a> relaciones espor\u00e1dicas o sin compromiso.<\/p>\n Nada como la indisponibilidad emocional o el sexo sin compromiso.<\/p>\n Nada de aplicaciones de citas, nada de hablar con otras personas con las que podr\u00edas tener ambiciones rom\u00e1nticas o sexuales.<\/p>\n You\u2019re all the way in when it comes to the person you\u2019re courting, and at that time, nobody else should exist for you.<\/p>\n This way, everyone who wants to fool around and live the life of a bachelor while they\u2019re seeing someone is out.<\/p>\n You\u2019re safe from getting led on and from getting cheated on (in any possible way) if the other person is strictly following these rules, which is a huge relief for most of you out there.<\/p>\n Adem\u00e1s, en el cortejo, el hombre es siempre el que da el primer paso.<\/p>\n El hombre persigue a la mujer y hace todo lo posible por conquistar su coraz\u00f3n, como en los cuentos de hadas y las viejas pel\u00edculas rom\u00e1nticas.<\/p>\n El hombre es el que inicia la comunicaci\u00f3n y el primero en mostrar inter\u00e9s por una mujer; el que declara sus intenciones y el que invita a la chica a un primera cita <\/a> .<\/p>\n Se espera de una mujer que al principio se muestre un poco indecisa sobre su propuesta.<\/p>\n After all, she should be shy and not act as if she couldn\u2019t wait for this guy to make the first move.<\/p>\n Not only that\u2014it is even considered not ladylike for a woman to take the initiative and role of a man.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s face it: what woman doesn\u2019t like to be courted and chased at least once in a lifetime?<\/p>\n What woman doesn\u2019t enjoy being a princess who is patiently waiting for her knight in shining armor to come and get her?<\/p>\n Also, what man doesn\u2019t enjoy being the hunter and the hero of the story? The one who managed to win over the girl of his dreams?<\/p>\n Pues bien, \u00a1siguiendo estas reglas te sentir\u00e1s igual!<\/p>\n Por supuesto, esto podr\u00eda preocupar a todos los que luchan por la igualdad entre los sexos.<\/p>\n Al fin y al cabo, si chicos y chicas son iguales en todos los aspectos de la vida, \u00bfqu\u00e9 problema hay si una chica se acerca a un chico?<\/p>\n Nevertheless, what you need to have in mind is that we\u2019re not talking about citas modernas <\/a> aqu\u00ed.<\/p>\n We\u2019re talking about some old fashioned tips and tricks that not everyone has to like.<\/p>\n One of the best things about courtship is that there aren\u2019t any games. From day one, you saber a qu\u00e9 atenerse <\/a> y qu\u00e9 esperar.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to ask yourself whether the other person is interested or not.<\/p>\n Are they not responding to your texts because they don\u2019t care about you or because they\u2019re playing hard to get?<\/p>\n Do they ignore you because they don\u2019t want to look too desperate and clingy or they\u2019re seeing someone else?<\/p>\n Are they unfaithful or they\u2019re just trying to get you jealous?<\/p>\n Cuando se trata de cortejar, ninguna de estas preguntas existe.<\/p>\n There are no mixed signals, no hidden messages, no need to decode other people\u2019s thoughts, words, and actions.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t stay up all night thinking what the other person wants from you and what they meant when they said something.<\/p>\n There is no second guessing anyone\u2019s intentions, and no wondering where all of this is going.<\/p>\n No, las dos personas implicadas en este tipo de relaci\u00f3n son completamente directas, francas y honestas.<\/p>\n Suena demasiado bueno para ser verdad, \u00bfverdad? Pues siguiendo estas reglas, es la realidad.<\/p>\n The catch about courting is that the potential suitor and the girl he is interested in don\u2019t go out alone\u2014at least, not at first.<\/p>\n In fact, sometimes, these young adults don\u2019t even approach one another by themselves.<\/p>\n En su lugar, cuentan con una casamentera que les acompa\u00f1a y hace el trabajo por ellos, lo cual es incre\u00edble para todos aquellos a los que se les tuerce la lengua cuando tienen que dar el primer paso.<\/p>\n This matchmaker doesn\u2019t only help a courting couple get together, the\u00a0 matchmaker is usually even present on their first date which helps clear the tension.<\/p>\n Una vez superada la fase inicial de conocerse, la pareja sigue vi\u00e9ndose con otras personas como acompa\u00f1antes .<\/p>\n The potential suitor won\u2019t call his girl in the middle of the night to hang out, and he\u2019ll definitely not ask her to sleep over at his place.<\/p>\n The two of them won\u2019t meet in private places (instead of crowded ones) where they could break the rules they signed up for and where they could anything more beside hold hands .<\/p>\n Cuando se trata de reglas de cortejo, a diferencia de las citas, los familiares y amigos son bienvenidos en la relaci\u00f3n, y la pareja cuenta con su apoyo para encontrar a la persona adecuada.<\/p>\n At first, they don\u2019t go anywhere unchaperoned , and they engage in numerous activities with their loved ones.<\/p>\n A primera vista, esto puede parecer innecesario y completamente anticuado.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, en realidad da un nivel de seriedad a toda la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n After all, screwing over someone you met at the club and from whose life you can disappear whenever and however you want because you don\u2019t have anything and anyone in common is quite easy.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, es mucho m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil fantasmear con alguien<\/a> (for example) whose entire family you\u2019ve met and who\u2019s become a part of your life.<\/p>\n Also, getting to know someone\u2019s closest friends and family can help you get to know them better.<\/p>\n Son las personas con las que pasan la mayor parte de su tiempo y las que les han moldeado para convertirse en la persona que son hoy.<\/p>\n De hecho, son las personas que formar\u00e1n parte de tu vida si alg\u00fan d\u00eda os cas\u00e1is, y quieres saber si te llevar\u00e1s bien con ellas o no.<\/p>\n Another usual thing is that in most cases, the girl\u2019s family (mainly the woman\u2019s father ) actually has to give a green light to her suitor and give the two of them permission to start seeing each other.<\/p>\n In fact, before making any moves, the suitor should go and meet the woman\u2019s father who will see if he is worthy of his daughter\u2019s attention.<\/p>\n Una vez que decidas iniciar el cortejo, fobia al compromiso <\/a> est\u00e1 fuera de cuesti\u00f3n.<\/p>\n This is not something you do if you\u2019re not sure that you\u2019re ready to dedicate yourself completely to one relationship and one relationship only.<\/p>\n No es algo en lo que te metas si tienes asuntos pendientes del pasado o si arrastras cargas emocionales de tus relaciones anteriores.<\/p>\n No es algo que hagas si te consideras poco disponible emocionalmente o inseguro sobre lo que quieres.<\/p>\n Debes iniciar el noviazgo de todo coraz\u00f3n y s\u00f3lo si est\u00e1s completamente seguro de que puedes comprometerte.<\/p>\n Only if you\u2019re ready to fight for this relationship, to try your hardest to make it work, and to put an effort into building it.<\/p>\n Significa que tienes que estar dispuesto a dar prioridad a tu pareja y a vuestra relaci\u00f3n; que tienes que tratarla con el amor y el respeto que se merece, y hacerle comprender lo valiosa que es para ti.<\/p>\n Significa que tienes que ser coherente en tu forma de comportarte con ellos.<\/p>\n Que tienes que asegurarte de que se sientan queridos y apreciados en todo momento.<\/p>\n Significa que dos j\u00f3venes que se est\u00e1n cortejando cuentan el uno con el otro en todo momento.<\/p>\n That they\u2019re counting on the other person\u2019s love and support, no matter what.<\/p>\n \u00bfDos j\u00f3venes adultos salen sin compa\u00f1\u00eda antes de convertirse en matrimonio? El primer beso antes de dar el s\u00ed quiero ?<\/p>\n \u00bfAbrazo frontal, apret\u00f3n de manos, abrazos laterales o cualquier tipo de intimidad f\u00edsica antes del matrimonio? Olv\u00eddelo.<\/p>\n Old fashioned courtship rules (also applicable to Biblical courtship rules and Catholic courtship rules in general which follow the teachings of the Lord ) don\u2019t allow sex before the wedding day .<\/p>\n Unlike today\u2019s dating, according to these rules, sexual compatibility is something that appears naturally between two people who\u2019ve decided they\u2019re right for each other in all other fields.<\/p>\n Por supuesto, las reglas del cortejo moderno son un poco diferentes y no tan estrictas en cuanto a cada posible tipo de contacto f\u00edsico .<\/p>\nBut it doesn\u2019t have to end up with marriage<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nS\u00f3lo te centras en una persona a la vez<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEl hombre corteja a la mujer<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEres honesto sobre tus intenciones<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nOs conoc\u00e9is en lugares p\u00fablicos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nAmigos y familiares incluidos<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nEl compromiso es obligatorio<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\nLa intimidad f\u00edsica no es una prioridad<\/h2>\n
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