{"id":45576,"date":"2019-10-22T15:13:42","date_gmt":"2019-10-22T15:13:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=45576"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:33:10","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:33:10","slug":"un-recordatorio-de-que-puedes-perdonarle-sin-aceptarle-de-nuevo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/un-recordatorio-de-que-puedes-perdonarle-sin-aceptarle-de-nuevo\/","title":{"rendered":"Un recordatorio de que puedes perdonarle sin aceptarle de nuevo"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cuando el hombre al que cre\u00edas que pod\u00edas confiar tu vida y con el que planeaste tu futuro te traiciona de alguna manera, algo as\u00ed te deja destrozada. <\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t matter whether this guy cheated on you, if he abused you or if he abandoned you when you needed his support more than anything\u2014betrayal is betrayal and it is never something you can easily get over.<\/span><\/p>\n

No importa lo que te digan, la cruda verdad es que algo as\u00ed te deja un sabor amargo en la boca. <\/span><\/p>\n

Te deja decepcionado en el amor y en la gente en general y te causa profundos problemas de confianza, traumas emocionales y <\/span>relaci\u00f3n TEPT<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

Not only that\u2014it also changes the essence of your personality. <\/span><\/p>\n

Te convierte en una persona negativa y resentida que siempre espera lo peor de la gente.<\/span><\/p>\n

Al principio, despu\u00e9s de todo lo que te hizo ese imb\u00e9cil, lo \u00fanico que quieres es vengarte y darle a probar de su propia medicina. <\/span><\/p>\n

Quieres que sufra y que sienta exactamente lo mismo que t\u00fa.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, todo el mundo con el que hablas te aconseja que encuentres la fuerza en ti misma para perdonarle.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Preocupado<\/p>\n

La gente sigue dici\u00e9ndote que necesitas dejar atr\u00e1s todo el dolor que te caus\u00f3 y que la \u00fanica forma de hacerlo es dejar atr\u00e1s la amargura, los rencores y los pensamientos de venganza.<\/span><\/p>\n

After a while, after the initial anger goes away, you realize that they\u2019re absolutely right, despite whatever you\u2019re feeling right now. <\/span><\/p>\n

Comprendes que perdonar es realmente liberador y es algo que tienes que hacer, por tu propio bien.<\/span><\/p>\n

You figure out that you don\u2019t want all these negative emotions to keep eating you alive and to haunt you for the rest of your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, tras pensarlo mucho y luchar interiormente, decides perdonarle por todas sus fechor\u00edas.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should justify this man\u2019s actions. <\/b><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that you should put in any effort to understand him or to <\/b>poner excusas<\/b><\/a> por su comportamiento de mierda.<\/b><\/p>\n

Most importantly\u2014it doesn\u2019t mean you should forget about everything he\u2019s done to you.<\/b><\/p>\n

Acepta que las cosas salieron exactamente como estaban destinadas a suceder. <\/b><\/p>\n

Accept that he probably didn\u2019t know better and that you\u2019re lucky that you got rid of someone who obviously never appreciated you.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Calma<\/p>\n

Perd\u00f3nate a ti misma por tus malas decisiones y perd\u00f3nale a \u00e9l por romperte el coraz\u00f3n porque es la \u00fanica manera de recuperarte por completo, la \u00fanica manera de ahuyentar tus demonios del pasado y la \u00fanica manera de seguir adelante con tu vida de verdad, sin ninguna carga emocional que te lastre.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, always remember that forgiving someone doesn\u2019t mean it is OK to take them back.<\/span><\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t mean that this person is worthy of having a place in your life and it certainly isn\u2019t equal to giving them your unlimited trust once again.<\/span><\/p>\n

Recuerda que ser una buena persona y la m\u00e1s grande es una cosa, pero ser tonto o ingenuo es algo completamente diferente. <\/b><\/p>\n

Having the capacity to accept the apologies you never got and forgiving the ones who didn\u2019t deserve it are not the same as giving them the green light to keep on hurting you.<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Convicci\u00f3n<\/p>\n

When you forgive a man for treating you badly and for crushing you, it doesn\u2019t magically erase all the pain he caused you. <\/b><\/b><\/p>\n

Tu perd\u00f3n<\/b><\/a> doesn\u2019t annul the fact that he is still an asshole who didn\u2019t care about how he\u2019d make you feel, it doesn\u2019t erase any of the sleepless nights you spent because of him and it certainly doesn\u2019t wipe away all of the tears you cried for him.<\/b><\/p>\n

I know that you two had some beautiful memories together as well and that he didn\u2019t always act like this toxic man he turned out to be.<\/span><\/p>\n

I know that once you forgive him, deep down, you\u2019ll start hoping that he won\u2019t repeat his mistakes.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019ll hope your heart will soften up and that you\u2019ll start missing him. <\/span><\/p>\n

That you\u2019ll want to believe his lies and empty promises and that you\u2019ll probably want to give your relationship another chance.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, vosotros dos rompisteis por una raz\u00f3n que a\u00fan existe. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, trust me when I tell you that your forgiveness doesn\u2019t change the fact that he is not the guy for you.<\/span><\/p>\n

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When the man you thought you could trust with your life and the man you planned your future with betrays you in any way, something like that leaves you devastated. It doesn\u2019t matter whether this guy cheated on you, if he abused you or if he abandoned you when you needed his support more than…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":45580,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45576","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/shutterstock_196923761.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45576","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45576"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45576\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/45580"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45576"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45576"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45576"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}