{"id":45704,"date":"2019-10-24T17:48:10","date_gmt":"2019-10-24T17:48:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=45704"},"modified":"2021-08-11T10:23:40","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T10:23:40","slug":"6-consejos-para-aprender-a-estar-soltero-tras-una-relacion-de-malos-tratos","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/6-consejos-para-aprender-a-estar-soltero-tras-una-relacion-de-malos-tratos\/","title":{"rendered":"6 consejos para aprender a ser soltero despu\u00e9s de una relaci\u00f3n abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

Aunque alejarse de una relaci\u00f3n abusiva es sin duda una de las cosas m\u00e1s valientes que podr\u00edas hacer, la verdad es que, tristemente, tus pesadillas no terminan en el momento en que dejas a tu agresor. <\/span><\/p>\n

De hecho, cuando esto ocurre, necesitas un tiempo para aprender a continuar con tu vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

You need a survival guide on how to be single again and this is exactly what you\u2019re about to get!<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Remember that you\u2019re more than someone\u2019s ex-novia<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

El primer paso para volver a tomar tu vida en tus manos es mirarte al espejo y ver que eres lo suficientemente fuerte como para salir adelante por ti misma, a pesar de lo que este hombre haya intentado convencerte. <\/span><\/p>\n

This might sound like a clich\u00e9, but before taking any concrete action, you really have to remind yourself that you\u2019re not put on this earth just to be part of a couple.<\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re much more than someone\u2019s (ex) girlfriend. You\u2019re an individual and a woman who is in charge of her own happiness.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tu ex puso mucho empe\u00f1o en hacerte creer que nunca podr\u00edas salir adelante sin \u00e9l. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lo hizo porque era la mejor manera de manipularte para que te quedaras con \u00e9l y ni siquiera intentaras marcharte. <\/span><\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de un tiempo, te guste o no, empezaste a creerle. <\/span><\/p>\n

Well, now it\u2019s time to prove both of you wrong, to show everyone that you\u2019re a complete person on your own and that you don\u2019t need \u201cyour other half\u201d (which was clearly not him) to keep on living. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Focus on other relationships in your life\u2026<\/h2>\n

\"amigos<\/p>\n

Once you have all of this figured out, it\u2019s time to refocus all the energy you keep giving to this guy to all the other people in your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Durante mucho tiempo, este hombre fue el centro de tu mundo y alguien en torno a quien giraba cada d\u00eda.<\/span><\/p>\n

This is exactly what he wanted \u2013 to isolate you from everyone else so it\u2019s easier for him to brainwash you into thinking that your relationship was perfectly normal and healthy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Para atarte a \u00e9l haci\u00e9ndote perder a todas las dem\u00e1s personas de tu vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, now, all of a sudden, you have so much time on your hands, and you don\u2019t know what to do with yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pues bien, \u00e9ste es el momento perfecto para que reavives algunas de tus viejas amistades y des m\u00e1s de ti a tu familia.<\/span><\/p>\n

You might be embarrassed to ask the people whom you\u2019ve forgotten all about because of your ex-relationship to accept you once again, but give it a try! <\/span><\/p>\n

Te aseguro que la mayor\u00eda de ellos comprender\u00e1n tu sinceridad y te ayudar\u00e1n a recuperarte.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. \u2026and especially on the relationship you have with yourself<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

No obstante, la relaci\u00f3n m\u00e1s importante en la que debes centrarte es la que tienes contigo mismo<\/span> because that\u2019s the most precious one. <\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s time to start taking care of yourself the same way you took care of him and to start believing in yourself the way you believed in him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, este es el momento en el que tienes que aprender a quererte a ti misma con la misma intensidad con la que le quer\u00edas a \u00e9l.<\/span><\/p>\n

Time to finally put yourself in the place that you deserve and shower yourself with all the affection and attention you\u2019ve been giving away to this wrong guy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Es hora de mimarse y empezar por fin a tratarse como la princesa que es.<\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, after going through abuse and being convinced that you\u2019re not worthy of your own self-love, this is exactly what your mental and emotional health need in order to recover. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. Toma tiempo para curarse<\/a><\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Another thing you need to do when you\u2019re single after getting out of an abusive relationship is to give yourself enough time to heal. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of repressing your emotions, get in touch with them \u2013 this is the only way to deal with them in a healthy way.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you feel like crying, cry, and if you feel like screaming, scream at the top of your lungs. Don\u2019t worry, nobody will think you\u2019re a lunatic.<\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve been through some serious trauma and it\u2019s perfectly natural that you can\u2019t get rid of all this pain, resentment, anger, and fear in a blink of an eye. <\/span><\/p>\n

Just don\u2019t call your ex in these times of despair. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t think that going back to him would ease your pain because, trust me, it would only make things worse.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Don\u2019t do anything you\u2019re not ready for<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

The most important rule about learning to be single again is only to do the things you\u2019re ready for, not those that others expect you to do or that would make your ex jealous.<\/span><\/p>\n

Esto se aplica especialmente a tu vuelta a la piscina de las citas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Recuerda que seguir adelante es mucho m\u00e1s que <\/span>lanzarse a una nueva relaci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a>.<\/span><\/p>\n

There isn\u2019t a deadline by which you have to find someone new.<\/span><\/p>\n

Es perfectamente normal que tengas profundos problemas de confianza despu\u00e9s de todo lo que has vivido. <\/span><\/p>\n

Es perfectamente normal que necesites tiempo para abrirte a un nuevo hombre y estar preparada para dejarle entrar hasta el final. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, if you don\u2019t feel like dating just yet, don\u2019t do it. If you don\u2019t feel like going on blind dates your friends are trying to set you up on, don\u2019t go.<\/span><\/p>\n

It\u2019s as simple as that: Do only the things you\u2019re comfortable with doing and don\u2019t let anyone dictate your pace because nobody\u2019s walked a mile in your shoes.<\/span><\/p>\n

6. But start doing everything you\u2019ve always wanted to do<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, tambi\u00e9n es el momento de hacer realidad todos sus sue\u00f1os.<\/span><\/p>\n

Durante a\u00f1os, como v\u00edctima de malos tratos, tuviste que hacer todo lo posible para hacer feliz a tu ex, sin pensar nunca en tus propios deseos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Era el dominante y el que tomaba m\u00e1s decisiones.<\/span><\/p>\n

Nevertheless, now, all of that is a part of the past. Now you\u2019re on your own, and you can do whatever you want, however you want, whenever you want.<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember that road trip you\u2019ve dreamt of taking for so long, but your ex preferred taking a flight? <\/span><\/p>\n

That new language you\u2019ve wanted to start learning, but you were afraid you wouldn\u2019t have enough time to see him if you did?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfY cosas m\u00e1s peque\u00f1as y tontas?<\/span><\/p>\n

That girl\u2019s TV show you planned on binge-watching, but you two always ended up watching something he liked? <\/span><\/p>\n

The way you wanted to paint your bedroom walls pink, but he wouldn\u2019t hear of it?<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, now\u2019s the time to do all of those things and enjoy each one of them! You deserve it!<\/span><\/p>\n

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Even though walking away from an abusive relationship is without doubt one of the bravest things you could ever do, the truth is that, sadly, your nightmares don\u2019t end the moment you dump your abuser.  In fact, when this happens, you need some time to learn how to continue with your life. You need a…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":21,"featured_media":45712,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29632],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-45704","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-abuse-and-trauma"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29632,"label":"abuse & trauma"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/10\/tim-foster-xyGfJ2cKCl4-unsplash.jpg",800,533,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Maria Parker","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/maria\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29632,"name":"abuse & trauma","slug":"abuse-and-trauma","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29632,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","parent":22911,"count":138,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29632,"category_count":138,"category_description":"Learn the signs of emotional and physical abuse and how to protect yourself from toxic patterns in relationships with your partner, friends or family.","cat_name":"abuse & trauma","category_nicename":"abuse-and-trauma","category_parent":22911}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45704","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/21"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=45704"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/45704\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/45712"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=45704"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=45704"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=45704"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}