{"id":47391,"date":"2020-06-13T14:17:10","date_gmt":"2020-06-13T14:17:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=47391"},"modified":"2022-02-17T17:34:07","modified_gmt":"2022-02-17T17:34:07","slug":"8-senales-claras-de-que-un-jugador-te-esta-tomando-el-pelo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/8-senales-claras-de-que-un-jugador-te-esta-tomando-el-pelo\/","title":{"rendered":"8 se\u00f1ales claras de que un jugador te est\u00e1 tomando el pelo"},"content":{"rendered":"

So, you’ve been seeing this guy for a while now and you’ve learned a lot about each other’s habits, wishes, dreams, and lifestyle.<\/p>\n

Perhaps you even met his friends and family, and he’s told you all of his secrets and let you “explore his world.” <\/p>\n

Probablemente le gustan todas tus publicaciones en las redes sociales y pasar tiempo contigo es su prioridad n\u00famero uno.<\/p>\n

It’s evident that you’re in love with each other and he’s the one for you. \u00bfO tal vez no?<\/b><\/p>\n

Cuando observas su comportamiento m\u00e1s de cerca y desde una perspectiva m\u00e1s profunda, te das cuenta de que las cosas no son lo que parecen.<\/p>\n

He might be texting you regularly and never missing any of your phone calls, yet still be playing a cruel dating game \u2013 stringing you along. <\/p>\n

As\u00ed que la pregunta es: \u00bfTe est\u00e1s dejando enga\u00f1ar por un jugador, aunque parezca un buen tipo y te haya convencido de lo contrario? <\/b><\/p>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

You probably think that there\u2019s no point in asking him anything about what you two have because if you do, you might appear too pushy, insecure, or childish. And you definitely don’t want that. <\/p>\n

As\u00ed que ignoras todas las se\u00f1ales de alarma y te convences a ti misma de que s\u00f3lo necesitas m\u00e1s tiempo para desarrollar una relaci\u00f3n seria, o de que \u00e9l s\u00f3lo necesita m\u00e1s tiempo para ver las cosas con m\u00e1s claridad y empezar a corresponder sus palabras con sus actos.<\/p>\n

Piensas y haces todo esto porque \u00e9l te hizo pensar as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

His every action has the specific purpose of making you believe that things are perfect, even though they\u2019re actually far from it.<\/p>\n

And by doing this, he’s just buying more time to keep stringing you along.<\/p>\n

It’s time to open your eyes and see things as they are. If any of the following signs sound familiar to you, you’re being strung along by a player!<\/p>\n

Evita hablar del futuro<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

You hang out, you laugh, you talk for hours on every topic under the sun, but there’s simply no mention about the future.<\/p>\n

And whenever you try to take things to the next level, he’s simply not willing to participate and say what he really means. <\/p>\n

You have no problems answering his every question, but you know that if you asked him about your future together, he wouldn’t be that pleased.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s evident that all he’s doing is applying the double standards rule and using you for an ego boost.<\/p>\n

The more you’re scared of asking him questions about the future and where things are going, the more he’ll feel powerful and the one in control.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s clear that he’s a narcissist in disguise who is not interested in una relaci\u00f3n sana y duradera<\/a>.<\/p>\n

Instead, the only thing he’s really keen on is taking you for granted and treating you like a choice instead of a priority, all the while patiently waiting for someone new to enter his life and replace you. <\/p>\n

That\u2019s the only reason why he’s neither willing to let you go nor to treat you the way you deserve.<\/p>\n

By making you feel like you\u2019re in limbo, he’s just buying time to keep treating you like shit and boost his self-esteem and egocentric nature.<\/p>\n

He’s ghosting you<\/a> and then popping back up only when it’s convenient <\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

According to relationship experts, ghosting is one of the most frequent methods used by players, narcissists, and other “toxic crew.” Now, let me explain the concept of ghosting.<\/p>\n

He’s planning dates, texting you back frequently, always calling you and then, all of a sudden, he stops planning anything (let alone dates), there\u2019s silence on the texting front, and he backs out last minute and disappears into the unknown.<\/p>\n

You don’t see him or hear from him for days, weeks, or even months.<\/p>\n

During this period, you start losing your mind and revising everything you’ve ever said or done, thinking that the problem lies in you.<\/p>\n

You convince yourself that you did something wrong and that\u2019s the only reason for his sudden disappearance from your life.<\/p>\n

Y luego, tras el periodo de no contacto, vuelve a entrar en tu vida con una excusa perfecta, como si nada hubiera pasado.<\/p>\n

He even makes you feel sorry for him and his “misfortunes,” and if you start questioning his intentions, he’s even ready to accuse you of overreacting.<\/p>\n

After ghosting you, he pops back up into your life only when it’s convenient for him \u2013 or put simply, when he has no one else to replace you.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s just how a player’s mind functions. If any of this sound familiar to you, you know that you’re being strung along, and it’s time to set new rules and save yourself!<\/p>\n

He doesn’t accept you for who you are<\/h2>\n

\"Joven<\/p>\n

Te hace sentir culpable por tus defectos, h\u00e1bitos y todas esas peque\u00f1as cosas que te hacen ser quien eres.<\/p>\n

Te hace sentir menos digno y te recuerda constantemente s\u00f3lo las cosas negativas.<\/p>\n

He’s not only unwilling to accept you for who you really are, he’s also comparing you with other women or an imaginary “perfect woman” that you should become.<\/p>\n

He’s doing all of this because he’s frustrated and dissatisfied with himself in the first place.<\/p>\n

Also, he doesn’t accept you for who you are in order to keep making you feel less worthy.<\/p>\n

Esta es una de las estrategias m\u00e1s poderosas cuando se trata de enga\u00f1ar y manipular.<\/p>\n

By making you feel like shit and stringing you along, he’s making you more attached to himself, which is his main goal.<\/p>\n

He needs to know that you’ll keep fighting for him and accepting him whenever he decides to come back into your life, no matter how bad he treated you.<\/p>\n

It’s the only way for him to keep playing his dirty game and preserve the status of “an innocent man.”<\/p>\n

Falta de comunicaci\u00f3n significativa<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

You no longer have eye-to-eye, inspiring, meaningful conversations with each other because he doesn’t even bother sharing anything with you about his life.<\/p>\n

Lo \u00fanico que hacen es saludarse y seguir con su rutina. <\/p>\n

There\u2019s no deep connection, cuddling, or anything related to intimacy. Also, you go out of your way to ask him questions about his hobbies, friends, job, and other things only to make him talk and finally get some feedback.<\/p>\n

Pero esto nunca sucede. Cuanto m\u00e1s intentas llegar a \u00e9l, m\u00e1s se aleja, \u00bfverdad?<\/p>\n

The more you text him, the more he’s unwilling to text you back. The same goes with calls and everything else.<\/p>\n

Then you start making excuses for his shitty behavior, thinking that this is how a relationship develops in the modern dating world. But deep down in your heart, you know that this isn’t true.<\/p>\n

After that, you start looking for dating advice from your friends or online in order to find out what the hell\u2019s actually going on.<\/p>\n

And that is when you realize that you’re being strung along by a player who is not willing to lift a finger, let alone have a meaningful conversation with you or treat you with respect and dignity.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: \u00bfEs un jugador? 13 se\u00f1ales de advertencia de que un hombre no va en serio contigo<\/a><\/p>\n

He doesn’t bother introducing you to his friends and family<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

He never mentions his friends or any single member of his family, as if they don’t even exist.<\/p>\n

Y siempre que le pides que te hable m\u00e1s de ellos, lo evita como la peste y se muestra visiblemente confuso o irritado al respecto. <\/p>\n

You can’t think of any valid reason why he\u2019d dodge introducing you to his friends and family because you’ve been having a good time together and everything seems perfect.<\/p>\n

You expected that your relationship would flourish, that you\u2019d finally include your friends and family into the story as well, but unfortunately that’s the last thing on his mind at the moment. <\/p>\n

\u00bfPor qu\u00e9?<\/p>\n

Porque presentarte a sus amigos y familia significa entrar en la zona de las relaciones serias<\/a>, which is a big no-no for him, given that all he really wants is to continue treating you like an option \u2013 like someone that he\u2019ll likely replace someday with someone else.<\/p>\n

If this is happening to you, I’m sorry to tell you, but you’re being strung along by a player who doesn’t want anything serious with you and isn\u2019t ready to show you proudly to his friends and family!<\/p>\n

Trust me on this, a guy who\u2019s ready to make you his, respect you, fight for you, and genuinely make an effort would never bypass introducing you to the people who matter to him.<\/p>\n

He’s constantly disrespecting you<\/h2>\n

\"joven<\/p>\n

Que te tomen el pelo equivale a que te falten al respeto constantemente y te obliguen a sentirte menos digno y poco importante.<\/p>\n

There are many forms of disrespect and if he exhibits any of the following, you know that you’re being strung along for sure.<\/p>\n

You know that it’s time to work a little bit more on self-love and appreciating yourself more:<\/p>\n