{"id":48206,"date":"2019-11-20T12:47:38","date_gmt":"2019-11-20T12:47:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=48206"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:21:05","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:21:05","slug":"5-cosas-que-mi-relacion-toxica-me-enseno-sobre-el-amor","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-cosas-que-mi-relacion-toxica-me-enseno-sobre-el-amor\/","title":{"rendered":"5 cosas que mi relaci\u00f3n t\u00f3xica me ense\u00f1\u00f3 sobre el amor"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cuando era joven, conoc\u00ed a un hombre. Me enamor\u00e9 locamente de \u00e9l. No ve\u00eda a nadie m\u00e1s que a \u00e9l. Era el centro de mi universo, era el sentido de mi vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

At that time, I thought I hit the jackpot! I had the feeling that I\u2019d never do better than him and that the Universe rewarded me somehow by sending his beautiful tender soul into my life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Oh God\u2026 I thought I had it all. <\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

But, in the beginning, that wasn\u2019t far from the truth. <\/b><\/p>\n

Me sostuvo como a una delicada flor, protegi\u00e9ndome cuidadosamente del viento y del fr\u00edo. Estuvo a mi lado en todo momento. <\/span><\/p>\n

I really thought I was rewarded. I seriously believed he was out of my league. I even felt honored he chose me over a dozen other girls he could\u2019ve had. <\/span><\/p>\n

Esto me plante\u00f3 serias dudas. <\/span><\/p>\n

The most important thing I didn\u2019t know then but know now, is that I never should\u2019ve felt honored. I never should\u2019ve put him on a pedestal. <\/span><\/p>\n

The reason is simple \u2013 not because he didn\u2019t deserve it, but because I didn\u2019t deserve it. <\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Pensaba muy poco de m\u00ed misma y no ten\u00eda ninguna confianza. De hecho, era la \u00fanica persona que pensaba tan poco de m\u00ed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Los dem\u00e1s me miraban como deb\u00eda haberlo hecho desde el principio. Deber\u00eda haberme amado lo suficiente como para invertir esa imagen torcida de m\u00ed misma que ten\u00eda en la cabeza. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pero d\u00e9jame que te cuente m\u00e1s cosas sobre \u00e9l. <\/b><\/p>\n

He was so charming, funny, and beautiful. I\u2019d never had a man like that. <\/span><\/p>\n

Dado que yo era bastante joven por aquel entonces, salir con alguien un poco mayor que \u00e9l era todo un reto. Francamente, estaba perdida y no ten\u00eda ni idea de lo que estaba haciendo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tuve que seguirle la corriente porque estaba muy seguro de s\u00ed mismo. Sab\u00eda exactamente qu\u00e9 hacer, cu\u00e1ndo hacerlo y c\u00f3mo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cuando ves a un hombre tan decidido, te hipnotiza y te olvidas por completo de qui\u00e9n eres y de lo que quieres. Sus necesidades y deseos se convierten en los tuyos. <\/span><\/p>\n

La primera vez que me bes\u00f3, sent\u00ed que flotaba en un universo sin tiempo ni espacio. <\/span><\/p>\n

No hab\u00eda nada a mi alrededor excepto esta sensaci\u00f3n de felicidad incontrolable. No ten\u00eda poder para mover mi cuerpo. <\/span><\/p>\n

I had no control over myself. The only thing I remember was the tingles over every inch of my body and I thought to myself: \u201cLet this feeling last forever!\u201d<\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Luego me bes\u00f3 la segunda vez y la tercera. Las emociones s\u00f3lo se amplific\u00f3 a la etapa de \u00e9xtasis total hasta que el fragmento como millones de piezas de espejo roto golpeando el suelo. <\/span>
\n<\/span>
\n<\/span>\u201cI can\u2019t be your boyfriend,\u201d he said. <\/b>
\n<\/span>
\n<\/span>I was forced back to reality. The feeling was gone, the happiness was fading. This was the first thing I learned about love\u2026 Stay with me\u2026 Here it goes: <\/span><\/p>\n

1. Nunca podr\u00eda comprometerse conmigo<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

\u00c9l no era de ese tipo. Su esp\u00edritu libre y su alma errante nunca le permitieron establecerse con una sola persona.<\/span><\/p>\n

Unfortunately, back then, I believed I wasn\u2019t someone special who could capture his heart. <\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, sin siquiera preguntarme por qu\u00e9 ni intentar luchar por su amor, mis sue\u00f1os fueron destruidos y recib\u00ed una pu\u00f1alada en el coraz\u00f3n del primer amor verdadero sin ninguna posibilidad de sobrevivir al ataque.<\/span><\/p>\n

El hombre al que amaba nunca podr\u00eda amarme igual. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. Las banderas rojas eran obvias<\/h2>\n

\"Joven<\/p>\n

Every future failed relationship has them. You\u2019re only going to recognize them if you leave your options open. I didn\u2019t do that.<\/span><\/p>\n

Cre\u00ed ciegamente que era el hombre adecuado para m\u00ed. Ni por un segundo dud\u00e9 de mi decisi\u00f3n. Por desgracia, deber\u00eda haberlo hecho. <\/span><\/p>\n

Nada es perfecto. Mi relaci\u00f3n era perfecta para m\u00ed, \u00e9l era perfecto para m\u00ed, y eso deber\u00eda haber sido la mayor se\u00f1al de alarma. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remember, please, that no one is perfect \u2013 especially not the man who seems to be flawless. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ignor\u00e9 las banderas de registro y se produjo el desastre. Fue como una ducha helada.<\/span><\/p>\n

From instant crush and endless love, I soon felt disappointment, rejection, and pain\u2026 So. Much. Pain. <\/span><\/p>\n

I know I\u2019m not to blame for not recognizing the signs of danger. I know that mostly no one pays attention to the signs that predict your tears. <\/span><\/p>\n

If it was that easy to see it, there\u2019d be no heartbreak. The harsh truth is that your eyes open when it\u2019s too late. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your eyes open when the wound in your heart won\u2019t stop bleeding. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. Con su amor, me dren\u00f3<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

La lecci\u00f3n m\u00e1s importante que aprend\u00ed es que el amor no debe drenarte. <\/span><\/p>\n

When I was with him, I was full, I was happy \u2013 you can even say that I was eccentric. But after being with him and coming home to my \u201creality,\u201d I felt nothing. <\/span>
\n<\/span>
\n<\/span>Nada pod\u00eda emocionarme. No hab\u00eda persona en este mundo que pudiera hacerme sonre\u00edr como \u00e9l. B\u00e1sicamente, yo era una mujer s\u00f3lo de carne y hueso con un esp\u00edritu flotando a la espera de nuestro pr\u00f3ximo encuentro.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was just a shadow, a silhouette \u2013 completely emotionless, completely drained. He would bring me to life with our every next meeting. <\/span><\/p>\n

El amor no es as\u00ed y tuve que aprender esa lecci\u00f3n por las malas. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. He kept me at an arm\u2019s length<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Su plan era impecable. Cada vez que nos ve\u00edamos, me daba lo que necesitaba. <\/span><\/p>\n

El caso es que nunca me dio demasiado. Siempre sab\u00eda la cantidad exacta de atenci\u00f3n y cuidados para que yo pudiera volver a por m\u00e1s. <\/span>
\n<\/span>
\n<\/span>That was the craziest hook I was ever on. It\u2019s like a drug. You try it, you take some more and more and more\u2026 You know it\u2019s bad for you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re aware that the path you\u2019re on is leading to disaster, but it\u2019s so good that you don\u2019t care. You just want to go back for more. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s how he manipulated me. He had me, yet at the same time he didn\u2019t commit to me. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s the grey zone of relationships that he ruled so well. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. S\u00f3lo me quit\u00f3<\/h2>\n

\"Pensar<\/p>\n

Love doesn\u2019t only take. Love gives back so much more than you give. That wasn\u2019t the story I was living in. My love only took from me. <\/span><\/p>\n

Every day he\u2019d take as much as he needed and then he\u2019d be gone. <\/span>
\n<\/span>
\n<\/span>I had no idea where he was going and whom he was meeting. But I\u2019m not the suffocating kind. If he wouldn\u2019t tell me, I didn\u2019t ask. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s called trust, which I sadly gave to the wrong man. <\/span><\/p>\n

Todo lo que sent\u00eda por dentro se lo daba a \u00e9l. Cuando est\u00e1bamos juntos, \u00e9l era el \u00fanico en el mundo para m\u00ed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Le prestar\u00eda toda mi atenci\u00f3n y le someter\u00eda cada uno de mis sentimientos.<\/span><\/p>\n

A cambio, como ya te he dicho, obtuve el vac\u00edo. S\u00f3lo m\u00e1s tarde, cuando realmente encontr\u00e9 al amor de mi vida, me di cuenta de que estaba en negaci\u00f3n todo el tiempo que estuve con \u00e9l.<\/span><\/p>\n

I was delusional, like someone cast a spell on me. My eyes were focused on one thing only \u2013 him \u2013 and unable to see anything else.<\/span><\/p>\n

Terminamos nuestra historia con amistad<\/b>o lo que podr\u00edamos llamar una falsa amistad. Eso que ten\u00edamos sobrevivi\u00f3 un par de encuentros m\u00e1s, pero con el tiempo se olvid\u00f3 de que yo exist\u00eda. <\/span><\/p>\n

He led me to believe that he loved me, but for some inexplicable reason, couldn\u2019t be with me. Like, it\u2019s too much for him to let me in his life as a whole and for good. <\/span>
\n<\/span><\/p>\n

Por una raz\u00f3n a\u00fan m\u00e1s tonta, en aquel momento consegu\u00ed entender las tonter\u00edas que me estaba vendiendo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Una vez m\u00e1s, acept\u00e9 seguirle la corriente con sus condiciones, tal y como hab\u00eda planeado desde el principio. <\/span><\/p>\n

I let him do whatever he wanted with me because I was young, naive, and most importantly, I didn\u2019t have the courage to love myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Me menospreci\u00e9 desde el principio, lo que me convirti\u00f3 en un blanco perfecto con el que divertirse. <\/span><\/p>\n

And there you go\u2026 That\u2019s my story of a heartbreak that taught me what true love really is.<\/b><\/p>\n

In a way, I\u2019m glad it happened the way it did. I may have gone through hell, but at least\u2026 I\u2019m happy now.    <\/span><\/p>\n

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