{"id":48221,"date":"2019-11-20T15:15:23","date_gmt":"2019-11-20T15:15:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=48221"},"modified":"2022-05-18T22:18:58","modified_gmt":"2022-05-18T22:18:58","slug":"deja-de-hacer-concesiones-para-que-se-queden","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/deja-de-hacer-concesiones-para-que-se-queden\/","title":{"rendered":"Deja de ceder para que se queden"},"content":{"rendered":"

La vida est\u00e1 llena de compromisos, <\/span><\/i>isn\u2019t it?<\/span><\/p>\n

And if life is full of compromises, the only thing that seems fair is to split those compromises, don\u2019t you think?<\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00ed, las citas son un l\u00edo, intentar mantener las conexiones en este mundo loco y r\u00e1pido requiere mucha energ\u00eda, y a veces hay cosas que no son prioritarias, as\u00ed que las abandonas. <\/span><\/p>\n

That\u2019s okay. <\/span><\/p>\n

Debes renunciar a las cosas que no son importantes. <\/span><\/p>\n

But you have to be careful with what you\u2019re giving up on. <\/span><\/p>\n

Please don\u2019t ever put yourself in that basket. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t ever put yourself in the <\/span>no prioritario<\/span><\/i> cesta. <\/span><\/p>\n

C\u00f3mo te tratas a ti mismo sienta un precedente para los dem\u00e1s sobre c\u00f3mo tratarte. Aprenden de ti. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re the one showing them what you\u2019re willing to tolerate and what not. Don\u2019t teach them that their choices are much more important than yours. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t teach them that their time is more valuable than yours. <\/b><\/p>\n

If you respond to their texts immediately and don\u2019t keep them waiting, you should get just as much in return. <\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t treat their <\/span>3 horas despu\u00e9s<\/span><\/i> reply as something normal. Don\u2019t be happy they decided to text back at least. No. It\u2019s not enough. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si reorganizas tus planes para verlos y ellos cancelar en el \u00faltimo minuto<\/a>, don\u2019t be all thrilled and happy when they invite you out the next time. <\/span><\/p>\n

If the pattern is constantly repeated, it\u2019s not okay. Seeing them only on their terms is not okay.  No. It\u2019s not enough. <\/span><\/p>\n

T\u00fa importas.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tus planes importan.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Tus deseos y anhelos son tan importantes como los suyos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your job, your ambitions, desires, hobbies are as big and as important as anyone else’s. Don\u2019t let them take that from you.<\/b><\/p>\n

La \u00fanica persona que debes mantener en tu vida eres t\u00fa. <\/span><\/p>\n

The only person you\u2019re supposed to hold on tightly to and not let go of is yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Trust me, you can live without them, but you can\u2019t live without yourself, and you care about yourself the least. <\/span><\/p>\n

La gente va y viene. Los amantes se separan. Los amigos eligen caminos diferentes y se distancian. <\/span><\/p>\n

Those who swore to stay together forever suddenly change their minds and leave, and as sad as it may sound, it\u2019s okay. It\u2019s life.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sucede as\u00ed. Perder\u00e1s gente con el tiempo. Pero, por favor, nunca te pierdas a ti mismo. <\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t force people to stay in your life. Staying is a choice, so be thankful for people who choose you.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

You must\u2019ve seen people leave a 5-10 year relationship, turn around and get married to someone they\u2019ve known for 6 months, and do all the things their ex always begged them to do. Stop preaching to people. Stop compromising for them. <\/span><\/p>\n

They hear you. They\u2019re never going to be the people you want them to be because you\u2019re not the one they want in their life. <\/span><\/p>\n

La gente cambia por quien quiere. Tan sencillo como eso. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you have to start compromising yourself or your morals for the people around you, it\u2019s probably time to change the people around you. <\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

You are supposed to love people and compromise but only to the point where you\u2019re not choosing them over yourself, to the point where you\u2019re not compromising your happiness for their presence.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Haz un balance entre comprometer tus deseos y convertirte en una prioridad. Y hazlo solo por personas que est\u00e9n dispuestas a hacer lo mismo por ti. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estar enamorado en esta generaci\u00f3n es aterrador. La lealtad es tan rara, y la gente se apresura a elegir un buen momento antes que algo bueno.<\/span><\/p>\n

So I\u2019ll make you a deal. Hear me out.<\/span><\/p>\n

Stop letting them touch you and kiss you and take up your time if they don\u2019t want anything serious. <\/span><\/p>\n

Stop checking up on them if they\u2019re not checking up on you. Stop rescheduling your life when they can\u2019t fit you in their schedule at all. <\/span><\/p>\n

Deja de hacerte desgraciado para hacerlos felices. Deja de mendigar su presencia. <\/span><\/p>\n

Turn the game around. Dedicate all the time you were wasting on people who don\u2019t deserve it to yourself. Build yourself up. Talk nicely to yourself. Take yourself out. Treat yourself. Be your own privilege. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfY qu\u00e9 ocurrir\u00e1? <\/span><\/p>\n

All those you were \u2018begging\u2019 to stay will slowly start disappearing from your life. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because the only person who was putting in the effort for that relationship will stop and then what\u2019s left? <\/span><\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1s t\u00fa, rodeado de pocas personas, pero pocas dignas de tu tiempo. Ser\u00e1 como si un elefante te quitara una pata del pecho. <\/span><\/p>\n

There will be plenty of life\u2019s battles to fight, but at least you\u2019ll know who you can count on.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"Deja<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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