{"id":48719,"date":"2019-11-28T02:32:44","date_gmt":"2019-11-28T02:32:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=48719"},"modified":"2021-08-12T13:35:05","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T13:35:05","slug":"5-razones-por-las-que-ese-hombre-roto-no-es-tuyo-para-arreglarlo","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/5-razones-por-las-que-ese-hombre-roto-no-es-tuyo-para-arreglarlo\/","title":{"rendered":"5 razones por las que ese hombre roto no es tuyo para arreglarlo"},"content":{"rendered":"

\u00bfSe ha encontrado alguna vez en una situaci\u00f3n en la que ha conocido a un <\/span>hombre emocionalmente da\u00f1ado<\/span><\/a> que ten\u00eda toneladas de equipaje y problemas? <\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, en lugar de huir de \u00e9l y dejar que se las apa\u00f1ara solo con sus problemas, decidiste hacer todo lo contrario: te encargaste de arreglarlo.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si te sientes identificado, aqu\u00ed tienes 5 razones por las que ha sido la peor decisi\u00f3n de tu vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

1. You\u2019re not a superwoman<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Cuando conoces a un hombre emocionalmente da\u00f1ado o con problemas, lo ves a \u00e9l y a su situaci\u00f3n como un reto. <\/span><\/p>\n

After all, you\u2019ve achieved things that seemed way more impossible than this one.<\/span><\/p>\n

You are not a quitter, and you know how capable you are, so why couldn\u2019t you <\/span>arregla esto hombre<\/span><\/a> \u00bftambi\u00e9n? <\/span><\/p>\n

Therefore, you convinced yourself that you\u2019re the only one who can open his heart to love, the only one who has the ability to chase away his demons, and the only one who can help him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, let me break your bubble\u2014you\u2019re not. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re a strong, powerful girl\u2014nobody can argue with that. However, that doesn\u2019t give you superpowers, and it doesn\u2019t make you omnipotent when it comes to others.<\/span><\/p>\n

You probably don\u2019t want to give up on this guy because you would see that as your personal defeat. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, instead of looking at things this way, remember that you can\u2019t do everything you set your mind to.<\/span><\/p>\n

2. You weren\u2019t the one who damaged him<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Todos debemos asumir la responsabilidad de nuestros actos y malas acciones. Este hombre est\u00e1 roto por una raz\u00f3n. <\/span><\/p>\n

He was probably hurt by a woman from his past or he has some traumas, issues and emotional baggage he keeps carrying around and can\u2019t seem to get rid of.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, lo que deber\u00edas preguntarte es si t\u00fa has provocado que se sienta as\u00ed. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfFuiste t\u00fa quien aplast\u00f3 su coraz\u00f3n y lo cambi\u00f3 para siempre?<\/span><\/p>\n

Of course, the answer is NO! You\u2019re not responsible for his wounds, so how can it be your duty to cure them?<\/span><\/p>\n

Remember: you can\u2019t repair what you didn\u2019t break. <\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, you can give him a hand in the process, but you can\u2019t be the one who does the healing instead of him.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. You can\u2019t save anyone<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

La dura verdad que muchos se niegan a afrontar es que <\/span>you can\u2019t save<\/span><\/a> anyone, especially if they don\u2019t want to be saved. <\/span><\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que es dif\u00edcil de entender, pero hay personas que se acostumbraron a su dolor. Se convirti\u00f3 en una parte tan inseparable de ellos que dejaron de reconocerlo como algo malo.<\/span><\/p>\n

There are people whose toxicity became their comfort zone and who actually don\u2019t have the desire to get rid of it. <\/span><\/p>\n

If your man is one of those people, sorry, but there is no point in trying to do his dirty work for him because you\u2019ll achieve nothing.<\/span><\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, si este chico, por ejemplo, necesita un cierre, tiene que conseguirlo de la chica que le hizo sentir as\u00ed. <\/span><\/p>\n

Si necesita tiempo para procesar algunas cosas y alejarse de su dolor, es \u00e9l quien tiene que hacerlo con o sin ti en su vida.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can\u2019t take over his burden, as much as you want to, and you can\u2019t magically erase his scars. Well, technically you can try, but that would only be temporary.<\/span><\/p>\n

4. He\u2019ll only pull you down with him<\/h2>\n

\"Triste<\/p>\n

Cuando empez\u00f3 a pensar en c\u00f3mo ayudar a este hombre, probablemente se imagin\u00f3 el mejor de los casos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your love, honesty, and devotion would soften his heart. He\u2019d get rid of the shields which kept him guarded, and he\u2019d show you his true, vulnerable self.<\/span><\/p>\n

Si lo consigues, lo atraer\u00e1s hacia la luz, y todos sus demonios y traumas formar\u00e1n parte de su lejano recuerdo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sounds great, I know\u2014almost too great to be true.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, what you didn\u2019t take into consideration is for things to happen the other way around. <\/span><\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, siempre existe la posibilidad de que te arrastre hacia abajo con \u00e9l y de que quedes da\u00f1ada, igual que \u00e9l.<\/span><\/p>\n

There\u2019s a very real possibility for his negativity and toxicity to overweigh your positive energy and the love you\u2019re bringing to the table; a possibility for you both to end up completely messed up.<\/span><\/p>\n

5. Tienes que centrarte en ti mismo<\/h2>\n

\"Disfrutando<\/p>\n

For as long as you can remember, you\u2019ve been a selfless person who has taken care of other people\u2019s needs. <\/span><\/p>\n

You were everyone\u2019s shoulder to cry on, the wind to their wings, and the person who never gave up on her closest ones.<\/span><\/p>\n

And that is an awesome quality. You\u2019re obviously an <\/span>emp\u00e1tico<\/span><\/a> que est\u00e1 dispuesta a mover monta\u00f1as por las personas que ama.<\/span><\/p>\n

However, instead of taking over someone else’s problems, it is about time for you to focus on yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

It is about time to give yourself the place which belongs to you\u2014a place on the top of your own priority list.<\/span><\/p>\n

Y eso no tiene nada de ego\u00edsta. Por el contrario, es la \u00fanica manera en que las cosas deber\u00edan funcionar.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014I\u2019m not advising you to become an egocentric maniac who only cares for her own wellbeing. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, I\u2019m begging you not to get yourself in a situation where you\u2019ll drain all of your energy on trying to help others and end up with no strength to lift yourself up when you need it.<\/span><\/p>\n

Please, redirect all of the effort and time you\u2019ve been giving to this man to yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

Aseg\u00farate de convertirte en la mejor versi\u00f3n posible de ti misma y en la mujer que sabes que est\u00e1s destinada a ser antes de salir ah\u00ed fuera y centrarte en los dem\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sounds kind of ruthless, I know. Nevertheless, it is the only way in which your own life won\u2019t suffer because of others.<\/span><\/p>\n

Because the truth is that no matter how deeply you care for another person, you have to put yourself first because you\u2019re the one who matters the most. <\/span><\/p>\n

Y siempre tienes que quererte a ti mismo antes de querer a los dem\u00e1s.<\/span><\/p>\n

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