{"id":49533,"date":"2019-12-10T14:01:42","date_gmt":"2019-12-10T14:01:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=49533"},"modified":"2022-02-10T12:25:21","modified_gmt":"2022-02-10T12:25:21","slug":"7-habitos-toxicos-en-las-relaciones-que-confundimos-con-normales","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/7-habitos-toxicos-en-las-relaciones-que-confundimos-con-normales\/","title":{"rendered":"7 h\u00e1bitos t\u00f3xicos en las relaciones que confundimos con normales"},"content":{"rendered":"

When it comes to other people\u2019s relationships, we are all experts on the subject, but when our own relationship is at stake, we have no idea what to do about it.<\/p>\n

No tenemos ni idea y estamos ciegos. <\/p>\n

Someone else\u2019s relationship is displayed to you so clearly.<\/p>\n

Puedes ver todas las banderas rojas, incluso las que no son peligrosas pero lo son potencialmente.<\/p>\n

Tienes la capacidad de detectarlo todo, por insignificante o peque\u00f1o que sea. <\/p>\n

This is actually very fascinating because the same people who point out other people\u2019s mistakes in a relationship don\u2019t see their own.<\/p>\n

Por el contrario, pensamos que nuestro comportamiento y nuestra relaci\u00f3n son impecables. <\/b><\/p>\n

No tenemos ni idea de que nuestro relaci\u00f3n est\u00e1 gritando con toxicidad <\/a>y muriendo lentamente.<\/p>\n

Todo por las cosas que creemos normales.<\/p>\n

Porque optamos por ignorar los problemas y esperar que desaparezcan.<\/p>\n

Esta locura llega hasta el punto en que empezamos a creer que estos h\u00e1bitos t\u00f3xicos<\/a> son realmente buenas para nuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

La ilusi\u00f3n se apodera por completo de la relaci\u00f3n y \u00e9sta se resquebraja con el tiempo. Porque nada podrido puede durar para siempre. <\/p>\n

Comunicaci\u00f3n excesiva<\/h2>\n

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La comunicaci\u00f3n es una de las partes m\u00e1s importantes de toda relaci\u00f3n sana.<\/p>\n

Pero a decir verdad, hay que trazar una l\u00ednea entre lo sano y lo posesivo.<\/p>\n

En realidad, la l\u00ednea es muy fina y uno puede dejarse llevar f\u00e1cilmente, sobre todo al principio de la relaci\u00f3n. <\/p>\n

In that honeymoon phase, it\u2019s more than natural to want to spend every possible second with the person you\u2019re madly in love with.<\/p>\n

El problema aparece cuando esta comunicaci\u00f3n excesiva crece hasta convertirse en un comportamiento obsesivo. <\/p>\n

Al cabo de un tiempo, uno de los dos socios estar\u00e1 harto de tener que hablar constantemente con el otro y contarle sus planes y su paradero.<\/p>\n

Se convertir\u00e1 en una obligaci\u00f3n que llevar\u00e1 al desprecio. <\/p>\n

Evitar conflictos<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de la fase de luna de miel comienza la fase en la que ves ciertas cosas y patrones de comportamiento con m\u00e1s claridad.<\/p>\n

Maybe some of them don\u2019t suit you, or you want to change them, but because you\u2019re avoiding conflict to keep the peace and the lovey-dovey phase of your relationship alive for as long as possible, you\u2019re avoiding confrontation. <\/p>\n

By doing what you think is best for the relationship, you\u2019re only making it worse.<\/p>\n

By saying nothing, your partner will keep on doing what really bothers you because they have no idea it\u2019s driving you crazy. <\/p>\n

But in the long run, it\u2019s better to say what is bothering you right away than to try to put up with it.<\/p>\n

Si te guardas las cosas que te molestan, tu relaci\u00f3n se ir\u00e1 acabando poco a poco.<\/p>\n

Eso es un volc\u00e1n dentro de ti esperando a entrar en erupci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

The longer it\u2019s calm, the worse the eruption will be. <\/p>\n

Llevar la cuenta<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

You and your partner aren\u2019t able to let go of the past.<\/p>\n

Therefore, you\u2019re actually keeping score of who screwed up more in your relationship.<\/p>\n

Quien la haya cagado menos es, obviamente, el ganador.<\/p>\n

Esto es malo a muchos niveles para vuestra relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

First of all, you\u2019re never going to resolve your current issues if you keep on going back to the past.<\/p>\n

When one of you makes a mistake, the other one shouldn\u2019t gloat or think that you\u2019re even.<\/p>\n

Adem\u00e1s, la persona que comete el error nunca debe empezar a defenderse atacando a su pareja y sacando a relucir algo en lo que meti\u00f3 la pata hace mucho tiempo. <\/p>\n

If both of you keep up with this behavior, you\u2019re only going in circles that will make your relationship hopelessly toxic.<\/p>\n

And secondly, by acting like this, you\u2019re only creating more pain.<\/p>\n

In other words, you\u2019re manipulating your partner into feeling guilty about their mistakes.<\/p>\n

Actuar as\u00ed no es justo ni bueno a largo plazo.<\/p>\n

Tu pareja acabar\u00e1 perdiendo la autoestima si sigues menospreci\u00e1ndola y haci\u00e9ndola sentir mal a prop\u00f3sito. <\/p>\n

Comparing them to your \u2018old love\u2019<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Maybe your partner will find this funny or cute in the beginning, especially if you\u2019re mentioning them in a good or better way than their ex.<\/p>\n

Con el tiempo, esto puede envejecer, te lo advierto.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s one thing to talk about your ex only in the beginning, but if you keep mentioning them later on, too, you\u2019re going to have a problem.<\/p>\n

Even if you\u2019re remembering your old love in a bad way, enough is enough.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s time your relationship moves on to another level, in which no one will mention any other person than the two of you.<\/p>\n

Un nivel en el que s\u00f3lo import\u00e1is vosotros dos y nadie m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Just a heads-up; on that level there is no place for a third person\u2014not even in memory. <\/p>\n

Ser pasivo-agresivo<\/h2>\n

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Las personas que pasivo-agresivo en una relaci\u00f3n <\/a>tienen miedo de ser sinceros con su pareja.<\/p>\n

They are scared to say what\u2019s on their mind and terrified to speak clearly. <\/p>\n

Lo que hacen las personas pasivo-agresivas en una relaci\u00f3n es manipular a su pareja para que entienda lo que intentan decir en lugar de decirlo en voz alta.<\/p>\n

La persona que se siente segura con su pareja nunca la manipular\u00e1 con su propia opini\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

A person in a healthy relationship won\u2019t feel that insecure, nor they will drop hints about what they want.<\/p>\n

Simplemente lo pedir\u00e1n. <\/p>\n

Revestimiento de az\u00facar<\/h2>\n

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If you or your partner have to walk around on eggshells with each other, scared to say something wrong\u2026 that\u2019s not a relationship.<\/p>\n

That\u2019s BS, pardon my French!<\/p>\n

It\u2019s one thing that we have to do that shit every day with different people, strangers in a way, but do we have to do it with our partner as well?<\/p>\n

Of course we don\u2019t!<\/p>\n

If you can\u2019t be completely honest with your partner, then your relationship is toxic from the beginning.<\/p>\n

It has no future, so don\u2019t even try to create one.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t beat around the bush, speak what\u2019s on your mind.<\/p>\n

If they seem bothered by your honesty, then it\u2019s them who have a problem and not you. <\/p>\n

Celos disfrazados de amor<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Sorprendentemente, mucha gente define este comportamiento como amor.<\/p>\n

Lo que m\u00e1s me sorprende es c\u00f3mo ignoran voluntariamente un comportamiento potencialmente muy peligroso que podr\u00eda convertirse muy f\u00e1cilmente en abuso emocional. <\/p>\n

If your partner starts exhibiting strange behavior such as getting pissed when you talk to someone else, especially someone of the opposite sex, that\u2019s a very alarming sign indicating that more serious problems are about to emerge. <\/p>\n

Don\u2019t be surprised if they cross over from \u2018just being pissed\u2019 to start following you around the city and checking your phone or your emails.<\/p>\n

Los celos son una enfermedad grave, capaz de extenderse muy r\u00e1pido hasta el punto de destruir una relaci\u00f3n anta\u00f1o feliz. <\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo acabar con los h\u00e1bitos t\u00f3xicos disfrazados de normales?<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to start a relationship, anyone can do that.<\/p>\n

Lo dif\u00edcil es mantener esa relaci\u00f3n sana y viva; eso requiere mucho trabajo duro y, lo m\u00e1s importante, nunca hay que dejar de intentarlo.<\/p>\n

When you\u2019re in a happy phase, it\u2019s easy to be happy and keep things positive.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s easy to have faith in someone when everything is running smoothly. <\/p>\n

Pero vuestra relaci\u00f3n sobrevivir\u00e1 en las buenas y en las malas si ambos segu\u00eds intent\u00e1ndolo cuando todo a vuestro alrededor se desmorona.<\/p>\n

When things are going south, it\u2019s a real challenge to remain positive. <\/p>\n

It\u2019s too easy for a relationship to turn into a toxic one.<\/p>\n

It doesn\u2019t take much for things to go to shit. <\/p>\n

La respuesta definitiva a la pregunta de c\u00f3mo acabar con los h\u00e1bitos t\u00f3xicos es: <\/p>\n

1. Deja de mentirte a ti mismo<\/p>\n

2. Compr\u00e9ndete primero a ti mismo y luego a la relaci\u00f3n<\/p>\n

3. Madurez<\/p>\n

Ya est\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Las tres respuestas clave a la pregunta anterior.<\/p>\n

Pueden parecer sencillas y f\u00e1ciles de conseguir, pero requieren mucho trabajo. <\/p>\n

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