{"id":50269,"date":"2019-12-26T17:39:21","date_gmt":"2019-12-26T17:39:21","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=50269"},"modified":"2022-02-26T21:56:03","modified_gmt":"2022-02-26T21:56:03","slug":"sentimientos-por-el-hombre-equivocado-6-maneras-de-hacer-que-desaparezcan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/sentimientos-por-el-hombre-equivocado-6-maneras-de-hacer-que-desaparezcan\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfSientes algo por el chico equivocado? 6 maneras de hacer que desaparezcan"},"content":{"rendered":"

Cuando acababas de conocerle, estabas convencido de que por fin hab\u00edas encontrado al <\/span>persona adecuada<\/span>...el hombre de tus sue\u00f1os, tu pr\u00edncipe azul (vale, creo que ya me has entendido) porque era DIFERENTE y porque hac\u00eda todo lo correcto. <\/span><\/p>\n

You thought you were dreaming because you couldn’t believe that this was happening to you. <\/span><\/p>\n

You couldn’t believe that you finally met that one guy who is a total keeper, right?!<\/span><\/p>\n

You caught feelings quickly, or better said in a record time, out of fear that you’ll wake up and realize that you were in a coma or in a long, awesome dream, and you simply didn’t want to risk losing all of this. <\/span><\/p>\n

Convenciste a tu coraz\u00f3n de que esta vez ser\u00eda diferente porque ESTE T\u00cdO es todo lo que siempre quisiste y necesitaste.<\/span><\/p>\n

But now, you actually have no idea where he is, what he’s doing or thinking because this guy, your dream guy, has simply disappeared into thin air. <\/b><\/p>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Or he’s <\/span>mensajes de texto<\/span> h\u00e1bitos se han convertido en <\/span>textos de una palabra<\/span><\/a> twice a month because of some super important things he can’t miss, not even if his life was at stake.<\/span><\/p>\n

The only time he’s willing to make a serious effort is when he needs to think of a perfect excuse and make you think that you’re the crazy one (or at least try to).<\/span><\/p>\n

But, you know that all of this is bullshit because you’ve probably been playing detective as every woman out there who is <\/span>tristeza<\/span>...dolido y decepcionado. <\/span><\/p>\n

You know exactly how much time he spends on social networks, and how full of shit he really is, but you don’t understand one thing: <\/span><\/p>\n

No tienes ni idea<\/b> por qu\u00e9 te dejas <\/b>atrapar sentimientos<\/b> so quickly for him like he’s the <\/b>\u00fanica persona<\/b> en el mundo, como si <\/b>enamorarse<\/b> equals breathing and you wanted to make sure that you’re getting the right amount of it.<\/b><\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 has hecho mal? \u00bfC\u00f3mo pudiste siquiera pensar que era <\/span>relaci\u00f3n duradera<\/span><\/a> material when in reality he’s more of a <\/span>FWB<\/span> – ‘<\/span>amigos con derecho a roce<\/span>‘, ‘<\/span>ligue ocasional<\/span> material’ or ‘no fucks given’ prick? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo puedes evitar seguir <\/span>atrapando sentimientos<\/span> por el tipo equivocado?<\/span><\/p>\n

Bueno, d\u00e9jame recordarte una cosa: <\/span>Convertir a un chico en tu prioridad desde el principio sin darle tiempo a que se lo merezca antes s\u00f3lo conseguir\u00e1 que pierda el inter\u00e9s y te d\u00e9 por descontada. <\/b><\/p>\n

And that is how your \u201cright guy\u201d becomes the wrong guy!<\/b><\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

So, no matter how much you’re excited about your <\/span>preciosa<\/span> pie, your new special guy, you can’t act like you just went to a <\/span>tienda de comestibles<\/span> y has encontrado una cosa nueva y perfecta que seguir\u00e1s adorando y tratando con especial cuidado sin comprobar antes su calidad. <\/span><\/p>\n

Because the more you’re going out of your way to initiate things, to surprise him, to always be there when he needs you (and even when he doesn’t), to be just perfect, the more you will push him away from yourself! Why?<\/span><\/p>\n

Because no one in the world will ever choose to reciprocate if you’re constantly putting them on a pedestal even when they didn’t deserve any of it. And now it’s time to stop doing all of that!<\/span><\/p>\n

It’s time to deja de tener sentimientos por los chicos equivocados <\/a><\/span>y a trabajar para preservar tu autoestima y tu amor propio. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s time to look at the other, brighter side of the road which will both help you delete the feelings you caught for the wrong guy and prevent you from repeating it in the future!<\/span><\/p>\n

1. Mantente activo en tu vida social y aprecia otras conexiones<\/h2>\n

\"Toma<\/p>\n

When we’re being ignored, taken for granted or disrespected by someone we’re crazy about, the first thing that comes to our mind naturally is how lonely we are all of a sudden. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s so easy to lose ourselves while chasing someone we believed was the <\/span>persona adecuada<\/span> para nosotros.<\/span><\/p>\n

But, you need to know that you’re not alone. <\/span><\/p>\n

Estuviste cegada durante alg\u00fan tiempo porque en lo \u00fanico que pod\u00edas pensar era en \u00c9L. Pusiste todas tus esperanzas en esta aventura rom\u00e1ntica de modo que olvidaste que tambi\u00e9n tienes otras conexiones. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pasabas mucho tiempo imagin\u00e1ndote acurrucada a su lado mientras ve\u00edas tu programa de televisi\u00f3n favorito, <\/span>mimos<\/span> and kissing until you got tired of it, and you probably even imagined how you’re going to spend the next few years and what exactly you will be doing. <\/span><\/p>\n

E incluso si nunca te dio ninguna seguridad con respecto a todo esto, simplemente nunca dejaste de so\u00f1ar porque se sent\u00eda tan bien, \u00bfverdad? <\/span><\/p>\n

And now that you’re aware of the fact that you caught feelings for the wrong guy, you want to get rid of them ASAP. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pues bien, la clave para deshacerse de ellos est\u00e1 en darse cuenta de que <\/b>tienes tu PROPIA vida<\/b><\/a> con gente incre\u00edble. Lo \u00fanico que tienes que hacer es volver a conectar con ellos. <\/b><\/p>\n

You need to recognize the endless possibilities you have at your disposal, and forget that one guy because he doesn’t deserve to be the centre of your universe! <\/span><\/p>\n

You’ve tried <\/span>suficientes veces<\/span> para que funcione y <\/span>tienes todo el derecho a seguir saliendo con otros (y sin duda deber\u00edas hacerlo) por muy raro que te suene. \u00bfPor qu\u00e9? <\/span><\/p>\n

Because you never know whom you’re going to meet. <\/span><\/p>\n

The only reason why you think that the guy you caught feelings for is the only guy you should ever consider being with is because you made yourself think so. You wanted to believe it even though it’s a complete lie.<\/span><\/p>\n

Don’t limit your potential because that way, you’ll never learn how to reach greatness! <\/b><\/p>\n

En lugar de perseguir ciegamente al chico equivocado, deber\u00edas seguir teniendo citas, mantenerte activa en tu vida social y mantener conexiones con tus <\/span>mejores amigos<\/span> \u00a1y familia porque te lo debes a ti mismo!<\/span><\/p>\n

And, trust me, you deserve it. You deserve someone to whom you’ll be the centre of attention, who will spoil you, and who will know how to reciprocate. <\/span><\/p>\n

You deserve someone who will be crazy about you just the way you’re crazy about him!<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>7 Shocking Reasons Why We Chase Those We Can’t Have <\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

2. Cuestiona tus sentimientos (o encuentra algo que te obligue a hacerlo)<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

The number one reason why is it so hard to stop thinking about someone we shouldn’t be crazy about is because we still think they’re awesome <\/span>(aunque acabemos <\/span>friendzone<\/span>)<\/span>. <\/span><\/p>\n

We’re convinced that they are the embodiment of greatness because we wanted to believe it and not because it’s true.<\/span><\/p>\n

If you’ve caught feelings for the wrong guy, you need to question those feelings because they are not real. <\/span><\/p>\n

Probablemente te lo hayas imaginado como un chico perfecto que te har\u00e1 feliz, que te har\u00e1 sentir especial y que luchar\u00e1 por ti porque s\u00f3lo \u00e9l es capaz de hacerlo. \u00bfO no lo es?<\/span><\/p>\n

The sole fact that he’s not reciprocating or at least trying to do so tells a lot about his character and priorities. <\/b><\/p>\n

You need to cut all of this at the very root, and you’ll do it by focusing on his flaws instead of “qualities.”<\/b><\/p>\n

It’s really hard to forget someone<\/a> when you’re constantly focused on imagining a future with them and perceiving them as a god\/goddess because by doing that, you’re downplaying yourself. <\/span><\/p>\n

By doing that, you’re convincing yourself that you’re not good enough or that you’re not worthy of being with them and that you need to pursue them even harder in order for them to notice you.<\/span><\/p>\n

No. <\/span>Tienes que hacer exactamente lo contrario.<\/span><\/i> You need to realize that they’re an imperfect human being just like yourself, and they have tons of flaws and negative sides just like everyone else. <\/span><\/p>\n

Aunque te quedaras con ellos, vuestra relaci\u00f3n estar\u00eda lejos de ser perfecta y lejos de lo que imaginabas que ser\u00eda. <\/span><\/p>\n

Question your feelings, question your investment, and do a reality check because it’s the only way to realizing that you deserve better than what you’re accepting in return.<\/span><\/p>\n

3. Establece objetivos personales y trabaja para alcanzarlos<\/h2>\n

\"concepto<\/p>\n

You know what’s the best cure for everything and especially for forgetting the guy you caught feelings for? It’s distracting yourself and being busy. But, not any kind of being busy. <\/span><\/p>\n

It’s about being busy for the sake of improving your life, <\/span>alcanzar objetivos vitales importantes<\/span><\/a>y convertirte en la mejor versi\u00f3n de ti mismo. Pi\u00e9nsalo as\u00ed:<\/span><\/p>\n

If you continue constantly thinking about some guy who doesn’t even know you exist or who doesn’t bother knowing that you exist or reciprocating, you will waste large amounts of your time that no one will ever return to you.<\/span><\/p>\n

You can return the dresses you just bought in every shop, you can apologize and make up for something you’ve done wrong, but you can never turn back time, no matter what you did. <\/span><\/p>\n

Time is the only thing more worthwhile than anything in the world, and you how to be careful of how you’re using it. <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of wasting it on thinking about ‘What if’ or ‘I should have’, make some personal goals, and work toward them.<\/span><\/p>\n

En lugar de perder el tiempo pensando en el chico al que quieres olvidar, c\u00e9ntrate en enriquecer tu vida con diferentes perspectivas, aprendiendo nuevos idiomas, encontrando nuevas aficiones y convirti\u00e9ndote en la mejor versi\u00f3n de ti misma.<\/span><\/p>\n

At the end of the day, you are all you\u2019ve got, and wouldn’t it be better to use your potential and turn your life into an awesome story instead of using it to keep regretting something that wasn’t even meant to be?<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>Cuanto m\u00e1s le persigues, m\u00e1s te perjudicas a ti misma<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

4. Don’t act on any of your impulses<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Si quieres olvidarle y borrarle de tu vida, tienes que aprender a no actuar seg\u00fan ninguno de tus impulsos. \u00bfQu\u00e9 significa esto?<\/span><\/p>\n

Significa controlar tus impulsos de enviarle mensajes de texto por en\u00e9sima vez, controlar tus impulsos que te obligan a llamarle, a dejar de acosarle en las redes sociales o a expresar cualquier tipo de declaraci\u00f3n de amor y de tu afecto por \u00e9l. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tienes que entender la diferencia entre tus impulsos y tus sentimientos.<\/span><\/p>\n

Los impulsos son esas vocecitas en tu cabeza que te obligan a hacer cosas s\u00f3lo para satisfacer antojos incontrolables e irracionales que son t\u00f3xicos para tu bienestar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Cada vez que sientas un fuerte deseo de verle, llamarle o enviarle un mensaje de texto, recu\u00e9rdatelo. <\/span><\/p>\n

Remind yourself that what you’re feeling is not real, and, therefore, you should not be acting on any of it because these are just impulses that can be IGNORED. <\/span><\/p>\n

Comprende que esto no tiene nada que ver con tus verdaderos sentimientos, y repite esta frase con frecuencia:<\/span><\/p>\n

“I’m aware of the fact that <\/span><\/i>Cog\u00ed<\/span><\/i> sentimientos por \u00e9l, y a\u00fan <\/span><\/i>mis sentimientos<\/span><\/i> are the ones preventing me from letting go, thus making me do stupid things.”<\/span><\/i> <\/span><\/p>\n

\"Triste<\/p>\n

Para el <\/b>primera vez<\/b> in your life, delete him from every social media app, turn off your phone, and the most important thing – STOP HOPING that things will change magically somehow.<\/b><\/p>\n

Maybe they will, maybe they won’t, but one thing is sure: Nothing will ever change as long as you’re still chasing him and acting on your impulses!<\/b><\/p>\n

You need to detach yourself from these toxic urges to still be a part of his life because it’s not healthy, and it will not bring you anything good. <\/span><\/p>\n

You don’t deserve to waste your life on waiting for someone to start noticing you or to change their behavior and start reciprocating.<\/span><\/p>\n

Te mereces ser feliz en el momento, darte cuenta de todas esas peque\u00f1as cosas que te alegran, tomar tus bebidas favoritas, bailar tu m\u00fasica preferida y pas\u00e1rtelo como nunca con tus amigos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mereces vivir una vida despreocupada y dejarte llevar por la ilusi\u00f3n y todas las cosas buenas que la vida puede ofrecerte. <\/span><\/p>\n

So, say \u2018yes\u2019 to freedom and say \u2018no\u2019 to acting on your impulses! Say \u2018yes\u2019 to happiness and say \u2018no\u2019 to torture!<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>Olv\u00eddate de \u00e9l a menos que est\u00e9 dispuesto a hacer estas 7 cosas por ti<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

5. Aumenta tu autocuidado y aprende a quererte m\u00e1s<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

One of the sad reasons why we often lose ourselves at some point in our lives is because we’re not satisfied with ourselves. <\/span><\/p>\n

Por eso tendemos a buscar la validaci\u00f3n de los dem\u00e1s para volver a sentirnos dignos. Por eso tendemos a caer con fuerza y en tiempo r\u00e9cord por alguien a quien percibimos como un ideal. <\/span><\/p>\n

Pensamos que si conseguimos que se fijen en nosotros, autom\u00e1ticamente aumentar\u00e1 nuestro propio valor y todo encajar\u00e1. Queremos sentirnos queridos, apreciados, y queremos llegar a ser completos. <\/span><\/p>\n

When we feel that way, it’s so easy to get lost in chasing the wrong people and wrong ideals, and that is why you need to up your self-care and learn to love yourself more! <\/span><\/p>\n

You need to admit to yourself that you’re an imperfect human being with lots of flaws and that’s exactly what makes you so unique and beautiful!<\/span><\/p>\n

M\u00edmate con largos ba\u00f1os de burbujas, relee tus libros favoritos, practica afirmaciones positivas a diario, ve al gimnasio y c\u00e9ntrate s\u00f3lo en las cosas positivas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Qui\u00e9rete lo suficiente como para no dejar que nada en tu vida te agote o te haga sentir menos digno.<\/span><\/p>\n

Love yourself enough to forgive yourself for not treating yourself like a priority. Love yourself enough to stop only focusing on other people’s happiness\u2014learn to be the master of your own!<\/span><\/p>\n

6. Encuentra la fuerza para aceptar las cosas que no puedes cambiar<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

Una de las cosas m\u00e1s dif\u00edciles de hacer en la vida es encontrar fuerzas para aceptar las cosas que no puedes cambiar. <\/span><\/p>\n

Whenever we\u2019re having difficulties in our life, we instantly focus on finding the reason why this is happening to us and how can we make it right.<\/span><\/p>\n

Pero, a veces, o para ser m\u00e1s precisos, la mayor\u00eda de las veces, lo \u00fanico que tenemos que hacer es ACEPTAR. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tenemos que encontrar la fuerza para aceptar las cosas que no podemos cambiar. <\/span><\/p>\n

So what if he’s not answering your calls,<\/span> mensajes de texto<\/span> de vuelta<\/span><\/a> o mostrando afecto? <\/span><\/p>\n

Instead of being mad at yourself, the people around you and Lord knows whom else, decide to find the strength to accept it because you can’t change it.<\/span><\/p>\n

En <\/b>\u00fanica persona<\/b> who can change his behavior is himself, and if he still hasn’t decided to do so, there’s no need to bother yourself with it, to overthink or to constantly keep finding solutions that will help you change things. <\/b><\/p>\n

A veces, lo \u00fanico sensato es no hacer nada y aceptar las cosas como son.<\/span><\/p>\n

A veces, es necesario caer para volver a levantarse y hacerse m\u00e1s fuerte, m\u00e1s sabio y aprender a quererse m\u00e1s. <\/span><\/p>\n

En <\/span>resultado final <\/span> is you need to give up on expecting things, and focus on what you already have in front of you\u2014focus on what’s real and worthy of your time and effort! <\/span><\/p>\n

You need to treat yourself with respect, and work on boosting your self-love because that’s the only way to finding true happiness!<\/span><\/p>\n

Reflexiones finales<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Siempre que te encuentres <\/span>atrapando sentimientos<\/span> por el hombre equivocado, necesitas respirar hondo y centrarte en apreciar todo el amor y las cosas que ya tienes en tu vida. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tienes que mantenerte activa en tu vida social y seguir cuestion\u00e1ndote tus sentimientos hacia \u00e9l en lugar de dejar que te devoren.<\/span><\/p>\n

Tienes que marcarte unos objetivos personales y esforzarte por alcanzarlos en lugar de vivir en una ilusi\u00f3n, esperando en secreto que \u00e9l cambie de opini\u00f3n de la noche a la ma\u00f1ana. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tienes que seguir viviendo tu mejor vida, y en el momento en que empieces a hacerlo, todo lo dem\u00e1s se pondr\u00e1 tambi\u00e9n en su sitio. <\/span><\/p>\n

Mientras tanto, c\u00e9ntrate en atrapar otras cosas, como sugiere la siguiente cita sobre los sentimientos atrapados: <\/span>“Catch flights, not feelings!” – <\/span><\/i>Desconocido<\/span><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: <\/span>11 Things To Do When You Can’t Stop Thinking About Him<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

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When you just met him, you were convinced that you finally met the right person, your dream guy, your Prince Charming (okay, I think you get the point) because he was just DIFFERENT and because he did all the right things!  You thought you were dreaming because you couldn’t believe that this was happening to…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":50281,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-50269","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-getting-over-him"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29631,"label":"getting over him"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/12\/shutterstock_628359017.jpg",800,534,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Leah Lee","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/leah\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29631,"name":"getting over him","slug":"getting-over-him","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29631,"taxonomy":"category","description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","parent":29627,"count":124,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29631,"category_count":124,"category_description":"Getting over someone you still care about is one of the biggest challenges, but nothing is impossible when you know you're not alone, so check out our brilliant advice.","cat_name":"getting over him","category_nicename":"getting-over-him","category_parent":29627}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50269","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=50269"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/50269\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/50281"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=50269"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=50269"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=50269"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}