{"id":50284,"date":"2019-12-26T18:24:39","date_gmt":"2019-12-26T18:24:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=50284"},"modified":"2022-07-15T09:48:29","modified_gmt":"2022-07-15T09:48:29","slug":"10-preguntas-que-debes-hacerte-si-sospechas-que-tu-relacion-es-abusiva","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/10-preguntas-que-debes-hacerte-si-sospechas-que-tu-relacion-es-abusiva\/","title":{"rendered":"10 preguntas que debes hacerte si sospechas que tu relaci\u00f3n es abusiva"},"content":{"rendered":"

What many don\u2019t know is that there are numerous forms of abuse besides physical: <\/span>emocional<\/span><\/a>, verbal, sexual\u2026 However, these types of mistreatment are often hard for the victims to identify.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, si te preguntas si tu relaci\u00f3n es abusiva, aqu\u00ed tienes 10 preguntas que debes hacerte para estar seguro.  <\/span><\/p>\n

1. \u00bfSoy siempre el culpable?<\/h2>\n

\"Mujeres<\/p>\n

Toda relaci\u00f3n es una calle de doble sentido. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, this doesn\u2019t only mean that both of the people involved have to put in the <\/span>la misma cantidad de esfuerzo<\/span><\/a> to make it work\u2014it also means that both parties have to take responsibility for its problems. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, cuando se trata de ti y tu novio, las cosas son muy diferentes. De hecho, de alguna manera, acabas siendo culpable de todo lo que ocurre entre vosotros dos, incluso cuando nada es culpa tuya. <\/span><\/p>\n

Incluso cuando este chico se disculpa y acepta sus errores, se las arregla para darle la vuelta a la tortilla y se\u00f1alar que t\u00fa causaste su mal comportamiento. <\/span><\/p>\n

As\u00ed que, en cualquier caso, \u00e9l es la v\u00edctima. <\/span><\/p>\n

2. \u00bfMe intimida?<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfMi pareja aprovecha cualquier oportunidad para menospreciarme, cuando estamos solos y sobre todo delante de los dem\u00e1s? \u00bfUtiliza bromas inapropiadas para enmascarar sus insultos?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfSiento que su sentido del humor es despectivo? \u00bfMe trata como las chicas malas tratan al chico impopular en las obras de teatro del instituto?<\/span><\/p>\n

If the answers to most of these questions are affirmative, let\u2019s be honest and call things by their real name: he is not joking, he is ridiculing you. And there is a huge difference between these two things. <\/span><\/p>\n

En realidad, tu novio te est\u00e1 acosando, lo que tambi\u00e9n es una forma de abuso emocional. <\/span><\/p>\n

He is trying to convince you that you\u2019re not enough and to make fun of you because that is the only way for him to feel better about himself and to seemingly increase his own worth. <\/span><\/p>\n

3. \u00bfNuestras relaciones sexuales son siempre consentidas? <\/h2>\n

\"Fue<\/p>\n

Is he forcing me to sleep with him even when I\u2019m not in the mood? Am I doing some things in the bedroom I\u2019m not comfortable with?<\/span><\/p>\n

No importa lo que alguien pueda decirte, la violaci\u00f3n en una relaci\u00f3n o matrimonio es algo real y ocurre a nuestro alrededor. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sexual abuse is quite common among partners and if this is something you can relate to, you\u2019re not exaggerating for feeling bad about it; you\u2019re a victim here. <\/span><\/p>\n

4. \u00bfIntenta controlarme?<\/h2>\n

\"Problemas<\/p>\n

\u00bfEs demasiado celoso? \u00bfMe dice constantemente lo que tengo que hacer?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfIntenta determinar c\u00f3mo gasto mi dinero y mi tiempo libre o con qui\u00e9n salgo? \u00bfEst\u00e1 controlando mis acciones, palabras y pensamientos?<\/span><\/p>\n

Yes, relationships are all about compromises. You\u2019re a part of a couple and it is not OKAY to make big life decisions without consulting your partner first. <\/span><\/p>\n

However, that doesn\u2019t mean that you\u2019re in a cage or that you\u2019re required to listen to everything he has to say. <\/span><\/p>\n

You\u2019re not a little kid and he is not your parent, so you don\u2019t need him guiding or raising you. <\/span><\/p>\n

5. \u00bfMe est\u00e1 enga\u00f1ando?<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

Is he constantly convincing me that something didn\u2019t happen, even though I know the truth very well? Does he try to twist all situations which don\u2019t go in his favor? <\/span><\/p>\n

Is he making me feel crazy most of the time? Does he have a habit of telling me that I\u2019m imagining or misinterpreting things, even though I\u2019m certain of what I heard and saw?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfEst\u00e1 jugando con mi mente y mi percepci\u00f3n de la realidad?<\/span><\/p>\n

Well, if this is the case, don\u2019t worry, you\u2019re not a lunatic; he is <\/span>luz de gas<\/span><\/a> a ti.<\/span><\/p>\n

Esta es una t\u00e1ctica com\u00fan que la mayor\u00eda de los narcisistas y abusadores utilizan para ayudarles a tener un mayor control sobre su v\u00edctima y salirse con la suya m\u00e1s f\u00e1cilmente con sus fechor\u00edas.  <\/span><\/p>\n

6. \u00bfSe me permite hablar?<\/h2>\n

\"Mujer<\/p>\n

\u00bfPuedo decir mi opini\u00f3n alto y claro en todo momento? \u00bfSe me permite estar en desacuerdo con este hombre y sus actitudes? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfTengo la libertad de llamarle la atenci\u00f3n? \u00bfDe devolverle el insulto, si \u00e9l lo hace primero? <\/span><\/p>\n

Or do I always back out and eventually end up nodding my head to everything he says? Am I always quiet about what I think because I don\u2019t want to oppose him?<\/span><\/p>\n

Even though you might not see it now, these are all symptoms of abuse and things that you shouldn\u2019t keep on tolerating any longer if you want to preserve your mental health. <\/span><\/p>\n

7. \u00bfSomos socios iguales?<\/h2>\n

\"Retrato<\/p>\n

\u00bfTomamos juntos todas las decisiones? \u00bfTenemos que estar de acuerdo los dos antes de actuar sobre algo que tendr\u00e1 repercusiones en nuestra relaci\u00f3n?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfTenemos los mismos derechos y deberes? \u00bfCompartimos obligaciones y tareas? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfUna persona manda y la otra obedece? \u00bfEs \u00e9l dominante y yo sumiso? <\/span><\/p>\n

Olv\u00eddate de la visi\u00f3n tradicional de que el hombre es el cabeza de familia. <\/span><\/p>\n

When you are in a healthy relationship, you two are completely equal and there doesn\u2019t exist a scenario in which one person is above the other. <\/span><\/p>\n

La dominaci\u00f3n s\u00f3lo es posible en el dormitorio e incluso all\u00ed, tiene que ocurrir en los t\u00e9rminos de ambos. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, que tu pareja te trate como a su <\/span>esposa sumisa<\/span><\/a> o novia en la vida real es definitivamente abuso. <\/span><\/p>\n

8. \u00bfMe respeta siempre?<\/h2>\n

\"Joven<\/p>\n

\u00bfMe interrumpe cuando hablo? \u00bfHabla mal de mis amigos y de mi familia?<\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfFomenta mis aficiones o se burla de ellas? \u00bfMenosprecia mis relaciones anteriores? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfMe humilla por ganar menos que \u00e9l? \u00bfInsulta mi educaci\u00f3n, mi elecci\u00f3n de carrera o mis decisiones? <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfMe respeta este hombre como persona, como mujer y como su novia? <\/span><\/p>\n

And does he do it all the time, even when we\u2019re arguing, even when he is angry at me and even when he disagrees with me? <\/span><\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, el respeto es no negociable en una relaci\u00f3n<\/a> y tiene que existir en todas las situaciones posibles.<\/span><\/p>\n

Un hombre que te respeta de verdad nunca har\u00eda nada para herirte intencionadamente y jam\u00e1s se le ocurrir\u00eda maltratarte de ninguna manera. <\/span><\/p>\n

9. \u00bfLe tengo miedo?<\/h2>\n

\"Joven<\/p>\n

Am I afraid of my boyfriend\u2019s reaction? Am I always worried about what he might say?<\/span><\/p>\n

Am I trembling before I tell him something he probably won\u2019t like? Am I afraid that he\u2019ll leave me the moment I do something he considers a mistake? <\/span><\/p>\n

When someone asks you whether you\u2019re scared of your partner, you automatically assume that you\u2019ve been asked whether you expect him to hit you when you don\u2019t do something his way. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sin embargo, tambi\u00e9n hay otros tipos de miedo y si sientes algo remotamente parecido, es hora de hacer las maletas y comprender que esa relaci\u00f3n no es lo que necesitas. <\/span><\/p>\n

Your life doesn\u2019t depend on this man, even though he is convincing you otherwise. <\/span><\/p>\n

There is absolutely no reason for you to be afraid of him; he is not your master, he doesn\u2019t own you and you can live without him. <\/span><\/p>\n

10. \u00bfHa sido violento f\u00edsicamente alguna vez?<\/h2>\n

\"Los<\/p>\n

Has he even grabbed my hand while we\u2019re fighting? Has he ever yelled at me in a manner that made me think he might kick me? <\/span><\/p>\n

Ver\u00e1s, <\/span>maltrato f\u00edsico<\/span><\/a> isn\u2019t only about him actually punching you in the face. <\/span><\/p>\n

En realidad, es mucho m\u00e1s que eso; es no respetar tu espacio personal, hablarte directamente a la cara o agarrarte por la barbilla. <\/span><\/p>\n

Let\u2019s be honest\u2014if something similar has ever happened to you, can you swear that it wouldn\u2019t have escalated to something bigger and more serious if you hadn\u2019t backed out in time? I guess not.<\/span><\/p>\n

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