{"id":50825,"date":"2020-05-08T22:37:51","date_gmt":"2020-05-08T22:37:51","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=50825"},"modified":"2022-10-30T12:20:54","modified_gmt":"2022-10-30T12:20:54","slug":"por-que-los-chicos-se-enfrian","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/por-que-los-chicos-se-enfrian\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00bfPor qu\u00e9 los chicos se enfr\u00edan despu\u00e9s de una ruptura? 14 verdades absolutas"},"content":{"rendered":"

Hay una serie de razones por las que los chicos se enfr\u00edan despu\u00e9s de una ruptura y la triste verdad es que la mitad de esas razones son provocadas por tu comportamiento post-ruptura y la otra mitad no tienen nada que ver contigo sino con su mentalidad masculina.<\/p>\n

It sounds harsh, I know, but in my humble opinion, it’s always better to tell the truth than to sugarcoat it and live in ignorance.<\/p>\n

It’s evident that guys deal with break-ups differently. They have the totally opposite way of thinking and perceiving things, especially past relationships.<\/p>\n

That’s why their somewhat odd method of dealing with a messy situation is avoiding it altogether. And we all know that there are no messier situations than break-ups.<\/p>\n

So it’s no wonder they go cold after a break-up. But there’s one more reason besides his male psychology and that\u2019s female behavior after a break-up.<\/p>\n

Stop for a moment and be honest with yourself\u2014was there something about your behavior that made your ex-boyfriend pull away?<\/p>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

Or was it something in your relationship that indicated you two can’t function together?<\/p>\n

First of all, it’s important to know break-ups are never easy and always complicated. There is always one side who thinks it shouldn’t have ended.<\/p>\n

Siempre hay una parte que est\u00e1 m\u00e1s dolida y busca alg\u00fan tipo de cierre.<\/p>\n

It’s exactly our pursuit of closure and healing after a heartbreak that makes our ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend go cold after a break-up.<\/p>\n

We want answers they can’t or won’t give. So we call, text, ask time and time again.<\/p>\n

Well, that’s just one small reason why guys go cold after a break-up and there are 14 more you should look into to determine which applies to your situation.<\/p>\n

1. Para \u00e9l, las cosas terminaron antes de que se produjera la ruptura real<\/h2>\n

\"Pareja<\/p>\n

The break-up wasn’t an instinctive decision the dumper (your ex) made.<\/p>\n

Llevaba semanas o meses sin tomar una decisi\u00f3n antes de atreverse a hablar con usted.<\/p>\n

Mientras que para la dejada (t\u00fa), esto fue un shock y nunca lo viste venir, \u00e9l estaba bien preparado para toda la situaci\u00f3n y ten\u00eda claras sus razones para romper.<\/p>\n

Lleg\u00f3 un momento en vuestra relaci\u00f3n en el que empez\u00f3 a enfriarse y perdi\u00f3 los sentimientos por ti.<\/p>\n

That doesn’t mean you did something that caused the break-up, it just means that he realized that you were not right for each other long before you even had time to process what was happening in the first place.<\/p>\n

Why did he detach from you after it all ended? Well, if you didn’t perder los sentimientos<\/a> for each other and mutually agreed on parting ways, it’s almost impossible to stay friends after a break-up.<\/p>\n

2. Se est\u00e1 facilitando las cosas al no enfrentarse a ti.<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

It’s easier for guys to cut off all communication completely than to talk about their feelings.<\/p>\n

Evitan todo tipo de comunicaci\u00f3n que les haga sentir inc\u00f3modos y hablar de por qu\u00e9 se produjo la ruptura.<\/p>\n

Las conversaciones profundas sobre c\u00f3mo te sientes t\u00fa, c\u00f3mo se siente \u00e9l o cualquier cosa relacionada con la relaci\u00f3n entran en esa categor\u00eda.<\/p>\n

It’s the behavior of a 13-year old boy I know but some men tend to avoid awkward and painful situations at all costs.<\/p>\n

Also, he probably had experience with that sort of communication while ending his previous relationships and he doesn’t want to be a part of that scenario again.<\/p>\n

It’s not that he doesn’t care how you feel but he is aware that there is no conversation you two can have that will make either of you feel better.<\/p>\n

There is nothing to say that will make all the wrongs right and in the male mind, it’s easier to say nothing at all.<\/p>\n

3. He didn\u2019t go cold after the break-up, he was always cold<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

There are men out there who are simply deprived of empathy. They don’t have a compassionate bone in their body and they are unable to realize how their actions affect others.<\/p>\n

It’s a pretty common rasgo de un narcisista <\/a>tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

If you were in a relationship with someone like that, don’t be surprised with him going cold after the relationship ended. He was cold all throughout the relationship.<\/p>\n

The fact that he caused you pain doesn’t make him feel remorse. In his mind, with the relationship ending, he is ending all ties with you and that’s that.<\/p>\n

With all that said, there is one question you have to ask yourself: “Aren’t you better off without someone like him?”<\/p>\n

4. He doesn’t believe in staying friends after the break-up<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

When the relationship ends, we don’t only lose our boyfriend, we lose our best friend too and we want to stay in touch.<\/p>\n

Lamentablemente, en la mayor\u00eda de los casos, la amistad despu\u00e9s de una relaci\u00f3n sentimental es imposible, a menos que la ruptura haya sido mutua y os hay\u00e1is dado cuenta de que est\u00e1is mejor como amigos que como pareja.<\/p>\n

Pero eso casi nunca ocurre.<\/p>\n

En la mayor\u00eda de los casos, una de las partes se enfr\u00eda mientras la otra sigue muy interesada y enamorada.<\/p>\n

In that scenario, it’s impossible to maintain a friendship without hurting the person who still has feelings.<\/p>\n

5. Eres pegajosa y \u00e9l lo sabe<\/h2>\n

\"foto<\/p>\n

You know it too. Be brutally honest with yourself\u2014do you fit the definici\u00f3n de novia pegajosa<\/a>? \u00bfEras un poco posesivo a veces?<\/p>\n

\u00bfQuer\u00edas comunicaci\u00f3n constante cuando no estaba contigo?<\/p>\n

\u00bfHas dedicado tu vida a explorar sus patrones de comportamiento mientras dejabas tu vida en suspenso?<\/p>\n

\u00bfCausabas drama cada vez que \u00e9l quer\u00eda pasar m\u00e1s tiempo con sus amigos que contigo? \u00bfEras desconfiada o celosa?<\/p>\n

That’s just scratching the surface but that means you were a clingy girlfriend.<\/p>\n

Ese tipo de comportamiento hace que un hombre pierda el inter\u00e9s muy pronto y si sol\u00eda aguantarlo mientras ten\u00edais una relaci\u00f3n, no hay raz\u00f3n para que lo haga despu\u00e9s de que todo haya terminado.<\/p>\n

That might be hard to hear but it doesn’t make it any less true. Work on yourself for yourself. Build up your self-esteem.<\/p>\n

Haz una vida para ti y nunca hagas nada que ponga en peligro tu paz interior y tu felicidad cuando alg\u00fan d\u00eda entres en una nueva relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

The best thing you can do regarding your ex is nothing at all; stop texting, don’t make phone calls, delete him on social media and slowly start accepting that things ended and you need to heal.<\/p>\n

Tienes que seguir adelante y prepararte para una nueva relaci\u00f3n en la que tu aferramiento ser\u00e1 un recuerdo lejano.<\/p>\n

6. Est\u00e1 trabajando en su nueva vida de soltero<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Algunos hombres ven las rupturas como una oportunidad para empezar de nuevo.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t mean they have it easy and that they suddenly stop caring for you all of a sudden, it only means they are trying to cope with the new situation.<\/p>\n

They are well aware that they can’t get over you if you are still a part of their life, that’s why they go no contact.<\/p>\n

Maybe it isn’t a lack of love for one another that draws you apart but a lack of compatibility.<\/p>\n

If your relationship was an on-again, off-again thing, it’s probable that your ex decided it was off for good.<\/p>\n

Some people simply can’t function together, in spite of their best efforts and feelings.<\/p>\n

As for him going cold? You can’t be friends with someone you still care for.<\/p>\n

Pens\u00f3 que era mejor no saber nada de ti ni verte y seguir adelante con su vida. Tal vez deber\u00edas seguir su ejemplo y seguir adelante con tu vida sin \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

7. Disfruta de su nueva libertad<\/h2>\n

\"Chico<\/p>\n

Si la falta de espacio fue una de las frases m\u00e1s mencionadas por tu ex novio, lo m\u00e1s probable es que se sintiera un poco asfixiado por vuestra relaci\u00f3n y est\u00e9 aprendiendo a estar soltero de nuevo.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t necessarily mean that he went out chasing other women; he might be gaming all day long or spending time with his friends.<\/p>\n

Algunos hombres rompen porque a\u00fan no est\u00e1n preparados para una relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Otros porque carecen de libertad y sienten que la relaci\u00f3n les atrapa.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que preg\u00fantate si quer\u00edas saber cada paso que daba tu pareja. \u00bfNecesitabas mucha atenci\u00f3n y tranquilidad?<\/p>\n

Did you continue to demand the same after the break-up? If your answers are yes, then it’s no wonder your ex disappeared from your life.<\/p>\n

8. Tiene una nueva novia<\/h2>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

One of the most obvious answers to: \u2018Why do guys go cold after a break-up?\u2019 is ‘Because they are already seeing someone else’.<\/p>\n

Si un hombre salta de barco tan r\u00e1pido, se asegurar\u00e1 de cortar todos los lazos que tenga contigo.<\/p>\n

And no, you shouldn’t ask him if he is seeing someone else because he will either deny it or ignore your question.<\/p>\n

Pronto lo sabr\u00e1s porque pronto saldr\u00e1 todo a la luz.<\/p>\n

If it turns out that a new girl is the reason for your break-up, you will at least know he is definitely not the one for you and you haven’t lost much by losing him.<\/p>\n

9. Est\u00e1 consumido por la culpa<\/h2>\n

\"chico<\/p>\n

Tu ex puede estar consumido por la culpa y hay dos posibles razones por las que se siente culpable.<\/p>\n

O se siente mal porque sabe que sufres y odia haber sido \u00e9l quien te lo ha causado.<\/p>\n

Or if he cheated on you or started a new relationship with some other woman while he was with you, it’s no wonder he can’t have a face-to-face conversation with you.<\/p>\n

He knows what he has done is wrong and it’s easier this way.<\/p>\n

10. Est\u00e1 por encima de ti<\/h2>\n

\"Chico<\/p>\n

Somewhere down the line, he simply stopped having strong feelings for you. It’s difficult to accept that but sometimes people fall out of love and there is nothing you can do about it.<\/p>\n

No existe ning\u00fan consejo, m\u00e9todo o hechizo secreto que pueda ayudarte a recuperar a tu ex si esto ocurre. Si est\u00e1 por encima de ti, <\/a>no hay nada que puedas hacer para que cambie de opini\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

It’s not your fault this happened and it’s not him either; when two people are not meant for each other, the ending is inevitable.<\/p>\n

If your feelings are strong, you will have a hard time accepting he doesn’t feel the same way about you.<\/p>\n

Pero ten en cuenta que necesitas a alguien que te quiera tanto como t\u00fa a \u00e9l y que nunca pensar\u00eda en dejarte marchar.<\/p>\n

So don’t pine for the wrong person, wait for the right one.<\/p>\n

11. Se ocupa de asuntos no relacionados con usted<\/h2>\n

\"Chico<\/p>\n

Every time our ex doesn’t take our phone call or respond to one of our text messages, we think it’s something we said or did that’s making him ignore us<\/a>.<\/p>\n

What you, me and my other readers have to understand is that our ex is under no obligation to keep in touch with us after it’s all over.<\/p>\n

Secondly, the world of our ex-boyfriend doesn’t revolve around us.<\/p>\n

Puede que tenga problemas y asuntos personales que resolver y que los fantasmas de relaciones pasadas le a\u00f1adan un bagaje adicional.<\/p>\n

Si este es el caso, se disculpar\u00e1 en un par de d\u00edas, o pueden pasar semanas o incluso meses antes de que lo haga.<\/p>\n

He will then explain why it all had to go down like that. If he doesn’t, he had no real problems except his rude behavior.<\/p>\n

12. In the case of a long-distance relationship…<\/h2>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Las relaciones pueden ser duras en general y las relaciones a distancia son un reto en s\u00ed mismas.<\/p>\n

La causa m\u00e1s com\u00fan de ruptura de una relaci\u00f3n a distancia es la propia distancia.<\/p>\n

Cuando se hace dif\u00edcil recordar la \u00faltima vez que alguien te bes\u00f3 o te abraz\u00f3, las cosas empiezan a romperse.<\/p>\n

A lack of physical contact and face to face conversation makes every day a struggle when it’s all supposed to flow easily.<\/p>\n

Once things end it’s easy for both sides but usually for guys to go cold after the break-up.<\/p>\n

No hay ninguna posibilidad de que te los encuentres por la calle o en una fiesta de amigos comunes.<\/p>\n

Basta con que te ignoren, te bloqueen o te quiten de su lista de amigos para que la frialdad sea m\u00e1s evidente.<\/p>\n

When this happens, the chances are your long-distance guy decided to end things for good and that’s why he vanished from your life altogether,<\/p>\n

13. He worries that you’ll misinterpret his behavior<\/h2>\n

\"Chico<\/p>\n

Si todav\u00eda sientes algo por tu ex-novio y \u00e9l lo sabe, probablemente se enfri\u00f3 para ahorrarte m\u00e1s dolor.<\/p>\n

Le preocupa que puedas malinterpretar sus dulces palabras y preocupaciones como se\u00f1ales de que quiere que arregl\u00e9is las cosas y volv\u00e1is a estar juntos.<\/p>\n

In any case, as painful as it might be for you not to hear from your ex, he’s probably doing you a favor by not staying in touch.<\/p>\n

He isn’t feeding you with false hopes that you will get back together.<\/p>\n

14. Que se enfr\u00ede tras la ruptura es s\u00f3lo su forma de finalizarla<\/h2>\n

\"Un<\/p>\n

Los chicos afrontan las rupturas de manera diferente y tienen una forma de pensar totalmente distinta.<\/p>\n

That’s why them going cold is probably confirmation that things between you are over for good.<\/p>\n

Intentar ver las cosas mejor de lo que realmente son es un mecanismo de autodefensa que mucha gente utiliza mientras sobrevivir a una ruptura dolorosa<\/a>.<\/p>\n

That’s why we wonder, “Why do guys go cold after a break-up?” when there is actually no reason for them to stay in touch when the relationship ends.<\/p>\n

Seguir siendo amigos despu\u00e9s de un romance es algo que s\u00f3lo pueden conseguir las personas que perdieron los sentimientos el uno por el otro mucho tiempo antes del fin oficial de la relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

En cualquier otra situaci\u00f3n, una de las partes (el abandonado) espera volver con la otra parte (el abandonador), lo que nunca acaba bien para nadie.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer cuando un chico se enfr\u00eda tras una ruptura?<\/h2>\n

\"centrarse<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que tu instinto inicial cuando un hombre te ignora es ir a por \u00e9l a\u00fan m\u00e1s fuerte.<\/p>\n

It’s just something every human being is born to do. We are always more interested in the things we can’t have.<\/p>\n

The good news is that men are wired the same way. They go after what’s slipping through their fingers.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que si quieres recuperar a tu ex o simplemente hacer que te vuelva a hablar, don’t chase after him\u2014<\/b>ign\u00f3ralo para llamar su atenci\u00f3n.<\/b>\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n

Spin the situation to suit you. If he is used to you being available all the time, texting for a second time when he doesn’t answer the first time and doing the impossible for him to notice you, just stop.<\/p>\n

Notar\u00e1 tu ausencia mejor que cualquier otra cosa.<\/p>\n

It’s not about playing games and tricking him, it’s about knowing male psychology.<\/p>\n

Si se les presiona demasiado, si se les persigue y se intenta forzar algo con ellos, se alejar\u00e1n.<\/p>\n

If you start focusing on yourself and your life and disappear from his phone and inbox, he will spend the next day wondering, “What happened? Did she lose interest?”<\/p>\n

\"El<\/p>\n

Hay una regla de oro que toda mujer debe seguir cuando experimenta una ruptura causada <\/b>angustia<\/b> and it’s well known and highly effective: The No Contact Rule.<\/p>\n

Ning\u00fan contacto significa ning\u00fan contacto en absoluto, ni siquiera feliz cumplea\u00f1os<\/a> ni un mensaje de buenas noches al azar, ni preguntar a amigos comunes, ni buscar en sus cuentas de redes sociales, etc.<\/p>\n

En efecto de la regla de no contacto en la psicolog\u00eda masculina<\/a> es verdaderamente notable.<\/p>\n

If there is anything that can shake your boyfriend up and make him think, “God, how could I ever let this girl go?” it\u2019s the no contact rule.<\/p>\n

Muchas veces, la gente se pregunta si los mismos m\u00e9todos se pueden utilizar en sus ex maridos y mientras que esas situaciones son un poco m\u00e1s complicadas, la respuesta sigue siendo s\u00ed.<\/p>\n

No matter whether it’s a 10-year relationship, a marriage or a few months, the same rules apply.<\/p>\n

Lo mejor <\/b>acerca de <\/b>la regla del no contacto<\/b> <\/a>es que sirve tanto como m\u00e9todo de recuperaci\u00f3n de una ruptura como para conseguir que su <\/b>ex vuelta<\/b> so it’s a win-win deal you have to take.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Dist\u00e1nciate de tu ex y de toda esa situaci\u00f3n. Deja que acudan a ti si alguna vez tienen una epifan\u00eda y se dan cuenta de todo lo que perdieron cuando te dejaron marchar.<\/p>\n

Trust me, if his heart is in the right place, he will call, text and come after you with everything he’s got.<\/p>\n

Pero si su coraz\u00f3n no est\u00e1 puesto en ti, no hay nada que puedas hacer para que cambie de opini\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

If that’s the case, if things are truly over, you have to find a way to accept that and move on.<\/p>\n

\"Hombre<\/p>\n

The sooner you do that, no matter how hard it gets, the sooner you’ll heal.<\/p>\n

There’s nothing worse than deluding yourself and holding on to something that will never be.<\/p>\n

Take a long and deep look into yourself and ask yourself, “Do I deserve better than my ex?” I am sure your answer will be yes.<\/p>\n

Reconoce tu val\u00eda y atr\u00e9vete a pedir m\u00e1s de lo que te daba tu ex.\u00a0<\/b><\/p>\n

Porque si miras tu relaci\u00f3n pasada desde la distancia, ver\u00e1s que hubo muchas m\u00e1s cosas malas que buenas.<\/p>\n

You will see that he isn’t the right fit for you as you thought all along.<\/p>\n

Tal vez haya alguien mucho m\u00e1s adecuado para ti, pero al aferrarte tan firmemente a tu situaci\u00f3n pasada, te est\u00e1s perdiendo todas las grandes cosas que tienes por delante. Te est\u00e1s perdiendo a un buen chico mientras te centras en el chico equivocado.<\/p>\n

So don’t do that to yourself and stop asking, “Why do guys go cold after a break-up?” and start asking, “How can I make my life warmer, better and happier?”, ” How can I attract a good guy into my life instead of obsessing about the wrong one?”<\/p>\n

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