{"id":51215,"date":"2020-10-14T13:19:35","date_gmt":"2020-10-14T13:19:35","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=51215"},"modified":"2021-08-11T11:18:14","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T11:18:14","slug":"mi-novio-ha-roto-conmigo-que-hacer-a-continuacion","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/mi-novio-ha-roto-conmigo-que-hacer-a-continuacion\/","title":{"rendered":"Mi novio ha roto conmigo: \u00bfQu\u00e9 hacer ahora?"},"content":{"rendered":"

“My <\/i> novio roto <\/i> with me. What do I do, say, and how do I deal with this?” <\/i><\/p>\n

Si tu novio acaba de romper contigo, quiero que sepas que comprendo la complejidad de emociones que sientes en este momento.<\/p>\n

I understand your pain and this uncontrollable urge to tell him everything what’s on your mind.<\/p>\n

Comprendo tu deseo de gritar, chillar y llorar hasta que te duelan los ojos.<\/p>\n

I understand how you feel because I’ve been there, and that’s why I’m sending you my virtual hug (I know when I was feeling this way, even a virtual hug would mean the world to me).<\/p>\n

All you’re able to do is rewind all those happy and less happier moments you had together\u2014your first kiss, first touch, first lovemaking, your first fight, and especially, all the things that happened at the end of the relationship . <\/p>\n

Cuando atraviesas una ruptura (especialmente despu\u00e9s de una relaci\u00f3n duradera <\/a> ), all you’re able to do is press the rewind button and start searching for all potential red flags (that you somehow missed while in the relationship) and let this feeling of confusion flood every pore.<\/p>\n

And how wouldn’t you? After all, at one point, he meant the world to you, and now, all of a sudden, this world has become just a distant memory. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

\"laYou still love him and hate him at the same time, and you can’t decide which of the two feelings you should give permission to prevail.<\/p>\n

En un momento sientes que la situaci\u00f3n es totalmente desesperada y que el mundo acaba de acabarse ante tus propios ojos, y en el otro sientes que todav\u00eda hay algo en el aire, algo no dicho, algo verdadero que necesita volver a la vida.<\/p>\n

You feel like there is still a way to make things work, and being intoxicated by this feeling, you subconsciously decide that you will try to fix things by reaching out to him to tell him that he’s making a big mistake and that you’re meant to be together. <\/p>\n

Pero, entonces, cuando piensas en todos los posibles escenarios y resultados una vez que dices esto, inmediatamente te paralizas y renuncias a la sola idea de hacerlo. <\/p>\n

Enviarle un mensaje de texto es imposible. Acosarle en las redes sociales s\u00f3lo prolongar\u00e1 tu angustia. Si te pones en contacto con sus amigos \u00edntimos o con vuestros amigos comunes, te sentir\u00e1s fatal.<\/p>\n

Te das cuenta de que no tienes elecci\u00f3n, ni alternativas, ni idea de c\u00f3mo afrontar todo esto.<\/p>\n

And that’s how you got here. By typing ” Mi <\/i> novio roto <\/i> conmigo <\/i> ” in Google, you subconsciously decided to look for help, which is the first step in dealing with this situation like a boss! <\/p>\n

And I want you to know how glad I am that you did it (because as I’m writing this, my determination and sheer will to help you and make your heartbreak as painless as possible is really strong within me).<\/p>\n

\u00bfQu\u00e9 debe hacer ahora?<\/h2>\n

\"zenLo primero que deber\u00edas hacer es aceptar el hecho de que haya roto contigo en lugar de verlo como algo totalmente destructivo.<\/p>\n

S\u00e9 que esto puede sonarte raro, pero cuanto antes lo aceptes, antes empezar\u00e1s a ver las cosas con m\u00e1s claridad.<\/p>\n

Y entender las cosas significa saber c\u00f3mo tratarlas en primer lugar .<\/p>\n

Deja pasar el tiempo suficiente para apaciguar tus emociones y ayudarte a aceptar la situaci\u00f3n (al menos con una mitad de tu coraz\u00f3n roto).<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s, puedes pensar en dos posibles soluciones: seguir adelante para siempre o recuperarlo. <\/b><\/p>\n

I gave you these two possible solutions for a reason because not everyone’s breakup situation is the same.<\/p>\n

Some breakups happen because two people simply weren’t meant to be together. Some breakups happen to teach you a valuable lesson, so you can make things right again. But, one thing is sure.<\/p>\n

His decision to break up with you didn’t happen overnight!<\/h2>\n

\"laI would be mean and unreasonable if I said that he’s the only one to blame. In every relationship, both partners have equal responsibility for the breakup, regardless who proposed going separate ways first. <\/p>\n

There are some things that you’ve said and done when you shouldn’t have, and there are some things that he’s said and done when he shouldn’t have. (And that’s perfectly okay, unless it’s about cheating).<\/p>\n

Esas cosas son grandes o peque\u00f1as, o totalmente irrelevantes en este momento.<\/p>\n

But in the end, it’s those things that have influenced further growth or stagnation of your relationship. It’s all those little and big things that have led you to this desamor <\/a> .<\/p>\n

So, his decision to break up with you didn’t happen overnight, but it was there, hovering over your heads for a long time now, and you had a hard time acknowledging it and accepting it.<\/p>\n

You didn’t pay much attention to all those red flags that were right in front of your nose, to all those situations that were destroying your relationship bit by bit.<\/p>\n

You wanted to believe that it will pass, or you decided to continue living with it, believing that it’s not a <\/i><\/b>gran cosa<\/i><\/b>. Y luego, cuando ocurri\u00f3, te quedaste de piedra. <\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

Even though you knew that it would eventually happen, you were still shocked because you simply didn’t expect it. (And who would?)<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

 <\/p>\n

\"unaEven if he had told you in advance that he might break up with you someday for some reason, you wouldn’t have believed it, and you would definitely not have come prepared for it.<\/p>\n

When the person you’re still in love with tells you that it’s over, there’s nothing you can do but lock yourself in your imaginary safe haven and observe from there, from a safe distance from the real world.<\/p>\n

But, that’s exactly what you shouldn’t do! It’s time you deal with things like the big girl that you are, and I will make sure to help you with everything you need! <\/b><\/p>\n

So, the first part or the first thing we’ll do is go through some possible and most common reasons for why he broke up with you so that you have a clear insight of everything.<\/p>\n

It’s important that you first understand why he broke up with you , and then we will move to the second part where we will go through things that will help you move on or get him back if he’s the right one for you! <\/p>\n

With mutual effort, we will make the best of the situation, and all I want from you is to take a deep breath and promise me that you’ll read everything till the end. Okay?<\/p>\n

Okay, let’s get started!<\/p>\n

PRIMERA PARTE: 9 POSIBLES RAZONES POR LAS QUE ROMPI\u00d3 CONTIGO<\/h2>\n

\"laWhen we’re going through a heartbreak , it’s hard to focus on all the possible reasons for why our partner broke up with us in the first place .<\/p>\n

All those draining emotions that you’re going through are blocking your clear thinking and observing the situation you’re in.<\/p>\n

And for that reason, here’s the list of possible and most common reasons for why he broke up with you which will help you understand things better and help you focus on the root of your problem so that you can heal sooner and act accordingly:<\/p>\n

His “feelings” have changed<\/h2>\n

\"unIf someone had given me a dime for every time I\u2019ve heard that famous sentence: “It’s not you, it\u2019s me”<\/b> ya ser\u00eda m\u00e1s rico que Oprah.<\/p>\n

Joking aside, but this is exactly what’s going on in the majority of cases when a partner’s feelings all of a sudden change.<\/p>\n

La cuesti\u00f3n principal es por qu\u00e9 los sentimientos cambian a lo largo de un <\/b>periodo de tiempo<\/b>? \u00bfQu\u00e9 hace que pierdan esa chispa y esa fuerza iniciales desde el principio de la relaci\u00f3n?<\/b><\/p>\n

Y la raz\u00f3n n\u00famero uno por la que esto ocurre es caer en la rutina, sentirse demasiado c\u00f3modo con el otro, lo que hace que ambos dejen de esforzarse como sol\u00edan hacerlo antes.<\/p>\n

\u00bfRecuerdas cuando os conocisteis y te pasabas toneladas de tiempo frente al espejo intentando encontrar la combinaci\u00f3n perfecta para impresionarle? <\/p>\n

Y probablemente \u00e9l hac\u00eda lo mismo en su casa antes de conocerte. Estabais ansiosos por impresionaros mutuamente y quer\u00edais que todo fuera lo m\u00e1s perfecto posible.<\/p>\n

Y entonces, despu\u00e9s de alg\u00fan tiempo en una relaci\u00f3n, se llega a un punto de total despreocupaci\u00f3n, y simplemente se deja de intentar impresionar al otro.<\/p>\n

When you reach that point, your feelings start changing because you feel that you’re no longer with the same person. You feel as if you’re with someone whom you’ve known for your entire life.<\/p>\n

Te aburres de repetir los mismos ejercicios una y otra vez, como ver el mismo programa de televisi\u00f3n o comer en el mismo restaurante. Te quedas atrapado en la rutina sin ni siquiera ser consciente de ello. <\/p>\n

So, if he told you that famous sentence: \u201cIt’s not you, it’s me\u201d, then you know this is exactly what’s going on.<\/p>\n

La \u00fanica cuesti\u00f3n es si los dos segu\u00eds dispuestos a devolver la vieja chispa a vuestra relaci\u00f3n e intentarlo de nuevo.<\/p>\n

You aren’t compatible (anymore)<\/h2>\n

\"unPor ser seres humanos que lo quieren todo y lo quieren ahora (como dice Reina <\/i> en una de sus canciones), cuando nos gusta alguien, nuestro afecto por esa persona puede llegar al extremo de precipitarnos y lanzarnos demasiado r\u00e1pido a una relaci\u00f3n. <\/p>\n

Cuando idolatramos a alguien, lo vemos como un ser humano perfecto .<\/p>\n

We instantly forget about all past relationships , and all we want is to jump into a new one and be with the person we’re so crazy about.<\/p>\n

Just because we like them so much, we’re convinced that we’re compatible and that they’re the one for us. Or we jump into a relationship for all the wrong reasons. <\/p>\n

Quiz\u00e1s su ex novia le ha dejado hace un par de meses y lo que ten\u00eda contigo era s\u00f3lo una relaci\u00f3n de rebote.<\/p>\n

Deep down in his heart, he knew that the end will come, but he didn’t know exactly when. <\/p>\n

Cuando entras en una relaci\u00f3n demasiado r\u00e1pido o por la raz\u00f3n equivocada, su final es sencillamente inevitable.<\/p>\n

But, this doesn’t mean that the relationship is totally doomed. If there is love and if there is still effort, things can still change. <\/p>\n

Acu\u00e9rdate:<\/b> Where there is a will, there is a way! (I recently bought a hoodie with that inscription, and I swear to God, I’ll keep wearing it till the rest of my life to keep reminding myself that anything is possible if you’re determined and if you want it with your heart and not only your mind.)<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Estar enamorado de tu pareja no os hace compatibles <\/a><\/p>\n

Acontecimientos estresantes fuera de la relaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"unEvery single problem in a relationship belongs either to a category called \u2018internal conflicts\u2019 or one named \u2018external conflicts\u2019.<\/p>\n

Los conflictos internos tienen que ver con las cosas que pasan en tu relaci\u00f3n, con las cosas por las que m\u00e1s discut\u00eds y con las cosas que destruyen sutilmente el equilibrio de una relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Pero, si hubiera alg\u00fan conflicto interno, sin duda ser\u00eda consciente de ello.<\/p>\n

External conflicts are stressful events outside the relationship, and many people forget or they’re not familiar with the fact that these stressful events can greatly impact your relationship as well. <\/b><\/p>\n

For example, if your ex has always been working too much without ever asking for a couple of days off (even when he’s feeling sick), if he’s just found a new job that he doesn’t really like that much, if his previous relationship is constantly haunting him (read: if his ex girlfriend is onto him), if he has problems in his family, with his pet, with his friends and similar, he will bring all that negativity and stress into your relationship as well.<\/p>\n

Como resultado, no estar\u00e1 interesado en pasar una noche rom\u00e1ntica contigo ni en hacer nada contigo.<\/p>\n

Notas la falta de caricias, besos y todas las cosas que sol\u00edais hacer antes.<\/p>\n

He no longer showers you with affection because he’s too occupied with other things going on his life and in his head.<\/p>\n

And as a result, you start feeling like you’re not good enough, like he’s not giving you enough attention and avoiding you on purpose.<\/p>\n

Vuestra relaci\u00f3n se queda sin vida y sin alma, y es entonces cuando \u00e9l decide romper contigo y decirte que las cosas ya no funcionan entre vosotros dos.<\/p>\n

(Adem\u00e1s, esta situaci\u00f3n tambi\u00e9n podr\u00eda ser a la inversa).<\/p>\n

Una acumulaci\u00f3n de palabras no dichas y desacuerdos <\/h2>\n

\"elIf you’ve been in a constant disagreement with your ex-boyfriend before he broke up with you and especially if you end things up with a fight, then you know there is some serious amount of accumulated unsaid words, and all the things that were bothering you both on a subconscious level.<\/p>\n

Cada relaci\u00f3n es \u00fanica, pero \u00bfsabes qu\u00e9 tienen en com\u00fan todas las relaciones? Los conflictos. En todas las relaciones hay momentos en los que, por alguna raz\u00f3n, querr\u00e1s gritar, chillar y, literalmente, matarte.<\/p>\n

Y hay veces en que todo estar\u00e1 en perfecto orden.<\/p>\n

Y cada vez que piensas en decir algo o discutir algo con tu pareja o viceversa y decides no hacerlo, creas una brecha cada vez mayor entre vosotros.<\/p>\n

Todas las palabras no dichas empiezan a acumularse y, al final, tienen que salir de alguna manera.<\/p>\n

The same thing goes for disagreements. It’s perfectly normal that two people don’t agree on everything, but that doesn’t mean you can’t compromise. <\/p>\n

If you’re both determined to only push your own agenda instead of listening to the other side and trying to find some mutual things that you actually agree on, your relationship becomes filled with toxicity due to unresolved matters. Your relationship ends before he even decided to end it in the first place .<\/p>\n

Se asust\u00f3 porque la relaci\u00f3n va demasiado r\u00e1pido<\/h2>\n

\"unWhen a guy ends a relationship before it even starts officially, women often think that it’s because they are afraid to commit.<\/p>\n

They classify the guy as the ultimate commitment-phobe because there’s simply no other logical explanation for what he’s just done.<\/p>\n

Pero, cr\u00e9eme, lo hay. En el 99,9 % de los casos, cuando un tipo decide <\/b>acabar con las cosas<\/b> early on, it’s because he got scared of the fact that the relationship was moving too quickly. <\/b><\/p>\n

Maybe he got scared of your decision to sleep with him on the first date, of you wanting him to introduce you to his family and best friends the next day , demanding that he keeps sending you text messages even when he’s busy, or neglecting your own life only to hang out with your significant other .<\/p>\n

Tal vez sinti\u00f3 presi\u00f3n por tu parte porque no dejabas de presionarle para que te acogiera en su vida a la fuerza en lugar de seguir el camino natural.<\/p>\n

And, because of that, maybe he realized that this new life with you is not something he actually wants or enjoys, and that’s why he decided to replace the title of you being a new girlfriend with one of being an ex girlfriend. <\/p>\n

Piensa en la primera vez que os visteis y en c\u00f3mo evolucionaron las cosas a partir de ese momento. Piensa en la \u00faltima vez que hablaste con \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

\u00bfAlguna vez te ha dado una pista de que sent\u00eda que la relaci\u00f3n iba demasiado deprisa? Si es as\u00ed, entonces sabes que eso es exactamente lo que ha estado pasando todo este tiempo.<\/p>\n

Enga\u00f1o<\/h2>\n

\"unThere’s no excuse for cheating. If you cheated on your now ex-boyfriend , then you already know the reason why he broke up with you . <\/p>\n

But, there is also a possibility that he cheated on you, but didn’t tell you. And his guilty conscience haunted him for so long that he needed to do something about it.<\/p>\n

He couldn’t live with the fact that he’s been with another woman, that he lied to you behind your back, and maybe that’s why he was the one to initiate a breakup.<\/p>\n

Ahora, <\/b>\u00bfc\u00f3mo sabr\u00e1s que te enga\u00f1\u00f3?<\/b><\/a>? <\/b><\/p>\n

The most common signs of a partner’s infidelity are excuses like Cari\u00f1o, yo <\/i> didn\u2019t <\/i> hacerlo <\/i> anoche <\/i> , <\/i> la semana pasada <\/i> o <\/i> \u00faltimo mes <\/i> porque necesitaba quedarme m\u00e1s tiempo en el trabajo; <\/i> pasar tiempo en aplicaciones de citas (en secreto); o estar en una relaci\u00f3n a larga distancia (esto le pas\u00f3 a mi amiga y a su ex prometido, que fueron infieles en el primer a\u00f1o de su relaci\u00f3n). <\/p>\n

In case he really cheated on you, there’s no need to even try to get your ex back or give him a second chance .<\/p>\n

The right decision would be doing the following: the No contact rule , blocking him on Whatsapp and other social networks, and letting go of him for good regardless of whether you’ve been in a 2 year relationship or a 10 year relationship . <\/p>\n

Hacer de \u00e9l tu \u00fanica prioridad<\/h2>\n

\"elWhen you’re deeply in love with someone, it’s so easy to start focusing only on them and start prioritizing them to the extent of neglecting everyone around you, your hobbies, and things you used to enjoy before. But, relationships can’t function that way.<\/p>\n

When this happens, there’s a huge imbalance in a relationship where one partner is constantly going out of their way to do everything for the other.<\/p>\n

Y el otro, como resultado, empieza a sentirse atrapado, y pronto deciden romper el patr\u00f3n proponiendo una ruptura.<\/p>\n

If the majority of the time you focused only on his needs, his problems and everything that was going on in his life by neglecting yours completely, then you know you’ve made him your only priority which was not healthy, neither for you nor your relationship.<\/i><\/b><\/p>\n

A la larga, esto tambi\u00e9n puede da\u00f1ar seriamente tu autoestima hasta el punto de que pierdas tu propia identidad.<\/p>\n

So, if you suspect this was the case, it’s important that you first work on finding yourself again and then, if you still want, suggest that you try being together again.<\/p>\n

Dicen que para amar a otro ser humano, primero hay que aprender a amarse a uno mismo.<\/p>\n

You need to keep maintaining your connections outside your romantic relationship and keep on enjoying things you used to because that’s who you really are, and that’s whom he fell in love with.<\/p>\n

He thinks there’s something better outside the relationship<\/h2>\n

\"unTambi\u00e9n se conoce como El s\u00edndrome de la hierba m\u00e1s verde <\/i> . It’s when you think that there’s always something better than what you already have. It’s when you think that you would be happier with someone else than with the person you’re with at the moment.<\/p>\n

And maybe that’s what your ex thought as well. Maybe the reason why he broke up with you is because he constantly thought that there’s something better outside your relationship.<\/p>\n

This happens a lot, and in most cases, it happens to men who are not that experienced. They have this constant anxiety that they’re missing something out there.<\/p>\n

But, this is not a valid excuse for sure. There’s no way you can tame a man or be with a man who is constantly on the lookout for something better, greater.<\/p>\n

You don’t want to turn into an overly controlling woman whose main priority is stalking her boyfriend. <\/p>\n

You want to unfriend him on all social networks, keep living your best life, and let him aimlessly continue searching for “perfection”.<\/p>\n

And I can assure you that he’ll never find what he’s looking for because he himself has no idea what he really wants. <\/p>\n

Even if he was with a Victoria Secrets model in a relationship, he would still think that there’s something better.<\/p>\n

It’s a serious issue, and it takes a lot of time to deal with this syndrome. It takes a lot of practice and time for one to learn to appreciate what they already have.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: 10 se\u00f1ales del s\u00edndrome de la hierba m\u00e1s verde y c\u00f3mo superarlo <\/a><\/p>\n

Relaciones a distancia<\/h2>\n

\"elO tal vez la raz\u00f3n por la que tu novio rompi\u00f3 contigo es porque estabas en un relaci\u00f3n a distancia <\/a> durante alg\u00fan tiempo.<\/p>\n

Esto significa m\u00e1s mensajes de texto y menos comunicaci\u00f3n de calidad en persona, m\u00e1s tiempo en las redes sociales, que son las principales culpables de todos los posibles estallidos de celos, y todo eso significa el debilitamiento de vuestras conexiones tanto emocionales como f\u00edsicas. <\/p>\n

Por mi experiencia personal y la de personas cercanas a m\u00ed, puedo asegurar que no mucha gente puede superar los retos de las relaciones a distancia.<\/p>\n

Sobre todo, acaba con el deseo de tener una relaci\u00f3n normal con alguien a quien puedas ver m\u00e1s a menudo y a quien puedas sentir a tu lado. <\/p>\n

That’s why, most of the time, a long-distance relationship results in infidelity.<\/p>\n

And this has nothing to do with how strong your love is. It’s mostly a question of your character and personality.<\/p>\n

For example, if you’re an extrovert, you will naturally be inclined to go out more often and to search for other connections which may result in completely forgetting what you already have and focusing on what you can have at the place where you are at the moment. <\/p>\n

But, there’s no need to worry because this doesn’t have to be true in your case.<\/p>\n

Tal vez tu relaci\u00f3n a distancia haya caducado de forma natural y lo \u00fanico que puedas hacer es tomar caminos separados.<\/p>\n

Perhaps your boyfriend couldn’t endure it any longer, and he decided that splitting up is the best decision for the both of you.<\/p>\n

SEGUNDA PARTE: MI NOVIO HA ROTO CONMIGO: \u00bfQU\u00c9 HACER AHORA?<\/h2>\n

\"unaNow that we’ve gone through the possible reasons why your boyfriend broke up with you, it’s time to focus on what you will do next! This part will cover the main things you should focus on if you want to move on for good, or if you want to get him back. It will also cover some things that you should never do, no matter how much you want to reunite with your ex.<\/p>\n

Ready? Let’s get started!<\/p>\n

If you want to move on, you should…<\/p>\n

C\u00e9ntrate en descubrir qui\u00e9n eres sin \u00e9l<\/h2>\n

\"elTras una ruptura, lo primero que debes hacer por ti misma es centrarte en descubrir qui\u00e9n eres sin \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

When you’re in a relationship (especially for a long time), you lose a part of yourself because you were solely focused on maintaining and fighting for what you have with your loved one.<\/p>\n

Dejas de hacer cosas que antes te gustaban. Te comprometes mucho.<\/p>\n

You become more focused on your partner’s happiness than your own. And now is the perfect time to change that. <\/p>\n

Ahora es el momento perfecto para reencontrar tu pasi\u00f3n interior, encontrar una nueva afici\u00f3n, comprometerte contigo mismo y con las personas que significan mucho para ti.<\/p>\n

Now is the perfect time to spoil yourself with long, bubble baths; with your favorite cake, TV show or a drink. Don’t let him define your being\u2014think about who you truly are without him.<\/p>\n

De este modo, le resultar\u00e1 m\u00e1s f\u00e1cil recuperarse del desamor, y tambi\u00e9n es la base perfecta para una relaci\u00f3n sana si alguna vez deciden volver a reunirse.<\/p>\n

Piensa en lo que quieres para ti<\/h2>\n

\"laEn lugar de pensar s\u00f3lo en tu relaci\u00f3n fallida y en todo lo que podr\u00edas haber tenido en el futuro, piensa en lo que quieres para ti.<\/p>\n

En lugar de pensar s\u00f3lo en esa frase: My boyfriend broke up with me and I don\u2019t know what to do <\/i> , ask yourself whether you really want to be in a relationship with someone who clearly, for some reason, doesn’t want the same thing?<\/p>\n

Do you want to continue being in a relationship that is not reciprocal? If your answer is \u2018no\u2019, then you’re ready to move on.<\/p>\n

Y deja de pensar que s\u00f3lo t\u00fa tienes la culpa de que tu relaci\u00f3n se haya venido abajo.<\/p>\n

Deja de pensar que si hubieras hecho algo diferente, seguir\u00edais juntos.<\/p>\n

Even if you cheated on him, your decision to do so didn’t happen overnight.<\/p>\n

Ambos sois responsables de ello. Sea cual sea el motivo, recuerda que todas las peque\u00f1as cosas que ocurrieron en vuestra relaci\u00f3n por ambas partes contribuyeron a que \u00e9l decidiera romper. <\/p>\n

Una vez que tu mente absorba todo esto, te liberar\u00e1s y empezar\u00e1s a pensar m\u00e1s claramente en lo que quieres para ti en lugar de pensar s\u00f3lo en tu pasado.<\/p>\n

Haz una lista de prioridades para tu nueva vida<\/h2>\n

\"laIf you want to move on, it’s essential that you make a list of priorities for your new life .<\/p>\n

Escribe algunas cosas que quieras conseguir en un futuro pr\u00f3ximo. Si quieres aprender a tocar un instrumento, escr\u00edbelo.<\/p>\n

If you want to focus on improving your connection with other people that you didn’t have time for lately, write it down.<\/p>\n

Si quieres centrarte en tu carrera, escr\u00edbelo. Si quieres dedicar tu tiempo a tus nuevas aficiones, escr\u00edbelo.<\/p>\n

It’s important that you set the goals you want to achieve because that will prevent you from constantly thinking only about your ex.<\/p>\n

It will help you move on faster because when you’re fully focused on things that matter to you in life, you become the best version of yourself.<\/p>\n

You become fulfilled, and you certainly don’t have time to think about texting your ex or liking his pictures on social media .<\/p>\n

And if someday in the future, you happen to reunite for some reason, it will be easier to maintain a healthy relationship when you’ve already set your priorities. <\/p>\n

La regla del no contacto<\/h2>\n

\"unI’m pretty sure you’re all familiar with the no contact rule .<\/p>\n

It basically means cutting all contact with your ex\u2014blocking him on social media , not calling or texting him, not seeing him, and deleting his number if needed. <\/p>\n

The no contact rule needs to be applied ASAP after a breakup because the sooner you cut all contact, the sooner you’ll heal and move on.<\/p>\n

Esta regla se invent\u00f3 para ayudarte a limpiarte de toda la negatividad acumulada en tu relaci\u00f3n y ayudarte a ver las cosas con m\u00e1s claridad. <\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, ya sabes lo que dicen: “Far from the eyes, far from the heart” <\/i> .<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Lee esto siempre que tengas ganas de mandarle un mensaje, aunque sepas que no debes hacerlo <\/a><\/p>\n

Evita todo lo que te recuerde a \u00e9l<\/h2>\n

\"unaSi quieres olvidarle y pasar p\u00e1gina en un tiempo r\u00e9cord, debes evitar estrictamente todo lo que te recuerde a \u00e9l.<\/p>\n

This includes things that he’s given you for your birthday and all the other gifts, going to the same restaurant you went to with him, going for a walk along the same route you went with him, and so on.<\/p>\n

If you don’t want to discard everything he’s given to you, just put it in a bag and hide it somewhere in the house until you recover from your breakup and until those things start to mean nothing to you.<\/p>\n

Te sorprender\u00eda ver c\u00f3mo el cerebro humano puede desconectar f\u00e1cilmente de cosas que antes significaban mucho para una persona. <\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, todav\u00eda tengo ropa de mi ex que me pongo con regularidad, y rara vez pienso en \u00e9l cuando me la pongo.<\/p>\n

Ya no relaciono esas prendas con la persona de la que estaba enamorada, sino con alguien que una vez form\u00f3 parte de mi vida pero que ahora es s\u00f3lo un recuerdo lejano.<\/p>\n

Deja de hablar de \u00e9l con otras personas <\/h2>\n

\"laEl error n\u00famero uno que muchas personas cometen tras una ruptura es hablar constantemente de su ex con sus amigos o personas cercanas.<\/p>\n

Piensan que si siguen hablando de las cosas que pasaron en la relaci\u00f3n o de c\u00f3mo su pareja era un gilipollas integral, de alguna manera se curar\u00e1n m\u00e1gicamente de todo el dolor que sienten.<\/p>\n

But, this will only do the opposite. The longer you mention your ex\u2019s name and the longer you talk about him to other people, the longer you’ll feel miserable, and it will be impossible for you to move on.<\/p>\n

It doesn’t matter if you’re mentioning his name in a positive or negative connotation because as long as he’s on your mind, you will not be able to think clearly and to do the right thing.<\/p>\n

So, when you’re spending time with your friends, talk about all the fun things that you used to do before instead and make plans for the future.<\/p>\n

Habla de la vida, r\u00edete de las cosas que est\u00e1n de moda en ese momento, habla de cualquier cosa, pero no hables de tu ex.<\/p>\n

En caso de que te lo encuentres, mant\u00e9n la calma y sigue adelante.<\/h2>\n

\"conjuntosEsta es una de las mayores pesadillas para todos los que quieren olvidar a su ex. Pasan mucho tiempo pensando qu\u00e9 dir\u00edan o har\u00edan en caso de cruzarse con ellos.<\/p>\n

They start thinking about tons of possible case scenarios, but they can’t decide which one they prefer most.<\/p>\n

If you’re one of those people, forget about all of it. In case you run into your ex, the only thing you need to remember is to stay calm and move on.<\/p>\n

Do not succumb to temptation to tell him everything that’s on your mind, to yell at him, let alone to start crying in front of him.<\/p>\n

You don’t want to show him your weaknesses, and you don’t want him to think that you’re still crazy about him and that you’ll do anything just to reunite with him (even if all of this is true).<\/p>\n

You need to focus on moving on because you owe it to yourself, and that’s why you should take a deep breath, stay calm, say a few words if you must and move on.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Si vuelves con \u00e9l (sabiendo que no deber\u00edas) esto es lo que pasar\u00e1 <\/a><\/p>\n

Repite todo lo anterior hasta que algo cambie.<\/h2>\n

\"laMuchas personas piensan que si hacen todo lo anterior, olvidar\u00e1n a su ex ma\u00f1ana o la semana que viene. Pero las cosas no funcionan as\u00ed.<\/p>\n

I won’t lie to you. There will be moments when you will want to contact your ex, when you will want to do anything just to reach him even though you know you shouldn’t.<\/p>\n

There will be times when you will want to give up on trying to move on because it won’t be easy.<\/p>\n

Ser\u00e1 duro, pero siempre que tengas ganas de rendirte o siempre que sientas que estas cosas no funcionan, sigue haci\u00e9ndolas hasta que empieces a ver resultados.<\/p>\n

Sigue repitiendo todo lo anterior hasta que algo cambie, porque, cr\u00e9eme, lo har\u00e1.<\/p>\n

No importa lo confundido y desesperado que est\u00e9s en este momento, un d\u00eda en un futuro cercano, te despertar\u00e1s y te dar\u00e1s cuenta de que ya no piensas en tu ex para nada. <\/p>\n

And until that day comes, you mustn’t give up, and you mustn’t think that you’re too weak to follow your own path.<\/p>\n

You’re a strong, independent woman, and you can do whatever the hell you want, only if you want to! Don’t ever forget that.<\/p>\n

If you want him back, you should…<\/h2>\n

\"laSi decides que quieres reencontrarte con \u00e9l y que quieres que vuelva, tienes que hacer exactamente las mismas cosas mencionadas anteriormente que si quieres seguir adelante. <\/p>\n

Tienes que hacer todo igual porque, una vez aplicadas estas ocho reglas, hay dos resultados posibles: O lo olvidas y sigues adelante o \u00e9l te buscar\u00e1 en alg\u00fan momento.<\/b> .<\/p>\n

And sometimes these two outcomes come in one package, and it’s up to you whether you want to delete him from your life permanently or try again. <\/p>\n

Mi humilde consejo es que el \u00fanico momento en el que realmente deber\u00edas plantearte volver a estar con \u00e9l es si todav\u00eda sientes algo fuerte por \u00e9l, crees que est\u00e1is hechos el uno para el otro y que conseguir\u00e9is arreglar las cosas. <\/p>\n

Una vez que apliques estas ocho reglas, estar\u00e1s lista para empezar un nuevo cap\u00edtulo con o sin \u00e9l, lo cual es esencial a la hora de establecer una relaci\u00f3n sana y feliz o seguir viviendo tu mejor vida en solitario.<\/p>\n

\u00bfQU\u00c9 NO DEBES HACER NUNCA?<\/h2>\n

\"unaEn caso de que tus ganas de llegar a tu ex se vuelvan incontrolables, debes recordar lo siguiente: Nunca intentes convencer a tu ex para que se quede contigo. <\/b> \u00bfPor qu\u00e9?<\/p>\n

Porque esto es lo peor que podr\u00edas hacer. Te perjudicar\u00e1 a ti y har\u00e1 que \u00e9l se distancie a\u00fan m\u00e1s.<\/p>\n

Y si necesitas m\u00e1s razones, aqu\u00ed tienes algunas cosas que tu ex podr\u00eda pensar de ti si intentas convencerle de que se quede contigo:<\/p>\n

Pensar\u00e1 que eres ego\u00edsta e infantil.<\/h2>\n

\"elSi le llamas o mandas mensajes constantemente para intentar convencerle de que cambie de opini\u00f3n y vuelva contigo, te considerar\u00e1 ego\u00edsta e infantil.<\/p>\n

He will think of you as selfish or childish because you don’t think about how he feels about everything and the reasons why he did that in the first place . <\/p>\n

It will look like the only one you’re thinking about is yourself and how you will feel once you reunite again. And you don’t want that.<\/p>\n

You don’t want to be that kind of woman because it’s both toxic for your well-being, and it will not bring you anything good. <\/p>\n

Tendr\u00e1 miedo de cambiar de opini\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"elSi sigues acos\u00e1ndole e intentando convencerle de que se quede contigo, conseguir\u00e1s que tenga miedo de cambiar de opini\u00f3n porque sabr\u00e1 que si alguna vez decide volver a dejarte, esto ocurrir\u00e1.<\/p>\n

Tendr\u00e1 miedo de que vuelvas a perder los papeles una vez que vuestra relaci\u00f3n expire de forma natural o si ocurre algo malo.<\/p>\n

Y a nadie le gusta sentirse obligado a hacer algo s\u00f3lo porque otra persona quiere que lo haga.<\/p>\n

Tienes que dejar que decida por s\u00ed mismo si quiere reunirse contigo o no.<\/p>\n

No le dar\u00e1s suficiente espacio y tiempo para echarte de menos<\/h2>\n

\"unIntentar convencer a tu ex novio para que se quede contigo significa no darle suficiente espacio y tiempo para que te eche de menos.<\/p>\n

And that’s the main reason why you need to apply those eight rules above. <\/p>\n

After a breakup, it’s essential that you give yourself enough time to think about what happened, to find yourself again, and to give him space and time as well to do the same.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s, todo ser\u00e1 diferente para los dos y sabr\u00e9is qu\u00e9 hacer a continuaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Lo que hay que hacer es dejar que las cosas sucedan a un ritmo natural. <\/h2>\n

\"laApply those eight rules and wait to see the results. If you’ve decided with all of your body and heart that you’re moving on then, don’t stop practising those rules until you finally succeed.<\/p>\n

If you still want him back (for the right reasons), then give him some space and time to see that you’re a different woman and that you’re perfectly capable of being on your own.<\/p>\n

And if he decides to reach you, don’t jump on him like he’s the only man in the world. <\/p>\n

Sigue alimentando tu <\/b>propia vida<\/b> and keep being the strong woman that you are. If he recognizes it, then you know he’s the right man for you. <\/b><\/p>\n

Si \u00e9l est\u00e1 de acuerdo en hacer un esfuerzo mutuo, alimentar el respeto mutuo y luchar desinteresadamente por devolver la chispa a vuestra relaci\u00f3n, entonces sabr\u00e1s que volver con \u00e9l era lo correcto.<\/p>\n

Elijas lo que elijas, te deseo mucha suerte (y mucha paciencia).<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: La regla de las tres semanas de ruptura que debes seguir <\/a><\/p>\n

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