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<\/p>\nComo consejera certificada en crisis y psicoterapeuta registrada, me siento en las habitaciones con los clientes mientras desvelan sus traumas m\u00e1s profundos.<\/p>\n
Sometimes the person on the couch opposite of me dishes out everything they\u2019ve ever been through in their first session.<\/p>\n
Sometimes it takes months. In my case, even as a student of this field, I didn\u2019t expose myself fully to my therapist until 9 months in.<\/p>\n
Pero una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica es diferente. En lugar de una primera sesi\u00f3n, tienes una primera cita. Y puede que una primera se convierta en una tercera.<\/p>\n
You start going steady. Then you end up sitting on the couch across from your therapist asking your clinician what so many clients do: \u201cWhen should I tell them about my past?\u201d<\/p>\n
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En primer lugar, hace bien en preguntarse. Es justo que seas prudente. Eres valiente por considerarlo.<\/p>\n
My partner and I met walking the Camino De Santiago\u2014a 584-mile pilgrimage from the bottom of France across all of Spain.<\/p>\n
We were walking solo until we stumbled into each other in an old Catholic children\u2019s school converted into a hostel.<\/p>\n
Esa noche, fuimos a tomar una copa en nuestra primera cita. Despu\u00e9s de pedir una sangr\u00eda, la camarera le pidi\u00f3 una Sprite.<\/p>\n
Cuando ella se march\u00f3, \u00e9l se apresur\u00f3 a contarme todo lo que hab\u00eda que saber sobre \u00e9l: por qu\u00e9 hab\u00eda pedido una Sprite; sobre su experiencia con las drogas y el alcohol, que inevitablemente acab\u00f3 en que compartiera sus traumas conmigo.<\/p>\n
A las pocas horas de conocerle, ya sab\u00eda lo que \u00e9l consideraba lo m\u00e1s profundo y miserable de s\u00ed mismo.<\/strong><\/p>\n Y tengo que decir que hab\u00eda un esp\u00edritu en mi pareja al dec\u00edrmelo en nuestra primera cita; una voluntad de abrirse a m\u00ed sin necesitar que yo reaccionara de una determinada manera.<\/p>\n It was as if he didn\u2019t care if I never talked to him again because of it. He didn\u2019t mind my reactions too diligently.<\/p>\n No le preocupaba en absoluto que acab\u00e1ramos de conocernos.<\/p>\n The truth is\u2026 there may never be a \u2018good time\u2019 or a \u2018good way.\u2019<\/p>\n Para escribir este art\u00edculo, he investigado lo que otros psicoterapeutas han sugerido sobre c\u00f3mo hablar a tus parejas de tu pasado.<\/p>\n Muchos de ellos enumeraban preguntas preparatorias que hacerse y que parec\u00edan estar relacionadas y ser importantes para el tema.<\/p>\n But I feel there might not be the \u2018right questions\u2019 to ask yourself before you decide to share.<\/p>\n I feel there may not be a \u2018good formula\u2019 out there on how to start the dialogue.<\/p>\n Por lo tanto, puedes escribirlo primero, evaluar tu nivel de confianza con tu pareja, investigar definitivamente tus respuestas traum\u00e1ticas.<\/p>\n Do whatever you need. But the most important question you should consider before telling your partner about your trauma is\u2026<\/p>\n What is your \u2018why\u2019 for wanting to share?<\/strong><\/p>\n Because we\u2019re talking about TRAUMA. Something individual, personal, deeply intimate, and precious.<\/p>\n Mi pareja dice que me lo dijo aquel d\u00eda en Espa\u00f1a porque estaba dispuesto a ser radicalmente aut\u00e9ntico con todas las personas de su vida, independientemente de su respuesta.<\/p>\n Le cont\u00e9 a mi terapeuta lo m\u00edo porque estaba lista para comenzar el trabajo con mis respuestas traum\u00e1ticas y desencadenantes.<\/p>\n Se lo dije a mi pareja a los 5 meses porque sab\u00eda que me iba a casar con \u00e9l y me sent\u00eda preparada.<\/p>\n \u00bfCu\u00e1l es su porqu\u00e9?<\/p>\n This is your story. It\u2019s sacred. And even though you probably didn\u2019t pick your past, treat the way you share it opposite of its birth\u2014with deep intentionality.<\/p>\n por Jessica White<\/strong><\/p>\n As a certified crisis counselor and registered psychotherapist, I sit in rooms with clients as they unveil their deepest traumas. Sometimes the person on the couch opposite of me dishes out everything they\u2019ve ever been through in their first session. Sometimes it takes months. 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