{"id":52380,"date":"2020-02-05T21:55:10","date_gmt":"2020-02-05T21:55:10","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=52380"},"modified":"2021-08-12T12:33:00","modified_gmt":"2021-08-12T12:33:00","slug":"el-segundo-amor-es-el-mas-grande","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/el-segundo-amor-es-el-mas-grande\/","title":{"rendered":"12 razones por las que tu segundo amor es el mejor de todos"},"content":{"rendered":"

First kiss, first relationship, first love… I’m sure you still remember that intensa sensaci\u00f3n de mariposas<\/span><\/a> chasing each other in your stomach right before you were about to meet your loved one\u2014your first loved one.<\/p>\n

You were so anxious about impressing them that you spent the whole afternoon changing outfits and hairstyles and desperately matching the right shade of your nail polish or lipstick and many other things (if you’re a female, of course).<\/p>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

Y luego, cuando por fin estabais juntos, todo parec\u00eda un cuento de hadas porque era la primera vez que estabas tan locamente enamorado de alguien.<\/p>\n

Vuestra historia de amor fue tan emocionante, el enamoramiento tan intenso y, de repente, la vida real dej\u00f3 de existir.<\/p>\n

El primer amor es como la primera primavera, cuando todo despierta y entras en el reino de la belleza, la dicha y la emoci\u00f3n. Te sientes encantado.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Y por eso, los primeros amores a menudo nos ense\u00f1an muy poco sobre el amor o sobre nosotros mismos.<\/p>\n

We’re so mesmerized by the magic of it that we forget to pay attention to all those things that really matter.<\/p>\n

\"hombre<\/p>\n

Nos olvidamos de cuestionar nuestras elecciones, de reflexionar sobre c\u00f3mo mejorar nuestra relaci\u00f3n, de trabajar para mejorarnos a nosotros mismos y similares.<\/p>\n

Por estas razones, a veces tu segundo amor llega como una segunda oportunidad, en la que aprendemos a luchar por el amor verdadero y a mejorar las cosas porque la segunda vez somos m\u00e1s sabios, m\u00e1s audaces y m\u00e1s duros.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de un desenga\u00f1o y de dejar ir a nuestro primer amor, nos volvemos conscientes de todo lo que sali\u00f3 mal, de cada una de nuestras palabras y de cada uno de nuestros actos.<\/p>\n

The second time, when we\u2019re in our second relationship, we know perfectly well what we\u2019re looking for and what we expect in return.<\/p>\n

Su <\/span>primer amor<\/span>la primera persona que amas, te ense\u00f1a valiosas lecciones<\/span><\/a> and prepares you for the great love that you’re about to experience.<\/p>\n

And that’s why the second person is the right person and sometimes even your soulmate. That’s why your second love may be the greatest one of all.<\/p>\n

Tanto si tu segundo amor dura para siempre como si dura poco, aqu\u00ed tienes una lista de razones perfectamente leg\u00edtimas por las que tu segundo amor es el mejor de todos.<\/p>\n

1. You’re no longer naive<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Enamorarse por primera vez se parece m\u00e1s a caer por un acantilado a aguas desconocidas, donde hay que aprender a nadar contra corrientes peligrosas para sobrevivir y sacar lo mejor de uno mismo.<\/p>\n

It’s a whole new world that no one could prepare you for.<\/p>\n

Social media, TV shows and movies greatly influence the concept of love and that’s where a clash occurs.<\/p>\n

Al observar esos romances perfectos en los que dos personas llevan un estilo de vida id\u00edlico, se besan bajo la lluvia, nunca o casi nunca se pelean, se hacen regalos lujosos en lugar de regalos de bricolaje, etc., nos hacemos una idea equivocada de lo que es realmente el amor.<\/p>\n

We connect love with a series of perfect moments and that’s why we expect the same thing to happen to us.<\/p>\n

Pero en realidad, el amor es algo totalmente distinto y tu primer amor te lo ense\u00f1a.<\/p>\n

Cuando te enamoras por primera vez, te das cuenta de que las cosas no son tan id\u00edlicas como esperabas.<\/p>\n

Soon, you find yourself pretending that you enjoy playing video games with them just for the sake of showing your support, you find yourself annoyed by some things you didn’t even expect would bother you and you realize that love is so much more than just a perfect sequence of romantic events.<\/p>\n

You implement that realization into your second love because you’re then no longer naive. After your first love, you create your own definition of love.<\/p>\n

2. Comprendes el dolor de un coraz\u00f3n roto<\/h2>\n

\"silueta<\/p>\n

Una de las principales razones por las que tu segundo amor es el amor m\u00e1s grande de todos es porque, a estas alturas, ya entiendes el dolor de un coraz\u00f3n roto.<\/p>\n

Ahora, perm\u00edtanme elaborar sobre esto.<\/p>\n

Tu primer amor te rompi\u00f3 el coraz\u00f3n y te hizo vulnerable.<\/p>\n

You probably refused to go out for a few days or have any kind of interaction with human beings, you refused to eat or you ate a little bit more than usual, you cried, you cursed life and you swore that you\u2019d never love again, no matter what.<\/p>\n

And after all that, once you meet your second love, you’re aware of all the potential drama and depression after a heartbreak and your decision to still go for it and be vulnerable is the epitome of greatness in the whole story.<\/p>\n

You knowingly and wholeheartedly decide to open yourself up to another human being, even though you’re aware of the fact that they might break your heart, just like your first love did.<\/p>\n

And that’s why your second love is so much greater than your first love.<\/p>\n

Esa constataci\u00f3n es lo que hace que vuestra conexi\u00f3n sea diez veces m\u00e1s intensa y fuerte; la constataci\u00f3n de que pod\u00e9is acabar pasando por la misma doloroso <\/span>desamor<\/span><\/a> again but still indulging in it because you feel it’s the right thing to do.<\/p>\n

3. You’re older now<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

La mayor\u00eda de las personas experimentan su primer amor durante el instituto, la universidad o en alg\u00fan punto intermedio.<\/p>\n

And now that you’re older, you’re automatically wiser and bolder.<\/p>\n

Your perspective on things including love have changed and you’re more mature in every segment of your life.<\/p>\n

Por ejemplo, en el instituto, tu mayor preocupaci\u00f3n era el baile de graduaci\u00f3n o si tu ser querido encajar\u00eda en tu pandilla.<\/p>\n

La universidad tiene sus propios retos, en los que tienes que enfrentarte a cosas m\u00e1s serias que el baile de graduaci\u00f3n o lo que tus compa\u00f1eros pensar\u00edan de tu amada.<\/p>\n

B\u00e1sicamente, cuanto mayor seas, m\u00e1s seria ser\u00e1 tu relaci\u00f3n. Entras en el mundo de las finanzas, tu trabajo y otras cosas que requieren cierto nivel de madurez.<\/p>\n

Junto con eso, tu perspectiva sobre tu vida amorosa y tus relaciones tambi\u00e9n cambia.<\/p>\n

Cuando te enamoraste por primera vez, eras feliz yendo al cine con tu amada, mirando las estrellas o haciendo el rid\u00edculo en medio de la nada.<\/p>\n

Your love was carefree and wild. But now that you’re older, you aren’t satisfied with mediocre love or trivial romance.<\/p>\n

En lugar de buscar esa sensaci\u00f3n de despreocupaci\u00f3n, buscas seguridad, reciprocidad, comprensi\u00f3n, compasi\u00f3n y respeto.<\/p>\n

And that’s why your second love is the greatest one of all.<\/p>\n

Te ense\u00f1a la diferencia entre los falsos ideales y los valores correctos que hay que poner en pr\u00e1ctica en el amor y en tu relaci\u00f3n si quieres que tenga \u00e9xito y sea incondicional.<\/p>\n

4. Your second love is less stressful and more \u2018sane\u2019<\/h2>\n

\"novio<\/p>\n

When you fall in love for the first time, you experience everything ten times more intensely because it’s new and because you have no idea what you should be doing, saying or similar.<\/p>\n

Te pasas una eternidad junto al tel\u00e9fono esperando a que te respondan y, en el proceso de espera, maldices a todo el mundo porque te sientes traicionado, herido y decepcionado.<\/p>\n

Tu primer amor te vuelve realmente loco e impulsado por ese sentimiento de locura, tiendes a hacer algunas locuras tambi\u00e9n.<\/p>\n

If they don\u2019t text you back for a few hours, you decide to go see them just to see that everything’s fine and that they’re not cheating on you or similar.<\/p>\n

Tus hormonas salvajes, tus emociones y el intenso sentimiento de pertenencia a otro ser humano te obligan a hacer cosas que nunca hab\u00edas pensado hacer.<\/p>\n

But with your second love, everything changes (well, at least to a certain degree) because your second love is less stressful and more \u2018sane\u2019.<\/p>\n

Como ya pasaste por todas esas situaciones cr\u00edticas con tu primer amor, seguro que no volver\u00e1s a repetir los mismos errores y lo vivir\u00e1s todo con una dosis de calma.<\/p>\n

You won’t react like a crazy beast if they don’t reply the same second because now you have more understanding and you know that things are not always as they seem. You know that everything’s in your head.<\/p>\n

5. You don’t make the same mistakes as with your first love<\/h2>\n

\"novio<\/p>\n

Como ya se ha dicho, entrar en el mundo de tu primer amor es como entrar en un mundo desconocido como ser humano inexperto.<\/p>\n

So, it’s totally normal that you and your beloved probably made some terrible and not-so-terrible mistakes when you were in the process of falling for each other and creating your storyline\u2014realizing what was really going on and what love really was.<\/p>\n

Those mistakes taught you a thing or two and now you definitely won’t repeat them with your second love.<\/p>\n

You won’t let the other person take you for granted or vice versa, you will seek respect and reciprocity, you won’t be jealous for no reason, you won’t hold grudges for an eternity, you will learn the importance of being patient in critical situations and similar.<\/p>\n

Your second love also shows you that you can be someone’s first choice instead of a second choice.<\/p>\n

Si la infidelidad o que te dieran por perdida de una forma u otra fue el motivo de la ruptura con tu primer amor, tu segundo amor te devolver\u00e1 la esperanza perdida.<\/p>\n

6. You’re able to easily predict when someone is full of shit<\/h2>\n

\"pareja<\/p>\n

If you’ve dated someone who cheated on you or treated you badly, after them, you’re able to easily predict when someone is full of shit.<\/p>\n

You see, it’s so easy to get lost in the realm of your first love because everything’s new and you have no idea how to react at certain moments.<\/p>\n

For example, you’re aware of the fact that they’re not treating you right but you still don\u2019t do anything about it because you think that they will change, that you should give them a second chance or you constantly look for excuses to justify their shitty behavior toward you.<\/p>\n

You do all this because you don’t really know what you’re ought to do and there’s certainly not a first love manual, even though it would be really good if it existed.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que haces lo que crees que es correcto y a menudo te equivocas y te perjudicas en el proceso.<\/p>\n

Your second love doesn’t have space for that. Given that your first love was like a trial period, your second love is destined to be greater because now that you’ve learned a lot, you’ll easily predict when someone is full of shit and now you’ll do the right thing.<\/p>\n

7. You’re more guarded<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

One of the weird reasons why your second love is the greatest one of all is because you’re more guarded.<\/p>\n

Yes, it sounds really weird and incomprehensible but it’s true and here’s why.<\/p>\n

When you fall in love for the first time, you’re not prepared for what is about to happen.<\/p>\n

You’re not prepared for all the good things, let alone for all the bad things that are about to surprise you and become a part of your everyday life.<\/p>\n

And that’s why you with your first love, you are wild and free.<\/p>\n

You don’t worry about any potential dangers of opening yourself up to another human being, you don’t worry about being vulnerable, about mind games, manipulations or being taken for granted.<\/p>\n

Y una vez que pasas por algunos de ellos o por todos, te vuelves m\u00e1s precavido en el futuro.<\/p>\n

And that’s the real beauty of your second love.<\/p>\n

Te vuelves m\u00e1s protector con tu coraz\u00f3n y, por lo tanto, requieres m\u00e1s esfuerzo y seguridad por parte de otras personas a la hora de abrirte de nuevo y mostrar tu lado vulnerable.<\/p>\n

Todo eso hace que tu segundo amor sea mucho m\u00e1s especial que el primero o cualquier otro.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: La belleza de enamorar a una chica reservada<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

8. Te sientes libre para ser quien realmente eres<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

Al ver todas esas series de televisi\u00f3n o parejas en las redes sociales o en las pel\u00edculas, te haces una idea equivocada de c\u00f3mo debe ser una relaci\u00f3n o c\u00f3mo debes comportarte en una.<\/p>\n

Piensas que todo debe ser perfecto y que t\u00fa debes ser perfecto si quieres que tu amor sobreviva y resista a cualquier peligro potencial.<\/p>\n

De repente, empiezas a notar todos tus defectos y rarezas m\u00e1s que antes y te da miedo mostrar tu verdadero yo, ser quien realmente eres en una relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

You are insecure with your first love because you don’t really understand the principles of love and how things should go down.<\/p>\n

After that, you no longer give a shit about perfection or anything similar to that because you feel free to be who you really are. That’s why your second love feels more casual and cozy.<\/p>\n

You don’t really bother with whether you’ve matched your nail polish with your socks (if you’re female) or whether you’re perfectly shaved at any time of the day or night (if you’re male).<\/p>\n

You accept the fact that you’re an imperfect human being and that love is not about creating perfection but about being imperfectly perfect together.<\/p>\n

9. You’re still optimistic<\/h2>\n

\"hermosa<\/p>\n

It’s really hard to stay optimistic after your first heartbreak but do you know what’s even harder? Staying optimistic after a few heartbreaks.<\/p>\n

So, that’s one of the reasons why your second love is just perfect.<\/p>\n

No matter how broken you are after your first love, you still have that silver lining within you reminding you that it’s not the end of the world and that one day, when you wake up, you’ll realize that this is just the beginning of a journey called life.<\/p>\n

You’re still optimistic about finding the real one and experiencing real love, aka true love.<\/p>\n

And no matter how many days you’ve spent being miserable in your bed, you still don’t lose hope that one day you’ll meet your second love, who will be the greatest one of all.<\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Don’t Allow Your <\/span>Heartbreak<\/span> Para dictar su futuro<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

10. You’re aware of the risks but you still go for it<\/h2>\n

\"encantadora<\/p>\n

And when your second love finds you, you’re perfectly aware of the risk of falling in love again but you still go for it. And that’s the real magic and beauty of love.<\/p>\n

You’re aware of the fact that your second love might bring you the same worries or heartbreak and make you feel like you\u2019re the crazy one but you still go for it.<\/p>\n

Vas a por ello porque en el fondo de tu coraz\u00f3n te has vuelto adicto a la sensaci\u00f3n de pertenecer totalmente a otro ser humano.<\/p>\n

Y tienes esperanza. Esperas que el pr\u00f3ximo ser humano, que la pr\u00f3xima relaci\u00f3n, sea la indicada.<\/p>\n

The real one. And you know that if you don’t try, you’ll never know the outcome of it.<\/p>\n

As\u00ed que enjuga tus l\u00e1grimas, repara tu coraz\u00f3n roto, ponte un chaleco antibalas invisible y espera lo mejor.<\/p>\n

11. El segundo desenga\u00f1o duele un poco menos<\/h2>\n

\"mujer<\/p>\n

Before your first love, your heart wasn’t familiar with the amount of pain that it can endure, with the amount of tears that your eyes can produce or with the amount of soledad y decepci\u00f3n<\/span><\/a> que puedes sentir.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de tu primer amor, pasas por este proceso de duelo, a\u00f1oranza y maldecir todo y a todos los que te rodean.<\/p>\n

Tu cuerpo y tu mente sufren cambios tremendos y lo \u00fanico que puedes pensar es: nunca volver\u00e9 a amar.<\/p>\n

Of course, you say that only because you’re driven by the pain of your first love, even though you know that you will love again and that it is just a matter of time.<\/p>\n

Dado que tu cuerpo y tu mente ya han pasado por el dolor causado por tu primer amor, te vuelves m\u00e1s resistente, lo que significa que el segundo desamor doler\u00e1 un poco menos (si llega el caso).<\/p>\n

As a matter of fact, every future heartbreak will hurt a little less than the previous one because you’re kind of mentally prepared for the whole grieving process or for the worst.<\/p>\n

12. Your second love gives you the reassurance that you’ll love again<\/h2>\n

\"retrato<\/p>\n

After your first love ends, you get convinced that you’ll never love again or that every future love will be of lower intensity.<\/p>\n

Tu segundo amor tiene el efecto contrario.<\/p>\n

It gives you the reassurance that you’ll love again (of course, that is if you don’t marry your second love).<\/p>\n

The fact that you were able to survive the heartbreak caused by your first love and that you were able to heal gives you the promise that you’ll be able to do it again if needed.<\/p>\n

The fact that you were able to open yourself up again to another human being gives you the reassurance that you’ll be able to do it again.<\/p>\n

Una vez que sabes todo eso, ya no te preocupas por estar siempre solo o por estar siempre atascado en el proceso de dejar ir.<\/p>\n

Tu segundo amor te trae la esperanza de d\u00edas mejores y la promesa de que todo lo que sucede, sucede por una raz\u00f3n. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Te aporta sabidur\u00eda, comprensi\u00f3n y paciencia. <\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

Your second love proves to you that your heart is stronger than you thought, that you can rise no matter how hard you fall and that’s why it’s the greatest one of all.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

V\u00e9ase tambi\u00e9n: Amor verdadero<\/span> Se supone que cura, no que hiere<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n

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First kiss, first relationship, first love… I’m sure you still remember that intense feeling of butterflies chasing each other in your stomach right before you were about to meet your loved one\u2014your first loved one. You were so anxious about impressing them that you spent the whole afternoon changing outfits and hairstyles and desperately matching…<\/p>","protected":false},"author":53,"featured_media":52415,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_kad_blocks_custom_css":"","_kad_blocks_head_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_body_custom_js":"","_kad_blocks_footer_custom_js":"","_kadence_starter_templates_imported_post":false,"_kad_post_transparent":"","_kad_post_title":"","_kad_post_layout":"","_kad_post_sidebar_id":"","_kad_post_content_style":"","_kad_post_vertical_padding":"","_kad_post_feature":"","_kad_post_feature_position":"","_kad_post_header":false,"_kad_post_footer":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[29614],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-52380","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-love-talks"],"taxonomy_info":{"category":[{"value":29614,"label":"love talks"}]},"featured_image_src_large":["https:\/\/herway.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/02\/12-Reasons-Why-Your-Second-Love-Is-The-Greatest-One-Of-All.jpg",1000,591,false],"author_info":{"display_name":"Ariel Quinn","author_link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/author\/ariel\/"},"comment_info":0,"category_info":[{"term_id":29614,"name":"love talks","slug":"love-talks","term_group":0,"term_taxonomy_id":29614,"taxonomy":"category","description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","parent":38,"count":426,"filter":"raw","cat_ID":29614,"category_count":426,"category_description":"What is love? How does it affect us? How to know someone loves you or show someone you love them? What types of love are there? Learn all that and much more.","cat_name":"love talks","category_nicename":"love-talks","category_parent":38}],"tag_info":false,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52380","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/53"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=52380"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/52380\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/52415"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=52380"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=52380"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=52380"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}