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As\u00ed que, obviamente, este ser\u00e1 un texto sobre c\u00f3mo manejar el romance de la mejor manera si eres un estudiante universitario.<\/p>\n
However, before we start with the actual tips regarding this topic, I want to give you the most important piece of advice: don\u2019t be afraid to be single.<\/p>\n
Por supuesto, esto se aplica a todos los periodos posibles de tu vida, pero es crucial en la universidad.<\/p>\n
If you feel like you\u2019re better off on your own, if you don\u2019t find anyone you like well enough to date or have a relationship with or if you simply want to focus on other things besides your love life, that is perfectly okay.<\/p>\n
Please, don\u2019t fall under the pressure of your surroundings and think of yourself as a weirdo or an outcast just because you don’t have a college relationship and are not a part of any love story.<\/p>\n
Don\u2019t compare yourself to others and date just about anyone because you see couples all around you.<\/p>\n
No, you won\u2019t miss much if you remain single during your college years.<\/p>\n
Yes, romances in college can become one of your most cherished memories in your adult life, but if it\u2019s not meant to be, please don\u2019t beat yourself up about it.<\/p>\n
En lugar de eso, c\u00e9ntrate en ti mismo, en tus mejores amigos y familia, y disfruta de tu vida dentro y fuera del campus lo mejor que puedas.<\/p>\n
2. You don\u2019t have to find \u201cthe one\u201d<\/h2>\n
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If you’ve ever read college romance novels (such as “Game On” by Kristen Callihan or college romance books by other Amazon or Goodreads authors such as Colleen Hoover or Abbi Glines), in which the good girl falls in love with a rock star bad boy she met during her studies and eventually, the two of them end up together, despite all the obstacles, you probably romanticized the idea of finding everlasting love on campus.<\/p>\n
The same goes with all other books about romance in college: they give you hope that this is the place where you’ll find your persona para siempre<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n Well, let me tell you that romance books that take place in college and real life scenarios are not the same. In fact, during college, you don\u2019t have to find \u201cthe one\u201d.<\/p>\n You don’t have to be with the same person from your first until your last year in college.<\/p>\n On the other hand, you can have one college relationship throughout your entire studies, but this person doesn\u2019t have to be someone you\u2019ll spend the rest of your life with.<\/p>\n Yes, it is important for you to find a compatible partner, but don\u2019t beat yourself up with thinking too far ahead in the future.<\/p>\n Deshazte de la presi\u00f3n de que toda relaci\u00f3n en la que te metas tiene que funcionar y acabar en matrimonio.<\/p>\n On the contrary, the bitter truth is that most romances in college don\u2019t last long after you both finish your studies.<\/p>\n I\u2019m not saying that yours will fail as well, but this fact is definitely something you should have in mind before even starting anything.<\/p>\n Besides, be aware of the differences between men’s and women’s ideas of a college romance.<\/p>\n While most guys are looking forward to one night stands, women’s desires are usually centered around finding a long-term partner.<\/p>\n Obviously, you came to college to study and learn new things. You\u2019re here to educate yourself academically and to make something out of yourself in the future.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, hay otro tipo de aprendizaje en el que tambi\u00e9n deber\u00edas participar.<\/p>\n En lugar de centrarte en intentar encontrar a tu alma gemela, deber\u00edas ver este momento como una oportunidad para aprender m\u00e1s sobre ti mismo y sobre tus posibles parejas.<\/p>\n \u00bfCu\u00e1les son los tipos de chicas o chicos con los que m\u00e1s te gusta salir? \u00bfEst\u00e1s seguro al cien por cien de tu sexualidad o est\u00e1s abierto a experimentar?<\/p>\n \u00bfTe ves en una relaci\u00f3n duradera o en un matrimonio en el futuro? \u00bfEres capaz de tener relaciones espor\u00e1dicas y aventuras ocasionales, o no es lo tuyo?<\/p>\n This is the period in which you\u2019ll find out more about your dealbreakers<\/span><\/a>, standards, sexual preferences, and the period in which you\u2019ll get to know yourself in a completely new light\u2014a period in which you\u2019ll learn some tough lessons which will prove to be the most valuable ones in the future.<\/p>\n Another important tip for college romances is to understand that there is a huge difference between the real deal and one night stands\u2014a difference between sleeping with someone, dating them, being in a relationship and finally, being fully committed to them.<\/p>\n When you\u2019re young and your hormones are going wild, it is incredibly easy to mistake the two things.<\/p>\n You hook up with a friend of a friend at a party or you meet with someone from your dating app, and the next thing you know, you\u2019re convinced that you\u2019re desperately in love with them, that you will love them for the rest of your life, and that you would die if they left.<\/p>\n The truth is that this is nothing but your body deceiving you. You\u2019re actually falling into a common trap many young people find themselves in: you\u2019re confusing lust and love.<\/p>\n Pues bien, este es el momento en que aprender\u00e1 que estas dos cosas no son ni de lejos lo mismo, aunque tengan mucho en com\u00fan.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll learn that sharing strong chemistry and passion with someone doesn\u2019t automatically mean that they\u2019re your other half or someone you should waste all your college years on.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s be honest: this is the period of your life in which you\u2019ll probably have the most interesting sex life; the period of trying out new things and learning about your own sexuality.<\/p>\n Even though I\u2019m not judging any of these, I\u2019m here to ask you to be careful.<\/p>\n Recuerda siempre utilizar protecci\u00f3n, porque lo \u00faltimo que necesitas ahora es un embarazo no deseado o una ETS contra\u00edda de alguien con quien te acostaste por primera vez, que podr\u00eda cambiar el curso de tu vida para siempre.<\/p>\n Also, I\u2019m begging you not do anything you\u2019re not ready for. Respect your body, and demand the same treatment from your partner(s).<\/p>\n You\u2019re not old-fashioned or a prude if you see that you\u2019re not emotionally capable for having one night stands, for not wanting to sleep with someone you texted on the dating app or if you need more time to sleep with someone for the first time than the rest of the people of your generation.<\/p>\n Also, if you’re a guy, you don’t have to try so hard to maintain a bad boy reputation if that is not something you want.<\/p>\n Besides, even if you choose to remain a virgin, that is also your choice. You shouldn\u2019t be ashamed of it, and nobody is allowed to judge you for it.<\/p>\n Remember, this is your own body we\u2019re talking about here.<\/p>\n Therefore, you\u2019re the only one who is allowed to set boundaries, and nobody has the right to invade your personal space more than you let them.<\/p>\n Otra cosa importante es no permitir que nadie te utilice s\u00f3lo para meterse en tus pantalones.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t get me wrong\u2014 there is nothing wrong with sleeping with someone without any strings attached if that is what you both want.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, evitar ser un bot\u00edn<\/span><\/a> a alguien que te importa s\u00f3lo para mezclarte con toda esta cultura del enganche.<\/p>\n En lugar de eso, ten la valent\u00eda de decirle al objeto de tu afecto que quieres m\u00e1s y que puede quedarse con todo el paquete, que incluye tu coraz\u00f3n, tu cuerpo y tu mente, o con nada.<\/p>\n Have in mind that in most cases, sex is more than sex, so be careful to whom you\u2019re giving your body.<\/p>\n Even though you shouldn\u2019t give a damn about what other people are saying, be careful about your reputation, and pay special attention to emotional consequences casual intercourse might leave on you.<\/p>\n The same goes with all other concepts of modern dating: whatever you do, don\u2019t fall under the pressures of your surroundings.<\/p>\n I know that everywhere you look, people are sleeping around, having \u2018no strings attached\u2019 relationships and not wanting to commit, but if that is not something you feel comfortable doing, don\u2019t even think of forcing yourself into anything just so you don\u2019t stand out.<\/p>\n Recuerda que el amor y la sinceridad nunca pasar\u00e1n de moda, te digan lo que te digan.<\/p>\n You\u2019re not weak or pathetic if you refuse to be a part of these practices and if you choose to be single until the right person comes along.<\/p>\n However, if you do enter a relationship, please don\u2019t make it an on and off thing, based on mind games and mixed signals.<\/p>\n You don\u2019t have to play hard to get or pretend that you don\u2019t want to label things with your partner just because of these imaginary rules imposed by the conectar<\/span><\/a> culture we’re all surrounded by.<\/p>\n I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014maintaining a healthy relationship is difficult when you\u2019re a fully grown adult, let alone when you\u2019re in college.<\/p>\n Tienes que encontrar el equilibrio entre tus clases, el tiempo para estudiar, el tiempo para tu familia y tu trabajo. mejores amigos<\/span><\/a> de vuelta a casa y, lo m\u00e1s importante, tiempo para ti mismo.<\/p>\n Consequently, all of this might feel overwhelming at first, and there is a possibility that your relationship won’t be going as smoothly as you expected it would.<\/p>\n However, accept this as something completely normal, and don\u2019t beat yourself up for every little failure.<\/p>\n Pi\u00e9nsalo bien y decide si merece la pena luchar por ello. \u00bfEst\u00e1s realmente enamorado y tanto t\u00fa como tu pareja est\u00e1is dispuestos a hacer que las cosas funcionen?<\/p>\n If the answer is positive, go for it. On the other hand, if you don\u2019t see this romance going anywhere, maybe it\u2019s better to call it quits in time.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t worry, you\u2019re not a chicken for giving up. Instead, see this as a sign of your maturity and your ability to list your priorities the right way.<\/p>\n La mayor\u00eda de los expertos en citas coinciden en una cosa cuando se trata de una relaci\u00f3n rom\u00e1ntica en la universidad: t\u00f3mate las cosas con calma.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t jump into a new relationship the moment you arrive on campus, and give yourself time to adapt.<\/p>\n En realidad, muchas personas cometen el mismo error: durante su primer a\u00f1o, se encuentran en un entorno desconocido y buscan a alguien que les reconforte, que se convierta en su persona y su zona segura.<\/p>\n So, they start dating the first person they run into, in hopes of regaining the sense of familiarity they\u2019ve lost since they left home.<\/p>\n Well, let me tell you that this is a mistake. Before even taking romance into consideration, first and foremost, you have to find your own path and figure out how to get by without anyone\u2019s help.<\/p>\n Acost\u00fambrate a nuevas asignaturas, materiales y profesores. Mira a tu alrededor, encuentra tus intereses. Conoce a nuevos amigos, recup\u00e9rate de la nostalgia y, s\u00f3lo entonces, comprueba si hay gente con la que puedas salir.<\/p>\n I don\u2019t care if you think you\u2019ve found the love of your life and how crazy you are about your boyfriend\/ girlfriend.<\/p>\n No hay absolutamente ninguna justificaci\u00f3n que te permita olvidar por qu\u00e9 viniste a la universidad en primer lugar.<\/p>\n And that is to learn new things, to make new opportunities, and to become the person you\u2019re destined to be.<\/p>\n S\u00ed, has o\u00eddo bien. Por mucho que ir a la universidad sea una valiosa experiencia social, tu educaci\u00f3n siempre es lo primero.<\/p>\n Por lo tanto, si tienes ex\u00e1menes o un trabajo pendiente, tu relaci\u00f3n sentimental tendr\u00e1 que resentirse. No puedes permitir bajo ning\u00fan concepto que esas mariposas en el est\u00f3mago interfieran en tu objetivo final.<\/p>\n S\u00ed, dormir junto a tu ser querido y no ir a unas cuantas conferencias es incre\u00edble, pero ese momento de alegr\u00eda es temporal y pasar\u00e1.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, este tipo de comportamiento irresponsable puede tener graves consecuencias en tus estudios, por lo que debes ponerle fin en el momento en que veas que se produce.<\/p>\n Muchos estudiantes universitarios de primer a\u00f1o espere<\/span><\/a> continuar su relaci\u00f3n con su novia del instituto incluso cuando van a la universidad.<\/p>\n While I\u2019m not claiming that each one of these romances is doomed to fail, it is better not to get your hopes up when it comes to long-distance college romances.<\/p>\n En primer lugar, la mayor\u00eda de la gente se reinventa cuando acaba el instituto.<\/p>\n Te conviertes en una persona completamente diferente en poco tiempo y, antes de que te des cuenta, ya no tienes nada en com\u00fan con alguien que significaba el mundo para ti.<\/p>\n I won\u2019t lie to you\u2014accepting this is quite difficult and painful.<\/p>\n However, sometimes it\u2019s better to face the harsh truth and end things when they stop working instead of wasting more years on something that clearly has no future.<\/p>\n Otra de las reglas de oro para un romance universitario es no salir con alguien con quien tengas varias clases o con quien vivas en el mismo edificio del campus.<\/p>\n Yes, spending this much time together sounds like a dream come true in the beginning when it\u2019s all roses and rainbows.<\/p>\n Sin embargo, m\u00e1s adelante, es probable que este tipo de acuerdo cause problemas en tu relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n En primer lugar, es terreno f\u00e9rtil para que uno de los dos se vuelva posesivo fan\u00e1ticos del control<\/span><\/a> because you\u2019re in a position to literally follow your partner\u2019s every move.<\/p>\n Besides, you two are accidentally dragged into a situation you didn\u2019t sign up for. You have practically lived together since day one, and you are definitely not ready for such a serious relationship.<\/p>\n Otra desventaja de salir con alguien demasiado cercano es la mayor posibilidad de que ambos os cans\u00e9is el uno del otro.<\/p>\n Pas\u00e1is demasiado tiempo juntos, desatend\u00e9is a los dem\u00e1s y, antes de que os deis cuenta, os hart\u00e1is el uno del otro.<\/p>\n Adem\u00e1s, esto hace que las cosas sean mucho m\u00e1s inc\u00f3modas si romp\u00e9is.<\/p>\n You\u2019ll have a hard time getting over this person if you\u2019re sentenced to keep on seeing them every day, and you can\u2019t go full ning\u00fan contacto<\/span><\/a>aunque quieras.<\/p>\n Por lo tanto, lo mejor ser\u00eda que encontraras a alguien fuera del campus.<\/p>\n A person who is near enough so you could see each other when you want but with whom you don’t share a dorm.<\/p>\n La universidad no es s\u00f3lo para encontrar el amor. Tambi\u00e9n se trata de formar para toda la vida, amistades leales<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n Se trata de conocer gente nueva de culturas, visiones del mundo y or\u00edgenes diferentes que pueden ense\u00f1arte mucho y construirte como persona.<\/p>\n So, please, don\u2019t miss out on these valuable experiences just because you\u2019re in love.<\/p>\n Don\u2019t put all of your time and energy on this one person and forget about the others.<\/p>\n This goes for your family and friends back home, as well. Don\u2019t disregard your previous life completely because of your special someone.<\/p>\n Besides, what will you do if you two break up? I\u2019ll tell you what will happen: you\u2019ll end up all alone, without anyone to talk to, and you\u2019ll regret spending your entire college time only with them.<\/p>\n The worst thing you can do to yourself is having a partner who doesn\u2019t support your dreams, goals, and ambitions.<\/p>\n It is spending years next to someone who holds you back and convinces you that you won\u2019t succeed at anything you set your mind to.<\/p>\n En su lugar, busca a alguien que te inspire para convertirte en el la mejor versi\u00f3n posible de ti mismo<\/span><\/a> y que ser\u00e1 el viento de tus alas en todas las situaciones.<\/p>\n Someone who will push you forward, who won\u2019t be intimidated by your successes, and who will be there to help you get back up whenever you fall.<\/p>\n B\u00fascate un novio o una novia ambiciosos que tengan metas de futuro estrictas y que sepan lo que quieren de la vida.<\/p>\n Someone who will be both your study and romantic partner, and someone who won\u2019t take your energy off your dreams.<\/p>\n A romantic relationship shouldn\u2019t be the only source of your happiness\u2014there is no doubt about that. However, it shouldn\u2019t make you miserable either.<\/p>\n You see, life is difficult enough on its own. Therefore, you shouldn\u2019t spend the best years of your life sad, crying over someone who doesn\u2019t deserve you.<\/p>\n3. Utilice este tiempo para aprender<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n4. Conocer la diferencia entre amor y lujuria<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n5. Cuidado con el sexo<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n6. Don\u2019t fall under the pressure of the hook up culture<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n7. It won\u2019t be easy<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n8. Don\u2019t rush things<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n9. D\u00e9 prioridad a su educaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n10. Don\u2019t expect too much from your high school romance<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n11. Avoid dating someone you can\u2019t go no contact with after the breakup<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n12. Don\u2019t forget about other people<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n13. Find someone who won\u2019t hold you back<\/h2>\n
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<\/p>\n14. Don\u2019t waste time on a relationship which doesn\u2019t make you happy<\/h2>\n
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