{"id":53658,"date":"2020-02-26T00:19:31","date_gmt":"2020-02-26T00:19:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/herway.net\/?p=53658"},"modified":"2022-03-10T18:27:30","modified_gmt":"2022-03-10T18:27:30","slug":"errores-que-cometen-las-chicas-durante-el-no-contacto","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/errores-que-cometen-las-chicas-durante-el-no-contacto\/","title":{"rendered":"8 errores est\u00fapidos que cometen la mayor\u00eda de las chicas durante y despu\u00e9s del periodo de no contacto"},"content":{"rendered":"

Seguro que ya has o\u00eddo hablar del periodo de no contacto.<\/p>\n

B\u00e1sicamente, cortas todos los lazos con tu ex durante 30 d\u00edas (o en casos m\u00e1s radicales, 3 meses) despu\u00e9s de la ruptura para que sienta tu ausencia, y se d\u00e9 cuenta de que te echa de menos y te quiere de vuelta.<\/p>\n

Suena perfecto, \u00bfverdad? Bueno, hay algunas cosas que la mayor\u00eda de las chicas hacen mal durante y despu\u00e9s de este periodo, y aqu\u00ed tienes 8 de ellas.<\/p>\n

Remember: It\u2019s up to you to learn from other people\u2019s mistakes and not repeat them.<\/p>\n

1. Hacer que todo gire en torno a tu ex<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Say this out loud as many times as you need: This no contact period is not about my ex, it\u2019s about me.<\/p>\n

S\u00ed, uno de sus prop\u00f3sitos podr\u00eda ser intentar tr\u00e1elo de vuelta<\/span><\/a>pero el objetivo principal es hacer todo lo posible por curarme y arreglar mi coraz\u00f3n roto.<\/p>\n

Lamentablemente, no muchas chicas lo saben. As\u00ed que, en lugar de utilizar estos 30 d\u00edas como una oportunidad para recuperarse y, al menos, intentar seguir adelante con sus vidas, hacen que todo gire en torno a sus ex.<\/p>\n

Estas chicas literalmente ponen su vida en espera y pasan todo este periodo esperando a que \u00e9l vuelva.<\/p>\n

They focus so much on proving him a point and showing him that they can make it perfectly fine without him that they don\u2019t actually move an inch from the exact place he left them.<\/p>\n

So, what is the point of it all? If you do the no contact period this way, you haven\u2019t accomplished anything.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s like you just spent another month unhappily dating this guy.<\/p>\n

2. S\u00f3lo cortar la comunicaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

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One of the most common mistakes almost every girl makes during the no contact period is understanding the words \u201cno contact\u201d too literally.<\/p>\n

You see, this doesn\u2019t mean that you should only stop texting, calling, or talking to this guy in person.<\/p>\n

De hecho, el no contacto es mucho m\u00e1s que cortar las l\u00edneas de comunicaci\u00f3n con tu ex.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s not going to the places you know you might encounter him (not even just to look at him from a safe distance), not talking to your friends about him, not asking questions about his life.<\/p>\n

Y lo que es m\u00e1s importante, significa no acosarle cibern\u00e9ticamente ni preguntarse constantemente \u00bfMe echa de menos cuando no hay contacto?<\/a>?<\/em><\/p>\n

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S\u00ed, has o\u00eddo bien. Si quieres hacerlo bien, no puedes escribir su nombre cien veces al d\u00eda en la barra de b\u00fasqueda.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t scroll through his stories, friends lists, photos, or status updates using a fake profile, and you can\u2019t spend nights rereading your old conversations.<\/p>\n

Because if you do so, you\u2019re just pretending that you\u2019re going no contact when in fact you\u2019re still obsessed with him.<\/p>\n

All of your effort is in vain if you kick this guy out of your life physically but don\u2019t try to do the same when it comes to your inner self.<\/p>\n

Si \u00e9l est\u00e1 fuera de tu vida, haz lo posible por echarlo tambi\u00e9n de tu cabeza y de tu coraz\u00f3n durante este periodo, y a ver qu\u00e9 pasa.<\/p>\n

3. Ponerle celoso<\/h2>\n

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El periodo de no contacto no es una oportunidad para que te lances a una nueva relaci\u00f3n.<\/p>\n

Of course, I\u2019m not saying that you\u2019re not allowed to start dating someone new, but you have to actually like this guy to start something with him.<\/p>\n

He shouldn\u2019t serve as a tool to pon celosa a tu ex<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

Trust me when I tell you this: Rebound relationships never brought any good to anyone and they certainly won\u2019t help you repair your broken heart.<\/p>\n

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In fact, a situationship like this will only make you even more miserable. And that\u2019s the last thing you need at this point.<\/p>\n

Besides, you don\u2019t want to be the bad guy here and throw an innocent man directly into your personal drama.<\/p>\n

Nobody deserves to be a puppet you\u2019ll only take advantage of until you get what you want from your true love. That is not cool and it certainly isn\u2019t fair.<\/p>\n

Despu\u00e9s de todo, si esperas recuperar a tu ex cuando acabe este mes, ser\u00e1 mucho m\u00e1s dif\u00edcil si se da cuenta de que has estado saliendo con alguien nuevo mientras tanto.<\/p>\n

\u00bfC\u00f3mo puede confiar en tu amor si has conseguido superarlo y enamorarte de nuevo en tan poco tiempo?<\/p>\n

4. Retroceder a la persona que sol\u00edas ser<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Como ya he dicho, el periodo de no contacto es (o al menos deber\u00eda ser) todo sobre ti.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s about turning yourself into the best possible woman you can become, working on yourself, and taking the time to reconsider your relationship and your overall dating and relationship behavior patterns.<\/p>\n

Por eso, una de las peores cosas que puedes hacer es volver a ser el de antes en el momento en que el reloj marque la medianoche y salga el sol del d\u00eda 31.<\/p>\n

No, I\u2019m not telling you to change yourself completely and become someone else during this month.<\/p>\n

I\u2019m just begging you not to repeat the same mistakes regarding your ex.<\/p>\n

I won\u2019t lie to you. There is a possibility of this man no volver<\/span><\/a> a ti.<\/p>\n

However, just because you managed to stay out of his life for an entire month, it doesn\u2019t mean you should stalk him after that period is over.<\/p>\n

5. 5. Esperar resultados inmediatos<\/h2>\n

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Another mistake most girls sadly fail to avoid lies in their lack of patience. You can\u2019t expect results right away, as much as you want them.<\/p>\n

No, you won\u2019t wake up the day after the no contact period is over and magically forget that your ex ever existed.<\/p>\n

He won\u2019t turn up uninvited, knocking on your door on the 31st day.<\/p>\n

Things simply don\u2019t work like that. However, just because miracles you hope for don\u2019t happen right away, it doesn\u2019t mean that results will never come.<\/p>\n

So, if you still feel like you can\u2019t live with this guy after this period is over, you can then try to reach out to him.<\/p>\n

Puedes esforzarte en establecer alg\u00fan tipo de comunicaci\u00f3n con \u00e9l o incluso decirle directamente que quieres otra oportunidad.<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, todo esto debe ocurrir de la forma m\u00e1s espont\u00e1nea posible. Adem\u00e1s, es un proceso que lleva tiempo.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t just call him out of the blue, asking to volver juntos<\/span><\/a>a menos que quieras que te vea como una completa lun\u00e1tica.<\/p>\n

RELACIONADO: El poder de alejarse de un hombre: Deja Que Vea Lo Que Ha Perdido<\/a><\/p>\n

6. Caer en la desesperaci\u00f3n<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Esto tambi\u00e9n es algo que casi todas las chicas hacen despu\u00e9s del periodo de no contacto: caer en la desesperaci\u00f3n porque no ha pasado nada.<\/p>\n

Even if your ex doesn\u2019t contact you, even if he doesn\u2019t accept your attempts to get back into his life, it is no es el fin del mundo<\/span><\/a>.<\/p>\n

It is not a green light for you to get all depressed and convince yourself that you\u2019ll never find someone to love and who\u2019ll love you back.<\/p>\n

No es una se\u00f1al de que debas dejar que el dolor se apodere de ti o de que debas renunciar por completo a tu futuro sentimental.<\/p>\n

Yes, the fact that he obviously doesn\u2019t want to get back together sucks. And it hurts like hell.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Therefore, you\u2019re allowed to grieve for some time. However, stop looking at it as the biggest disaster that could strike you.<\/p>\n

Instead, see it as a valuable lesson. There are times when you do everything right and play by the book yet still don\u2019t get the result you wanted.<\/p>\n

And that is all part of life. It\u2019s not fair, I know, but you\u2019ll just have to find a way to deal with it.<\/p>\n

Just remember that you made it without this guy for an entire month, so you\u2019ll without doubt succeed and keep on living without him from this day on.<\/p>\n

7. Volver a los n\u00fameros anteriores<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Sin embargo, si el periodo de no contacto funciona<\/a> out for the best and you manage to get your ex boyfriend back, don\u2019t ruin this second chance you two got by going back to your old problems.<\/p>\n

Of course, you shouldn\u2019t ignore them and expect them to solve themselves, but please, don\u2019t make it the centre of your relationship.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t see this reconciliation as a chance to nag this guy about every little thing he\u2019s ever done to you.<\/p>\n

Lo mejor ser\u00eda que lo solucionarais todo desde el principio.<\/p>\n

Una vez que ambos est\u00e9is de acuerdo en que pod\u00e9is y quer\u00e9is reconstruir vuestra relaci\u00f3n, se acabaron el resentimiento y los rencores.<\/p>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

Leave the past in the past, where it belongs, and don\u2019t let it ruin your present and future.<\/p>\n

You can\u2019t change what happened, so why burden both you and your boyfriend with it?<\/p>\n

Otherwise, don\u2019t expect a different outcome than the last time.<\/p>\n

If you keep on bringing up the past instead of focusing on how to make things better this time round, you\u2019ll be just dragging both of you back into this endless circle of drama, and it\u2019ll be just a matter of time before you split ways once more.<\/p>\n

Pero esta vez, ser\u00e1 para siempre.<\/p>\n

8. Mantener la amistad<\/h2>\n

\"\"<\/p>\n

You still have strong romantic feelings about this guy, there\u2019s no doubt about that.<\/p>\n

Aunque seguir siendo amigo de tu ex<\/span><\/a> is a great thing, it\u2019s simply not possible in this scenario.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t use friendship as an excuse to stay close to him.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t lead yourself on and waste more of your precious time, waiting for something that will never come.<\/p>\n

Besides, you shouldn\u2019t settle for crumbs of this man\u2019s love and attention when you very well know it that he can\u2019t give you his heart and the type of love you want from him.<\/p>\n

Why would you even think of torturing yourself and going through this charade, when it\u2019s painfully obvious that you\u2019ll just end up more heartbroken than before?<\/p>\n

Even if he asks you to be friends, don\u2019t pretend to be indifferent and accept his proposal.<\/p>\n

Don\u2019t worry, there is absolutely nothing desperate in coming clean about your emotions and honestly telling this guy that you two can\u2019t be friends.<\/p>\n

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