{"id":5413,"date":"2019-07-20T12:22:19","date_gmt":"2019-07-20T12:22:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/herway.net\/?p=5413"},"modified":"2021-08-11T13:38:30","modified_gmt":"2021-08-11T13:38:30","slug":"sobre-como-superar-al-narcisista","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/herway.net\/es\/sobre-como-superar-al-narcisista\/","title":{"rendered":"C\u00f3mo superar al narcisista"},"content":{"rendered":"

Many times I\u2019ve wondered if I am ever going to be normal again. I\u2019ve wondered if I am going to sentirse bien <\/a>a m\u00ed misma, y si voy a darme otra oportunidad de volver a amar. <\/span><\/p>\n

I could never read people. I could never guess who\u2019s going to love me and who\u2019s going to use me. <\/span><\/p>\n

Siempre le he dado una oportunidad a la gente pase lo que pase, y siempre he acabado recibiendo un trato p\u00e9simo. Podr\u00eda pensarse que ya me he acostumbrado, pero esta vez ha sido brutal. <\/span><\/p>\n

Conoc\u00ed a un hombre que gritaba problemas a una milla de distancia. Y me enamor\u00e9 de \u00e9l. A pesar de que recib\u00ed se\u00f1ales de advertencia para que no me acercara a \u00e9l, lo invit\u00e9 a mi vida y a mi coraz\u00f3n. Decid\u00ed darnos una oportunidad. <\/span><\/p>\n

I was so stupid to believe I would be the one to change him. But you can\u2019t really tame the beast, can you?<\/span><\/p>\n

Me enamor\u00e9 de un hombre que era incapaz de amar a nadie m\u00e1s que a s\u00ed mismo. <\/span><\/h2>\n

 <\/p>\n

No importaba lo que le diera, nunca era suficiente. Por mucho que le quisiera, \u00e9l nunca me correspondi\u00f3.<\/span><\/p>\n

All the \u2018feelings\u2019 he poured out to me were part of his well-practiced scheme. <\/span><\/p>\n

He knew that I\u2019d do anything for him if he gave me as much as a pinch of love. I know you can\u2019t really measure love, but when it comes in minimal doses like his did, you can.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me enamor\u00e9 de alguien que era extremadamente ego\u00edsta. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Mis necesidades nunca fueron una cuesti\u00f3n importante. Lo \u00fanico importante cuando est\u00e1bamos juntos era que fuera feliz. <\/span><\/p>\n

Lo peor era que \u00e9l era m\u00e1s feliz cuando yo era m\u00e1s desgraciada. Como si se alimentara de mi miseria. <\/span><\/p>\n

I tell myself all the time that I wouldn\u2019t have fallen for him if I knew how selfish he was, but that\u2019s a lie. I\u2019d have fallen for him anyway.<\/span><\/p>\n

Me enamor\u00e9 de alguien que pens\u00e9 que podr\u00eda cambiar. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Nadie me oblig\u00f3 a hacerlo. Me lo hice a m\u00ed mismo.  <\/span>Pens\u00e9 que podr\u00eda cambiarlo<\/a>. I thought that if I gave him all the love I ever had, he\u2019d change teams, and he\u2019d come to play for the good guys. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sab\u00eda que ten\u00eda rasgos negativos, pero tambi\u00e9n los tiene cualquier ser humano. Nunca le tom\u00e9 por un mal hombre a causa de sus defectos. Decid\u00ed aceptarlo como un todo, con todos sus bienes y todos sus males. <\/span><\/p>\n

El \u00fanico problema eran sus sentimientos. El \u00fanico problema era que era incapaz de amar. <\/span><\/p>\n

He is the type of guy who\u2019s unable to feel empathy towards anybody. And I was the type of girl who felt everything in thousands of different colors.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sal\u00ed con un hombre que me culpaba de todo. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Whenever things went bad for him, he\u2019d take it out on me. As if I were the worst thing that could\u2019ve ever happened to him, as if I wanted bad things to happen to him. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tratar de confrontarlo fue la idea m\u00e1s est\u00fapida. S\u00f3lo empeor\u00f3 las cosas. <\/span><\/p>\n

No ten\u00eda ni idea de c\u00f3mo explicarle que yo no era el villano y que me daba pena cuando las cosas le iban mal. Poco sab\u00eda yo que no era el villano de este programa.<\/span><\/p>\n

\"C\u00f3mo<\/p>\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me hizo dudar de m\u00ed misma.<\/span><\/h2>\n

Decid\u00ed bajar la guardia y dejarle entrar. Me olvid\u00e9 de m\u00ed misma. Olvid\u00e9 qu\u00e9 clase de persona soy. <\/span><\/p>\n

Me olvid\u00e9 de mis principios y mis creencias. Dej\u00e9 que se fuera y que volviera cuando quisiera. <\/span><\/p>\n

I did it because he made me believe I couldn\u2019t have anybody better than him. <\/span><\/p>\n

He acted as if he was God\u2019s gift to me, even though I didn\u2019t really deserve him. It made me feel unworthy, small, and pathetic to think I deserved to be loved.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me cambi\u00f3 por completo. <\/span><\/h2>\n

There wasn\u2019t any remaining trait of the chica que era antes de entrar en esa relaci\u00f3n.<\/a> Las arrugas alrededor de mis ojos de lo mucho que me re\u00eda antes se convirtieron en arrugas de mis l\u00e1grimas y preocupaciones. <\/span><\/p>\n

They were the signs of my inner pain\u2014the pain I never talked about with anybody. <\/span><\/p>\n

Tard\u00e9 en darme cuenta de que formaba parte de una relaci\u00f3n abusiva. No ten\u00eda ni idea porque no ten\u00eda moratones en el cuerpo. <\/span><\/p>\n

I had no broken bones, but I felt broken from the inside. And I didn\u2019t want to be broken. I only wanted to be happy. And loved. Was it too much to ask?<\/span><\/p>\n

It was all my fault. I started this whole nightmare alone. I fell for him hoping I\u2019d fix him, hoping I\u2019d be the one to save his soul. I ended up as the person that needed to be saved.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me hizo renunciar a \u00e9l.<\/span><\/h2>\n

I just couldn\u2019t do it anymore. I was never a quitter. But there is a first time for everything. <\/span><\/p>\n

If I hadn\u2019t walked away when I did, God knows what would\u2019ve happened to me. If I hadn\u2019t given up on him, I would have given up on me.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me ense\u00f1\u00f3 a ser ego\u00edsta. <\/span><\/h2>\n

I didn\u2019t become selfish in a narcissistic way. I absorbed everything from my teacher. My selfishness wasn\u2019t t\u00f3xico<\/a>. Fui tan ego\u00edsta como necesit\u00e9 serlo para salvarme. <\/span><\/p>\n

\u00bfAlguna vez has querido tanto a alguien que har\u00edas cualquier cosa por \u00e9l? Pues yo mismo decid\u00ed convertirme en ese alguien. <\/span><\/p>\n

Decid\u00ed recompensar a la gente con mi tiempo s\u00f3lo si ellos decid\u00edan darme tambi\u00e9n su tiempo. Decid\u00ed amar s\u00f3lo si mi amor va a ser apreciado. <\/span><\/p>\n

I decided to walk away from people who didn\u2019t respect me. I decided to walk away from people who destroyed my happiness and never look back. <\/span><\/p>\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me hizo elegirme a m\u00ed misma. <\/span><\/h2>\n

I made a decision to move on. Because he didn\u2019t appreciate me, I learned to appreciate myself. <\/span><\/p>\n

I knew it wouldn\u2019t happen automatically, but I hope it would happen eventually. And it did. I refused to allow him to get the best of me. I deserve so much more than him.<\/span><\/p>\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que casi me rompe. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Este hombre hizo las cosas m\u00e1s horribles que alguien puede hacerle a una persona que lo ama. Me manipul\u00f3, me deprimi\u00f3 constantemente, casi me convenci\u00f3 de que no era lo suficientemente buena.<\/p>\n

He broke my heart, but I didn’t let him broke me. Little by little I climbed up from the black hole he showed me in.<\/p>\n

Little by little I stopped talking down on me and I started l telling myself that even though I’m flawed I still don’t deserve to be treated the way he treated me.  I reminded myself that I too, deserve to be loved.<\/p>\n

Sal\u00ed con alguien que me mostr\u00f3 de qu\u00e9 estoy hecho. <\/span><\/h2>\n

Hadn’t he done everything he could to hurt me, I would’ve never found out how much pain I can endure. If he didn’t choose to hate me, I would’ve never known how much I love myself.<\/p>\n

If he didn’t try to break me, I would’ve never found out how strong I am. Hadn’t I fallen for the wrong guy, could I have ever learned what the right guy looks like?<\/p>\n

Even though it was a hell of a journey, it still shaped me into who I am. And I couldn’t be more thankful than I am.<\/p>\n

Life has its way of teaching us the lessons we need to learn and even though I’m a bit bruised, I’m not broken, I’m still standing. I say I won.<\/p>\n

He was my first thought in the morning and first thought before I’d fall asleep. Now, I barely think of him.<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n

\"C\u00f3mo<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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